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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

....you told someone you proper fancied/had a crush on them? What was their reaction?

And I don't just mean to get into someone's pants

I put on my big girl pants and told someone at the weekend, for the first time in years

Never, ever again!

BG x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah no! Don't be put off.

Years.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

I don't know if I ever did and if so I can't remember and it must be decades ago

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By *s louWoman
over a year ago

Enniskillen

"....you told someone you proper fancied/had a crush on them? What was their reaction?

And I don't just mean to get into someone's pants

I put on my big girl pants and told someone at the weekend, for the first time in years

Never, ever again!

BG x"

A couple of years ago....with the same effect. Never again

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

"....you told someone you proper fancied/had a crush on them? What was their reaction?

And I don't just mean to get into someone's pants

I put on my big girl pants and told someone at the weekend, for the first time in years

Never, ever again!

BG x"
why what happened was it awkward ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a while ago now since I've done anything like that...she looked at me like I was something she dragged in on her shoe...embaressed but lesson learned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually when I'm d*unk at 4am... tell them all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About 9 months ago. Got his number - and promptly lost it. So got it again the next week and bugger me lost it again. Now we just laugh about it.

And I'm not bothering again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About four years ago I told a friend I was always mad about her...she said thanks...

Crrrrrriiiiinnnnnggggeeee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Told a guy a few years ago who was a friend, who used to flirt with me when out etc,that I really liked him and his answer was not looking to get into anything, so let's put it this way I won't be ever taking that chance again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have the biggest crush on a girl at work. I'm 13 years older and she is beautiful. Would I ever go there? Hells yeah!!! Would I ever tell her? I'm not that brave looking like this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last week...and i hadn't done that for years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not so long ago, made the connection but it never went above casual conversation (text chat is so impersonal).

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"....you told someone you proper fancied/had a crush on them? What was their reaction?

And I don't just mean to get into someone's pants

I put on my big girl pants and told someone at the weekend, for the first time in years

Never, ever again!

BG x"

I fancy the fook of u

Not trying to get in ur knicks either pink lace just doesn't suit me

Least u now know where u stand boldy and can move on there's a lot to be said for just blurring it out I know it's hurts and u feel deflated but at least u said it and didn't just keep thumping him and pulling his hair thinking he get the message

We don't get it we men ffs

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By *P_80Man
over a year ago

Waterford

Just before Christmas I told my friend that I'd love to take her out on a date. It was the first time in years that we were both single at the same time so I though why not? I've been mad about her for a good while and we had a short-lived thing about ten years ago so I was fairly confident.

I got the dreaded, "I'd hate to ruin our friendship" response

On the other hand, a few years back I met a girl who was the girlfriend of a friend of a friend. A few months later I met her on a night out and she told me they broke up and he was living abroad. Full of dutch courage, I told her that I wanted to fuck her the first time I saw her. No subtlety, just straight out with it. £0 minutes later I had my willy in her mouth

It doesn't always work out but when it does it's great. Don't give up, we're all grown-ups. Rejection isn't the end of the world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A month ago I told I girl I went out with as a 17 year old she was the one that got away and I'd love another chance to which she promptly friend zoned me lol

Havn said that she had been getting increasingly flirty in the last month so I'm hopin I mite be on a trial period, ye never know

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By *P_80Man
over a year ago

Waterford

"£0 minutes later"

That should be 30 minutes later.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have the biggest crush on a girl at work. I'm 13 years older and she is beautiful. Would I ever go there? Hells yeah!!! Would I ever tell her? I'm not that brave looking like this

Don't put yourself down

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Last week...and i hadn't done that for years

Go you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyday i tell him and i get the same response from him,it's a lovely feeling

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Everyday i tell him and i get the same response from him,it's a lovely feeling

That's sweet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Last week...and i hadn't done that for years

Go you

And they didn't run away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Last week...and i hadn't done that for years

Go you

And they didn't run away

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no im still here lol

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By *ibbles46Couple
over a year ago

lisburn

If I told every girl I had a crush on my feelings I would be forever at it .... so many pretty girls about this island

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I told every girl I had a crush on my feelings I would be forever at it .... so many pretty girls about this island"

Send some up to enniskillen if you see them. Most of the good looking ones move away, apart from a select few.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some while ago..But he knew it anyway already

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"....you told someone you proper fancied/had a crush on them? What was their reaction?

