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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi I'm new here. DP is on my bucket list and heard this is the place to be so here I am. Chatting with a lot of time wasters so far and the rest don't accept messages from newbies or people who haven't had a verified meet yet. Would I have more luck in the forums than messaging people in the browse section or should I give up?

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

You're not selling yourself very well if you want to give up so soon. You've just dismissed everyone you've talked to as a timewaster and that sounds like a bit of a generalisation to me. Methinks you may be expecting too much too soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is usually a long way from having a first chat to actually being invited to a DP fun.

I get the impression that once the convo doesn't result in playtime, people are called time wasters, as if they signed some contract at the start that would guarantee the other side something.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Op, you sound like you thought once you signed up here you'll get your DP. I've to break it to you that's not the case and fab isn't the golden fuck pages. Even for a women it isn't that easy to get a DP. Anyway you're only here 2weeks, so don't give up that quickly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rubbing his greedy little hands together as he signs into his brand new fab account and thinks oh I'm gonna fuck so many easy women ... BANG REALITY CHECK !!

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By *isdirtygirlWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Op, you sound like you thought once you signed up here you'll get your DP. I've to break it to you that's not the case and fab isn't the golden fuck pages. Even for a women it isn't that easy to get a DP. Anyway you're only here 2weeks, so don't give up that quickly."

Ha ha the golden fuck pages!!! thats made my day!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Op, you sound like you thought once you signed up here you'll get your DP. I've to break it to you that's not the case and fab isn't the golden fuck pages. Even for a women it isn't that easy to get a DP. Anyway you're only here 2weeks, so don't give up that quickly."

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By *ord Willy McFuck-BucketMan
over a year ago

newcastle


"Op, you sound like you thought once you signed up here you'll get your DP. I've to break it to you that's not the case and fab isn't the golden fuck pages. Even for a women it isn't that easy to get a DP. Anyway you're only here 2weeks, so don't give up that quickly.

Ha ha the golden fuck pages!!! thats made my day!!! "
I might register that as a website

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How can you tell I'm greedy based on that short paragraph? I've met plenty of women within a week of chatting on mainstream dating sites where sex is nowhere near as explicitly on the menu as it is here. I've viewed profiles here because the lady looked attractive and she is upfront about wanting to meet guys for sexy time only to find that they don't accept messages from newbies or people who haven't verifiably met a Fab member. How do you overcome this status if the only people who do reply to messages do so with one word replies and 'LOL' and similar inanities?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

PS

As the saying goes, aim high shoot low. DP in the right circumstances is on my bucket list but it's not the be all and end all. I've used mainstream dating sites since 2010 and have met quite a few women for one night stands, a few night stands, a few months and one or two were on/off for a year or more. My last relationship lasted three years and ended nearly three years ago. I haven't been near a woman during that time so ideally I'd like a regular fuck buddy who I can enjoy hanging out with as well as enjoy plenty of sexy times with. I haven't been near a woman in nearly three years partly because I'm profoundly bored with the whole interview stage of online dating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you might need an ould refresher course if youve not had sex in yrs , bit ambitious to imagine anyone will be jumping at the chance to fulfill your fantasies here... best of luck anyways .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is DP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How can you tell I'm greedy based on that short paragraph? I've met plenty of women within a week of chatting on mainstream dating sites where sex is nowhere near as explicitly on the menu as it is here. I've viewed profiles here because the lady looked attractive and she is upfront about wanting to meet guys for sexy time only to find that they don't accept messages from newbies or people who haven't verifiably met a Fab member. How do you overcome this status if the only people who do reply to messages do so with one word replies and 'LOL' and similar inanities? "

It's all well and good moaning but look at it from the women's view. When I was a single female here even with most my filters on a quite day I could get over 50+ mails and that with what was described as a intimidating profile. Women get so many mails from blokes with the exact attitude you have that they are highly selective and when it comes to fulfilling fantasies you can't blame them. If you found it so easy to get laid elsewhere then maybe it might be best to go back. Women here expect a lot more than a message or two to fall into bed with someone and after moaning like this it would put even more ladies off

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By *ewishguyMan
over a year ago

mid ulster


" fab isn't the golden fuck pages. "

Hahahhahahhahahahhahhahahahahahahahha

This is THE best quote I've seen on here lol

What a great line...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is DP?"

