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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

.....got your attention?

Here some good advice

Little swinging advice foR Single Male - MFM

Being a single male who enjoys swinging has unique challenges – at the surface you would assume no one is looking for a single male.

The truth is being a single male has its advantages, in particular in Mfm play, here the best practices to increases your success rate as a single male.

Understand your role

The first step playing as a single male is understanding why a couple is looking for a single male in the first place. Everyone has different reasons why they play but overall it breaks down to pretty basic situations.

They want to introduce her to playing with others.

One common reasons a couple is looking for a single male is to give the female side a great first experience.

This comes with unique challenges; no man wants to share his women with just anyone especially being new to swinging, one of the main reasons a man aggress to a MMF is because it allows him to be protective and supervise the encounter.

They keep it balanced

Many couples who partake in MFF will also enjoy a MFM as a device to keep the playing balanced so all parties needs are met.

He likes to spoil her (this is me)

Many guys like to spoil their woman; bring another man into the situation and making it all about her.

The man is bi curious

Some guys are bi-curious and want some lite playing with another guy; a MMF creates a safer environment for bi-curious play.

Check your entitlement

As a single male you’re not doing anyone a favor; you can be replaced as easily as you were found. Single males don’t get to set any expectations with a couple, you are there as a guest and should act accordingly.

Being a drama free

No one wants any drama; especially in a imitate situation.

Invest yourself

The best advice is to be yourself, take the time to get to know all parties. Ask all the normal question about life – finding common interests will make conversation and meeting that much easier.

Treat it like an interview

Understanding no one wants a bad experience is key, the initial conversation should be treated more like a job interview. Sex is already implied, couple care less about your abilities and physical traits; and care about finding a good fit and general compatibility.

Respect the situation

The biggest flaw with men is not putting themselves in the other man’s shoes. Respecting the fact he is willing to share his woman with another man is key. Always act like the guy you would share your woman with is the single most important rule you need to enforce on yourself.

Disclosure: we are not the authors of 'this text found in the web, but we considered it worthwhile to share it here

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By *armel and FrancisCouple
over a year ago

North wex

So well said... hope it's read and understood by guys on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some very good points there. Thank you for sharing OP

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

It's a bit one sided in my opinion. There is very little respect for the single man and his role is obviously a sex servant. Now I guess the same could be applied to a fmf and a single woman joining a couple. If I were treated with that attitude you can be sure I'd not even consider meeting the couple for a coffee.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" It's a bit one sided in my opinion. There is very little respect for the single man and his role is obviously a sex servant. Now I guess the same could be applied to a fmf and a single woman joining a couple. If I were treated with that attitude you can be sure I'd not even consider meeting the couple for a coffee."

I'm very much inclined to agree, it certainly would'nt be our attitude meeting a single male.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mean god forbid the single guy should get anything out of the experience .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a nice read.

I like the part about getting to know each other the most, as it's as important to me as it is to the couple. I don't want to play with just anybody and I am interested in getting to know who i gonna be playful with. Your kinks, desires, limits, it's all important to me and very interesting to learn. I don't sleep with every girl I have the chance to sleep with and will not join just any couple that I'm chatting with.

I'm not interested in your out of bedroom life, as I want to respect your privacy. If you're happy to share your hobbies and talk about mine, I am ok to disclose some of them. However I don't want to talk to much about specifics of non fab life, as it's important to me to be protective of it and I won't ask too many questions about yours, as I want you to feel safe & comfortable around me.

If we converse, please be engaged at least half way I am and respond to question as much as you're comfortable with it, however don't limit yourself to one-liner replies all the time.

As much as you're validating the right candidate in your process, candidates also check how much the proposal is interesting to them. This helps to keep the no-show ratio low and prevents disappointments I suppose. Not all many men enjoy being limited to their cocks only, we're not escorts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice piece guys but I'm afraid it's going to be completely misunderstood by 70% of any readers.

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By *ingerrrrWoman
over a year ago

Meath


" It's a bit one sided in my opinion. There is very little respect for the single man and his role is obviously a sex servant. Now I guess the same could be applied to a fmf and a single woman joining a couple. If I were treated with that attitude you can be sure I'd not even consider meeting the couple for a coffee."

Exactly how I'd feel too. I don't like to meet couples for that reason. I'm not there to service them.. or be the entertainment.. if all three are on equal ground and mutual respect then, I'm happy to play..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very well said. Alot of good points.