And I don't just mean to get into someone's pants

I put on my big girl pants and told someone at the weekend, for the first time in years

Never, ever again!

BG x"

Good for you for trying.

'Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail better.'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"....you told someone you proper fancied/had a crush on them? What was their reaction?

And I don't just mean to get into someone's pants

I put on my big girl pants and told someone at the weekend, for the first time in years

Never, ever again!

BG x"
Like I told you then I just don't fancy you sorry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done BG hard to do ... But worth the risk x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haven't had the balls to muster up the courage lol

Fair play to all of ye that did tho..no regrets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last week while getting a girls number I guess. She never replied to my text asking her to go for a drink though... She works a lot so it is what it is..

Onto the next one

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well done BG hard to do ... But worth the risk x "

It is if you get what you want.

Ah well

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By *aughtyTippcplCouple
over a year ago

Nearby

6 years ago I told Niall I fancied him as soon as I saw his piercing blue eyes

And to this day I still get the butterflies when I look at him

Tina

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well done BG hard to do ... But worth the risk x

It is if you get what you want.

Ah well

Ive a crush on your tush

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"6 years ago I told Niall I fancied him as soon as I saw his piercing blue eyes

And to this day I still get the butterflies when I look at him

Tina

Aww! Cute.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"....you told someone you proper fancied/had a crush on them? What was their reaction?

And I don't just mean to get into someone's pants

I put on my big girl pants and told someone at the weekend, for the first time in years

Never, ever again!

BG xwhy what happened was it awkward ?"

C'mon spill Boldy

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By *onedbodMan
over a year ago

co Galway

Haven't in a long long time said that as if feeling isn't mural it would be rather embarrassing! So i just go with the flow really!

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By *oveyou2Couple
over a year ago

somewhere Kerry

Being a true lover of the opposite sex, I absolutely adore women. I think it can be a dangerous thing to open up completely to someone and tell them how you feel about them. I think the trick is to flirt or send signals in a sutal way. If they respond likewise, your probably on a winner. Remember, the chase is half the battle. It also gives two people time to think about each other, hence the relationship can flourish. It's a bit like speaking with your mind and not your heart. You can do that later when both are at the same level.

But telling someone straight out has never ever worked out for me really as you feel like a complete fool when it doesn't.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Being a true lover of the opposite sex, I absolutely adore women. I think it can be a dangerous thing to open up completely to someone and tell them how you feel about them. I think the trick is to flirt or send signals in a sutal way. If they respond likewise, your probably on a winner. Remember, the chase is half the battle. It also gives two people time to think about each other, hence the relationship can flourish. It's a bit like speaking with your mind and not your heart. You can do that later when both are at the same level.

But telling someone straight out has never ever worked out for me really as you feel like a complete fool when it doesn't. "

Yep. Lesson learned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ladies what's better... Tip toe, play the game within the confines of whatever 10 idiotic steps you read in cosmo magazine or just man up and tell her you like her (lots) and why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I done it a while ago. Worked out pretty well. I was sober aswell so I was more shocked than her. Otherwise I generally don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Boldgirl I applaud you on your actions. It didn't work out for you THIS time unfortunately but take some solace from the fact that you had the balls to put yourself out there in the first place.

It is not easy leaving yourself vulnerable by taking a chance on someone - not truly knowing if they feel the same way - and can feel extremely embarrassing if your affections are not reciprocated.

You have, no doubt heard the whole "a life lived in fear is a life half lived" adage....... well kudos to you good lady ......you tried ..... now pick yourself up, dust yourself off and get back in that proverbial saddle ..... for every guy who says no to you I am sure there are ten who would say yes!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Boldgirl I applaud you on your actions. It didn't work out for you THIS time unfortunately but take some solace from the fact that you had the balls to put yourself out there in the first place.

It is not easy leaving yourself vulnerable by taking a chance on someone - not truly knowing if they feel the same way - and can feel extremely embarrassing if your affections are not reciprocated.

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By *isdirtygirlWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

"Boldgirl I applaud you on your actions. It didn't work out for you THIS time unfortunately but take some solace from the fact that you had the balls to put yourself out there in the first place.

