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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just want to ask the experienced users of this site a question.

I've met two people from the site recently, just a social meet, and I got on very well with both. Afterwards, I messaged them asking if I could write them a verification and if so, would they write me one. One person was very up front in saying that they accept one from me, but wouldn't be writing one in return (I respect their honest) and the other seemed to suggest that I would need to pay them, because I would "not get very far without a one".

Now, I'm not that fussed if I get a verification or not, that's not the reason I'm here, but I know a lot of people here do require a personal verification before they will even chat. I am just wondering why someone would decline to give a verification to someone, even to say something like "Met for a drink and he's a real person" etc. particularly after it was enjoyable meeting. As for asking for some sort of exchange in return for a verification...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive been asked to give verfis from people i havent met and when ive said no they have made me feel like im the mad one,i guess there are several reasons people dont want to give them/ receive, would i pay?? Hell fucking no so i think for that one let them jog on and keep doing what your doing, its not written in stone either that people give them, fab is a mine field lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have declined to give verifications for some people because I didn't like them.

Maybe it wasn't so fun for the other person?

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By *urious2013cCouple
over a year ago

Co Cork


"Just want to ask the experienced users of this site a question.

I've met two people from the site recently, just a social meet, and I got on very well with both. Afterwards, I messaged them asking if I could write them a verification and if so, would they write me one. One person was very up front in saying that they accept one from me, but wouldn't be writing one in return (I respect their honest) and the other seemed to suggest that I would need to pay them, because I would "not get very far without a one".

Now, I'm not that fussed if I get a verification or not, that's not the reason I'm here, but I know a lot of people here do require a personal verification before they will even chat. I am just wondering why someone would decline to give a verification to someone, even to say something like "Met for a drink and he's a real person" etc. particularly after it was enjoyable meeting. As for asking for some sort of exchange in return for a verification... "
I think if you go to the bother of turning up to meet some one you deserve a verification we have no problem verifying people we have met and we do expect one in return

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just want to ask the experienced users of this site a question.

I've met two people from the site recently, just a social meet, and I got on very well with both. Afterwards, I messaged them asking if I could write them a verification and if so, would they write me one. One person was very up front in saying that they accept one from me, but wouldn't be writing one in return (I respect their honest) and the other seemed to suggest that I would need to pay them, because I would "not get very far without a one".

Now, I'm not that fussed if I get a verification or not, that's not the reason I'm here, but I know a lot of people here do require a personal verification before they will even chat. I am just wondering why someone would decline to give a verification to someone, even to say something like "Met for a drink and he's a real person" etc. particularly after it was enjoyable meeting. As for asking for some sort of exchange in return for a verification... I think if you go to the bother of turning up to meet some one you deserve a verification we have no problem verifying people we have met and we do expect one in return"

Even if you don't like them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just want to ask the experienced users of this site a question.

I've met two people from the site recently, just a social meet, and I got on very well with both. Afterwards, I messaged them asking if I could write them a verification and if so, would they write me one. One person was very up front in saying that they accept one from me, but wouldn't be writing one in return (I respect their honest) and the other seemed to suggest that I would need to pay them, because I would "not get very far without a one".

Now, I'm not that fussed if I get a verification or not, that's not the reason I'm here, but I know a lot of people here do require a personal verification before they will even chat. I am just wondering why someone would decline to give a verification to someone, even to say something like "Met for a drink and he's a real person" etc. particularly after it was enjoyable meeting. As for asking for some sort of exchange in return for a verification... I think if you go to the bother of turning up to meet some one you deserve a verification we have no problem verifying people we have met and we do expect one in return

Even if you don't like them?"

I have done veri even if I didn't see an attraction..its about being real and not fake ..not if I like them or not ..

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By *auraLucyLuLuWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Just want to ask the experienced users of this site a question.

I've met two people from the site recently, just a social meet, and I got on very well with both. Afterwards, I messaged them asking if I could write them a verification and if so, would they write me one. One person was very up front in saying that they accept one from me, but wouldn't be writing one in return (I respect their honest) and the other seemed to suggest that I would need to pay them, because I would "not get very far without a one".

Now, I'm not that fussed if I get a verification or not, that's not the reason I'm here, but I know a lot of people here do require a personal verification before they will even chat. I am just wondering why someone would decline to give a verification to someone, even to say something like "Met for a drink and he's a real person" etc. particularly after it was enjoyable meeting. As for asking for some sort of exchange in return for a verification... I think if you go to the bother of turning up to meet some one you deserve a verification we have no problem verifying people we have met and we do expect one in return"

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By *auraLucyLuLuWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Just want to ask the experienced users of this site a question.