Double Penetration

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's what I thought but don't you require TWO consenting adults for that.

Difficult enough at times to just find one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How can you tell I'm greedy based on that short paragraph? I've met plenty of women within a week of chatting on mainstream dating sites where sex is nowhere near as explicitly on the menu as it is here. I've viewed profiles here because the lady looked attractive and she is upfront about wanting to meet guys for sexy time only to find that they don't accept messages from newbies or people who haven't verifiably met a Fab member. How do you overcome this status if the only people who do reply to messages do so with one word replies and 'LOL' and similar inanities? "

What does your message say that they can give a one word answer or lol to?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How can you tell I'm greedy based on that short paragraph? I've met plenty of women within a week of chatting on mainstream dating sites where sex is nowhere near as explicitly on the menu as it is here. I've viewed profiles here because the lady looked attractive and she is upfront about wanting to meet guys for sexy time only to find that they don't accept messages from newbies or people who haven't verifiably met a Fab member. How do you overcome this status if the only people who do reply to messages do so with one word replies and 'LOL' and similar inanities?

What does your message say that they can give a one word answer or lol to?"

My messages aren't like; "Me want to put dick in you so bad baby". I have a post graduate degree in a humanities subject which primarily specialises in humans and communication so I'm kinda like a (mediocre) engineer of rhetorical force. Also, like I said, I've used other more mainstream dating site with lots of success. And on top of that, I've been a reasonably well adjusted human for 44 years so I know at least the basics of starting conversations and establishing rapport - if I'd decided its reciprocal and therefore worth the effort. So I know how it works. I look at a profile and based on its thumbnail decide whether to look at it or not. If after looking at photos and/or reading what they have to say about themselves I decide 'oh I'd like a bit of that'I hit the send message button and quite often I'm told this person doesn't want messages from newbies. Similarly profiles I like say they don't accept messages from those who haven't been verified in some way. So I'm left wondering if there are any people here so I start messaging profiles with no pictures just to see if I get a reply. They are the type of profiles who reply but reply with one or two words at a time and lots of LOL's.

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By *ord Willy McFuck-BucketMan
over a year ago

newcastle

Well adjusted for 44 years yet only 41 on your profile, I am guessing your degree wasn't in maths.

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By *orguyMan
over a year ago

Tuam


"Well adjusted for 44 years yet only 41 on your profile, I am guessing your degree wasn't in maths."

Quality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So badically you are looking for an arsehole to fuck OP? Dies this arsehole have to be attached to a person or will any old arsehole do? .....and men wonder why they struggle on here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How can you tell I'm greedy based on that short paragraph? I've met plenty of women within a week of chatting on mainstream dating sites where sex is nowhere near as explicitly on the menu as it is here. I've viewed profiles here because the lady looked attractive and she is upfront about wanting to meet guys for sexy time only to find that they don't accept messages from newbies or people who haven't verifiably met a Fab member. How do you overcome this status if the only people who do reply to messages do so with one word replies and 'LOL' and similar inanities?

What does your message say that they can give a one word answer or lol to?

My messages aren't like; "Me want to put dick in you so bad baby". I have a post graduate degree in a humanities subject which primarily specialises in humans and communication so I'm kinda like a (mediocre) engineer of rhetorical force. Also, like I said, I've used other more mainstream dating site with lots of success. And on top of that, I've been a reasonably well adjusted human for 44 years so I know at least the basics of starting conversations and establishing rapport - if I'd decided its reciprocal and therefore worth the effort. So I know how it works. I look at a profile and based on its thumbnail decide whether to look at it or not. If after looking at photos and/or reading what they have to say about themselves I decide 'oh I'd like a bit of that'I hit the send message button and quite often I'm told this person doesn't want messages from newbies. Similarly profiles I like say they don't accept messages from those who haven't been verified in some way. So I'm left wondering if there are any people here so I start messaging profiles with no pictures just to see if I get a reply. They are the type of profiles who reply but reply with one or two words at a time and lots of LOL's. "

At least they reply. Maybe take it from there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How can you tell I'm greedy based on that short paragraph? I've met plenty of women within a week of chatting on mainstream dating sites where sex is nowhere near as explicitly on the menu as it is here. I've viewed profiles here because the lady looked attractive and she is upfront about wanting to meet guys for sexy time only to find that they don't accept messages from newbies or people who haven't verifiably met a Fab member. How do you overcome this status if the only people who do reply to messages do so with one word replies and 'LOL' and similar inanities?

