FabSwingers.com forum: Why are you fat?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

First of all I don't mean to offend anyone, but a very interesting thing today taking to an overweight person at petrol station as person nearly fell and I tried to help, anyways with an array of complains back, knee pain diabetes, sores and doctors sick of them clearly I couldn't help to wonder why this person couldn't see their problems start with one thing and that is their weight! So difficult to understand about 15 million people die worldwide every year with weight related diseases near 3 times more than cigarettes. Why do people do that to themselves it boggles my mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why does a smoker smoke when they know the array of illnesses it causes or an alcoholic drinks when they know what damages it causes to health and families that live with it.. its a vicious circle thats hard to break out of unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh you are a brave man starting this convo lol I'm out lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why does a smoker smoke when they know the array of illnesses it causes or an alcoholic drinks when they know what damages it causes to health and families that live with it.. its a vicious circle thats hard to break out of unfortunately

Fantastic reply xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people can't help it! Everybody's genetic make up is different and how their metabolism works is also different! Some people have high metabolisms which allows them to burn fat quicker and others have slower metabolisms.

Lots of people go through significant life changing experiences and as a result, turn to food as a comforting factor.

There are endless reasons as to why some people are heavier than others; be it through their social life, occupations etc. Asking the rhetorical question like "why are you fat?" Is taking a very ignorant and Neanderthal approach to a very sensitive subject, considering you may or may not know what that person has been through and what they are going through, to bring them to this point in their life. Perhaps we should be offering support and not passing judgement as nobody is perfect!

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

I think it's time for a non pc joke... Many years ago the Pakistani leader was on an official visit to England and the Queen hosted a banquet in his honour. After dinner, dessert was offered but he turned it down saying "oh no no no, thank you very much but I won't have it as it makes me fart". The Queen, sitting next to him, and the other dignitaries around him were quite clearly embarrassed by this so he added "what is the matter? Don't you think I am fart enough already" while patting his large belly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your post only highlights your narrow mindedness tbh. We all have our gremlins, that could potentially have a negative impact on our lives. The persuit of pleasure, or avoidance of pain can bring some people into situations way over their head.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its fairly simple. Our society, greed and its confused idea of needs.

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By *P_80Man
over a year ago

Waterford

Why does anyone do anything that's bad for their health? Because there's an element of pleasure and enjoyment in those activities and as human beings we seek enjoyment and pleasure.

Sometimes these activities lead to an addiction, mostly they are psychological and seen as a comfort, a means to relieve stress etc. When a routine is built then it's difficult to break the cycle.

It's not as easy as just stop doing it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Your post only highlights your narrow mindedness tbh. We all have our gremlins, that could potentially have a negative impact on our lives. The persuit of pleasure, or avoidance of pain can bring some people into situations way over their head."
narrow mind is the one that can't

Make a good argument without attacking the other sure I am narrowed minded so?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just want to add this. See this 'sensitive subject' crap, that is what it is...crap. People are fat and over weight through the choices they make. Their choice. So they also have the choice to do something about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Weight is a massive complex problem. The simple calorie in calorie out is the main equation. The only problem to that are the food companies. They come out with low fat this, low fat that but what they don't say is that they then pack it full of sugar to make it taste nice. A lot of the latest research is saying that sugar is the problem. We are all programmed to want sugar for energy and the amount of sugar in the food chain is huge. Sugar is now considered by nutritionists as a drug because the more sugar you consume the more you crave it. The solution to this is education on what nutrition is needed and to stop listening to the food companies. Yes it is everyones responsibility what they eat but when everything is stacked against you what can you do. Rant over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1. Lack of education

2. Self loathing

3. No confidence

4. Given up on himself

5. Underestimating food choices

6. Social standing

7. Food associations

8. Emotional attachments

9. How he was raised

10. Family issues

11. Medical issues

So it's not really metabolism or food choices it's everything that surrounds this. So you are asking the wrong kind of why...

There is so much going on to guess why people get this way....

It is a sad world and one we must address but not in a simplistic way of why are you fat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you believe you made a good arguement, without attacking a sizeable, ,( excuse the pun )part of the population.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the question "why?" Is very much the question. Everyone's answers will be different. They must ask themselves why and answer honestly. Once you can be honest with yourself and others. Then you can start sorting your shit out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So so true

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare

I read somewhere that most fat people over eat because they want to have sex with their parents and can't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why am I fat?

Because I eat too much. It's that simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I recently met a 32 year old for coffee in dublin as he into something im facinated by . It was a coffee meet only i was meeting a friend for dinner . We got on great so i thought and full of chat .. we finished up and he gave me a peck on the cheek . I contacted him after to see woukd he be interested in showing me the ropes so to speak . He said no and i asked any particular reason . Was told that as soon as he saw me he wanted to keep walking and secondly i am a average looking woman with average body and that he had a size zero 30 g and sent pic coming around . Have to say was shocked . I replied im 52 and would like to see u in 20 years time . This is a guy who says he must get into a womens mind before sex .. i imagined if a younger vunerable girl was told that . But confirms for me that im better mixing with my own generation . Will point out thought we got on great and enjoyed the conversation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry a size zero woman with a 30 g chest in her 30 s lol

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"I read somewhere that most fat people over eat because they want to have sex with their parents and can't "

Being fatter will surely make that even less likely, won't it? Bummer!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I recently met a 32 year old for coffee in dublin as he into something im facinated by . It was a coffee meet only i was meeting a friend for dinner . We got on great so i thought and full of chat .. we finished up and he gave me a peck on the cheek . I contacted him after to see woukd he be interested in showing me the ropes so to speak . He said no and i asked any particular reason . Was told that as soon as he saw me he wanted to keep walking and secondly i am a average looking woman with average body and that he had a size zero 30 g and sent pic coming around . Have to say was shocked . I replied im 52 and would like to see u in 20 years time . This is a guy who says he must get into a womens mind before sex .. i imagined if a younger vunerable girl was told that . But confirms for me that im better mixing with my own generation . Will point out thought we got on great and enjoyed the conversation "
...what a prick ...that is all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry a size zero woman with a 30 g chest in her 30 s lol"

You asked why he wasn't interested and got an honest reply.

Yes, rejection can hurt but would you prefer if he lied?

If someone turned me down because I'm overweight I'd accept that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry a size zero woman with a 30 g chest in her 30 s lol

You asked why he wasn't interested and got an honest reply.

Yes, rejection can hurt but would you prefer if he lied?

If someone turned me down because I'm overweight I'd accept that. "
well if size ten jeans 14 top makes me fat . Its a worrying world .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry a size zero woman with a 30 g chest in her 30 s lol

You asked why he wasn't interested and got an honest reply.

Yes, rejection can hurt but would you prefer if he lied?

If someone turned me down because I'm overweight I'd accept that. well if size ten jeans 14 top makes me fat . Its a worrying world . "
it wasnt going to be a sex follow up .. it was an exploration of dom sub

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry a size zero woman with a 30 g chest in her 30 s lol

You asked why he wasn't interested and got an honest reply.

Yes, rejection can hurt but would you prefer if he lied?

If someone turned me down because I'm overweight I'd accept that. well if size ten jeans 14 top makes me fat . Its a worrying world . "

I never said you were fat. And according to your post , neither did he?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry a size zero woman with a 30 g chest in her 30 s lol

You asked why he wasn't interested and got an honest reply.

Yes, rejection can hurt but would you prefer if he lied?

If someone turned me down because I'm overweight I'd accept that. well if size ten jeans 14 top makes me fat . Its a worrying world .

I never said you were fat. And according to your post , neither did he? "
didnt mean it like that .. im not hurt at all . Just recanting a recent experience .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh you are a brave man starting this convo lol I'm out lol"

Why can't the question be asked tho? Yes, it may have been put more sensitively, but I don't see anything wrong with asking the question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How many overweight or obese faces did you see documented in film or images staring through the wire in concentration camps .. None ! people are overweight by choice

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"How many overweight or obese faces did you see documented in film or images staring through the wire in concentration camps .. None ! people are overweight by choice"

Rumour has it that the waifish concentration camp look wasn't entirely a lifestyle choice either

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How many overweight or obese faces did you see documented in film or images staring through the wire in concentration camps .. None ! people are overweight by choice

Rumour has it that the waifish concentration camp look wasn't entirely a lifestyle choice either

nor am I suggesting that it was by choice...The point was that if you eat less you lose weight.

Being obese is not an illness

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By *xplicitlyricsMan
over a year ago

south dublin

Weight is a complex thing that has many factors and to ignore the psychologcial side is silly. Its as difficult to retrain yourself to a new diet as it is to quit smoking.

But it can be done and everyone has the power to do it. Metabolism doesnt make much of a difference at all and genetics dont come in to it.

Fad diets are also a negative part of our culture that make it harder to get people healthy. And the idea that you can shift weight in the gym isnt exactly true either. You lose weight in the kitchen,get fit in the gym.

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

I'm a big girl... why? Because I like my grub. I over eat yes it's a problem but my problem. You don't have to be in my company.

No overweight person wants to be overweight fact!

No alcoholic wants to drink .