I've met two people from the site recently, just a social meet, and I got on very well with both. Afterwards, I messaged them asking if I could write them a verification and if so, would they write me one. One person was very up front in saying that they accept one from me, but wouldn't be writing one in return (I respect their honest) and the other seemed to suggest that I would need to pay them, because I would "not get very far without a one".

Now, I'm not that fussed if I get a verification or not, that's not the reason I'm here, but I know a lot of people here do require a personal verification before they will even chat. I am just wondering why someone would decline to give a verification to someone, even to say something like "Met for a drink and he's a real person" etc. particularly after it was enjoyable meeting. As for asking for some sort of exchange in return for a verification... I think if you go to the bother of turning up to meet some one you deserve a verification we have no problem verifying people we have met and we do expect one in return

Even if you don't like them?

I have done veri even if I didn't see an attraction..its about being real and not fake ..not if I like them or not .. "

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"Just want to ask the experienced users of this site a question.

I've met two people from the site recently, just a social meet, and I got on very well with both. Afterwards, I messaged them asking if I could write them a verification and if so, would they write me one. One person was very up front in saying that they accept one from me, but wouldn't be writing one in return (I respect their honest) and the other seemed to suggest that I would need to pay them, because I would "not get very far without a one".

Now, I'm not that fussed if I get a verification or not, that's not the reason I'm here, but I know a lot of people here do require a personal verification before they will even chat. I am just wondering why someone would decline to give a verification to someone, even to say something like "Met for a drink and he's a real person" etc. particularly after it was enjoyable meeting. As for asking for some sort of exchange in return for a verification... I think if you go to the bother of turning up to meet some one you deserve a verification we have no problem verifying people we have met and we do expect one in return

Even if you don't like them?

I have done veri even if I didn't see an attraction..its about being real and not fake ..not if I like them or not .. "

This. Surely doesn't take much to write 'met this gent for a coffee, he turned up in time, thanks for the company'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just want to ask the experienced users of this site a question.

I've met two people from the site recently, just a social meet, and I got on very well with both. Afterwards, I messaged them asking if I could write them a verification and if so, would they write me one. One person was very up front in saying that they accept one from me, but wouldn't be writing one in return (I respect their honest) and the other seemed to suggest that I would need to pay them, because I would "not get very far without a one".

Now, I'm not that fussed if I get a verification or not, that's not the reason I'm here, but I know a lot of people here do require a personal verification before they will even chat. I am just wondering why someone would decline to give a verification to someone, even to say something like "Met for a drink and he's a real person" etc. particularly after it was enjoyable meeting. As for asking for some sort of exchange in return for a verification... I think if you go to the bother of turning up to meet some one you deserve a verification we have no problem verifying people we have met and we do expect one in return

Even if you don't like them?

I have done veri even if I didn't see an attraction..its about being real and not fake ..not if I like them or not ..

This. Surely doesn't take much to write 'met this gent for a coffee, he turned up in time, thanks for the company' "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess I only write verifications if I really like and get on with the person. Different strokes.

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By *odernLoveDublinMan
over a year ago

dublin

I think some people dont want to be held responsible for a verification that might not be completely honest and truthful. Which in turn might lead someone to meet a person they wouldnt have otherwise.

Not saying anything against you OP, but sometimes you just get a sense that someone isnt cut out for swinging or a bit mentally unhinged etc and whilst it may not be correct assessent the risk is deemed too much to take when your gut says otherwise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pay? Really. Meet up again and pay them? Sounds bizzare. Certainly report them!

I know some couples and girls are reluctant to write verifications or even display them because they get bombarded with messages when they go up.

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"I have declined to give verifications for some people because I didn't like them.

Maybe it wasn't so fun for the other person?

"

What on earth has you liking them or not got to do with their veri?

Jesus I've had some random reasons why people won'y leave me a veri but thats absolutely ridiculous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd always leave a veri if someone wanted one. Even, as was said earlier, I didn't particularly get on with them.

For myself, I have enough. I'm not fussed if I'm left one or not. If asked, I'd probably say don't bother.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have declined to give verifications for some people because I didn't like them.

Maybe it wasn't so fun for the other person?

What on earth has you liking them or not got to do with their veri?