I disagree with the inequality of " fees" for men and women when it comes to parties. I don't understand why men have to pay alot more. It should be equal. Yes there is alot more men on fab so the "supply" is there. It's quality not quantity right ??

I am not one to meet just with anyone and it's the same at parties.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"Nice piece guys but I'm afraid it's going to be completely misunderstood by 70% of any readers."

If it is misunderstood by most it's badly written.

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


" It's a bit one sided in my opinion. There is very little respect for the single man and his role is obviously a sex servant. Now I guess the same could be applied to a fmf and a single woman joining a couple. If I were treated with that attitude you can be sure I'd not even consider meeting the couple for a coffee.

I'm very much inclined to agree, it certainly would'nt be our attitude meeting a single male.

"

I tend to agree that it's tad one sided I like to enjoy both people's company although not any way bi I am there for my enjoyment of the experience as much as theirs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nice piece guys but I'm afraid it's going to be completely misunderstood by 70% of any readers.

If it is misunderstood by most it's badly written. "

One word in your sentence describes it perfectly DH....

And I completely understand your position on this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of couples out there who mess you around.

Had 2 this week do it to me.

Do its not allways right to put the blame or focus on the single males.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I mean god forbid the single guy should get anything out of the experience ....."

You come to see me i will make sure you get plenty out of me mmmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its so true well said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually blocked 1 couple this morning,because i got fed up with the lame excuses and mails from them.

After about 10 mails they asked me to meet them. Said yes great. Asked to put a plan of action in place. And then all the messing starts with them.

Meeeting,then we aint,then excuses.

Then meeting again,then we aint,then more excuses. Then wanting to exchange more pictures.

Meeting then another lame excuse.

Im sorry but some people really need to grow up and cop on here on this forum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" It's a bit one sided in my opinion. There is very little respect for the single man and his role is obviously a sex servant. Now I guess the same could be applied to a fmf and a single woman joining a couple. If I were treated with that attitude you can be sure I'd not even consider meeting the couple for a coffee."

I don't think we can judge this as a whole piece. It isn't giving the single guys side because it's not designed to. It's not comprehensive and we should take that into account as we read it.

While there are couples who treat their meets like servants or sex slaves, the same can be said about single ladies and there are lots of threads where single guys find it offensive. And we all know guys in real life who do the same. These are all generalities of course. Obviously not every one is like that but nuance is boring.

I have been in conversations on kik where guys are referred to as cocks. "Such a such woman and her cock are going to be there so I'm not going to that party."

Or on profiles "I only want VWE bulls"

or by text "he only had 5 inches you couldn't be arsed with that although he gave good head"

I have spoken face to face with women who grade sexual performance like the guy is a prized horse.

There is an inequality on here. And as we all know,it is because of supply and demand.

There is a general lack of respect for the majority of single guys.

If you want equality, they shouldn't have to pay more at events. They shouldn't be treated like prizes or trophies. They are more than cocks or performance just like women are more than 3 holes and a pair of tits

But we all have the right to be choosey and apply what ever standards we want. That's the ultimate equality. If a single guy feels like he is being treated with disrespect, he can always move on and find a different couple or lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually blocked 1 couple this morning,because i got fed up with the lame excuses and mails from them.

After about 10 mails they asked me to meet them. Said yes great. Asked to put a plan of action in place. And then all the messing starts with them.

Meeeting,then we aint,then excuses.

Then meeting again,then we aint,then more excuses. Then wanting to exchange more pictures.

Meeting then another lame excuse.

Im sorry but some people really need to grow up and cop on here on this forum.

"

Is it their first MMF? It's not an easy decision to have the first one and they might be getting cold feet. Despite them really wanting to have this experience, they might need more time to gain confidence that they are ready for it and you're the right guy for them.

I wouldn't expect or tolerate such behaviour from someone who already been through MMFs though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Compability would be the big thing for me

Good read...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Excellent post mmf is our thing and guys should read it as it's a good heads up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Compability would be the big thing for me

Good read..."

Hence the little meets first to establish this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not the 1st time,just seem like pair of timewasters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually blocked 1 couple this morning,because i got fed up with the lame excuses and mails from them.

After about 10 mails they asked me to meet them. Said yes great. Asked to put a plan of action in place. And then all the messing starts with them.

Meeeting,then we aint,then excuses.

Then meeting again,then we aint,then more excuses. Then wanting to exchange more pictures.

Meeting then another lame excuse.

Im sorry but some people really need to grow up and cop on here on this forum.

