FabSwingers.com forum: what to think?

By *odie5300 OP Couple
over a year ago

dublin

Our circumstances have changed and because of it my partner called me nonsexual we went from our own life to a stressful one our world totally changed overnight.i am sexual just the household circumstances wont allow us your thoughts please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Either will our house allow us too get up too naughty stuff.. now we do it in the outdoors

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hello Op, try a date night out if possible or go stay in a hotel for an hour or two. Car fun is always an option.

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By *-4pleasureCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

"Our circumstances have changed and because of it my partner called me nonsexual we went from our own life to a stressful one our world totally changed overnight.i am sexual just the household circumstances wont allow us your thoughts please.

You're under stress and he starts criticising you and your libido.

He sounds like a right arsehole - just my opinion.

Mr 2-4

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're under stress and he starts criticising you and your libido.

He sounds like a right arsehole - just my opinion.

Mr 2-4"

So you're basing your opinion on one line from the female without allowing for any possible come back or alternative explanation from the male. That's some good white knighting right there.

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By *ildatlantic3wayCouple
over a year ago

donegal

Well this escalated now can we get back to the original post. People get frustrated, try getting some time to yourself and make a pack that neither of you will leave frustrated.

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By *bitofcraicMan
over a year ago

Mullingar/Athlone/Tullamore/Dublin

The one common denominator we all have on Fab no matter colour/creed or age is that we are very sexual. I cannot understand your husband calling you non sexual. Are there financial, job or other issues that could have brought this about. Everything effects our demeanour. Sex/physical contact certainly brightens up mine.

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By *odie5300 OP Couple
over a year ago

dublin

"Either will our house allow us too get up too naughty stuff.. now we do it in the outdoors

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we can't even get out together one always has to be in the house

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By *odie5300 OP Couple
over a year ago

dublin

"The one common denominator we all have on Fab no matter colour/creed or age is that we are very sexual. I cannot understand your husband calling you non sexual. Are there financial, job or other issues that could have brought this about. Everything effects our demeanour. Sex/physical contact certainly brightens up mine."

Probably just the situation getting to me we had our own life we could do things together have fun at what we were doing now it seems like its all downhill with the circumstances involved

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By *ccasional couple 32Couple
over a year ago

mayo

Talk to your partner, ye both have to work this out together, no one here can do that for you !! Good luck O P !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a private matter in my opinion and should be resolved privately. It is not fair to your partner to bring such things to a public forum for public discussion.

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By *bitofcraicMan
over a year ago

Mullingar/Athlone/Tullamore/Dublin

I can't respond to you directly/privately. Previous comment is true that this can only be resolved by the two of you. Without knowing the circumstances that confine one of you to the home, its impossible for anyone here to help. I suppose a good sun holiday for the two of you, so ye can chat and relax and start enjoying each other again is out of the question

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown

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At least he's upfront and bringing it to your attention. Some guys would just use the "not getting any sex" line to go & play offside...

So, at least cards on the table is step one. If home life is stressful and you find yourself in the trenches together, you might both sit down, chat reach a compromise...

...or even brainstorm,

whether that's booking a babysitter while you both go for a late night "outdoor walk" together

or lock the bedroom door and decide who wears the gag

Honestly, it could be an opportunity to take your sexlife to next level too so hope it all works out for you both

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

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At least he's upfront and bringing it to your attention. Some guys would just use the "not getting any sex" line to go & play offside...

So, at least cards on the table is step one. If home life is stressful and you find yourself in the trenches together, you might both sit down, chat reach a compromise...

...or even brainstorm,

whether that's booking a babysitter while you both go for a late night "outdoor walk" together

or lock the bedroom door and decide who wears the gag

Honestly, it could be an opportunity to take your sexlife to next level too so hope it all works out for you both

Agree with the upfront from husband but it might have been phrased better perhaps.

I suspect this situation is either young kids to look after or an elderly parent/relative has moved in.

Both not easy but not insurmountable. Both have bad hearing and usually heavy sleepers, so lock a downstairs door and get some fun there if bedroom is not possible, without the use of gag muffle.

Otherwise, tell family that you need some couple times and they need to share the load and give you guys a night off from time to time.

Do NOT let this stop your sex life or one/both will stray, guaranteed!

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

Gag/muffle/pillow I meant

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown

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At least he's upfront and bringing it to your attention. Some guys would just use the "not getting any sex" line to go & play offside...