Jesus I've had some random reasons why people won'y leave me a veri but thats absolutely ridiculous"

What's a good reason so?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have declined to give verifications for some people because I didn't like them.

Maybe it wasn't so fun for the other person?

What on earth has you liking them or not got to do with their veri?

Jesus I've had some random reasons why people won'y leave me a veri but thats absolutely ridiculous

What's a good reason so?"

Just that they turned up and looked like their pic would be good enough for me to give one.

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"I have declined to give verifications for some people because I didn't like them.

Maybe it wasn't so fun for the other person?

What on earth has you liking them or not got to do with their veri?

Jesus I've had some random reasons why people won'y leave me a veri but thats absolutely ridiculous

What's a good reason so?"

A good reason for what?

not leaving a verification?

Well I guess not turning up is a good one, not looking like the profile would suggest, A single guy turning up alone (un-planned) from a Cpls profile, those kinda scenario's

But to deny someones existence because you didn't really get on is rude.

But its your profile, your decision

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not for me. I respect your way of doing things though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone to their own imo if you want to verify do and if you don't fine as well.

Although I have learned this week that filters block leaving veris for people. Every day is a school day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always give veris...sometimes they are not returned but I don't mind..

Its not easy for single guys to get the first verification here social or otherwise and its only fair to give someone who is who and what they say their first anyway..

Its also a kind of thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As for the charging...that is just fucked up...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I disagree. I'll happily give a verification if I like the person and if I had a good time, otherwise I'm just not going to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a person joins fab and shouts on the forums, without a verification....does anybody hear it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" a person joins fab and shouts on the forums, without a verification....does anybody hear it?

"
Is it against the rules.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being paid to give verifications ?

Hold on let me quit my job

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

If someone asks me to verify them I will... The tone of it will reflect how the meet went, or, if it was at a social event, what my impression was. That's all a verification has to do ~ show that the person is real. Its nothing to do with popularity. I couldn't give a monkeys if I never got another veri

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By *hocoholicWoman
over a year ago

The big D

It says more about a person who won't give a verif when asked just because they didn't get on with a person. Iv met a few ppl I didn't get on with & framed my verif to be honest in a basic way. If they meet me & want a verif then il oblige.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fair enough. The guy I didn't give a verification to seemed to be very angry at the world. That's why I wouldn't write one for him. I'll stick to my guns on this one.

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

Verification = to confirm that something/someone is what they say they are

It's a simple thing of someone posting a profile saying they are male/female/cpls of a certain hight and physique and age ur veri of them need only confirm that the profile description of that person is just that. Unless u know them personally u can't really verify that they are sane or insane u don't get the time or insight over a coffee or drink, after that it's only ur opinion of how good a fuck they are mine may be totally at odds to others as to wheather she sucks like a dyson or not

I always try to leave a veri and don't mind getting them as some on here are verified but it's three or four years old at least a resent veri will tell me they are still meeting and haven't deviated much from the profile description

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Fair enough. The guy I didn't give a verification to seemed to be very angry at the world. That's why I wouldn't write one for him. I'll stick to my guns on this one. "

I hint some back peddling here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not backpedaling at all, just giving you more information. There's quite a difference. And I'm still haven't read anything to make me change my opinion. I'll verify people I like, I won't verify people I don't like. That's how I use the verification system thing. Up to you how you use it and I'm cool with that.

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By *urious2013cCouple
over a year ago

Co Cork

Not liking them has nothing got to do with it is manners to give someone a verification if they turned up to meet you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So my verification would read like this so: He turned up. It is him in the photos.

Maybe I'll reconsider.

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"So my verification would read like this so: He turned up. It is him in the photos.

Maybe I'll reconsider."

Thats the perfect Veri right there......

I'd be happy if all my veri's said the same.

Reading some of these more graphical veri's actually makes me wanna heave

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford


"It says more about a person who won't give a veri when asked just because they didn't get on with a person. Iv met a few ppl I didn't get on with & framed my verif to be honest in a basic way. If they meet me & want a veri then il oblige. "

i agree its a simple veri dont have to be over the top.. unfortunately veris are required on a profile for some to secure a meet.. so wheres the harm once its honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Asking money for a verification is just wrong and should be reported.

Now, each person has the right to decide to give a verification or not, and we should just respect their reasons whether we like it or not.

Alex

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"Asking money for a verification is just wrong and should be reported.