"
there is often fear involved in bringing someone new into your bedroom. Fear that this new person might be better than me, or fear that the partner might like the new guy more or what about general fear of big strong guy who you don't know being intimate with you.

You could be 100% right to block them and it's your right. I'm not judging you or them. I'm just saying that there is pressure inside a couple that often doesn't get expressed to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually blocked 1 couple this morning,because i got fed up with the lame excuses and mails from them.

After about 10 mails they asked me to meet them. Said yes great. Asked to put a plan of action in place. And then all the messing starts with them.

Meeeting,then we aint,then excuses.

Then meeting again,then we aint,then more excuses. Then wanting to exchange more pictures.

Meeting then another lame excuse.

Im sorry but some people really need to grow up and cop on here on this forum.

there is often fear involved in bringing someone new into your bedroom. Fear that this new person might be better than me, or fear that the partner might like the new guy more or what about general fear of big strong guy who you don't know being intimate with you.

You could be 100% right to block them and it's your right. I'm not judging you or them. I'm just saying that there is pressure inside a couple that often doesn't get expressed to you"

This couple had met males before.

Not fear at all. Just lame excuses and getting a kick out of messing me around

I suggested a social coffee/bit to eat meet,and said they just wanted to meet and get to the action instead.

I said ok no problem,and thats when "they" started messing me about.

Now if a bloke does that all the couples here are quick to slate him.

But somehow it seems that we must show a couple some "sympathy" when they do it.

Sorry but not in my book.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually blocked 1 couple this morning,because i got fed up with the lame excuses and mails from them.

After about 10 mails they asked me to meet them. Said yes great. Asked to put a plan of action in place. And then all the messing starts with them.

Meeeting,then we aint,then excuses.

Then meeting again,then we aint,then more excuses. Then wanting to exchange more pictures.

Meeting then another lame excuse.

Im sorry but some people really need to grow up and cop on here on this forum.

there is often fear involved in bringing someone new into your bedroom. Fear that this new person might be better than me, or fear that the partner might like the new guy more or what about general fear of big strong guy who you don't know being intimate with you.

You could be 100% right to block them and it's your right. I'm not judging you or them. I'm just saying that there is pressure inside a couple that often doesn't get expressed to you"

In all honesty, it sounds more as if he's being jerked around.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyway,breakfast time now.

Happy Monday to you all.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


" It's a bit one sided in my opinion. There is very little respect for the single man and his role is obviously a sex servant. Now I guess the same could be applied to a fmf and a single woman joining a couple. If I were treated with that attitude you can be sure I'd not even consider meeting the couple for a coffee.

I don't think we can judge this as a whole piece. It isn't giving the single guys side because it's not designed to. It's not comprehensive and we should take that into account as we read it.

While there are couples who treat their meets like servants or sex slaves, the same can be said about single ladies and there are lots of threads where single guys find it offensive. And we all know guys in real life who do the same. These are all generalities of course. Obviously not every one is like that but nuance is boring.

I have been in conversations on kik where guys are referred to as cocks. "Such a such woman and her cock are going to be there so I'm not going to that party."

Or on profiles "I only want VWE bulls"

or by text "he only had 5 inches you couldn't be arsed with that although he gave good head"

I have spoken face to face with women who grade sexual performance like the guy is a prized horse.

There is an inequality on here. And as we all know,it is because of supply and demand.

There is a general lack of respect for the majority of single guys.

If you want equality, they shouldn't have to pay more at events. They shouldn't be treated like prizes or trophies. They are more than cocks or performance just like women are more than 3 holes and a pair of tits

But we all have the right to be choosey and apply what ever standards we want. That's the ultimate equality. If a single guy feels like he is being treated with disrespect, he can always move on and find a different couple or lady"

I can only judge what's there and I guess shelicious put it out there for discussion.

The second part displays an arrogance I don't agree with and it most likely would still be there if the single guys side had been described too.

As for derogatory language, reducing each other to our sexual organs, ranking and comparing etc. I guess you can say here the one without sin casts the first stone. There's a difference though between talk and carrying such as an attitude into a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually blocked 1 couple this morning,because i got fed up with the lame excuses and mails from them.

After about 10 mails they asked me to meet them. Said yes great. Asked to put a plan of action in place. And then all the messing starts with them.

Meeeting,then we aint,then excuses.

Then meeting again,then we aint,then more excuses. Then wanting to exchange more pictures.

Meeting then another lame excuse.