No one with lung disease wants to smoke. It's addiction plain and simple . As for fat people wanting to have sex with their parents wtf is that all about. Does that mean if as a child you saw your parents in bed together and you got in with them that's the reason you now want threesomes.!!!!!

Live and let live is what I say.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oh you are a brave man starting this convo lol I'm out lol

Why can't the question be asked tho? Yes, it may have been put more sensitively, but I don't see anything wrong with asking the question.

Personally I'm not overweight. I spend hours at the gym each week, keep active and watch what I eat. However there does seem to be a large amount of people with weight issues on here. So, why is your weight an issue? Or is it?"
exactly but the problem is people usually don't like to confront the issue and instead we sugar coated literally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh you are a brave man starting this convo lol I'm out lol

Why can't the question be asked tho? Yes, it may have been put more sensitively, but I don't see anything wrong with asking the question.

Personally I'm not overweight. I spend hours at the gym each week, keep active and watch what I eat. However there does seem to be a large amount of people with weight issues on here. So, why is your weight an issue? Or is it?exactly but the problem is people usually don't like to confront the issue and instead we sugar coated literally."

Because you can't call people fat anymore. They're curvy or bbw or other ridiculous names. Fat is fat. End of. And it should be a conversation we're able to have without people taking it personally and getting offended.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm a big girl... why? Because I like my grub. I over eat yes it's a problem but my problem. You don't have to be in my company.

No overweight person wants to be overweight fact!

No alcoholic wants to drink .

Live and let live is what I say."
If this is the case why don't you do something about it? I'm actually not attacking you just curious you know you like food and over eat but also that you don't wanna be fat which makes me wonder why don't you do anything about it , also bare in mind that I'm was not saying being fat makes you a bad person or someone that company wouldn't be desired and appreciated

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oh you are a brave man starting this convo lol I'm out lol

Why can't the question be asked tho? Yes, it may have been put more sensitively, but I don't see anything wrong with asking the question.

Personally I'm not overweight. I spend hours at the gym each week, keep active and watch what I eat. However there does seem to be a large amount of people with weight issues on here. So, why is your weight an issue? Or is it?exactly but the problem is people usually don't like to confront the issue and instead we sugar coated literally.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

Mmmmm... I can hear the ice cream van!

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

"I'm a big girl... why? Because I like my grub. I over eat yes it's a problem but my problem. You don't have to be in my company.

No overweight person wants to be overweight fact!

No alcoholic wants to drink .

Live and let live is what I say. If this is the case why don't you do something about it? I'm actually not attacking you just curious you know you like food and over eat but also that you don't wanna be fat which makes me wonder why don't you do anything about it , also bare in mind that I'm was not saying being fat makes you a bad person or someone that company wouldn't be desired and appreciated "

If I knew why I was in this vicious circle I wouldn't be overweight. And why would being overweight make anyone a bad person?. If someone judged me solely on my weight I wouldn't want to be in their company. I'm a confident sexy woman and just wanted to get the point across that there's two sides to every story. I personally prefer the ones with happy endings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why am I fat?

Because I eat too much. It's that simple. "

This is me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why am I fat?

Because I eat too much. It's that simple.

This is me."

Oh Maza

And this is why I

you - your brutal honesty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I.fat cause I love bad food

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely nothing to with people not wanting to confront it. As mentioned above why does the smoker smoke, the gambler gamble. The alcoholic drink.. the drug addict shoot up. You don't go around accosting addicts in the street mainly because it's not always obvious just because it can be seen with an overweight person doesn't suddenly give the green light for those with a healthy BMI to suddenly declare the overweight 'should sort themselves out'.. It's their battle, each situation will be unique, and it could range from lack of education to genetics or a genuine health problem. It wouldn't be heighest on my list of concerns why someone else is fat. We all have enough on our hands sorting ourselves out never mind being preoccupied with someone else's issues

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It occurs to me that the vast majority of fat people, don't want to be fat. Yet they still shovel shite into their mouths on a day basis. Then they are proud to be bbw or big sexy confident people. Although they don't have any confidence in themselves to change their ways. We all have choices to make daily. Fat people make the wrong choices consistently and daily. I have no sympathy for fat people. Our choices shape our worlds in many different ways. So changing the choices we make one by one, will over time, create a new world for us. Hopefully a better one. Anyone who is happy with being over weight or is comfortable in their overweight body, has given up in my opinion.

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

"It occurs to me that the vast majority of fat people, don't want to be fat. Yet they still shovel shite into their mouths on a day basis. Then they are proud to be bbw or big sexy confident people. Although they don't have any confidence in themselves to change their ways. We all have choices to make daily. Fat people make the wrong choices consistently and daily. I have no sympathy for fat people. Our choices shape our worlds in many different ways. So changing the choices we make one by one, will over time, create a new world for us. Hopefully a better one. Anyone who is happy with being over weight or is comfortable in their overweight body, has given up in my opinion. "

Oh my!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv been on both sides of the fence once a size 20 to 22 . Lucky enuf at the time to have been younger so didnt affect my health but im sure if i hadnt done sumthing to change my eating habits like most my family would be popping pills for all sorts. Also have seen my brother who now has lost 4 stone and has stoped taking blood pressure and diebetes tablets . So yes what u put in ur mouth has alot to do wit ur health.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Absolutely nothing to with people not wanting to confront it. As mentioned above why does the smoker smoke, the gambler gamble. The alcoholic drink.. the drug addict shoot up. You don't go around accosting addicts in the street mainly because it's not always obvious just because it can be seen with an overweight person doesn't suddenly give the green light for those with a healthy BMI to suddenly declare the overweight 'should sort themselves out'.. It's their battle, each situation will be unique, and it could range from lack of education to genetics or a genuine health problem. It wouldn't be heighest on my list of concerns why someone else is fat. We all have enough on our hands sorting ourselves out never mind being preoccupied with someone else's issues "

Nicely put. I was once a healthy size 10. Curvy though til I got diagnosed with two medical problems. Both are weight related. However after changing meds I'm now loosing it slowly and healthy. This is quite an eye opener of a discussion. Maybe best kept for dr phil though. Each to their own. Some like em BBw/large/fat and some don't. Some people are Happy the way they are and should be left to their own devices!

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By *iss SadisticWoman
over a year ago

Nowhere

I overeat and generally am generally lazy. Simples

The underlying medical conditions are a factor but not the main factor. I simply am a lazy fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I overeat and generally am generally lazy. Simples

The underlying medical conditions are a factor but not the main factor. I simply am a lazy fuck. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jesus Christ. Dude, my problems started with my last relationship. Put on a serious amount of weight. I reckon it was depression but I wasn't allowed claim that or see the doctor over it as she was depressed and diagnosed. I'm over that shit now tho and working on myself.

I'm near 24 stone and not exactly tall. For me to come on here and post my body shot as my profile pic wasn't easy but I thought I'd at least let people know what they were in for with me. Even this post is tough.

But is sick of the stigma. I'm not useless coz I'm overweight, I'm not unhygienic, I'm not unhealthy, I see my doctor regularly these days. I'm not defined by my body, I'm just overweight. Simples.

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

So much Common sense here. Nice one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the ailments you mentioned slim people can also suffer from back ache, diabetes, heart disease, strokes..

Plus...being thin-outside-fat-inside — a term used to describe slim people with a disproportionate amount of fat stored within their abdomen and around their organs, which also raises the risk of type 2 diabetes...

So think again even slim people can be fat and fatal on the inside...

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

"Jesus Christ. Dude, my problems started with my last relationship. Put on a serious amount of weight. I reckon it was depression but I wasn't allowed claim that or see the doctor over it as she was depressed and diagnosed. I'm over that shit now tho and working on myself.

But is sick of the stigma. I'm not useless coz I'm overweight, I'm not unhygienic, I'm not unhealthy, I see my doctor regularly these days. I'm not defined by my body, I'm just overweight. Simples. "

Go you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im actually glad to see this topic on the forums.

I honestly have no idea how or why it became so taboo to discuss obesity.

It is a huge problem in the 1st world.

And anyone whò states "they are only harming themselves" or any othrr variation of that sentence is wrong.

Obesity costs a fortune in medical expenses often for insurance companies, more often for the tax payer.

I DO NOT think for one second that overweight people should be vilified for theyre physical appearance but i also dont think they should be shielded from the facts of the health hazards of theyre lifestyles.

Comparisons have been made here to smokers, alco's, junkies etc.

But lets be honest, theres not many of us going around saying "dont you dare call him / her a smoker / drinker / drug user" etc.

But we cant call someone fat because its not pc.

Go figure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But is sick of the stigma. I'm not useless coz I'm overweight, I'm not unhygienic, I'm not unhealthy, I see my doctor regularly these days. I'm not defined by my body, I'm just overweight. Simples. "

On a positive note. Bet you don't have to iron your shirts

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

"Im actually glad to see this topic on the forums.

I honestly have no idea how or why it became so taboo to discuss obesity.

It is a huge problem in the 1st world.

And anyone whò states "they are only harming themselves" or any othrr variation of that sentence is wrong.