What does your message say that they can give a one word answer or lol to?

My messages aren't like; "Me want to put dick in you so bad baby". I have a post graduate degree in a humanities subject which primarily specialises in humans and communication so I'm kinda like a (mediocre) engineer of rhetorical force. Also, like I said, I've used other more mainstream dating site with lots of success. And on top of that, I've been a reasonably well adjusted human for 44 years so I know at least the basics of starting conversations and establishing rapport - if I'd decided its reciprocal and therefore worth the effort. So I know how it works. I look at a profile and based on its thumbnail decide whether to look at it or not. If after looking at photos and/or reading what they have to say about themselves I decide 'oh I'd like a bit of that'I hit the send message button and quite often I'm told this person doesn't want messages from newbies. Similarly profiles I like say they don't accept messages from those who haven't been verified in some way. So I'm left wondering if there are any people here so I start messaging profiles with no pictures just to see if I get a reply. They are the type of profiles who reply but reply with one or two words at a time and lots of LOL's. "

This isn't a dating site it's a swingers site. Sex isn't on "the menu" here, you're not guaranteed to get sex within a certain time frame between signing up and sending your first mail. Have some patience

If you are looking to get verified go to socials, M&G's.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How can you tell I'm greedy based on that short paragraph? I've met plenty of women within a week of chatting on mainstream dating sites where sex is nowhere near as explicitly on the menu as it is here. I've viewed profiles here because the lady looked attractive and she is upfront about wanting to meet guys for sexy time only to find that they don't accept messages from newbies or people who haven't verifiably met a Fab member. How do you overcome this status if the only people who do reply to messages do so with one word replies and 'LOL' and similar inanities?

What does your message say that they can give a one word answer or lol to?

My messages aren't like; "Me want to put dick in you so bad baby". I have a post graduate degree in a humanities subject which primarily specialises in humans and communication so I'm kinda like a (mediocre) engineer of rhetorical force. Also, like I said, I've used other more mainstream dating site with lots of success. And on top of that, I've been a reasonably well adjusted human for 44 years so I know at least the basics of starting conversations and establishing rapport - if I'd decided its reciprocal and therefore worth the effort. So I know how it works. I look at a profile and based on its thumbnail decide whether to look at it or not. If after looking at photos and/or reading what they have to say about themselves I decide 'oh I'd like a bit of that'I hit the send message button and quite often I'm told this person doesn't want messages from newbies. Similarly profiles I like say they don't accept messages from those who haven't been verified in some way. So I'm left wondering if there are any people here so I start messaging profiles with no pictures just to see if I get a reply. They are the type of profiles who reply but reply with one or two words at a time and lots of LOL's.

This isn't a dating site it's a swingers site. Sex isn't on "the menu" here, you're not guaranteed to get sex within a certain time frame between signing up and sending your first mail. Have some patience

If you are looking to get verified go to socials, M&G's."

Fair point but its obviously more than just a swingers site if the advanced search 'I am looking for' section allows me search for any or all of five or six options ranging from a woman to a man & woman to a pair of women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So badically you are looking for an arsehole to fuck OP? Dies this arsehole have to be attached to a person or will any old arsehole do? .....and some men wonder why they struggle on here!"

It sounds so much better now

Not all of us struggle here. There are plenty of decent gents on fab too, so please don't throw all into one bag for your convenience, as we don't do that with single ladies or couples (as there are few badly behaving ones within your group too).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So badically you are looking for an arsehole to fuck OP? Dies this arsehole have to be attached to a person or will any old arsehole do? .....and some men wonder why they struggle on here!

It sounds so much better now

Not all of us struggle here. There are plenty of decent gents on fab too, so please don't throw all into one bag for your convenience, as we don't do that with single ladies or couples (as there are few badly behaving ones within your group too)."