Im sorry but some people really need to grow up and cop on here on this forum.

there is often fear involved in bringing someone new into your bedroom. Fear that this new person might be better than me, or fear that the partner might like the new guy more or what about general fear of big strong guy who you don't know being intimate with you.

You could be 100% right to block them and it's your right. I'm not judging you or them. I'm just saying that there is pressure inside a couple that often doesn't get expressed to you

In all honesty, it sounds more as if he's being jerked around."
without a doubt, especially after the last update. As I was reading the original post he made I found myself in the couples shoes and lots of my own fears and fears my wife has expressed popped into my head.

I guess I gotta dial the empathy back a bit today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" It's a bit one sided in my opinion. There is very little respect for the single man and his role is obviously a sex servant. Now I guess the same could be applied to a fmf and a single woman joining a couple. If I were treated with that attitude you can be sure I'd not even consider meeting the couple for a coffee.

I don't think we can judge this as a whole piece. It isn't giving the single guys side because it's not designed to. It's not comprehensive and we should take that into account as we read it.

While there are couples who treat their meets like servants or sex slaves, the same can be said about single ladies and there are lots of threads where single guys find it offensive. And we all know guys in real life who do the same. These are all generalities of course. Obviously not every one is like that but nuance is boring.

I have been in conversations on kik where guys are referred to as cocks. "Such a such woman and her cock are going to be there so I'm not going to that party."

Or on profiles "I only want VWE bulls"

or by text "he only had 5 inches you couldn't be arsed with that although he gave good head"

I have spoken face to face with women who grade sexual performance like the guy is a prized horse.

There is an inequality on here. And as we all know,it is because of supply and demand.

There is a general lack of respect for the majority of single guys.

If you want equality, they shouldn't have to pay more at events. They shouldn't be treated like prizes or trophies. They are more than cocks or performance just like women are more than 3 holes and a pair of tits

But we all have the right to be choosey and apply what ever standards we want. That's the ultimate equality. If a single guy feels like he is being treated with disrespect, he can always move on and find a different couple or lady

I can only judge what's there and I guess shelicious put it out there for discussion.

The second part displays an arrogance I don't agree with and it most likely would still be there if the single guys side had been described too.

As for derogatory language, reducing each other to our sexual organs, ranking and comparing etc. I guess you can say here the one without sin casts the first stone. There's a difference though between talk and carrying such as an attitude into a meet.

"
I wasn't casting any stones in anyone's direction DH. I was merely trying to find a slice of balance. I will read the second part again and see what I missed because as a part of a couple on here its an obvious blind spot for me. There is always more to learn.

We are bad swingers. We don't meet often and we are neurotic about who we become friends with (I am neurotic is probably more correct) but every meet we have had has been all about equality and respect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually blocked 1 couple this morning,because i got fed up with the lame excuses and mails from them.

After about 10 mails they asked me to meet them. Said yes great. Asked to put a plan of action in place. And then all the messing starts with them.

Meeeting,then we aint,then excuses.

Then meeting again,then we aint,then more excuses. Then wanting to exchange more pictures.

Meeting then another lame excuse.

Im sorry but some people really need to grow up and cop on here on this forum.

there is often fear involved in bringing someone new into your bedroom. Fear that this new person might be better than me, or fear that the partner might like the new guy more or what about general fear of big strong guy who you don't know being intimate with you.

You could be 100% right to block them and it's your right. I'm not judging you or them. I'm just saying that there is pressure inside a couple that often doesn't get expressed to you

This couple had met males before.

Not fear at all. Just lame excuses and getting a kick out of messing me around

I suggested a social coffee/bit to eat meet,and said they just wanted to meet and get to the action instead.

I said ok no problem,and thats when "they" started messing me about.

Now if a bloke does that all the couples here are quick to slate him.

But somehow it seems that we must show a couple some "sympathy" when they do it.

Sorry but not in my book. "
you have the right to block anyone you want for any reason you want.

I don't know if people want you to show sympathy for the couple but we should certainly try to find empathy for everyone on here.

As I said, you were probably being messed around. I don't understand why they would but I don't understand a lot of things.

Lastly you should remember that if a few couples identify with the couple it doesn't mean that ALL couples were on the other side. There is no grand conspiracy dude. You are not being persecuted

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By *kmanMan
over a year ago

Letterkenny

Great advice thanks

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks

It's all very well giving advice to single guys etc but people expect them to be mind readers, turn up and perform without giving any idea of what the female likes!

So a guy turns up and has to second guess what to try!

