FabSwingers.com forum: Bedroom talk or just rude

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What do people think when a guy messages looking to "fuck a slut" , is it just me or is this rude and disrespectful? I get why we're all here but I am sick of guys thinking its ok to speak like this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Deleted. You have to know me a little before we talk about pet names.

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By *kmanMan
over a year ago

Letterkenny

There is a lot of Muppets on this site and men wonder why they get no replies

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok thanks so much, so I'm not over reacting or being too sensitive.

I think someone should make sure you even want to speak to them first and make sure you're comfortable with them and what everyone's looking for before assuming you're his "slut".

Wasn't a nice message to see first thing this morning

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

In the heat of the moment Yes if that's what is required but in a mail hell no

Different if u have being chatting or even met and u are all into this chat but not before hand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do think that some guys on here think that because it's a sex site they can talk to females without any respect. ...

Yes us ladies here maybe abit more free spirited, but it doesn't mean we are going to fuck anyone that's offering. ..

Im as choosey about my sexual partners on fab in the same way I am in my normal life .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some guys watch so much porn that they forget to develop social skills.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's all about the context

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely agree there is a disrespect and disregard of women on this site and I agree porn has been an influence they can't tell the difference between reality and fantasy!

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

I think it's down right rude however op you shouldn't take that personally or seriously. Just laugh it off and answer something like 'beep, beep wrong number' & block.

Those guys disqualify themselves with three words.

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By *untimecork2022Man
over a year ago

Cork city

Time and a place for everything but definitely not on a first message or intro

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's disrespectful and shows the mentality of the men who send it. Thank god there's plenty of nice blokes here to make up for that handful that do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thing is you can talk very naughty without being disrespectful! Shows a lack of intelligence and imagination!

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By *aughtyTippcplCouple
over a year ago

Nearby

"What do people think when a guy messages looking to "fuck a slut" , is it just me or is this rude and disrespectful? I get why we're all here but I am sick of guys thinking its ok to speak like this!

I think some guys on here think they have the right to speak to women that way simply because of why we're here. No matter what we're here for we deserve to be spoken to and treated with respect.

Tina

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By *cilWoman
over a year ago

Wexford

I think men and women use the term differently.

Some men use slut as a compliment, in that they like how openly sexual a woman is in bed. Whereas most women see the term as an insult.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think calling a woman a slut at any time is rude and disrespectful. I couldn't imagine myself saying to a woman "Take it hard you dirty slut". It just doesn't sound right and I don't think it would induce her to 'take it hard' either.

I think any man that sends a mail to a lady that says suck me, fuck me or any other derogatory term in it, only goes to show what would come down the line later on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think men and women use the term differently.

Some men use slut as a compliment, in that they like how openly sexual a woman is in bed. Whereas most women see the term as an insult.

Bang on the money

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think in the middle Of The act it's acceptable (sometimes) but as a chat up line it's a bit much

Unless this is how ladies on fan like to be chatted up.... If so I need to change my Schtick..

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

"Ok thanks so much, so I'm not over reacting or being too sensitive.

I think someone should make sure you even want to speak to them first and make sure you're comfortable with them and what everyone's looking for before assuming you're his "slut".

Wasn't a nice message to see first thing this morning "

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

"Some guys watch so much porn that they forget to develop social skills.

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By *cilWoman
over a year ago

Wexford

"I think men and women use the term differently.

Some men use slut as a compliment, in that they like how openly sexual a woman is in bed. Whereas most women see the term as an insult.

Bang on the money

Notes only though, coins might be uncomfortable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are we talking about sluts or slots?

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

A lot of guys look at your profile or should I say glance at it and think they know you. Names/pet name should be used in context definitely not in a first message. Total disrespect. Some pics posted on here lately don't help. Just sayin.

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By *ack 188Man
over a year ago

Dublin 15

I agree with all that's been said,but there are some women on here just as bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if you've gone to the trouble of putting an actual name on your profile then you should be called by that.

If your username is sluttycunt and your name is slutty underneath then that's fair game.

You can only go buy what people say they are called. Whether that be an initial or a bogus first name. Anyone notice there's loads of Dave's here

Sending a random message saying hi you filthy slut would get deleted and if the person kept up the stupidity then a block.

Pet names seem to annoy me more though. Hun, sweetie, babe and all that sugar coated nonsense.

Just call me sexy

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By *exysam and StuartCouple
over a year ago

over the hills and far away

I think the message is downright rude.

Just because we here love sex doesn't mean we are sluts.

He won't have much luck on the site with opening mail like that.

Block button is needed here x

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown

I think there's a time and place for filthy talk. Same as in any nightclub, you wouldn't approach a woman with "Fancy a fuck luv?" or if you did, you better be skilled at dodging a drink

I think a better approach is a normal or cheeky opener, chat for a little bit, then escalate to proper filthy talk. Maybe then ask for directions

Hey, a guy can dream can't he?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a time and a place for filthy talk, but it's not in a first message, and for me personally it's not in any message. It's a personal and 'in person' thing.

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

First off maners maners then respect respect and then talk nicely . There should be no need to mention sex since we're all here for the same reason. When I'm chatting up ladies I never mention sex no need to .

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

Only one person would get away with calling me that and he knows he wouldnt get away with it in public. I agree pet names in first messages are so off putting that i know i just glance over them or delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd instantly block any guy who addressed me as that in a message. Hal is the only one tho can call me what he wants and get away with it....usually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on context for sure..

In a mail

Would be an instant delete..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for all your input guys and gals, the guy has been blocked and message has been deleted

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By *ord Willy McFuck-BucketMan
over a year ago

newcastle

I wouldn't put anything in a message that I wouldn't say to someone in the pub though I have said some rare things in my time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a time and a place. If its with someone you know it can be fun.

If its in a message from a stranger, it's rude.

Too many boys seem to think that porn is reality and they over use this sort of language because they think that's how real men behave.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There is a time and a place. If its with someone you know it can be fun.

If its in a message from a stranger, it's rude.

Too many boys seem to think that porn is reality and they over use this sort of language because they think that's how real men behave. "

Absolutely, in the bedroom with my partner is a completely different story, an opener for a concersatipn starter is completely different.

I think the porn thing is spot on, some guys can't differentiate between a porn movie and real life. Those guys might be single for quite some time

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By *Belfast_FellaMan
over a year ago

belfast

Would you walk up to someone you hadn't met in a bar and say that? I bet you wouldn't. So why try it here, even if it's a sex site?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had the same message late last night from some eejit . Block and delete . Job done .

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By *s louWoman
over a year ago

Enniskillen

"Ok thanks so much, so I'm not over reacting or being too sensitive.

I think someone should make sure you even want to speak to them first and make sure you're comfortable with them and what everyone's looking for before assuming you're his "slut".

Wasn't a nice message to see first thing this morning "

They wouldn't go up to a woman in a bar and come out with that as an opening line (I hope). Bit of respect goes a long way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

HB loves acting and being Slutty especially at parties, enjoys (in the right context) being called one too.

But we both despise crude oneline messages, "wanna Fuck slut" etc, etc.

Instant block,

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