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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary

no strings can be a one off, can be a regular fuck buddy type scenario but my question is would it bother you if you and a guy had something regular but he was seen other women at the same time where as you were happy with just him?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't annoyance be a string?

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"Wouldn't annoyance be a string?"
it could be, ud be surprised at what goes on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think this depends of the individual's perception of your relationship and what you've both agreed. If you haven't discussed this together and set the boundaries, I'd expect it would be viewed as the same as cheating on a significant other.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"I think this depends of the individual's perception of your relationship and what you've both agreed. If you haven't discussed this together and set the boundaries, I'd expect it would be viewed as the same as cheating on a significant other."
good response. personally I don't get into the regular fuck buddy scenario as I often find some body gets hurt eventually. casual sex is so much easier manage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no strings can be a one off, can be a regular fuck buddy type scenario but my question is would it bother you if you and a guy had something regular but he was seen other women at the same time where as you were happy with just him? "

Funny that you address your question to women in particular, as if you think men can't be jealous obsessive bastards too

My take on this is if you've met someone here for nsa, you can't decide who else they see or don't see. You do what's right for you, let them do what's right for them, and if you feel hurt or jealous, it's really your own problem. You need to process that in your own way. They're not seeing others to hurt your feelings, seeing others doesn't affect what they do with you, if you're not happy with the situation, change it. By moving on to someone else, not by expecting the first person to stop doing what they came here to do.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"no strings can be a one off, can be a regular fuck buddy type scenario but my question is would it bother you if you and a guy had something regular but he was seen other women at the same time where as you were happy with just him?

Funny that you address your question to women in particular, as if you think men can't be jealous obsessive bastards too

My take on this is if you've met someone here for nsa, you can't decide who else they see or don't see. You do what's right for you, let them do what's right for them, and if you feel hurt or jealous, it's really your own problem. You need to process that in your own way. They're not seeing others to hurt your feelings, seeing others doesn't affect what they do with you, if you're not happy with the situation, change it. By moving on to someone else, not by expecting the first person to stop doing what they came here to do. "
I address women as in my exp this mainly occurs with women, I can't comment on men but 100 % agree with rest of your post. I also maintain alot of women on here want regular and not one off sex with a lad every now and again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Regular sex is better, you get to know what works for each other and you get to build on that each time you meet. One off can be fun, but you're never going to get the best out of someone in one meet. That's my opinion anyway, I know others might disagree.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"Regular sex is better, you get to know what works for each other and you get to build on that each time you meet. One off can be fun, but you're never going to get the best out of someone in one meet. That's my opinion anyway, I know others might disagree."
I don't mean one meet. you can meet him again but maybe a month or 6 weeks time, not like a regular who you might see 2/3 times a week. imo that can get messy as I have seen in the past

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Regular sex is better, you get to know what works for each other and you get to build on that each time you meet. One off can be fun, but you're never going to get the best out of someone in one meet. That's my opinion anyway, I know others might disagree.I don't mean one meet. you can meet him again but maybe a month or 6 weeks time, not like a regular who you might see 2/3 times a week. imo that can get messy as I have seen in the past "

Holy crap, 2-3 times a week

That's practically a marriage, I'd never want that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wouldn't bother me with anyone on here. Might be different off of here

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"Regular sex is better, you get to know what works for each other and you get to build on that each time you meet. One off can be fun, but you're never going to get the best out of someone in one meet. That's my opinion anyway, I know others might disagree.I don't mean one meet. you can meet him again but maybe a month or 6 weeks time, not like a regular who you might see 2/3 times a week. imo that can get messy as I have seen in the past

Holy crap, 2-3 times a week

That's practically a marriage, I'd never want that "
there you go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Regular sex is better, you get to know what works for each other and you get to build on that each time you meet. One off can be fun, but you're never going to get the best out of someone in one meet. That's my opinion anyway, I know others might disagree.I don't mean one meet. you can meet him again but maybe a month or 6 weeks time, not like a regular who you might see 2/3 times a week. imo that can get messy as I have seen in the past

Holy crap, 2-3 times a week

That's practically a marriage, I'd never want that there you go "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Casual/NSA all the way less hassle and nobody gets hurt. As the man says (I think it was a man ) lol there's plenty of fish in the sea that's my opinion on the whole thing

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

I think you mixing up two things here. 2 to 3 times a week isn't a regular in my opinion, that's bordering a relationship and then you're moving into a whole different ball game.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you mixing up two things here. 2 to 3 times a week isn't a regular in my opinion, that's bordering a relationship and then you're moving into a whole different ball game. "

I totally agree

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"I think you mixing up two things here. 2 to 3 times a week isn't a regular in my opinion, that's bordering a relationship and then you're moving into a whole different ball game. "
well can you do sec with more then one man? for eg one man today a diff man in 2 weeks etc

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary

what's a regular guy to you women? a guy for when your horny but only him and nobody else?

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"I think you mixing up two things here. 2 to 3 times a week isn't a regular in my opinion, that's bordering a relationship and then you're moving into a whole different ball game. well can you do sec with more then one man? for eg one man today a diff man in 2 weeks etc "

Yes I can, both simultaneously and one after the other and I don't need a gap of two weeks in between. is this not what this is about?