Getting a message "Hi, we're in Ck on Shannon looking for fun" and then being expected to just turn up is a bit much.

Without communication beforehand about likes/dislikes, boundaries, etc a guy is just "expected to know" and then if meet goes sideways it's his fault....

Some messages at 2.00 a.m. looking to meet there and then aren't much use and then when you say you've had a few beers and not driving they get stroppy.

Lack of communication between all parties are main reason for meets going sideways!!

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"It's all very well giving advice to single guys etc but people expect them to be mind readers, turn up and perform without giving any idea of what the female likes!

So a guy turns up and has to second guess what to try!

Getting a message "Hi, we're in Ck on Shannon looking for fun" and then being expected to just turn up is a bit much.

Without communication beforehand about likes/dislikes, boundaries, etc a guy is just "expected to know" and then if meet goes sideways it's his fault....

Some messages at 2.00 a.m. looking to meet there and then aren't much use and then when you say you've had a few beers and not driving they get stroppy.

Lack of communication between all parties are main reason for meets going sideways!! "

Communication is key

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"

Lack of communication between all parties are main reason for meets going sideways!! "

"ride me sideways" was another one..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's all very well giving advice to single guys etc but people expect them to be mind readers, turn up and perform without giving any idea of what the female likes!

So a guy turns up and has to second guess what to try!

Getting a message "Hi, we're in Ck on Shannon looking for fun" and then being expected to just turn up is a bit much.

Without communication beforehand about likes/dislikes, boundaries, etc a guy is just "expected to know" and then if meet goes sideways it's his fault....

Some messages at 2.00 a.m. looking to meet there and then aren't much use and then when you say you've had a few beers and not driving they get stroppy.

Lack of communication between all parties are main reason for meets going sideways!! "

In fairness, if you're going to engage with couples who have a "dial-a-cock" mentality, what do you expect?

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks


"It's all very well giving advice to single guys etc but people expect them to be mind readers, turn up and perform without giving any idea of what the female likes!

So a guy turns up and has to second guess what to try!

Getting a message "Hi, we're in Ck on Shannon looking for fun" and then being expected to just turn up is a bit much.

Without communication beforehand about likes/dislikes, boundaries, etc a guy is just "expected to know" and then if meet goes sideways it's his fault....

Some messages at 2.00 a.m. looking to meet there and then aren't much use and then when you say you've had a few beers and not driving they get stroppy.

Lack of communication between all parties are main reason for meets going sideways!!

In fairness, if you're going to engage with couples who have a "dial-a-cock" mentality, what do you expect?"

.

Not much!!

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks


"

Lack of communication between all parties are main reason for meets going sideways!!

"ride me sideways" was another one.. "

.

Only if communicated!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" It's a bit one sided in my opinion. There is very little respect for the single man and his role is obviously a sex servant. Now I guess the same could be applied to a fmf and a single woman joining a couple. If I were treated with that attitude you can be sure I'd not even consider meeting the couple for a coffee."

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"

Lack of communication between all parties are main reason for meets going sideways!!

"ride me sideways" was another one.. "

Hmm interesting, I've to try that position...

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks


"

Lack of communication between all parties are main reason for meets going sideways!!

"ride me sideways" was another one..

Hmm interesting, I've to try that position... "

.

and if there's a pillow handy you can fall asleep at same time!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually blocked 1 couple this morning,because i got fed up with the lame excuses and mails from them.

After about 10 mails they asked me to meet them. Said yes great. Asked to put a plan of action in place. And then all the messing starts with them.

Meeeting,then we aint,then excuses.

Then meeting again,then we aint,then more excuses. Then wanting to exchange more pictures.

Meeting then another lame excuse.

Im sorry but some people really need to grow up and cop on here on this forum.

there is often fear involved in bringing someone new into your bedroom. Fear that this new person might be better than me, or fear that the partner might like the new guy more or what about general fear of big strong guy who you don't know being intimate with you.

You could be 100% right to block them and it's your right. I'm not judging you or them. I'm just saying that there is pressure inside a couple that often doesn't get expressed to you

This couple had met males before.

Not fear at all. Just lame excuses and getting a kick out of messing me around

I suggested a social coffee/bit to eat meet,and said they just wanted to meet and get to the action instead.

I said ok no problem,and thats when "they" started messing me about.

Now if a bloke does that all the couples here are quick to slate him.

But somehow it seems that we must show a couple some "sympathy" when they do it.

Sorry but not in my book. you have the right to block anyone you want for any reason you want.