Obesity costs a fortune in medical expenses often for insurance companies, more often for the tax payer.

Comparisons have been made here to smokers, alco's, junkies etc.

But lets be honest, theres not many of us going around saying "dont you dare call him / her a smoker / drinker / drug user" etc.

But we cant call someone fat because its not pc.

Go figure"

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In the real world people are called junkies alcos and fat. Bullies will always find names for people who don't fit in with what society tells you what you have to be. It's sad but it's true. If we listened to what we ARE suppose to be we wouldn't be on a site like this. Because in society swinging is frowned upon too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im actually glad to see this topic on the forums.

I honestly have no idea how or why it became so taboo to discuss obesity.

It is a huge problem in the 1st world.

And anyone whò states "they are only harming themselves" or any othrr variation of that sentence is wrong.

Obesity costs a fortune in medical expenses often for insurance companies, more often for the tax payer.

Comparisons have been made here to smokers, alco's, junkies etc.

But lets be honest, theres not many of us going around saying "dont you dare call him / her a smoker / drinker / drug user" etc.

But we cant call someone fat because its not pc.

Go figure"

It's not even remotely taboo. Most overweight people acknowledge they are overweight. Most are I imagine trying to do something about it. Your freedom of speech argument sounds ridiculous. You're hardly repressed because you can't go around calling out strangers for being fat when ever you feel like it. Everyone acknowledges that health problems would be reduced by maintaining a healthy weight but average size people get sick too and underweight people too for that matter.

It comes across as a desire to insult people freely. A green light to be abusive and fat people should shut up and take it because they're a drain on tax euros! I'd suggest there are far greater drains and wastes of revenue. An imagined drain on resources is not a green light. Again just because it's obvious it's no more appropriate than accosting a stranger coming out of a bookies because he might have stolen the money he just gambled. Or shouting at a someone with a drink in their hand for being an alcoholic.

This idea that you're not free to talk about someone being fat is frankly bollix but normal social etiquette still applies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people eat because of personal unresolved issues.

Some people eat because of health issues.

Some eat because that's all they can afford. Fruit and veggies are not cheap.

Some eat because they want to.

Don't judge someone because of what size they are. You never know what is happening.

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

"Some people eat because of personal unresolved issues.

Some people eat because of health issues.

Some eat because that's all they can afford. Fruit and veggies are not cheap.

Some eat because they want to.

Don't judge someone because of what size they are. You never know what is happening.

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By *ord Willy McFuck-BucketMan
over a year ago

newcastle

I really want some chips now

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By *xplicitlyricsMan
over a year ago

south dublin

"Im actually glad to see this topic on the forums.

I honestly have no idea how or why it became so taboo to discuss obesity.

It is a huge problem in the 1st world.

And anyone whò states "they are only harming themselves" or any othrr variation of that sentence is wrong.

Obesity costs a fortune in medical expenses often for insurance companies, more often for the tax payer.

Comparisons have been made here to smokers, alco's, junkies etc.

But lets be honest, theres not many of us going around saying "dont you dare call him / her a smoker / drinker / drug user" etc.

But we cant call someone fat because its not pc.

Go figure"

It became a bit taboo because some people are cruel as fuck about it. And they can generally get away with it because obesity can often be a result of depression meaning they wont stand up for themselves.

If people were educated as to what the underlying causes were and approached the topic with support rather than criticism then it would never have become a thing thats awkward to talk about.

But blaming genetics or metabolism is a cop out. And saying skinny people get diabeties too is like saying sober drivers get in car crashes too. Its true but the risk factor goes way up if youre overweight.

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

"Im actually glad to see this topic on the forums.

I honestly have no idea how or why it became so taboo to discuss obesity.

It is a huge problem in the 1st world.

And anyone whò states "they are only harming themselves" or any othrr variation of that sentence is wrong.

Obesity costs a fortune in medical expenses often for insurance companies, more often for the tax payer.

Comparisons have been made here to smokers, alco's, junkies etc.

But lets be honest, theres not many of us going around saying "dont you dare call him / her a smoker / drinker / drug user" etc.

But we cant call someone fat because its not pc.

Go figure

This idea that you're not free to talk about someone being fat is frankly bollix but normal social etiquette still applies "

Soooooo well put giacoma

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im actually glad to see this topic on the forums.

I honestly have no idea how or why it became so taboo to discuss obesity.

It is a huge problem in the 1st world.

And anyone whò states "they are only harming themselves" or any othrr variation of that sentence is wrong.

Obesity costs a fortune in medical expenses often for insurance companies, more often for the tax payer.

Comparisons have been made here to smokers, alco's, junkies etc.

But lets be honest, theres not many of us going around saying "dont you dare call him / her a smoker / drinker / drug user" etc.

But we cant call someone fat because its not pc.

Go figure

This idea that you're not free to talk about someone being fat is frankly bollix but normal social etiquette still applies "

#preach

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By *P_80Man
over a year ago

Waterford

"Some eat because that's all they can afford. Fruit and veggies are not cheap."

This is so true. You can buy a bag of frozen chips for €1 in a supermarket and it would do you for the best part of a week. 1 punnet of strawberries in the same supermarket cost €3.

I'm not saying it's an excuse but it is a factor among the not so well off.

Me personally, I love good tasting food. I don't care what anyone says, healthy food, while it serves a good purpose isn't great tasting but pizza and chocolate are delicious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On a positive note. Bet you don't have to iron your shirts

Well, no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im actually glad to see this topic on the forums.

I honestly have no idea how or why it became so taboo to discuss obesity.

It is a huge problem in the 1st world.

And anyone whò states "they are only harming themselves" or any othrr variation of that sentence is wrong.

Obesity costs a fortune in medical expenses often for insurance companies, more often for the tax payer.

Comparisons have been made here to smokers, alco's, junkies etc.

But lets be honest, theres not many of us going around saying "dont you dare call him / her a smoker / drinker / drug user" etc.

But we cant call someone fat because its not pc.

Go figure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why am I fat?

Because I eat too much. It's that simple.

This is me.

Oh Maza

And this is why I

you - your brutal honesty

You know Im brutal:P

But that's true!

Im fat and when I will feel need or really will wanna change myself I will!And if someone have problem look or talk with me or whatever only cause Im fat its them issues not mine!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually dont understand this thread..

Sure Fat people know they are fat and its bad for them health and now you making them shame or whatever was thought of thread.. but why not make thread about smokers or drinkers?!?

Drinkers is even worst cause they doing bad to themselves and lots times to others as well even murders happens cause drinking.. my fat ass problems don't hurt anymore.. only if I sit on your prefect and sooo healthy body...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I actually dont understand this thread..

Sure Fat people know they are fat and its bad for them health and now you making them shame or whatever was thought of thread.. but why not make thread about smokers or drinkers?!?

"
love this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As they say... walk a mile in someone elses shoes before feeling you have the right to comment on what their life and choices might be..

Life isn't black or white, nor is this issue.

You wouldn't dare tell someone who suffers from anorexia to eat something ya skinny fuck, or indeed villify them online would you?... yet a lot of the mental issues involved in anorexia also can be responsible for over eating...

Ultimately it's up to someone to make the choice to try change their life around...but with the stats of obese people loosing large amounts of weight, still keeping that weight off after 5 years only being c.2-5%, there's a lot more to it than just "eat less"

On another somewhat related note... didyaknowthat...lack of empathy is a major indication of a narcissistic personality..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I actually dont understand this thread..

Sure Fat people know they are fat and its bad for them health and now you making them shame or whatever was thought of thread.. but why not make thread about smokers or drinkers?!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people eat because of personal unresolved issues.

Some people eat because of health issues.

Some eat because that's all they can afford. Fruit and veggies are not cheap.

Some eat because they want to.

Don't judge someone because of what size they are. You never know what is happening.

Have to disagree with the fruit and vegetables not being cheap bit..

There are always offers on in all supermarkets, and fruit and vegetables can be bought really, really cheap. It's just another excuse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jesus this thread. I give a shit about people. I see fat, thin, ill, whatever.. Fact is, eating shite and not being active is unhealthy for you. Personally i want to be the best version of me, at any one time. Why do I want to do this? So i can enjoy as much of life as I can. I also want this for others. Its all quite funny really. We believe ourselves to be the most intelligent beings on this planet. Unfortunately we aren't. We are actually thick as champ!! We know what is good for us, we know what is bad for us. Not just where food is comcerned but everything. We are draining this planet of life and we still can't bring ourselves to make the hard choices for the best. The impact that our choices have on our own personal environment and the greater world wide environment is immeasurable. We know what to do, in all aspects. We just don't do it. Why? Well I believe that it's a result of our overwhelming greed and selfishness. We as a collective are a selfish pack of bastards.

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

Most people are fat because they eat too much shit food and don't excercise,some people are fat due to circumstances beyond their control but that is a very small percentage of the obese people in Ireland.It's like the people who drink too much or smoke too much and then cannot understand when they start to have health issues as it seems to sneak up slowly and then BANG it's in their face. The thing with obesity due to bad diet and lack of excercise though is it should be nipped in the bud early but people only seem to take interest when they are gone too far.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"I really want some chips now"

Garlic cheese chips! Mmmm, it's even got one of your 5 a day!