Did i say all men struggle? I said SOME men struggle. If you chose to interpret that as all and include yourself then nothing I can do about it. Dont twist my words to fit your convenience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe use your education to write a better profile it basically says you want DP like that takes a couple and there gonna read your profile and LAUGH OUT LOUD

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wait he wants to try d p ? sure just the one fella with an extra dildo can achieve that and give him the airtight experience he craves .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So badically you are looking for an arsehole to fuck OP? Dies this arsehole have to be attached to a person or will any old arsehole do? .....and some men wonder why they struggle on here!

It sounds so much better now

Not all of us struggle here. There are plenty of decent gents on fab too, so please don't throw all into one bag for your convenience, as we don't do that with single ladies or couples (as there are few badly behaving ones within your group too).

Did i say all men struggle? I said SOME men struggle. If you chose to interpret that as all and include yourself then nothing I can do about it. Dont twist my words to fit your convenience."

You actually didn't say SOME, I put it there. Please look at your original post. I'm just sensitive to the general criticism towards all men.

Also, it's an open forum and once you enter this space, please be open to people interrupting, making fun, criticising, as we're all allowed to write something within the rules of the site.

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By *jb_1980Man
over a year ago

limerick


"Op, you sound like you thought once you signed up here you'll get your DP. I've to break it to you that's not the case and fab isn't the golden fuck pages. Even for a women it isn't that easy to get a DP. Anyway you're only here 2weeks, so don't give up that quickly.

Ha ha the golden fuck pages!!! thats made my day!!! "

Yes I love that.....let your Willy do the wanking!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So badically you are looking for an arsehole to fuck OP? Dies this arsehole have to be attached to a person or will any old arsehole do? .....and some men wonder why they struggle on here!

It sounds so much better now

Not all of us struggle here. There are plenty of decent gents on fab too, so please don't throw all into one bag for your convenience, as we don't do that with single ladies or couples (as there are few badly behaving ones within your group too).

Did i say all men struggle? I said SOME men struggle. If you chose to interpret that as all and include yourself then nothing I can do about it. Dont twist my words to fit your convenience.

You actually didn't say SOME, I put it there. Please look at your original post. I'm just sensitive to the general criticism towards all men.

Also, it's an open forum and once you enter this space, please be open to people interrupting, making fun, criticising, as we're all allowed to write something within the rules of the site. "

Ok my post should have said some men. That was a typo. If you are sensitive to how SOME men are perceived on here then this is not the site for you. Some are arseholes, as are SOME women and couples. Their actions show that. That is why the site is over run with men and couples and women leave. Get over it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So badically you are looking for an arsehole to fuck OP? Dies this arsehole have to be attached to a person or will any old arsehole do? .....and some men wonder why they struggle on here!

It sounds so much better now

Not all of us struggle here. There are plenty of decent gents on fab too, so please don't throw all into one bag for your convenience, as we don't do that with single ladies or couples (as there are few badly behaving ones within your group too).

Did i say all men struggle? I said SOME men struggle. If you chose to interpret that as all and include yourself then nothing I can do about it. Dont twist my words to fit your convenience.

You actually didn't say SOME, I put it there. Please look at your original post. I'm just sensitive to the general criticism towards all men.

Also, it's an open forum and once you enter this space, please be open to people interrupting, making fun, criticising, as we're all allowed to write something within the rules of the site.

Ok my post should have said some men. That was a typo. If you are sensitive to how SOME men are perceived on here then this is not the site for you. Some are arseholes, as are SOME women and couples. Their actions show that. That is why the site is over run with men and couples and women leave. Get over it!"

Thanks for the advise. And thank you for acknowledging you had a typo. I appreciate it. It's nice of you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, do you put as much effort into your messages as you have with your profile?

Because for someone who says they're educated it's a very poor profile.

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By *kmanMan
over a year ago

Letterkenny


"That's what I thought but don't you require TWO consenting adults for that.