Now, each person has the right to decide to give a verification or not, and we should just respect their reasons whether we like it or not.

Alex "

What about a woman with my cock in her mouth saying if I don't give her the lot she not veri me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Asking money for a verification is just wrong and should be reported.

Now, each person has the right to decide to give a verification or not, and we should just respect their reasons whether we like it or not.

Alex

What about a woman with my cock in her mouth saying if I don't give her the lot she not veri me "

If you don't want a dangerous bite.... Im afraid you have to oblige

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"Asking money for a verification is just wrong and should be reported.

Now, each person has the right to decide to give a verification or not, and we should just respect their reasons whether we like it or not.

Alex

What about a woman with my cock in her mouth saying if I don't give her the lot she not veri me

If you don't want a dangerous bite.... Im afraid you have to oblige "

I held out as long as I could

Ten seconds later I was verified

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By *hocoholicWoman
over a year ago

The big D


"So my verification would read like this so: He turned up. It is him in the photos.

Maybe I'll reconsider."

Uv every right to use the site as u want Can I add tho that I always go by verif when choosing to meet new ppl & it's not just what's written, it's how it's written that I take on board so if I was to see a verif like the 1u mentioned then it would highlight the fact u didn't want to write anything personal/nice so that would be a concern for me & id either contact u to find out more or move on. I judge hidden verifs (only if they've 1or2) the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know I'm weird and I know I'll never write a verification for someone I don't like. I've met three men from here where none of them had even a single verification.......all three were lovely, and I've met all three again. There are so many good people on this site, it's incredible.

So I'm not into interpreting tone. The verifications I do write are honest as well as being extremely graphic, that's just who I am.

I understand that we are all different and I respect that. And I'm used to insinuations and being called names so I'm good with that too.

My reason for not writing a verification for someone is that I don't think another person in my position would enjoy meeting them. That's me, that's who I am. I read verifications, I think they are incredibly interesting and I love writing them. Often I tend to be more verbose than is necessary, a curse perhaps but again, that's just me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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My reason for not writing a verification for someone is that I don't think another person in my position would enjoy meeting them.

"

What exactly do you mean by "another person in your position" Surely it's up to the individual to decide what they like/don't like rather than you.

Not giving someone a verification because you don't like them seems like incredibly shitty behaviou.

Do you tell people you meet before hand about your policy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You know now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People can make their own decisions, I won't write a verification for someone I don't like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People can make their own decisions, I won't write a verification for someone I don't like."

I completely agree as I've never met you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its incredibly difficult for men in particular to understand a single ladys viewpoint on the verifications thing , when a single lady considers meeting a guy from here , she will take into consideration any veris already given , and if they are essentially favourable she might decide to take a chance and meet based on the feedback given by other single ladies . I did meet a guy who was verified and turned out to be an absolute nightmare , so i messaged the lady who had verified him favourably and asked her if she had in fact met the same guy ! she told me that she verified him because she was scared of him and that he had been on several previous profiles causing hassle and deleting , but always contacting her to reverify him ! She had done it so he wouldnt hassle her further ! I was not impressed and asked her if she thought it fair to be giving glowing gushing veris to a lunatic nut job and she agreed it was misleading but she was afraid of the guy and he knew where she lived !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People can make their own decisions, I won't write a verification for someone I don't like."

What about the people who don't read the forums and don't know your stance? You talk about people making their own decisions, but that's a lot harder when the other person isn't honest with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People can make their own decisions, I won't write a verification for someone I don't like.

What about the people who don't read the forums and don't know your stance? You talk about people making their own decisions, but that's a lot harder when the other person isn't honest with them. "

Do you think it would be better to give a bad veri? E.g. 'met this guy, his profile is genuine, but I didnt like him and won't meet him again'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't expect people to read everything. But if there is a single woman in here reading the verifications I've written on the men I've met, I know that what I've written is true and that I've felt safe with those men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't expect people to read everything. But if there is a single woman in here reading the verifications I've written on the men I've met, I know that what I've written is true and that I've felt safe with those men."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my opinion it's only right to leave a verification for someone whether you like them or not. Let's face it, most of us have had meets not turn up... So if someone turns up on time and Is the person in their pics why not just say that. Just because you might not like them does not mean no one else would like them. No need to go into great detail just a simple he/she turned up we had coffee, it is then up to others to make their own minds up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't want to verify someone I don't like. I'm all for people doing whatever they want as long as it hurts nobody. Verify away! Enjoy, have fun and be safe. Let's all use the verification system as we see fit. ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think maybe if I had a bad meet or felt someone was fishy, I'd let them know the content of the verification wouldn't be completely flattering. That could be a the fairest way to explain why you don't want to write one and they liky wouldn't want it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh I told him straight out I wasn't going to write him a verification.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He asked, I said no and explained why.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't want to verify someone I don't like. I'm all for people doing whatever they want as long as it hurts nobody. Verify away! Enjoy, have fun and be safe. Let's all use the verification system as we see fit. ??"

