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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all

Looking for a bit of advice

Seeing my girlfriend now for about a year

How do I tell her that I would like to get into swinging without upsetting her

Really like this girl and don't want to fuck it up

But just afraid if I do say something she will tell me to fuck off

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By *cjoyCouple
over a year ago

Galway

Honesty is the way to go.

It looks like you've had this profile as long as you've had your girlfriend and haven't told her, I'd imagine if you tell her she's going to be a bit upset at the deception side of things- I know I would be.

Best of luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id be more upset that you were doing this for the time we were together and never said..if you cant let the site/swing part go, then you must tell her x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you like her more than swinging?

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By *lik UrgeeMan
over a year ago

mallow

"Look honey - I've been on Fab longer than I know you ! So do you want us to make a couples profile or what !?? "

- "WHAT ! Your on Fab !?? What's your profile name ?? I'm on Fab too ! Remember that hen weekend a few wks ago I went on ?? Sure that was all made up - I was off on a 3 day long Orgy !??"

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By *rishcouple12Couple
over a year ago

Cork County

If you can't or don't know how to bring it up it's probably because you know the answer or you don't have that kind of relationship.

If ye don't have open conversations about sexual thoughts or fantasies then this isn't the place for you or ye together.

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By *ammerandthongsCouple
over a year ago

Limerick


"Hi all

Looking for a bit of advice

Seeing my girlfriend now for about a year

How do I tell her that I would like to get into swinging without upsetting her

Really like this girl and don't want to fuck it up

But just afraid if I do say something she will tell me to fuck off "

You know your girlfriend we would presume well enough to know if she leans towards this scene. Do you think she might is first place to start in your own mind.

Amy and Gareth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And maybe tell her the full truth while ur at it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You want to try texting her with that one?....

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By *safunwituMan
over a year ago

Enniscorthy

If you haven't met while you have been with her, I would suggest maybe closing this account. Maybe then you could say that you were into swinging before yous met and would it be something she would like to explore...

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare


"If you haven't met while you have been with her, I would suggest maybe closing this account. Maybe then you could say that you were into swinging before yous met and would it be something she would like to explore..."

You mean lie

How can randomers tell you how to live your life op. Make a few honest decisions

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks

No she knows nothing about this profile

If I'm honest I know she will leave me and I do really like her


"Honesty is the way to go.

It looks like you've had this profile as long as you've had your girlfriend and haven't told her, I'd imagine if you tell her she's going to be a bit upset at the deception side of things- I know I would be.

Best of luck. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I can let the site/swing go and it's probably best I do


"Id be more upset that you were doing this for the time we were together and never said..if you cant let the site/swing part go, then you must tell her x "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes i do


"Do you like her more than swinging?"

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Just talk to her about it .... she will either stay or leave .... but you have to be honest .... and be prepared if she decides to leave ..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We do have conversations about our fantasies and I know she is into most things and will openly tell me but I don't know how to bring it up about swinging I don't know what way she will react


"If you can't or don't know how to bring it up it's probably because you know the answer or you don't have that kind of relationship.

If ye don't have open conversations about sexual thoughts or fantasies then this isn't the place for you or ye together. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It's not that easy


"And maybe tell her the full truth while ur at it "

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By *safunwituMan
over a year ago

Enniscorthy


"If you haven't met while you have been with her, I would suggest maybe closing this account. Maybe then you could say that you were into swinging before yous met and would it be something she would like to explore...

You mean lie

How can randomers tell you how to live your life op. Make a few honest decisions"

Sure hasn't he being lying up to now, honest decisions may or may not work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have u talked about doing a threesome? Don't mention the word swinging or this site. Tbh even though it's a lie your best best is to delete this profile. What she doesn't know won't hurt her

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I haven't being swinging since I met her but she doesn't know anything about my past either


"Have u talked about doing a threesome? Don't mention the word swinging or this site. Tbh even though it's a lie your best best is to delete this profile. What she doesn't know won't hurt her"

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By *safunwituMan
over a year ago

Enniscorthy


"Have u talked about doing a threesome? Don't mention the word swinging or this site. Tbh even though it's a lie your best best is to delete this profile. What she doesn't know won't hurt her"

Probably the best way I think.

The OP hasn't been verified in a couple of years, so I take it he hasn't met while he has been seeing his gf.

Being truthful ain't always the best option, so maybe try a new start if your gf is interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Show her your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bring her to the Venue and pretend that you were looking for the local pub.

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By *reatusernameMan
over a year ago

naas


"If you can't or don't know how to bring it up it's probably because you know the answer or you don't have that kind of relationship.

If ye don't have open conversations about sexual thoughts or fantasies then this isn't the place for you or ye together. "

This quote is the best answer. Its a natural progression to discuss fantasies and imagine scenarios. Some stay as fantasies, some might pique an interest. But if you dont have that kind of relationship, maybe it won't work out for you anyway. Get talking and be honest. You don't have to discuss it as part of your past, but as part of your future. But you can't trick someone into it or hope it will just happen. Good luck

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown


"Hi all

Looking for a bit of advice

Seeing my girlfriend now for about a year

How do I tell her that I would like to get into swinging without upsetting her

Really like this girl and don't want to fuck it up

But just afraid if I do say something she will tell me to fuck off "

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Instead of dropping the bombshell and hoping for the best ... Why not seed the idea?

You could both watch a movie that has a theme of swinging in it followed by "Bit far out lifestyle or not, what do you think?" or else read out a article from a magazine about swinging and then see if her response is of disgust, curiosity or interest?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ucy. AlCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Bend the truth a little. Delete your profile, and ease her into the idea, be clear that you used to be on this site in the past is the most critical to get conversations about fantasies going - You may be surprised at her reaction, if you know each other that well then she may not be all that surprised. You know her though don't take any of our advice lol

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By *umpsMan
over a year ago

city

My thoughts on this. is the next time you both might chat about sex .. bring up about past experiences before you met her... I mean the unusual places that she had sex... in turn she might ask you the same question.. you could just happen to bring up that you once met a married couple in a bar etc... that invited you back to their place for a threesome swinging will pop into her head straight away... see what reaction she will do... she might even ask you about the experiences of it.

But if she changes the subject fast then you know her answer. .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And maybe tell her the full truth while ur at it "

+1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My thoughts on this. is the next time you both might chat about sex .. bring up about past experiences before you met her... I mean the unusual places that she had sex... in turn she might ask you the same question.. you could just happen to bring up that you once met a married couple in a bar etc... that invited you back to their place for a threesome swinging will pop into her head straight away... see what reaction she will do... she might even ask you about the experiences of it.

But if she changes the subject fast then you know her answer. ."

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