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By *P_80Man
over a year ago

Waterford

"Some people eat because of personal unresolved issues.

Some people eat because of health issues.

Some eat because that's all they can afford. Fruit and veggies are not cheap.

Some eat because they want to.

Don't judge someone because of what size they are. You never know what is happening.

Have to disagree with the fruit and vegetables not being cheap bit..

There are always offers on in all supermarkets, and fruit and vegetables can be bought really, really cheap. It's just another excuse. "

Depends on what you consider cheap. As I said in my previous post, a reply to the same post you're replying to here: a large bag of frozen chips and a packet of burgers can be bought for the same price of a punnet of strawberries. €3 for one serving of fruit might be cheap to you or me, but not everyone has that luxury.

I could feed myself for a week with unhealthy options for the same price two day's worth of fruit and veg would cost.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In answer to your question OP - because of Budweiser and Pringles

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By *P_80Man
over a year ago

Waterford

We're all gonna die anyway only some will leave healthier looking corpses than others.

Life's too short to not indulge in the things you enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Enjoy yourself, it's later than you think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Enjoy yourself, it's later than you think."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say when the uberfit start living 15-20 years longer than Joe Soap, people will start paying attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In answer to your question OP - because of Budweiser and Pringles"

And twiglets, when available

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In answer to your question OP - because of Budweiser and Pringles

And twiglets, when available

Sadly not often lol

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By *xplicitlyricsMan
over a year ago

south dublin

"Some people eat because of personal unresolved issues.

Some people eat because of health issues.

Some eat because that's all they can afford. Fruit and veggies are not cheap.

Some eat because they want to.

Don't judge someone because of what size they are. You never know what is happening.

Have to disagree with the fruit and vegetables not being cheap bit..

There are always offers on in all supermarkets, and fruit and vegetables can be bought really, really cheap. It's just another excuse.

I could feed myself for a week with unhealthy options for the same price two day's worth of fruit and veg would cost. "

Now strawberries and chips arent exactly a fair comparison. Super Valu is doing 12 apples for €2. So thats 12 servings of fruit. They do 8 large oranges for €2 as well. If you had vegtables with lunch and dinner then that would need 3 pieces of fruit for your 5 a day. And €4 covers you for nearly 3 weeks in that case.

Theres plenty of sites that will give you recipes for good, healthy meals for under €5 with leftovers!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Supervalu STRAWBERRIES SUCK! Ugh! I took them back they were so bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people eat because of personal unresolved issues.

Some people eat because of health issues.

Some eat because that's all they can afford. Fruit and veggies are not cheap.

Some eat because they want to.

Don't judge someone because of what size they are. You never know what is happening.

Have to disagree with the fruit and vegetables not being cheap bit..

There are always offers on in all supermarkets, and fruit and vegetables can be bought really, really cheap. It's just another excuse.

I could feed myself for a week with unhealthy options for the same price two day's worth of fruit and veg would cost. "

Just a quick glance online and I can see that Aldi and Tesco have fruit and vegetables on offer for 49 cent. And these aren't one off offers, the products change weekly but there's always 49 cent offers on. Dunnes have a few offers on too.

Also frozen fruit and vegetables are a cheap option too.

Sorry but the "too dear to eat healthy" argument doesn't wash with me at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Supervalu STRAWBERRIES SUCK! Ugh! I took them back they were so bad. "

Didn't u wash the cream off them first?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind the topic being discussed as long as it's done in a constructive manner, like any topic really.

Someone used the word obese. I think that's a kind and medically appropriate word. Calling people fat is deliberately hurtful and unnecessary.

Why don't obese people do something about it? i can only talk for myself. I have an eating disorder and I've had it since I remember. It's not somtething I would tell people so I'm being very honest here. It's a mental health issue.

So would you ask someone with chronic depression, anxiety, psychosis etc to cop on and do something about it? Maybe if they were close to you and you have that kind of relationship and you try to get them to seek help.

But how helpful would it be to say this to a stranger? Stop being depressed! It's your choice not to be depressed! Sounds a bit harsh, not?

Be kind to each other. offer your support whatever illness the person has. Don't make them feel bad about it.

Oh and btw I can be obese and sexy!

I'm happy that I've learnt this over the years. I used to shy away from intimacy because of experiences with fat shamers. But I learned to work with what I've got and make the most of it. Sure some slim people may not be the prettiest but that doesn't stop them from feeling sexy, right?

Time for dinner. I hope it won't make me fart Michael lol

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

"I don't mind the topic being discussed as long as it's done in a constructive manner, like any topic really.

Someone used the word obese. I think that's a kind and medically appropriate word. Calling people fat is deliberately hurtful and unnecessary.

But how helpful would it be to say this to a stranger? Stop being depressed! It's your choice not to be depressed! Sounds a bit harsh, not?

Be kind to each other. offer your support whatever illness the person has. Don't make them feel bad about it.

Oh and btw I can be obese and sexy!

Time for dinner. I hope it won't make me fart Michael lol"

I mentioned obesity but if you read my statement I said the problem with obesity due to bad diet and lack of excercise not medical related obesity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't mind the topic being discussed as long as it's done in a constructive manner, like any topic really.

Someone used the word obese. I think that's a kind and medically appropriate word. Calling people fat is deliberately hurtful and unnecessary.

But how helpful would it be to say this to a stranger? Stop being depressed! It's your choice not to be depressed! Sounds a bit harsh, not?

Be kind to each other. offer your support whatever illness the person has. Don't make them feel bad about it.

Oh and btw I can be obese and sexy!

Time for dinner. I hope it won't make me fart Michael lol

I mentioned obesity but if you read my statement I said the problem with obesity due to bad diet and lack of excercise not medical related obesity"

Not sure what you mean? Do you take issue with me saying that I agree with you using that word? Lol

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By *oonAndStars17Couple
over a year ago

123 Gofuckyourself Street

Well..... first of all.. we all make mistakes. It doesnt matter what kind of mistake but we're all fucking human. I for one am fat. Why?? Coz i love food. Plain n simple. I do eat healthy and I walk everywhere. Ive always been curvy so what. Just because someone is comfortable in their own skin dont mean they've given up. Actualy it means the opposite. They're living. What WOULD make a better world is if actually people would love and accept all others for who they are on the inside not just by appearance. You've proven that you're incapable of this by your above "opinion". And to everyone else who has similar "opinions" may wanna eat their words because some day say in 3/5 or 10 years you may not be as slim as you are now!!! And unless your a gym fanatic who'll still be at it in his 50's 60's 70's whatever. Its a FACT everyone will be, according to society, "fat" at some point in their lives.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Weight is a complex thing that has many factors and to ignore the psychologcial side is silly. Its as difficult to retrain yourself to a new diet as it is to quit smoking.

But it can be done and everyone has the power to do it. Metabolism doesnt make much of a difference at all and genetics dont come in to it.

I agree it's very complex and the question is asked slightly insensitively but has a point.

One thing I think is dangerous is the reverse side of "body shaming" that is in fact obesity enabling and a big pat on the back for being (or is it acting) proud in one's own skin. Those people (at a certain threshold of health problems) need medical or psychological help to fight their demons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some eat because that's all they can afford. Fruit and veggies are not cheap.

This is so true. You can buy a bag of frozen chips for €1 in a supermarket and it would do you for the best part of a week. 1 punnet of strawberries in the same supermarket cost €3.

I'm not saying it's an excuse but it is a factor among the not so well off.

Me personally, I love good tasting food. I don't care what anyone says, healthy food, while it serves a good purpose isn't great tasting but pizza and chocolate are delicious."

Yes and then they talk about bullshit sugar taxes when they should subsidise healthy food.

Bring back home economics so people can cook from scratch from an early age.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some eat because that's all they can afford. Fruit and veggies are not cheap.

This is so true. You can buy a bag of frozen chips for €1 in a supermarket and it would do you for the best part of a week. 1 punnet of strawberries in the same supermarket cost €3.

I'm not saying it's an excuse but it is a factor among the not so well off.

Me personally, I love good tasting food. I don't care what anyone says, healthy food, while it serves a good purpose isn't great tasting but pizza and chocolate are delicious.

Yes and then they talk about bullshit sugar taxes when they should subsidise healthy food.

Bring back home economics so people can cook from scratch from an early age.

One of the best things you have ever said!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd also like to give kudos to wobblybits for her objectivity and honesty in this thread

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

"I don't mind the topic being discussed as long as it's done in a constructive manner, like any topic really.

Someone used the word obese. I think that's a kind and medically appropriate word. Calling people fat is deliberately hurtful and unnecessary.

But how helpful would it be to say this to a stranger? Stop being depressed! It's your choice not to be depressed! Sounds a bit harsh, not?

Be kind to each other. offer your support whatever illness the person has. Don't make them feel bad about it.

Oh and btw I can be obese and sexy!

Time for dinner. I hope it won't make me fart Michael lol

I mentioned obesity but if you read my statement I said the problem with obesity due to bad diet and lack of excercise not medical related obesity

Not sure what you mean? Do you take issue with me saying that I agree with you using that word? Lol"

No I don't have issue with you at all I was just clarifying because some people will have issues with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I actually dont understand this thread..