Or just use it for what it's for instead?

To verify someone is real and is who they are on their profile.

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"I think its incredibly difficult for men in particular to understand a single ladys viewpoint on the verifications thing , when a single lady considers meeting a guy from here , she will take into consideration any veris already given , and if they are essentially favourable she might decide to take a chance and meet based on the feedback given by other single ladies . I did meet a guy who was verified and turned out to be an absolute nightmare , so i messaged the lady who had verified him favourably and asked her if she had in fact met the same guy ! she told me that she verified him because she was scared of him and that he had been on several previous profiles causing hassle and deleting , but always contacting her to reverify him ! She had done it so he wouldnt hassle her further ! I was not impressed and asked her if she thought it fair to be giving glowing gushing veris to a lunatic nut job and she agreed it was misleading but she was afraid of the guy and he knew where she lived ! "

That's scary that the woman felt threatened enough that she thought giving him veris would keep her safe without any concern for others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't want to verify someone I don't like. I'm all for people doing whatever they want as long as it hurts nobody. Verify away! Enjoy, have fun and be safe. Let's all use the verification system as we see fit. ??

Or just use it for what it's for instead?

To verify someone is real and is who they are on their profile. "

Everyone is real, that's an inane reason to verify someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the verifier has the choice to verify. You don't owe anyone a verificationon here any more than you owe them a screw. It's a personal decision. Some people only verify those they have slept with too...after a social or a party I wouldn't verify everyone I met or knew was real.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Boils my blood when we dont get verts back even if it was a bad meet. If both partys are happy too meet they should vertify each other as a simple genuine person and move on an block one another as the verts still show eg like stated on our profile

Verified by 28 people, newest Saturday

24 men. 4 cpl. By 29 meet. 2 cam.

It shows that we met 29 people in person and 2 verts from a live cam

And actually we had a couple who where mad too try dogging so we invited them. But they never took part in playing they just stood awkwardly at the back ok not everyomes cup of tea. And when we where done himself from the other couple was saying he will bend jen over the car an bla bla bla so we thought noting of it an we actually got on well so when it came too the verts we left a simple a nice one and when we asked for one back there reply was we dont give verts too people that we havnt played with. But on second looks on there profile most of there verts where from socials and none was of play so that really pissed us off..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And everyone is relaxed, genuine and laid back on their profile. It's akin to everyone thinking they are a good driver. Spare me the the semantics, please. If you want to verify an absolute nutter, go wild. I won't do it.

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over a year ago


"I don't expect people to read everything. But if there is a single woman in here reading the verifications I've written on the men I've met, I know that what I've written is true and that I've felt safe with those men."
U see iv met 1 guy u have met lets just say wouldnt go by ur veri . So there u go were all diffrent whats good for u isnt always good for others . Think thats the point ppl are trying to make .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One person's charmer is another person's sleazy creep

Some people are put off by graphic veris, others seem to see them as necessary sexual validation.

Best to rely on your own judgement in our book

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over a year ago


"I don't expect people to read everything. But if there is a single woman in here reading the verifications I've written on the men I've met, I know that what I've written is true and that I've felt safe with those men. U see iv met 1 guy u have met lets just say wouldnt go by ur veri . So there u go were all diffrent whats good for u isnt always good for others . Think thats the point ppl are trying to make ."

How interesting, did you write our shared meet a verification?

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over a year ago

I will always send a veri . I met alot qho arent verified so i try help some along the way . Would i met half iv met again no but id still verify them for coming to meet me for a coffee or drink . I think if esp if there new and can meet me for a coffee why nit verify them . Half iv met i wouldnt go further but i see no problem.saying they turned up etc .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

fair enough

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By *imetoexplore69Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"Just want to ask the experienced users of this site a question.