Difficult enough at times to just find one "

Not if you use a strapon for one part and your real tool for the other

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe use your education to write a better profile it basically says you want DP like that takes a couple and there gonna read your profile and LAUGH OUT LOUD "

Oh no people will laugh out loud when they read my profile ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You seem to have an attitude srewing, you're asking for help, people are helping and you're saying how educated you are and just in gemerald giving smart replys. My thinking is with your better than everyone attitude you went get very far on this site

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You seem to have an attitude srewing, you're asking for help, people are helping and you're saying how educated you are and just in gemerald giving smart replys. My thinking is with your better than everyone attitude you went get very far on this site"
The only member I've shown 'attitude' to called me greedy off the bat and then said people will laugh at my profile because its short and specific.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You seem to have an attitude srewing, you're asking for help, people are helping and you're saying how educated you are and just in gemerald giving smart replys. My thinking is with your better than everyone attitude you went get very far on this site"
And the only reason I mentioned by education was because another member asked what kind of messages I send to people to get one word or LOL as a reply ... as if to say I'm probably a bit of a moron who can't communicate

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You seem to have an attitude srewing, you're asking for help, people are helping and you're saying how educated you are and just in gemerald giving smart replys. My thinking is with your better than everyone attitude you went get very far on this siteAnd the only reason I mentioned by education was because another member asked what kind of messages I send to people to get one word or LOL as a reply ... as if to say I'm probably a bit of a moron who can't communicate"
And I stop sending messages to a member if they send two or three one word replies and/or a LOL because I can recognise that that is a waste of time. I don't insult them or express my annoyance ... I just stop sending messages to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know what you mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well good luck with your bucket list, I have a feeling that you will need it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well good luck with your bucket list, I have a feeling that you will need it "
Thanks, time will tell

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By *r Connie LingusMan
over a year ago

Limerick

My two cents

OP. your best bet on here to meet people is to engage people and get them used to you. The forums on here is always a good start.

It's true for every message you send a woman you can expect another 50 to message them aswell

As for being verified the M&Gs are essential especially as a single guys and posting here on the forums will certainly help getting you an invite

My advice is if you really want to be part of this community then engage and enjoy the community

You'll get plenty of knockbacks to start off but don't let that discourage you

Treat the women here with respect and respect will be reciprocated

It's a hook up site not a hooker site

The latter I'm sure could help you cross DP off your bucket list faster though

Happy fabbing

This is the gospel according to Connie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't talk about your qualifications on fab......

Can make people think you're a right dick

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My two cents

OP. your best bet on here to meet people is to engage people and get them used to you. The forums on here is always a good start.

It's true for every message you send a woman you can expect another 50 to message them aswell

As for being verified the M&Gs are essential especially as a single guys and posting here on the forums will certainly help getting you an invite

My advice is if you really want to be part of this community then engage and enjoy the community

You'll get plenty of knockbacks to start off but don't let that discourage you

Treat the women here with respect and respect will be reciprocated

It's a hook up site not a hooker site

The latter I'm sure could help you cross DP off your bucket list faster though

Happy fabbing

This is the gospel according to Connie "
Thank you. Your post is the kind of one I was fishing for when I started this thread.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

And in fairness to those who said I'm impatient and/or a dick, I apologise because I am prone to impatience and dickery

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So badically you are looking for an arsehole to fuck OP? Dies this arsehole have to be attached to a person or will any old arsehole do? .....and some men wonder why they struggle on here!

It sounds so much better now

Not all of us struggle here. There are plenty of decent gents on fab too, so please don't throw all into one bag for your convenience, as we don't do that with single ladies or couples (as there are few badly behaving ones within your group too).

Did i say all men struggle? I said SOME men struggle. If you chose to interpret that as all and include yourself then nothing I can do about it. Dont twist my words to fit your convenience.

You actually didn't say SOME, I put it there. Please look at your original post. I'm just sensitive to the general criticism towards all men.

Also, it's an open forum and once you enter this space, please be open to people interrupting, making fun, criticising, as we're all allowed to write something within the rules of the site.

Ok my post should have said some men. That was a typo. If you are sensitive to how SOME men are perceived on here then this is not the site for you. Some are arseholes, as are SOME women and couples. Their actions show that. That is why the site is over run with men and couples and women leave. Get over it!

Thanks for the advise. And thank you for acknowledging you had a typo. I appre. It's nice of you. "

Sorry read whole thread and this stuck out..

U corrected someone's typo, but isn't ADVICE the world you were looking for.

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