FabSwingers.com forum: Confidence question.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I just want to ask and mainly to the guys here and please no smart comments.

I recently have been on a number of dates arranged on tinder. I know it gets bad press but I genuinely am respectful to all on all sites and not just looking for sex. Anyway last month I met a lady from tinder and I can only describe this girl as an angel. Off the scale with here beauty. The date went well but all the way through it I just taught she's way out of my league. Date went very well and of course there was the awkward good bye. I got home and text this girl to say look your way to good for me I won't bother again. Little did I know she had phone in hand to say she had a great day and would love to do again soon. As you can imagine it didn't work out.

I know I'm waffling a bit but bear with me

Really my question is here to guys has your confidence taken a knock from fab rejection. I don't for one second believe that I'm great and everyone will have me believe me but I feel that last few months of sending nice messages to people here and always attaching my most recent clear face picture the message is read and in fairness always get reply to say thanks for lovely message but no thanks.

I am putting this down to my recent confidence issue just wondering if anyone else is finding same.

If you've read this far thank you for taking the time and anyone else feeling same can pm me if wishes to talk in confidence.

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tried to pm u Lad But I can't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I might impart a phrase I once heard..

'Dont compare yourself to others, that's when you start to loose confidence in yourself'

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If I might impart a phrase I once heard..

'Dont compare yourself to others, that's when you start to loose confidence in yourself'"

Completely understand that thank you for feedback

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By *exygirl17Woman
over a year ago

cork kerry

I know you asked for only guy opinions but you should be happy who you are and you shouldn't take fab so serious.

As the saying goes. Different strokes for different folks. We all like different things. Its what makes life interesting.

So if fab is makin you like this .. I suggest you should just leave it? Fab is meant to be fun!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I know you asked for only guy opinions but you should be happy who you are and you shouldn't take fab so serious.

As the saying goes. Different strokes for different folks. We all like different things. Its what makes life interesting.

So if fab is makin you like this .. I suggest you should just leave it? Fab is meant to be fun! "

Thank you. Fab is still fun not as good as last profile I need to get my ass to another social just way thing's are going I wouldn't even get an invite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thomas

Send me a message there I want to tell you something!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My motto is "fake it until you make it" sometimes confidence only comes from

Going through with things that are tough and then the experience gives you a bit more and a bit more.

Rejection sucks either way, but it isn't always about you or shortcomings. It is about preferences and tastes.

Like with your lady, you rejected yourself, if you just believe in yourself a bit more you'd be fine. And if she had of said no, so what? Means you avoided someone who wasn't right for you and you keep looking.

Also lot comes to do with timing, you got to be in it to win it but just take the punches and roll

With it and eventually it works out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rejection totally sucks, OP, and it can give your confidence an awful battering. Doesn't matter if it's on or off Fab.

Chin up!

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By *exygirl17Woman
over a year ago

cork kerry

"I know you asked for only guy opinions but you should be happy who you are and you shouldn't take fab so serious.

As the saying goes. Different strokes for different folks. We all like different things. Its what makes life interesting.

So if fab is makin you like this .. I suggest you should just leave it? Fab is meant to be fun!

Thank you. Fab is still fun not as good as last profile I need to get my ass to another social just way thing's are going I wouldn't even get an invite

Well hang in there spice up your profile put up new pics and that

and you be flying ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody likes being rejected, try to keep it in perspective,the supply of single males here far exceeds the demand.

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By *van awfellornMan
over a year ago

belfast

I think there is a danger here of using sites like fab and tinder as a benchmark.unfortunately sites akin to these attract a lot more males than females, henceforth girls get to be much more picky than they possibly could be in reality.

If you talk to girls in the same position as yourself in the real world you may find they have exactly the same confidence issues and find it extremely difficult to find suitable partners.Unfortunately on here girls get to treat guys like accessories simply because they can, in fact, i think a girl that doesnt shows true character on fab because most fall into the trap of, 'i can, so i will'

..hope that helps

Ps.not trying to have a go at the ladies of fab, but it is a stark reality.

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

Take it from me you don't have to be the:

Best looking

Fittest

Most hung

Most confident

Just be yourself it works for me.

But if you can be a billionaire that I'm sure works too

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

No one would put me down . Whether she was the most beautifull lady that did not like me . I think you were very silly to say you were out of my league . I would never say that to any lady . I would say thank you for your lovely company and hope we can meet again . Well if she said no then I would just move on .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just want to ask and mainly to the guys here and please no smart comments.

I got home and text this girl to say look your way to good for me I won't bother again.

Really my question is here to guys has your confidence taken a knock from fab rejection.

Took two parts out of the op

Firstly I have been there many times having the thought the lady was out of my league. Always had low confidence chatting up a lady especially one as beautiful as you describe. But over time when I just relaxed and let nature take its course for some reason women became more receptive and things clicked. When I met my soulmate juicy I wasn't even looking for anyone and that was one of the best days of my life.

On confidence being rejected is part and parcel of life. It's how you get back up and try again that counts. I am extremely selective in what I am looking for in a play partner so when it happens and then ends over time of course it's going to be disappointing. But then I think did I do anything wrong why did it end. And once I know that it wasn't me it had ran it's course then fuck it move on. I sleep beside my best friend my love and soulmate. Anything after that is a bonus

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