I've met two people from the site recently, just a social meet, and I got on very well with both. Afterwards, I messaged them asking if I could write them a verification and if so, would they write me one. One person was very up front in saying that they accept one from me, but wouldn't be writing one in return (I respect their honest) and the other seemed to suggest that I would need to pay them, because I would "not get very far without a one".

Now, I'm not that fussed if I get a verification or not, that's not the reason I'm here, but I know a lot of people here do require a personal verification before they will even chat. I am just wondering why someone would decline to give a verification to someone, even to say something like "Met for a drink and he's a real person" etc. particularly after it was enjoyable meeting. As for asking for some sort of exchange in return for a verification... "
wouldint the soical have turned into a meet at a later date if it went so well for them? Perhaps they didint enjoy the meet therefore don't want to leave a veri.stick at it and I'm sure in time you may get a good match and then the veri will come with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's nice 2 leave a verification for honest genuine people Iv meet some stunning people here that have travelled an hours drive it's only fair u leave a verification I wouldn't verifie anybody without meeting the verifications shows ur genuine that's my out look on it but it's hard for single men 2 get meets without um

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over a year ago


"People can make their own decisions, I won't write a verification for someone I don't like.

What about the people who don't read the forums and don't know your stance? You talk about people making their own decisions, but that's a lot harder when the other person isn't honest with them.

Do you think it would be better to give a bad veri? E.g. 'met this guy, his profile is genuine, but I didnt like him and won't meet him again'"

yes. You at least give him the option to publish it or not.

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over a year ago


"I don't want to verify someone I don't like. I'm all for people doing whatever they want as long as it hurts nobody. Verify away! Enjoy, have fun and be safe. Let's all use the verification system as we see fit. ??

Or just use it for what it's for instead?

To verify someone is real and is who they are on their profile.

Everyone is real, that's an inane reason to verify someone."

Eh what? While everyone is real it certainly isn't the case that everyone is who they say they are. Lots of people lie about how old they are, their appearance etc etc. Hence the reason the verification system is so important.

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over a year ago


"I don't want to verify someone I don't like. I'm all for people doing whatever they want as long as it hurts nobody. Verify away! Enjoy, have fun and be safe. Let's all use the verification system as we see fit. ??

Or just use it for what it's for instead?

To verify someone is real and is who they are on their profile.

Everyone is real, that's an inane reason to verify someone.

Eh what? While everyone is real it certainly isn't the case that everyone is who they say they are. Lots of people lie about how old they are, their appearance etc etc. Hence the reason the verification system is so important. "
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I met a 5"11" athletic 29 year old guy .

He was actually late 40's about 5"6 and last thing athletic he did was PE class in secondary school .

He was verified by a very well verified couple .

There is also a couple I've met at events who's profile pics are photoshopped so much it looks no where like them .they are well verified too .

Verifications mean feck all to me other then They showed up .

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over a year ago


"I don't want to verify someone I don't like. I'm all for people doing whatever they want as long as it hurts nobody. Verify away! Enjoy, have fun and be safe. Let's all use the verification system as we see fit. ??

Or just use it for what it's for instead?

To verify someone is real and is who they are on their profile.

Everyone is real, that's an inane reason to verify someone.

Eh what? While everyone is real it certainly isn't the case that everyone is who they say they are. Lots of people lie about how old they are, their appearance etc etc. Hence the reason the verification system is so important. .

I met a 5"11" athletic 29 year old guy .

He was actually late 40's about 5"6 and last thing athletic he did was PE class in secondary school .

He was verified by a very well verified couple .

There is also a couple I've met at events who's profile pics are photoshopped so much it looks no where like them .they are well verified too .

Verifications mean feck all to me other then They showed up . "
here here

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over a year ago


"I don't want to verify someone I don't like. I'm all for people doing whatever they want as long as it hurts nobody. Verify away! Enjoy, have fun and be safe. Let's all use the verification system as we see fit. ??

Or just use it for what it's for instead?

To verify someone is real and is who they are on their profile.

Everyone is real, that's an inane reason to verify someone.

Eh what? While everyone is real it certainly isn't the case that everyone is who they say they are. Lots of people lie about how old they are, their appearance etc etc. Hence the reason the verification system is so important. .

I met a 5"11" athletic 29 year old guy .

He was actually late 40's about 5"6 and last thing athletic he did was PE class in secondary school .

He was verified by a very well verified couple .

There is also a couple I've met at events who's profile pics are photoshopped so much it looks no where like them .they are well verified too .

Verifications mean feck all to me other then They showed up . "

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