Sure Fat people know they are fat and its bad for them health and now you making them shame or whatever was thought of thread.. but why not make thread about smokers or drinkers?!?

I think the thread has got out of Control and maybe dug himself a hole. I'm not everyone's cuppa tea but I ain't gonna looses sleep!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I actually dont understand this thread..

Sure Fat people know they are fat and its bad for them health and now you making them shame or whatever was thought of thread.. but why not make thread about smokers or drinkers?!?

love this

Really love this

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By *exycouplemmmmCouple
over a year ago

Surrey

"Some people can't help it! Everybody's genetic make up is different and how their metabolism works is also different! Some people have high metabolisms which allows them to burn fat quicker and others have slower metabolisms.

Lots of people go through significant life changing experiences and as a result, turn to food as a comforting factor.

This is very well put, and I believe hits the nail squarely on the head! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The society we live in has created this obesity epidemic. It's all good and well feeding your face and saying you've always been fat and you love who you are etc etc. My issue is that the western diet is having a detrimental effect on our planet, stretching health service resources and is creating a new generation of fat kids. I see kids every day that are morbidly obese. Its paramount to child abuse. Allowing children to be lazy and fill their faces with utter shite is not the example that should be passed down. When i was a kid, there was prob may one or two overweight kids in each class at school. So not very common. These days there are a lot more. Schools and parents do not instill a healthy living on kids in general. Kids son't run about as much as they used to. They play games consoles indoors on their arses, less playing sports, lazy take take give me give me generation. Society needs to waken up and if what i say offends, well good. At least its being heard. Do you realise that the environment is being devastated by the agricultural and food industry? More so than any other industry, including the whole of the transport industry combined. So the choices we make on a daily basis is not only turning the population into fat bodies, it directly effects the balance of our finite planet. I would rather offend a few in order to help our population and planet than be all nicey nicey because political correctness demands it. There's another pile of crap, political correctness. It's a contradiction in itself. Do some research on our planet, on our diet and its effects on us, on our health services, on our fellow earthlings. It can all change with the choices we make. At the moment too many make the wrong choice.

Leo Tolstoy (1828-1910) – "A man can live and be healthy without killing animals for food; therefore, if he eats meat, he participates in taking animal life merely for the sake of his appetite. And to act so is immoral"

It could also be said that it is immoral to allow our children to become obese and to continue this bad example that we are setting them. So if you are offended, then that is your choice to be so. You control your feelings and control how you see things. I'm just throwing out there a view that i have.

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

Actually reading this thread brings a lot things to the surface

Yes we should be able to talk about obesity without getting personal.

There are health implications of being obese those implications do affect others indirectly with health places being taken up by those that either didn't or weren't able to make the right choices due to other health issues of financial implications

One thing that rings home from a previous post is the teaching of home economics in our schools the early learning of how to prepare food and bring the important five a day in to our diets

I don't think the op wanted to fat shame and on a whole most comments have being involved in a good discussion he may not have put it in the best way possible but he tried

Wobbly I'd so do u

and guys I am a smoker by choice and yes I know more or less what my future holds its up to me to change which I hope to do in the near future. But remember there's a train of thought in our health system that if u smoke doctors wish to refuse u treatment,let's for one minute carry this forward to obesity what would be done if docs stated they won't treath people for weight related illness if they are seen to choose to be obese.

There would be uproar and people on the streets it's a national problem and I do believe the food processors have a case to answer and there products should be taxed with the monies gained invested in promotion of healthier options and education

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By *oonAndStars17Couple
over a year ago

123 Gofuckyourself Street

Well..... first of all... we all make mistakes. It doesnt matter what kind of mistake but we're all fucking human. I for one am fat. Why?? Coz i love food.

Plain n simple. I do have medical issues with my thyroid and stomach and ive also given birth like most curvy women BUT im not using that as an excuse either.

i don't really exercise apart from sexercise

I DO eat healthy and I walk a lot everywhere coz i dont drive but I've always been curvy... so what.

Secondly.....Just because someone is comfortable in their own skin dont mean they've given up. Actualy it means the opposite. They're living. What WOULD make a better world is if people would love and accept all others for who they are on the inside not just by appearance. To those who think the world would be better if we were all slimmer and happier is a fucking naive shallow fool And to everyone else who has similar "opinions" may wanna eat their words because some day say in 3/5 or 10 years you may not be as slim as you are now!!! And unless your a gym fanatic who'll still be at it in his 50's 60's 70's whatever. Maybe THEN you will have your answer as to "why fat people are fat" ......

Its a FACT everyone will be, according to society, "fat" at some point in their lives.

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By *unxxcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

near swords

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By *unxxcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

near swords

You have issues and need to read better books or articles... thats fucked up

"I read somewhere that most fat people over eat because they want to have sex with their parents and can't "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldn't be bothered my FAT ass

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By *oonAndStars17Couple
over a year ago

123 Gofuckyourself Street

"Actually reading this thread brings a lot things to the surface

Yes we should be able to talk about obesity without getting personal.

One thing that rings home from a previous post is the teaching of home economics in our schools the early learning of how to prepare food and bring the important five a day in to our diets

I don't think the op wanted to fat shame and on a whole most comments have being involved in a good discussion he may not have put it in the best way possible but he tried

Wobbly I'd so do u

Well now I agree to that last part. BUT doctors and health professionals are gaining more money from people who have weight related problems due to all the fast food industries who are also taking your money in return of purchasing the food. (Fyi. The food doesnt always have to be from a takeaway. Many bad foods are now being disguised as "good" foods because the majority of the population are not educated enough about food to know the difference). This also links back to home economics subjects in schools. We have and still are being brainwashed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well..... first of all... we all make mistakes. It doesnt matter what kind of mistake but we're all fucking human. I for one am fat. Why?? Coz i love food.

Plain n simple. I do have medical issues with my thyroid and stomach and ive also given birth like most curvy women BUT im not using that as an excuse either.

i don't really exercise apart from sexercise

I DO eat healthy and I walk a lot everywhere coz i dont drive but I've always been curvy... so what.

Its a FACT everyone will be, according to society, "fat" at some point in their lives.

if you are comforted by your FACT, that's great. Enjoy. I'll tell you this, i'll be a very happy man if, in my 60's i'm fit and healthy enough to go on a hike up a mountain with my children. As well as other physical activities. I'll be smiling. On the other hand, if i'm hobbling about and can't join them hiking because my knees aren't strong enough to carry my bulbuss ass and bingo wings, then i will be very sad.

As for the naive statement. If we are all slimmer and HAPPIER, then of course the world would be a better place. Why? Because we are HAPPIER. Your words not mine but never a truer statement. So please, eat your own words, if you haven't already.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well..... first of all... we all make mistakes. It doesnt matter what kind of mistake but we're all fucking human. I for one am fat. Why?? Coz i love food.

Plain n simple. I do have medical issues with my thyroid and stomach and ive also given birth like most curvy women BUT im not using that as an excuse either.

i don't really exercise apart from sexercise

I DO eat healthy and I walk a lot everywhere coz i dont drive but I've always been curvy... so what.

Its a FACT everyone will be, according to society, "fat" at some point in their lives.

What a total bell end you are. Obviously got out of bed the wrong side this morning. Seems to me the only person here who is truly u happy is u mate!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You have issues and need to read better books or articles... thats fucked up

I read somewhere that most fat people over eat because they want to have sex with their parents and can't "

You thought that was a very odd comment too funxx? I just couldn't be bothered to comment on it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately the simple fact is that if you smoke,drink excessively or are overweight then it is going to come back and bite you in later life,

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By *oonAndStars17Couple
over a year ago

123 Gofuckyourself Street

"Well..... first of all... we all make mistakes. It doesnt matter what kind of mistake but we're all fucking human. I for one am fat. Why?? Coz i love food.

Plain n simple. I do have medical issues with my thyroid and stomach and ive also given birth like most curvy women BUT im not using that as an excuse either.

i don't really exercise apart from sexercise

I DO eat healthy and I walk a lot everywhere coz i dont drive but I've always been curvy... so what.

Its a FACT everyone will be, according to society, "fat" at some point in their lives.

I was referring to another poster in here who said that the world would basicly be a better place without fat people lol and to the fact i mentioned. I should have clarified more specifically my bad. But society itself is brainwashing people to think that a size 10/12 is plus size and according to them we're fat. So technically yes according to THEM we will all be fat at some stage. I myself wasnt suggesting that from me. I WILL be hiking up mountains and playing in parks with my grandkids no matter what size i am. And i hope you do too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well..... first of all... we all make mistakes. It doesnt matter what kind of mistake but we're all fucking human. I for one am fat. Why?? Coz i love food.

Plain n simple. I do have medical issues with my thyroid and stomach and ive also given birth like most curvy women BUT im not using that as an excuse either.

i don't really exercise apart from sexercise

I DO eat healthy and I walk a lot everywhere coz i dont drive but I've always been curvy... so what.