So, at least cards on the table is step one. If home life is stressful and you find yourself in the trenches together, you might both sit down, chat reach a compromise...

...or even brainstorm,

whether that's booking a babysitter while you both go for a late night "outdoor walk" together

or lock the bedroom door and decide who wears the gag

Honestly, it could be an opportunity to take your sexlife to next level too so hope it all works out for you both

Agree with the upfront from husband but it might have been phrased better perhaps.

I suspect this situation is either young kids to look after or an elderly parent/relative has moved in.

Both not easy but not insurmountable. Both have bad hearing and usually heavy sleepers, so lock a downstairs door and get some fun there if bedroom is not possible, without the use of gag muffle.

Otherwise, tell family that you need some couple times and they need to share the load and give you guys a night off from time to time.

Do NOT let this stop your sex life or one/both will stray, guaranteed!"

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We need to approach a Producer with our ideas man... makings of a great TV show. "Bringing sexy back to mum & dad"

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

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At least he's upfront and bringing it to your attention. Some guys would just use the "not getting any sex" line to go & play offside...

So, at least cards on the table is step one. If home life is stressful and you find yourself in the trenches together, you might both sit down, chat reach a compromise...

...or even brainstorm,

whether that's booking a babysitter while you both go for a late night "outdoor walk" together

or lock the bedroom door and decide who wears the gag

Honestly, it could be an opportunity to take your sexlife to next level too so hope it all works out for you both

Agree with the upfront from husband but it might have been phrased better perhaps.

I suspect this situation is either young kids to look after or an elderly parent/relative has moved in.

Both not easy but not insurmountable. Both have bad hearing and usually heavy sleepers, so lock a downstairs door and get some fun there if bedroom is not possible, without the use of gag muffle.

Otherwise, tell family that you need some couple times and they need to share the load and give you guys a night off from time to time.

Do NOT let this stop your sex life or one/both will stray, guaranteed!

-------------------------

We need to approach a Producer with our ideas man... makings of a great TV show. "Bringing sexy back to mum & dad"

A while back I would have laughed but with the likes of Gogglebox, Sexpod and the naked dating show, we might have a winner

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown

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At least he's upfront and bringing it to your attention. Some guys would just use the "not getting any sex" line to go & play offside...

So, at least cards on the table is step one. If home life is stressful and you find yourself in the trenches together, you might both sit down, chat reach a compromise...

...or even brainstorm,

whether that's booking a babysitter while you both go for a late night "outdoor walk" together

or lock the bedroom door and decide who wears the gag

Honestly, it could be an opportunity to take your sexlife to next level too so hope it all works out for you both

Agree with the upfront from husband but it might have been phrased better perhaps.

I suspect this situation is either young kids to look after or an elderly parent/relative has moved in.

Both not easy but not insurmountable. Both have bad hearing and usually heavy sleepers, so lock a downstairs door and get some fun there if bedroom is not possible, without the use of gag muffle.

Otherwise, tell family that you need some couple times and they need to share the load and give you guys a night off from time to time.

Do NOT let this stop your sex life or one/both will stray, guaranteed!

-------------------------

We need to approach a Producer with our ideas man... makings of a great TV show. "Bringing sexy back to mum & dad"

A while back I would have laughed but with the likes of Gogglebox, Sexpod and the naked dating show, we might have a winner

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Well, Johnny Boy & Tim Tim could deffo give Dr Phil a run for his money. All we need now is a video camera and a Fab couple in need of a filthy makeover

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By *xplicitlyricsMan
over a year ago

south dublin

From what little info is in your post Im assuming this isnt because you just need a baby sitter.

It sounds like somethings turned your life upside down out of the blue and its brought a lot of stress on you.

Relationships live and die by the way the 2 people handle conflict and difficult situations. If you can discuss this in a way thats constructive and remember that youre both on the same team and avoid criticising each other then you'll have a good chance at coming out of this stronger.

If you feel you need more help with this then depending on your situation there may be support groups available.

If someone at home needs help and supervision then Home Help is a free service you might be able to avail of http://www.citizensinformation.ie/en/health/health_services/care_in_your_community/home_helps.html

This might free you up to get some space out of the house together for an hour or two and try and maintain your relationship or at least some time for yourselves.

If you feel you might benefit from couples counselling I know of an experienced dublin based counsellor that can take appointments or do sessions over skype if thats the best way for you.

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