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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Seriously I think I must have messaged everyone on here and nothing. No one wants a older guy in a sexless marriage.So I don't want to pee people off by texting them again which leaves me with one option. ...to give up. Not looking for pity just what else can I do.....D xxx

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By *evilinsidemeMan
over a year ago

Trim

Go to a M&G, be nice have a laugh. See what happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seriously I think I must have messaged everyone on here and nothing. No one wants a older guy in a sexless marriage.So I don't want to pee people off by texting them again which leaves me with one option. ...to give up. Not looking for pity just what else can I do.....D xxx"

You're only here 2 months, that's not really THAT long in fairness..

Don't think of it as a race and that you have to get to the 'finish line' as fast as you can... Build up a rapport with people, spend more time here on the forums interacting with everyone rather than sending loads of 'cold caller' mails out (I don't literally mean cold but I guess you know what I mean) as that would put people off..

Just relax, take your time and breathe, things will happen in their own time, especially if you include yourself in topics here and not create whining threads...

Hope it works out OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seriously I think I must have messaged everyone on here and nothing. No one wants a older guy in a sexless marriage.So I don't want to pee people off by texting them again which leaves me with one option. ...to give up. Not looking for pity just what else can I do.....D xxx

You're only here 2 months, that's not really THAT long in fairness..

Don't think of it as a race and that you have to get to the 'finish line' as fast as you can... Build up a rapport with people, spend more time here on the forums interacting with everyone rather than sending loads of 'cold caller' mails out (I don't literally mean cold but I guess you know what I mean) as that would put people off..

Just relax, take your time and breathe, things will happen in their own time, especially if you include yourself in topics here and not create whining threads...

Hope it works out OP "

Positive thoughts and deeds will attract positive things to happen... don't give up ...

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By *bitofcraicMan
over a year ago

Mullingar/Athlone/Tullamore/Dublin

Very honest profile. I'm in exactly the same situation. Left fab a year ago for same reason your going through now. Had a lover for a year and parted amiably. Back now but in a much happier place. Your profile is very honest but too serious, you should amend it. Try and make it more attractive to what type of woman you want to meet. Read a few other guys profiles especially if they are chatty on forums. This is all about being comfortable,having a laugh, not taking yourself too seriously and certainly not coming across as desperate to get laid.

Just an opinionl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am in the same boat brother, but im just treating it as a marathon and I know its frustrating but we will get there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have 2 different ages on your profile, you say you're straight but looking for tv/ts... And although you say your profile is honest that your marriage is "sex less" why would people believe that, when you have a 6 year age gap on your profile and bio, who knows what age you actually are!

People always try to justify cheating, how would you feel if you found out your wife was here or on another site meeting others?... Maybe try sparking things up at home, even try introducing your wife to swinging. Majority of fabbers don't want drama and someone playing without their partners knowledge and or consent IS drama!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never give up....

Never surrender...

Never say never....

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown

Put yourself in a woman's shoes for a moment (hey, not literally...)

Saying twice on your profile that you're in a "sexless marriage" can be seen as needy... and needy ain't attractive to anybody...

Maybe you could try humour, wit and use your charm more as there's a lot "riding on this"...

"Be the flame not the moth"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lowering your age so you can message people isn't the way. Filters are there for a reason.

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By *evilinsidemeMan
over a year ago

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"You have 2 different ages on your profile, you say you're straight but looking for tv/ts... And although you say your profile is honest that your marriage is "sex less" why would people believe that, when you have a 6 year age gap on your profile and bio, who knows what age you actually are!

People always try to justify cheating, how would you feel if you found out your wife was here or on another site meeting others?... Maybe try sparking things up at home, even try introducing your wife to swinging. Majority of fabbers don't want drama and someone playing without their partners knowledge and or consent IS drama!! "

This is the best answer on the forum to any question, any thread or any subject EVER!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ever tried talking to your wife....

It always takes 2!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every single man is in the same boat trying to get noticed. You think you having a hard time try being a TV lol .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You have 2 different ages on your profile, you say you're straight but looking for tv/ts... And although you say your profile is honest that your marriage is "sex less" why would people believe that, when you have a 6 year age gap on your profile and bio, who knows what age you actually are!