Its a FACT everyone will be, according to society, "fat" at some point in their lives.

What a total bell end you are. Obviously got out of bed the wrong side this morning. Seems to me the only person here who is truly u happy is u mate!! "

Unhappy? With ignorance yes.

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By *oonAndStars17Couple
over a year ago

123 Gofuckyourself Street

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My mum eats whatever she likes - and at 80 is a size 10. She has NEVER been fat. Thats to whoever said at some time in their life everyone will be fat.

I don't take after her

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By *oonAndStars17Couple
over a year ago

123 Gofuckyourself Street

"Well..... first of all... we all make mistakes. It doesnt matter what kind of mistake but we're all fucking human. I for one am fat. Why?? Coz i love food.

Plain n simple. I do have medical issues with my thyroid and stomach and ive also given birth like most curvy women BUT im not using that as an excuse either.

i don't really exercise apart from sexercise

I DO eat healthy and I walk a lot everywhere coz i dont drive but I've always been curvy... so what.

Its a FACT everyone will be, according to society, "fat" at some point in their lives.

What a total bell end you are. Obviously got out of bed the wrong side this morning. Seems to me the only person here who is truly u happy is u mate!!

Unhappy? With ignorance yes. "

:-/ which one of us u refering to hun? Lol i may have not explained myself well enough in the first part

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By *ary_ArgyllMan
over a year ago

Argyll

"Jesus this thread. I give a shit about people. I see fat, thin, ill, whatever.. Fact is, eating shite and not being active is unhealthy for you. Personally i want to be the best version of me, at any one time. Why do I want to do this? So i can enjoy as much of life as I can. I also want this for others. Its all quite funny really. We believe ourselves to be the most intelligent beings on this planet. Unfortunately we aren't. We are actually thick as champ!! We know what is good for us, we know what is bad for us. Not just where food is comcerned but everything. We are draining this planet of life and we still can't bring ourselves to make the hard choices for the best. The impact that our choices have on our own personal environment and the greater world wide environment is immeasurable. We know what to do, in all aspects. We just don't do it. Why? Well I believe that it's a result of our overwhelming greed and selfishness. We as a collective are a selfish pack of bastards. "

I think you should read up on how the brain works - dopamine receptors are programmed by evolution to make us crave high energy foods - except nowadays we really do not need them. It's easy to say everyone is greedy etc but there is underlying physiology and neurochemistry at work as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The gryphon is bang on in his points about society and consumption fucking the world up.

That said I won't be going vegetarian but maybe eating meat sparingly or at least sustainably is the way to go.

Most of what you find in tesco is poison.

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"Well..... first of all... we all make mistakes. It doesnt matter what kind of mistake but we're all fucking human. I for one am fat. Why?? Coz i love food.

Plain n simple. I do have medical issues with my thyroid and stomach and ive also given birth like most curvy women BUT im not using that as an excuse either.

i don't really exercise apart from sexercise

I DO eat healthy and I walk a lot everywhere coz i dont drive but I've always been curvy... so what.

Its a FACT everyone will be, according to society, "fat" at some point in their lives.

I don't belive for one second size ten or twelve is a standard we should be going for but more a healthy weight for height ratio.we all carry a few pounds even a stone or two but to be a healthy weight should be our goal

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By *oonAndStars17Couple
over a year ago

123 Gofuckyourself Street

"Well..... first of all... we all make mistakes. It doesnt matter what kind of mistake but we're all fucking human. I for one am fat. Why?? Coz i love food.

Plain n simple. I do have medical issues with my thyroid and stomach and ive also given birth like most curvy women BUT im not using that as an excuse either.

i don't really exercise apart from sexercise

I DO eat healthy and I walk a lot everywhere coz i dont drive but I've always been curvy... so what.

Its a FACT everyone will be, according to society, "fat" at some point in their lives.

Exactly _j47. If we are healthy then what should it matter what size we wear?? I for one can say my chest carries a few xtra pounds too and thats another thing curvy women also deal with. Its not out fault we have big chests that can cause back pain or leg pain either. So its not always due to weight. Which is what someone else had assumed.

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"Well..... first of all... we all make mistakes. It doesnt matter what kind of mistake but we're all fucking human. I for one am fat. Why?? Coz i love food.

Plain n simple. I do have medical issues with my thyroid and stomach and ive also given birth like most curvy women BUT im not using that as an excuse either.

i don't really exercise apart from sexercise

I DO eat healthy and I walk a lot everywhere coz i dont drive but I've always been curvy... so what.

Its a FACT everyone will be, according to society, "fat" at some point in their lives.

Healthy weight and maintaining ur health are a balance I agree with the sentiments obesity we need to tackle it but maintaining a healthy weight so as not to damage ur health has to be considered also the issue of our kids health and weight has to be looked at

Our life styles have changed from walking or cycling to school now most are carried to and from in a car or bus no longer is it a case of kids running round playing getting natural exercise but schools enforce no running policy sports are disencouraged for fear of insurance claims

There's so many issues that have to be taken into consideration it will take a massive swing (no pun intended) to bring about changes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well..... first of all... we all make mistakes. It doesnt matter what kind of mistake but we're all fucking human. I for one am fat. Why?? Coz i love food.

Plain n simple. I do have medical issues with my thyroid and stomach and ive also given birth like most curvy women BUT im not using that as an excuse either.

i don't really exercise apart from sexercise

I DO eat healthy and I walk a lot everywhere coz i dont drive but I've always been curvy... so what.

Its a FACT everyone will be, according to society, "fat" at some point in their lives.

There's so many issues that have to be taken into consideration it will take a massive swing (no pun intended) to bring about changes "

You mention the schools - I blame them a whole lot.

PC gone too far when kids can't be kids for fear of an insurance claim.

On a slightly different note. I'm just back from Australia where I went to await the arrival of my new grandson. At 7 days old a health visitor turned up at the house and lectured on the milk he was being given - which had been recommended by the hospital. It had 1.6 of protein and she wanted him to be given milk with 1.3 of protein in it. Lectured the babes mum on childhood obesity and had scared the shit out of her. She's a first time mum and is now worried.

My son (the dad) plays every sport going. This kid isn't going to be sitting on his arse at a computer.

I think the health visitor worded it very badly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some eat because that's all they can afford. Fruit and veggies are not cheap.

This is so true. You can buy a bag of frozen chips for €1 in a supermarket and it would do you for the best part of a week. 1 punnet of strawberries in the same supermarket cost €3.

I'm not saying it's an excuse but it is a factor among the not so well off.

Me personally, I love good tasting food. I don't care what anyone says, healthy food, while it serves a good purpose isn't great tasting but pizza and chocolate are delicious."

You can buy a bag of frozen veg for 1 euro too...that argument doesn't hold water

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I actually dont understand this thread..

Sure Fat people know they are fat and its bad for them health and now you making them shame or whatever was thought of thread.. but why not make thread about smokers or drinkers?!?

Feel free to go ahead a make a thread about smokers or drinkers. The OP set up this thread because it's of interest to him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some eat because that's all they can afford. Fruit and veggies are not cheap.

This is so true. You can buy a bag of frozen chips for €1 in a supermarket and it would do you for the best part of a week. 1 punnet of strawberries in the same supermarket cost €3.

I'm not saying it's an excuse but it is a factor among the not so well off.

Me personally, I love good tasting food. I don't care what anyone says, healthy food, while it serves a good purpose isn't great tasting but pizza and chocolate are delicious.

You can buy a bag of frozen veg for 1 euro too...that argument doesn't hold water"

You're right, it doesn't.

And even if it's a bit dearer to buy a pack of 6/8 apples or oranges at $2 or a melon for the same than to buy a Mars Bar @ $1.20. They will last you 3 or 4 days instead of 2 minutes.

Thats not to say I do this. Well, I do but I also have the Mars Bar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some eat because that's all they can afford. Fruit and veggies are not cheap.

This is so true. You can buy a bag of frozen chips for €1 in a supermarket and it would do you for the best part of a week. 1 punnet of strawberries in the same supermarket cost €3.

I'm not saying it's an excuse but it is a factor among the not so well off.

Me personally, I love good tasting food. I don't care what anyone says, healthy food, while it serves a good purpose isn't great tasting but pizza and chocolate are delicious.

You can buy a bag of frozen veg for 1 euro too...that argument doesn't hold water"

Exactly

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

There's so many issues that have to be taken into consideration it will take a massive swing (no pun intended) to bring about changes

You mention the schools - I blame them a whole lot.

PC gone too far when kids can't be kids for fear of an insurance claim.

My son (the dad) plays every sport going. This kid isn't going to be sitting on his arse at a computer.

I think the health visitor worded it very badly."