It is not easy leaving yourself vulnerable by taking a chance on someone - not truly knowing if they feel the same way - and can feel extremely embarrassing if your affections are not reciprocated.

Posts like these re -new my faith in fellow fabbers.

Well said!!

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

But telling someone straight out has never ever worked out for me really as you feel like a complete fool when it doesn't.

Yep. Lesson learned

Fuck no. Rejection hurts, its probably whats behind a lot of the 'women are up their own arses.....why didn't I get a reply' posts that you see here.

You tried, that was brave and bold of you. Fair dues for been brave enough to try.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Boldgirl I applaud you on your actions. It didn't work out for you THIS time unfortunately but take some solace from the fact that you had the balls to put yourself out there in the first place.

It is not easy leaving yourself vulnerable by taking a chance on someone - not truly knowing if they feel the same way - and can feel extremely embarrassing if your affections are not reciprocated.

Posts like these re -new my faith in fellow fabbers.

Well said!!

Thank you missdirty - there ARE some nice people on here lol. But isn't it a shame, in a way, that in this day and age we are still applauding someone (particularly from the fairer sex) for putting themself out there? We have all been where BG was and not all of us could truthfully say that we acted upon our feelings.

I am of the opinion that this site could be an absolute cracker if people swallowed that great big lump called their pride and opened up....... so here is a shoit out to everyone who has a wee (or even BIG) crush on a fellow fabber, friend, neighbour, girl/guy you see on the bus to work every day, gym buddy, whatever...... tell them how you feel ....... what is the worst that could happen?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Boldgirl I applaud you on your actions. It didn't work out for you THIS time unfortunately but take some solace from the fact that you had the balls to put yourself out there in the first place.

It is not easy leaving yourself vulnerable by taking a chance on someone - not truly knowing if they feel the same way - and can feel extremely embarrassing if your affections are not reciprocated.

Very nice words, thanks

Ha, I'm retiring my big girl pants and won't be putting myself out there again. Feck that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About a year ago... I suddenly developed feelings for someone who I had been meeting NSA for over 3 years.

I tried to avoid him because I was quite sure he didn't return my feelings but he kept on chasing me for meets. So I told him. He was quite shocked and confirmed that he liked me a lot but not in that way.

It sucked big time but I'm still glad I had the balls to tell him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"About a year ago... I suddenly developed feelings for someone who I had been meeting NSA for over 3 years.

It sucked big time but I'm still glad I had the balls to tell him.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"About a year ago... I suddenly developed feelings for someone who I had been meeting NSA for over 3 years.

It sucked big time but I'm still glad I had the balls to tell him.

Fair play for speaking up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did about 20 months ago.... it was cosmic. Family issues changed things about 6 months ago and she had to go home to elderly parents. I got a long dear John message on whatsapp and that was the end of something beautiful.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I did about 20 months ago.... it was cosmic. Family issues changed things about 6 months ago and she had to go home to elderly parents. I got a long dear John message on whatsapp and that was the end of something beautiful.

Shame about the ending.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Will do it tomorrow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shame about the ending.

It was....

I still remember when I first saw her my first instinct was "waaay out of my league, catch a grip man!". The real irony was she thought the same.

There's a life lesson in itself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Shame about the ending.

It was....

I still remember when I first saw her my first instinct was "waaay out of my league, catch a grip man!". The real irony was she thought the same.

There's a life lesson in itself.

Totally understand the 'way out of my league' reference.

Exactly how I feel!

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"[Removed by poster at 14/03/17 14:27:01]"

Jaysus letme, what going on with you?

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

"[Removed by poster at 14/03/17 14:27:01]

Jaysus letme, what going on with you?

typos occurring

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

Shame about the ending.

It was....

I still remember when I first saw her my first instinct was "waaay out of my league, catch a grip man!". The real irony was she thought the same.

There's a life lesson in itself.

Totally understand the 'way out of my league' reference.

Exactly how I feel!"
right now third time lucky

any man boldy be delighted to hear you had a crush on them, you mad mare

Yipee I managed it.

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By *Belfast_FellaMan
over a year ago

belfast

Not sure, but I suspect alcohol was involved and that the next morning I had 'the fear.'