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

A once off meet can be brilliant but then again it could be a complete waste of time . I much rather a regular buddy . At least you more relaxed and know each other and can enjoy hotter sex with each other .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you mixing up two things here. 2 to 3 times a week isn't a regular in my opinion, that's bordering a relationship and then you're moving into a whole different ball game. well can you do sec with more then one man? for eg one man today a diff man in 2 weeks etc

Yes I can, both simultaneously and one after the other and I don't need a gap of two weeks in between. is this not what this is about? "

Yep, what DH said.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"I think you mixing up two things here. 2 to 3 times a week isn't a regular in my opinion, that's bordering a relationship and then you're moving into a whole different ball game. well can you do sec with more then one man? for eg one man today a diff man in 2 weeks etc

Yes I can, both simultaneously and one after the other and I don't need a gap of two weeks in between. is this not what this is about? "
I can do sex with many diff women but I don't think women on here can/want to do it with many diff men. they want one regular partner imo otherwise distance wouldn't come into it when one party can drive

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"A once off meet can be brilliant but then again it could be a complete waste of time . I much rather a regular buddy . At least you more relaxed and know each other and can enjoy hotter sex with each other . "
can you guarantee that you or her won't get feelings beyond sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great reading.

So how does one avoid possessiveness on here without being hurtful? Found its happened a bit on here and don't like the drama associated with it.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"what's a regular guy to you women? a guy for when your horny but only him and nobody else?"

As the word says someone you meet regularly ie once a week/fourth night/month.

However someone you re-meet once or twice a year I wouldn't call regular, that's just a remeet.

If someone meets the one person only, so be it, but it defeats the purpose of being on a swinger site. It wouldn't be for me and I certainly would never expect exclusivity from someone on here. I'm not looking for a boy friend or a full on affair.

As for the jealousy it all comes down to the personality of the two people involved and their arrangement.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"what's a regular guy to you women? a guy for when your horny but only him and nobody else?

As the word says someone you meet regularly ie once a week/fourth night/month.

However someone you re-meet once or twice a year I wouldn't call regular, that's just a remeet.

If someone meets the one person only, so be it, but it defeats the purpose of being on a swinger site. It wouldn't be for me and I certainly would never expect exclusivity from someone on here. I'm not looking for a boy friend or a full on affair.

As for the jealousy it all comes down to the personality of the two people involved and their arrangement. "
fair play. this is a question to all, men and women. would you meet a person am hour or more away? I mean would you when reply to them in the first place?

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"what's a regular guy to you women? a guy for when your horny but only him and nobody else?

As the word says someone you meet regularly ie once a week/fourth night/month.

However someone you re-meet once or twice a year I wouldn't call regular, that's just a remeet.

If someone meets the one person only, so be it, but it defeats the purpose of being on a swinger site. It wouldn't be for me and I certainly would never expect exclusivity from someone on here. I'm not looking for a boy friend or a full on affair.

As for the jealousy it all comes down to the personality of the two people involved and their arrangement. fair play. this is a question to all, men and women. would you meet a person am hour or more away? I mean would you when reply to them in the first place?"
even reply to them that's ment to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reply to everybody, as long as they're not offensive. I've travelled hours to meet some people, distance isn't a major object to me as long as my funds allow.

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By *s louWoman
over a year ago

Enniskillen


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Holy crap, 2-3 times a week

That's practically a marriage, I'd never want that "

Practically a marriage?? It's more than I ever got

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Holy crap, 2-3 times a week

That's practically a marriage, I'd never want that

Practically a marriage?? It's more than I ever got

"

Lol, it's more than I ever gave

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"what's a regular guy to you women? a guy for when your horny but only him and nobody else?

As the word says someone you meet regularly ie once a week/fourth night/month.

However someone you re-meet once or twice a year I wouldn't call regular, that's just a remeet.

If someone meets the one person only, so be it, but it defeats the purpose of being on a swinger site. It wouldn't be for me and I certainly would never expect exclusivity from someone on here. I'm not looking for a boy friend or a full on affair.

As for the jealousy it all comes down to the personality of the two people involved and their arrangement. fair play. this is a question to all, men and women. would you meet a person am hour or more away? I mean would you when reply to them in the first place?even reply to them that's ment to be "

It all depends how much you're fixed on the idea of getting a regular nearby. And therein lies the biggest problem, you can't push getting a regular in my opinion, it either happens or it doesn't and if you don't meet you won't find one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what's a regular guy to you women? a guy for when your horny but only him and nobody else?

As the word says someone you meet regularly ie once a week/fourth night/month.

However someone you re-meet once or twice a year I wouldn't call regular, that's just a remeet.

If someone meets the one person only, so be it, but it defeats the purpose of being on a swinger site. It wouldn't be for me and I certainly would never expect exclusivity from someone on here. I'm not looking for a boy friend or a full on affair.

As for the jealousy it all comes down to the personality of the two people involved and their arrangement. fair play. this is a question to all, men and women. would you meet a person am hour or more away? I mean would you when reply to them in the first place?even reply to them that's ment to be

It all depends how much you're fixed on the idea of getting a regular nearby. And therein lies the biggest problem, you can't push getting a regular in my opinion, it either happens or it doesn't and if you don't meet you won't find one. "

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"what's a regular guy to you women? a guy for when your horny but only him and nobody else?

As the word says someone you meet regularly ie once a week/fourth night/month.

However someone you re-meet once or twice a year I wouldn't call regular, that's just a remeet.

If someone meets the one person only, so be it, but it defeats the purpose of being on a swinger site. It wouldn't be for me and I certainly would never expect exclusivity from someone on here. I'm not looking for a boy friend or a full on affair.

As for the jealousy it all comes down to the personality of the two people involved and their arrangement. fair play. this is a question to all, men and women. would you meet a person am hour or more away? I mean would you when reply to them in the first place?even reply to them that's ment to be

It all depends how much you're fixed on the idea of getting a regular nearby. And therein lies the biggest problem, you can't push getting a regular in my opinion, it either happens or it doesn't and if you don't meet you won't find one. "
see regulars in some areas are much easier get for eg Dublin and cork, 2 big cities. also the supply and demand of men I'd imagine a regular Is easy enough get for women. nothing wrong with it but I think that's what most women on here want, a regular and that's how location comes so much into the equation.

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