She probally did and as u say it's a learning curve for ur son and his wife the difficulty of those supposed to be there to help them not being able to deliver the information extends across services. Getting conflicting info from the hospital and the health care worker should be pointed out as they are supposed to compliment each other

It won't stop there all trough life u get shite like that it's then u rely on ur own know lage and that passed from ur parents all u can do is make the best decisions for ur self and ur family and if that means changing ur diet to enjoy them longer so be it

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

A problem with obesity can be seen on a daily thread that goes on on fab the "BBW" thread yes a woman can be big and she can be beautiful but being big does not make her beautiful as many of the comments on the BBW thread would have us believe,reverse the roles and put a 20 something stone guy in the hotseat would women start threads about said male? no they would not for on a site like this he would most likely be ridiculed even though not necessarily to his face,I am not trying to shame anyone on here but unless there is a medical reason for someone being excessively over weight then it is down to bad eating bad excercise and laziness,some people spend more money and time getting their cars serviced and looking after them that they do on their bodies,we can get a new car pretty much any time but we only have one body.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A problem with obesity can be seen on a daily thread that goes on on fab the "BBW" thread yes a woman can be big and she can be beautiful but being big does not make her beautiful as many of the comments on the BBW thread would have us believe,reverse the roles and put a 20 something stone guy in the hotseat would women start threads about said male? no they would not for on a site like this he would most likely be ridiculed even though not necessarily to his face,I am not trying to shame anyone on here but unless there is a medical reason for someone being excessively over weight then it is down to bad eating bad excercise and laziness,some people spend more money and time getting their cars serviced and looking after them that they do on their bodies,we can get a new car pretty much any time but we only have one body."

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By *safunwituMan
over a year ago

Enniscorthy

Don't get threads like this, started by fit or slim people calling out others on there weight.

Is it some sort of way of boasting or is it a way of covering up their own insecurities.

It's ugly either way, fit or not...

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By *s louWoman
over a year ago

Enniskillen

"Don't get threads like this, started by fit or slim people calling out others on there weight.

Is it some sort of way of boasting or is it a way of covering up their own insecurities.

It's ugly either way, fit or not...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't get threads like this, started by fit or slim people calling out others on there weight.

Is it some sort of way of boasting or is it a way of covering up their own insecurities.

It's ugly either way, fit or not...

Would it have been better if the thread was started by a fat person?

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By *safunwituMan
over a year ago

Enniscorthy

"Don't get threads like this, started by fit or slim people calling out others on there weight.

Is it some sort of way of boasting or is it a way of covering up their own insecurities.

It's ugly either way, fit or not...

Would it have been better if the thread was started by a fat person? "

Don't think they would be so shallow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't get threads like this, started by fit or slim people calling out others on there weight.

Is it some sort of way of boasting or is it a way of covering up their own insecurities.

It's ugly either way, fit or not...

Would it have been better if the thread was started by a fat person?

Don't think they would be so shallow.

I don't think the OP was being shallow at all.

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

"Don't get threads like this, started by fit or slim people calling out others on there weight.

Is it some sort of way of boasting or is it a way of covering up their own insecurities.

It's ugly either way, fit or not...

Couldn't disagree more sir percival

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By *safunwituMan
over a year ago

Enniscorthy

"Don't get threads like this, started by fit or slim people calling out others on there weight.

Is it some sort of way of boasting or is it a way of covering up their own insecurities.

It's ugly either way, fit or not...

Couldn't disagree more sir percival"

That's fair enough, wasn't expecting you to agree with me.

But let's just say you had an overweight male friend, would you be calling him out to his face all the time and telling him he has to lose weight?

Judging him on his lifestyle, what he ate, drank or how often he went to the gym?

Don't think he would appreciate it, especially if he did try to lead a healthy life and there was other factors over his weight.

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

"Don't get threads like this, started by fit or slim people calling out others on there weight.

Is it some sort of way of boasting or is it a way of covering up their own insecurities.

It's ugly either way, fit or not...

Couldn't disagree more sir percival

That's fair enough, wasn't expecting you to agree with me.

But let's just say you had an overweight male friend, would you be calling him out to his face all the time and telling him he has to lose weight?

Judging him on his lifestyle, what he ate, drank or how often he went to the gym?

Don't think he would appreciate it, especially if he did try to lead a healthy life and there was other factors over his weight."

You obviously did not read my posts percy as if you did I mentioned that if there were medical reasons not just being lazy inactive and with a bad diet then it is different.

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By *safunwituMan
over a year ago

Enniscorthy

"Don't get threads like this, started by fit or slim people calling out others on there weight.

Is it some sort of way of boasting or is it a way of covering up their own insecurities.

It's ugly either way, fit or not...

Couldn't disagree more sir percival

That's fair enough, wasn't expecting you to agree with me.

But let's just say you had an overweight male friend, would you be calling him out to his face all the time and telling him he has to lose weight?

Judging him on his lifestyle, what he ate, drank or how often he went to the gym?

Don't think he would appreciate it, especially if he did try to lead a healthy life and there was other factors over his weight.

You obviously did not read my posts percy as if you did I mentioned that if there were medical reasons not just being lazy inactive and with a bad diet then it is different."

Nope, I was just going from the OP's post and didn't read them all.

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By *osmicGateMan
over a year ago

louth

Clare people

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"Clare people

Clare people made you fat?

Bastards!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Clare people

Clare people made you fat?

Bastards! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The bigger the cushion the better the pushin"......(Frank Zappa 1983)....just sayin....

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare

"You have issues and need to read better books or articles... thats fucked up

I read somewhere that most fat people over eat because they want to have sex with their parents and can't "

It was supposed to be fucked up. That was the point. Like badboyjjs bullshit list above it

To give it perspective I'm a lifelong bbw/phat girl lover and feeder even

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't get threads like this, started by fit or slim people calling out others on there weight.

Is it some sort of way of boasting or is it a way of covering up their own insecurities.

It's ugly either way, fit or not...

Couldn't disagree more sir percival

That's fair enough, wasn't expecting you to agree with me.

But let's just say you had an overweight male friend, would you be calling him out to his face all the time and telling him he has to lose weight?

Judging him on his lifestyle, what he ate, drank or how often he went to the gym?

Don't think he would appreciate it, especially if he did try to lead a healthy life and there was other factors over his weight."
I assume you talk about a medical condition, well I can tell you right here, right now that if I had a friend that was overweight especially because of a "medical condition" which is kinda rare to be honest most people are over weight because as some said here and fair play to them they love food! But let's say that is not the case. It would be reason enough for me to confront my friend tell him as it is and try to help him/her whatever way I can for them to lose weight if I am worry for him/her!

And believe me I was not be shallow, and for sure I have some insecurities like most people and fears is part of life and I embrace them and try to work on them one step at the time. Thanks for calling me fit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't believe this is still going ...

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"Can't believe this is still going ...

Who knew fat people had so much stamina?

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By *isdirtygirlWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

"Can't believe this is still going ...

You and me both Red

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tried and opened new thread about Sun's out ... no-one bit ... all interested in other more profound topics...

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By *safunwituMan
over a year ago

Enniscorthy

"Don't get threads like this, started by fit or slim people calling out others on there weight.

Is it some sort of way of boasting or is it a way of covering up their own insecurities.

It's ugly either way, fit or not...

Couldn't disagree more sir percival

That's fair enough, wasn't expecting you to agree with me.

But let's just say you had an overweight male friend, would you be calling him out to his face all the time and telling him he has to lose weight?

Judging him on his lifestyle, what he ate, drank or how often he went to the gym?

Don't think he would appreciate it, especially if he did try to lead a healthy life and there was other factors over his weight. I assume you talk about a medical condition, well I can tell you right here, right now that if I had a friend that was overweight especially because of a "medical condition" which is kinda rare to be honest most people are over weight because as some said here and fair play to them they love food! But let's say that is not the case. It would be reason enough for me to confront my friend tell him as it is and try to help him/her whatever way I can for them to lose weight if I am worry for him/her!

Doesn't have to be medical, you just listed off a few medical problems in your original post and related them to people carrying weight.

Wouldn't class myself as being fit and who is to stay you won't suffer from any of those medical issues you listed out.

How would I know if your fit, in that case???

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I tried and opened new thread about Sun's out ... no-one bit ... all interested in other more profound topics...

"
I went to post there so you don't feel lonely

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By *cilWoman
over a year ago

Wexford

This thread has made me sad.

My friend was recently diagnosed with breast cancer, lung cancer and liver cancer. She is 35 years old. She is fit and beautiful. She is extremely intelligent.

She has eaten shit for the last month. Crisps, chocolate, junk food of all kind. She knows it's wrong. She can't stop. Well of course she can stop, but she is choosing not to. If she continues she will get 'fat'. She has half a stone up already.

She knows she needs to be as healthy as possible for treatment and surgery and yet she is abusing her body.

She is now living in a sequence of hurt, guilt and shame.

Her trigger, cancer.

Do you think overweight people don't know that they are overweight?

It is often triggered by something traumatic in their lives. Sometimes it's from childhood so they don't even know anymore. Living with guilt and shame is really not easy. The hardest step is always the first. Perhaps encouragement would be more helpful than nasty comments, as they just perpetuate the the negative thoughts.

For those who have never struggled with their weight, I hope you never will because it's a huge mental and physical battle.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This thread has made me sad.

My friend was recently diagnosed with breast cancer, lung cancer and liver cancer. She is 35 years old. She is fit and beautiful. She is extremely intelligent.

She knows she needs to be as healthy as possible for treatment and surgery and yet she is abusing her body.