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 14/03/17 14:27:01]

Jaysus letme, what going on with you?

typos occurring

You need to change your name to 'letmebeurtypoqueen'

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

"[Removed by poster at 14/03/17 14:27:01]

Jaysus letme, what going on with you?

typos occurring

You need to change your name to 'letmebeurtypoqueen'

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lol jesus I'm going mad here I thought that said letmebeurpornoqueen

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"[Removed by poster at 14/03/17 14:27:01]

Jaysus letme, what going on with you?

typos occurring

You need to change your name to 'letmebeurtypoqueen'

lol jesus I'm going mad here I thought that said letmebeurpornoqueen

That'll do either!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 14/03/17 14:27:01]

Jaysus letme, what going on with you?

typos occurring

You need to change your name to 'letmebeurtypoqueen'

lol jesus I'm going mad here I thought that said letmebeurpornoqueen

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

"[Removed by poster at 14/03/17 14:27:01]

Jaysus letme, what going on with you?

typos occurring

You need to change your name to 'letmebeurtypoqueen'

lol jesus I'm going mad here I thought that said letmebeurpornoqueen

Specsavers voucher

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lol yep Defo needed

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By *ease_EMan
over a year ago

DDD12

"....you told someone you proper fancied/had a crush on them? What was their reaction?

And I don't just mean to get into someone's pants

I put on my big girl pants and told someone at the weekend, for the first time in years

Never, ever again!

BG x"

Awwwww,wish I was closer

X x

Big Hug

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 14/03/17 14:27:01]

Jaysus letme, what going on with you?

typos occurring

You need to change your name to 'letmebeurtypoqueen'

lol jesus I'm going mad here I thought that said letmebeurpornoqueen

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lol yep Defo needed

Letmebeurs instead...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well this 1 time at bandcamp there was this girl who always gave me the eye u know that look well i thought hey im in there so i asked her out n guess wot she said no lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There was something like this up a couple of weeks ago and I remember telling a lady, basically the just of it went to dust herself off get back up there that yer worth something even if the other person doesn't think so. That got me thinking, when was the last time I did it. 5 years ago..got friendly with a girl, this went on over the course of months, and I'm full sure there was more than a connection. Now I'm far from being full of self confidence so to go and approach and lay the cards on the table is a massive step, and I'd say she knew that too. Now if she'd just said no and left it at that, I could deal with that, but in my presence she told all her mates and they all had a good laugh at it, some even saying o my face was I for real and what the he'll was I thinking, one even said straight to my face to stick to my own level. Never havery I ever felt so humiliated. So rememberingredients that and in short to that lady I gave the pep comment to, yer right not to try again, if ya stick yer heart out on a stick, prepare for it to be shot at!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There was something like this up a couple of weeks ago and I remember telling a lady, basically the just of it went to dust herself off get back up there that yer worth something even if the other person doesn't think so. That got me thinking, when was the last time I did it. 5 years ago..got friendly with a girl, this went on over the course of months, and I'm full sure there was more than a connection. Now I'm far from being full of self confidence so to go and approach and lay the cards on the table is a massive step, and I'd say she knew that too. Now if she'd just said no and left it at that, I could deal with that, but in my presence she told all her mates and they all had a good laugh at it, some even saying o my face was I for real and what the he'll was I thinking, one even said straight to my face to stick to my own level. Never havery I ever felt so humiliated. So rememberingredients that and in short to that lady I gave the pep comment to, yer right not to try again, if ya stick yer heart out on a stick, prepare for it to be shot at!!"

Oh wow, what a horrible experience for you.

I'm sorry, but she was a proper bitch in how she acted after your honesty.

That sucks.

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By *orguyMan
over a year ago

Tuam

"Well this 1 time at bandcamp there was this girl who always gave me the eye u know that look well i thought hey im in there so i asked her out n guess wot she said no lol"

And you didn't post a thread about it????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh wow, what a horrible experience for you.

I'm sorry, but she was a proper bitch in how she acted after your honesty.

That sucks.

That's whats great about this place, yeah there maybe abrupt turn downs about, but there's no heart on the sleeve. Jeez, when I think of that now, certainly reaffirms the never again train of thought!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Oh wow, what a horrible experience for you.

I'm sorry, but she was a proper bitch in how she acted after your honesty.

That sucks.

enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh wow, what a horrible experience for you.

I'm sorry, but she was a proper bitch in how she acted after your honesty.

That sucks.

enjoy

Darn tootin' BG

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