I don't know if people want you to show sympathy for the couple but we should certainly try to find empathy for everyone on here.

As I said, you were probably being messed around. I don't understand why they would but I don't understand a lot of things.

Lastly you should remember that if a few couples identify with the couple it doesn't mean that ALL couples were on the other side. There is no grand conspiracy dude. You are not being persecuted "

Whats with the rolley eyes?

Never said that,did i?

What im saying is that it goes both ways. Theres couples out there who mess men about for the fun of it. But the focus allways seems to be on the single males.

I dont have any sympathy or empathy for anyone who purposely messes other people around.

Be they male,female or couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair it happens. Couple objectify the single guy as walking dildo but to fair a lot of people view others as walking sex toys. Single men, single women couples are guilty of it. Just a case of finding the ones that ain't doing this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be fair it happens. Couple objectify the single guy as walking dildo but to fair a lot of people view others as walking sex toys. Single men, single women couples are guilty of it. Just a case of finding the ones that ain't doing this."

I think that is why it takes considerably long for people to find the right partners in crime here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be fair it happens. Couple objectify the single guy as walking dildo but to fair a lot of people view others as walking sex toys. Single men, single women couples are guilty of it. Just a case of finding the ones that ain't doing this.

I think that is why it takes considerably long for people to find the right partners in crime here. "

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By *armel and FrancisCouple
over a year ago

North wex

For us when we bring a guy or girl in to a 3sum it's not about using them by any means. It's about all 3 getting and giving equal with all happy before and after and all treated with respect. We appreciate it's a big step for singles to meet a couple but a bigger step for a couple to share their bed. It works out best if all treated as equal from our experience.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

OmG

We had only the intend to post some informative stuff, not to trigger an avalanche of dispute...but then again , if dispute leads to consense of some degree, it fitted the purpose too

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By *armel and FrancisCouple
over a year ago

North wex


"OmG

We had only the intend to post some informative stuff, not to trigger an avalanche of dispute...but then again , if dispute leads to consense of some degree, it fitted the purpose too "

Unfortunately when something is posted ul never have all agree.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"OmG

We had only the intend to post some informative stuff, not to trigger an avalanche of dispute...but then again , if dispute leads to consense of some degree, it fitted the purpose too "

Isn't that what the forum is for, to discuss, exchange opinions, highlight another point of view, disagree and agree. Well achieved and interesting to read.

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"OmG

We had only the intend to post some informative stuff, not to trigger an avalanche of dispute...but then again , if dispute leads to consense of some degree, it fitted the purpose too "

I don't think it fell into dispute more a challenge of opinions which we need to influence our own opinions

Let's not forget opinions are formed and moulded and can change with more information. if u become rigid in ur opinion and refuse to see others then u are looking at a brick wall rather than looking over it to learn how others do it

But that's just my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OmG

We had only the intend to post some informative stuff, not to trigger an avalanche of dispute...but then again , if dispute leads to consense of some degree, it fitted the purpose too

Unfortunately when something is posted ul never have all agree."

I disagree lolol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank you for sharing, different point of view. I guess it's like credit!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single males don’t get to set any expectations with a couple. Wow!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single males don’t get to set any expectations with a couple. Wow! "

as single person I can understand both view points of this... but isn't it a couple inviting and.opening up there relationship to others to join and enhance rather than a single person inviting a couple to join and enhance there's... I believe the best experiences are ones of all mutual understanding of what each other desires that only comes by communication respect and attraction... people shouldn't make assumptions as always been the mother of all fuck ups. Happy Fabbing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Single males don’t get to set any expectations with a couple. Wow!

as single person I can understand both view points of this... but isn't it a couple inviting and.opening up there relationship to others to join and enhance rather than a single person inviting a couple to join and enhance there's... I believe the best experiences are ones of all mutual understanding of what each other desires that only comes by communication respect and attraction... people shouldn't make assumptions as always been the mother of all fuck ups. Happy Fabbing "

this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single males don’t get to set any expectations with a couple. Wow!

as single person I can understand both view points of this... but isn't it a couple inviting and.opening up there relationship to others to join and enhance rather than a single person inviting a couple to join and enhance there's... I believe the best experiences are ones of all mutual understanding of what each other desires that only comes by communication respect and attraction... people shouldn't make assumptions as always been the mother of all fuck ups. Happy Fabbing "

Emphasis on the word mutual

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By *armel and FrancisCouple
over a year ago

North wex

Exactly as our earlier post. All giving and getting equally.

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