People always try to justify cheating, how would you feel if you found out your wife was here or on another site meeting others?... Maybe try sparking things up at home, even try introducing your wife to swinging. Majority of fabbers don't want drama and someone playing without their partners knowledge and or consent IS drama!! "

This i love and makes perfect sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok this may be a bit of topic but i dont understand how people can stay in a loveless and sexless marraige, yes i get the financial aspect and of course the kids but i personally would not want anyone to feel they were stuck me with or i them, instead of looking here why not try sort out the home life first, this is not a dial a ride as the wife wont give me sex site, you are only 51 so plenty of life in you yet GET OUT AND LIVE IT x

I do hope you find some peace tho or even a good roide

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok this may be a bit of topic but i dont understand how people can stay in a loveless and sexless marraige, yes i get the financial aspect and of course the kids but i personally would not want anyone to feel they were stuck me with or i them, instead of looking here why not try sort out the home life first, this is not a dial a ride as the wife wont give me sex site, you are only 51 so plenty of life in you yet GET OUT AND LIVE IT x

I do hope you find some peace tho or even a good roide "

Thats the thing, I think this excuse of "we have the perfect relationship we just don't have sex" is bullshit.. like when is he on FAB complimenting and chatting to other women, telling them what they want to hear , while his wife is in the other room cooking his dinner or washing his clothes or maybe feeling so bad in herself that her husband doesn't find her attractive anymore because he doesn't tell her, or make any effort with her, mean while he's on line feeling sorry for himself that he can't get laid on a swing site fast enough. I feel so sorry for people that get cheated on, all because someone wants their cake and eat it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok this may be a bit of topic but i dont understand how people can stay in a loveless and sexless marraige, yes i get the financial aspect and of course the kids but i personally would not want anyone to feel they were stuck me with or i them, instead of looking here why not try sort out the home life first, this is not a dial a ride as the wife wont give me sex site, you are only 51 so plenty of life in you yet GET OUT AND LIVE IT x

I do hope you find some peace tho or even a good roide

Thats the thing, I think this excuse of "we have the perfect relationship we just don't have sex" is bullshit.. like when is he on FAB complimenting and chatting to other women, telling them what they want to hear , while his wife is in the other room cooking his dinner or washing his clothes or maybe feeling so bad in herself that her husband doesn't find her attractive anymore because he doesn't tell her, or make any effort with her, mean while he's on line feeling sorry for himself that he can't get laid on a swing site fast enough. I feel so sorry for people that get cheated on, all because someone wants their cake and eat it!

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For me sex is a big part of my relationship so if its not clicking there we have a problem, its not the be all to end all but if your on a site looking for sex from another then there is definitely problems....i still think he should talk to the wife and see where her head is at...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree totally

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown

Mate, bring your wife flowers and out to dinner on the next big occasion.. Then get a room or tidy up the bedroom and have music , few fake/real candles & massage oil. I.e Make the effort if you haven't already done so!

The amount of stunning looking and sexy married women on this site who have hubbies that don't show them enough interest is staggering

My take on things...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi just me here again. Read through all your replies, (thanks to everyone who did). What can I say to you All....Am I a Prick .....in some people's eyes I seem to be (Your choice ).....Am I a cheater....Simple ans. Yes. Do I care about no one but myself... No. What am I looking for.... someone who might be in the same situation as me or maybe someone who dose not care either way. What I said was have not got any replies over 12months. That's all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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The amount of stunning looking and sexy married women on this site who have hubbies that don't show them enough interest is staggering

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Maybe they don't deserve it?

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown


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The amount of stunning looking and sexy married women on this site who have hubbies that don't show them enough interest is staggering

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Maybe they don't deserve it? "

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In a relationship, both people deserve interest and to be fussed about every so often by the other person, as appreciation is part of any healthy relationship..

So, if you don't show any interest... you don't value... and if you don't value, you don't deserve to have...

That clear things up for you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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The amount of stunning looking and sexy married women on this site who have hubbies that don't show them enough interest is staggering

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Maybe they don't deserve it?

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In a relationship, both people deserve interest and to be fussed about every so often by the other person, as appreciation is part of any healthy relationship..

So, if you don't show any interest... you don't value... and if you don't value, you don't deserve to have...

That clear things up for you? "

If they are of the attitude they don't deserve to have they should leave then. Rather than getting on Fab while staying put.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi just me here again. Read through all your replies, (thanks to everyone who did). What can I say to you All....Am I a Prick .....in some people's eyes I seem to be (Your choice ).....Am I a cheater....Simple ans. Yes. Do I care about no one but myself... No. What am I looking for.... someone who might be in the same situation as me or maybe someone who dose not care either way. What I said was have not got any replies over 12months. That's all."

Why you are on here, for whatever reasons, is your business.

You need to look at how you come across on your profile. Having 2 different ages is a big red flag for anyone. Your pictures are well not great. Put some effort into it. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said

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