She is now living in a sequence of hurt, guilt and shame.

Her trigger, cancer.

Do you think overweight people don't know that they are overweight?

For those who have never struggled with their weight, I hope you never will because it's a huge mental and physical battle.

"
I'm sorry to hear that about your friend and if you readon't thread not all comments were nasty and some were even helpful, stay strong be there for your friend and I wish her all the very best, sad story !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can't believe this is still going ...

You and me both Red

Why the confusion for ye both?

It's a very interesting topic and bar a couple of childish posts hasn't resorted to becoming nasty and we're actually having an interesting debate on the subject.

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By *safunwituMan
over a year ago

Enniscorthy

"This thread has made me sad.

My friend was recently diagnosed with breast cancer, lung cancer and liver cancer. She is 35 years old. She is fit and beautiful. She is extremely intelligent.

She knows she needs to be as healthy as possible for treatment and surgery and yet she is abusing her body.

She is now living in a sequence of hurt, guilt and shame.

Her trigger, cancer.

Do you think overweight people don't know that they are overweight?

For those who have never struggled with their weight, I hope you never will because it's a huge mental and physical battle.

Sorry to hear this, keep up your support and hopefully things will turn out well for herself.

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By *P_80Man
over a year ago

Waterford

"Some eat because that's all they can afford. Fruit and veggies are not cheap.

This is so true. You can buy a bag of frozen chips for €1 in a supermarket and it would do you for the best part of a week. 1 punnet of strawberries in the same supermarket cost €3.

I'm not saying it's an excuse but it is a factor among the not so well off.

Me personally, I love good tasting food. I don't care what anyone says, healthy food, while it serves a good purpose isn't great tasting but pizza and chocolate are delicious.

You can buy a bag of frozen veg for 1 euro too...that argument doesn't hold water"

Read back, I said it wasn't an excuse, but it is a factor. I eat fruits and veg regularly, and I generally eat well but it costs more to eat good food then to eat bad food long term. You can't argue that. A box of four processed chicken breasts cost half the price of four fresh chicken breasts.

A bag of frozen veg will not satisfy your hunger. A bowl of chips will, at least for a while. Also fruits and veg have a short shelf life. I throw out fruit and veg every week so that's money wasted right there.

Look, I'm not defending unhealthy eating. I have a good balance where I eat well during the week but at the weekends I indulge in some junk and I'll never give that up. It's up to the individual to decide.

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By *oonAndStars17Couple
over a year ago

123 Gofuckyourself Street

"This thread has made me sad.

My friend was recently diagnosed with breast cancer, lung cancer and liver cancer. She is 35 years old. She is fit and beautiful. She is extremely intelligent.

She knows she needs to be as healthy as possible for treatment and surgery and yet she is abusing her body.

She is now living in a sequence of hurt, guilt and shame.

Her trigger, cancer.

Do you think overweight people don't know that they are overweight?

For those who have never struggled with their weight, I hope you never will because it's a huge mental and physical battle.

Sorry to hear this, keep up your support and hopefully things will turn out well for herself."

very well said mate. *clap clap* its very true.

best of luck to your friend i hope she fights it 3

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This still going??

Jeez, where do u have to go these days to have sexual chats and bants!? Ridiculous

Think this should just close now cause it's not what fab is about. I could of tuned into loose women to see this!!

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"This still going??

Jeez, where do u have to go these days to have sexual chats and bants!? Ridiculous

Think this should just close now cause it's not what fab is about. I could of tuned into loose women to see this!! "

You could also just have read one of the other threads that are more up your street?

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

"This still going??

Jeez, where do u have to go these days to have sexual chats and bants!? Ridiculous

Think this should just close now cause it's not what fab is about. I could of tuned into loose women to see this!!

You could also just have read one of the other threads that are more up your street?

But that would ruin the fun of giving out and admitting you watch loose women

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"This still going??

Jeez, where do u have to go these days to have sexual chats and bants!? Ridiculous

Think this should just close now cause it's not what fab is about. I could of tuned into loose women to see this!!

You could also just have read one of the other threads that are more up your street?

But that would ruin the fun of giving out and admitting you watch loose women

I want to meet loose women!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This still going??

Jeez, where do u have to go these days to have sexual chats and bants!? Ridiculous

Think this should just close now cause it's not what fab is about. I could of tuned into loose women to see this!!

You could also just have read one of the other threads that are more up your street?

But that would ruin the fun of giving out and admitting you watch loose women

Not at all, I love a good debate but in this day and age fat/bbw is accepted in this type of world. If you don't like it move on and don't look at our profiles. No need for a topic on it though.

And sure loose women are paid to talk about this lol.

And who doesn't enjoy looking at milf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why it could be genetic it could be because of hormone changes in the body it can also be down to depression where person comfort eats to hide away from an issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Clare people

Clare people made you fat?

Bastards!

Oiiiiiiiiii

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By *cilWoman
over a year ago

Wexford

"This thread has made me sad.

My friend was recently diagnosed with breast cancer, lung cancer and liver cancer. She is 35 years old. She is fit and beautiful. She is extremely intelligent.

She knows she needs to be as healthy as possible for treatment and surgery and yet she is abusing her body.

She is now living in a sequence of hurt, guilt and shame.

Her trigger, cancer.

Do you think overweight people don't know that they are overweight?

For those who have never struggled with their weight, I hope you never will because it's a huge mental and physical battle.

I'm sorry to hear that about your friend and if you readon't thread not all comments were nasty and some were even helpful, stay strong be there for your friend and I wish her all the very best, sad story !"

Thank you very. I didn't necessarily mean nasty comments on here, but more in general.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This still going??

Jeez, where do u have to go these days to have sexual chats and bants!? Ridiculous

Think this should just close now cause it's not what fab is about. I could of tuned into loose women to see this!!

You could also just have read one of the other threads that are more up your street?

But that would ruin the fun of giving out and admitting you watch loose women

Not at all, I love a good debate but in this day and age fat/bbw is accepted in this type of world. If you don't like it move on and don't look at our profiles. No need for a topic on it though.

And sure loose women are paid to talk about this lol.

And who doesn't enjoy looking at milf "

It's got nothing to do with 'liking it' or not. If people want to talk about it they're well within their rights to do so. I would suggest you're the one who should 'move on' if this is of no interest to you.

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By *xplicitlyricsMan
over a year ago

south dublin

"Awe look one more post until thread closes

Regardless of whether you agree, spamming a thread to prevent discussion is childish. Theres threads on here I dont like so I ignore them.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Spamming threads so they shut quicker ends up with a person banned. Please don't do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This still going??

Jeez, where do u have to go these days to have sexual chats and bants!? Ridiculous

Think this should just close now cause it's not what fab is about. I could of tuned into loose women to see this!!

You could also just have read one of the other threads that are more up your street?

But that would ruin the fun of giving out and admitting you watch loose women

Not at all, I love a good debate but in this day and age fat/bbw is accepted in this type of world. If you don't like it move on and don't look at our profiles. No need for a topic on it though.

And sure loose women are paid to talk about this lol.

And who doesn't enjoy looking at milf

I meant if people don't like or have an issue with ones weight then you don't need to look at our profiles. Some of us are bbw and sexy as hell with personalities so to see a thread like this being derogatory towards people of that type is offensive. Also I'm entitled to an opinion. It's a free world !! Simples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"1. Lack of education

2. Self loathing

3. No confidence

4. Given up on himself

5. Underestimating food choices

6. Social standing

7. Food associations

8. Emotional attachments

9. How he was raised

10. Family issues

11. Medical issues

So it's not really metabolism or food choices it's everything that surrounds this. So you are asking the wrong kind of why...

There is so much going on to guess why people get this way....

It is a sad world and one we must address but not in a simplistic way of why are you fat

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By *aughtyTippcplCouple
over a year ago

Nearby

Why is it automatically thought that someone that's overweight is that way because of choice?

I'm what these days is classed as overweight. I'm am in no way choosing to be. I don't over eat or gorge myself on junk foods, I have medical issues such as spinal stenoasis and also a severely underactive thyroid. The medication I have to take for both these issues side effects are weight gain.

Can I help the shape I am? No! Do I like it? No! Does it define me as a person? No!!! Should I be judged so offhandedly for how I look? No!!! Nor should any overweight person.

Tina

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it automatically thought that someone that's overweight is that way because of choice?

Can I help the shape I am? No! Do I like it? No! Does it define me as a person? No!!! Should I be judged so offhandedly for how I look? No!!! Nor should any overweight person.

Tina

I agree. I'm not happy like this and I am getting help now. I've pcos and under active thyroid. And yes I do eat healthy. I have low chlosterol. Low blood sugar levels and still overweight. I eat little amounts. But still like this. So I've settled to just be happy in my own skin until my new doctor can help. I offered my old doctor to go private for help and she said no. Saying that she couldn't if been more than 7 stone. So she too obviously has issues with fat people too. Sad!!

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By *ord Willy McFuck-BucketMan
over a year ago

newcastle

when this gets closed I am off for a kit-kat sandwich

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By *orguyMan
over a year ago

Tuam

Will I get to eat the last pie??

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