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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So here we are again. Do you think that society has changed how it views someone's sexuallity or is it still hush hush dont talk about it. Like why should we care if someone is gay bisexual bi-curious or whatever. I believe that the most single important thing is their mentality and that they have support. Why should someone suffer for the ignorance of others non understanding of their sexuallity. After all we are human and we have compassion so we should show it more rather than turn self ignorant and judgemental because of it.

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown

Personally, I think that while societies change, everything comes full circle. Little known fact, Berlin was the gay Capital of Europe in 1920's and even started the world's first gay magazine in 1896. This was before one deluded man came along and changed that particular society

But thankfully in this day and age, I don't think anyone even bats an eyelid over whether someone is straight, gay or bi. As long as your a decent human being, that's the number one thing

Am straight myself so my views and experiences will obviously be different to someone who's gay or someone who has yet to come out...

Would love to read someone's experience of coming out on this thread though. Might make us all a little more empathetic and supportive of their situation... and that'd be a very good thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd love to agree with you, but only yesterday I saw an article about a young gaa player who killed himself because he couldn't tell people he was gay. I don't know why people need to be labelled. I am attracted to people, not gender.

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown


"I'd love to agree with you, but only yesterday I saw an article about a young gaa player who killed himself because he couldn't tell people he was gay. I don't know why people need to be labelled. I am attracted to people, not gender. "

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Exactly, if I had blindly said that it's easier for someone to come out nowadays that would have been foolish of me, so I didn't...

You can never know a person's mind until you've stepped in their shoes or at the very least listened to their story.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So here we are again. Do you think that society has changed how it views someone's sexuallity or is it still hush hush dont talk about it. Like why should we care if someone is gay bisexual bi-curious or whatever. I believe that the most single important thing is their mentality and that they have support. Why should someone suffer for the ignorance of others non understanding of their sexuallity. After all we are human and we have compassion so we should show it more rather than turn self ignorant and judgemental because of it. "

Beautiful post op. We are only responsible for our own actions. Society has made a huge leap in the last decade but we are by no means the most forward thinking nation in relation to sexuality.

Teasing Tim...I am a parent, a mother of boys and girls, a bi sexual woman who had the joy of coming out recently to family and friends...most importantly my kid's... The wave of love, understanding and respect returned to myself and Miss K was phenomenal I have to say...even from my mother in her 70's (not the most tolerant woman) but overall both in my personal life and the reactions on fab were heart warming to say the least. Generally speaking now...If a person in your life can't accept what makes you truly happy, they are not thinking of your best interests and that is their problem not yours...you can't make someone turn a corner that they are not ready to face but neither can they expect you not to walk ahead.

Madame B

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I do agree and yes labels are for tin cans and what not but not for people. We should show more understanding and compassion because we dont know what someone faces every moment of every day not being able to come out. There is no comprehension of what it really feels like living the lie because of whatever reason a family believes in or what friends may think or being outcasted by everyone that they become cut off from everyone and themselves inside. All i know is that i would never judge on sexuallity. Every single person has the sole moral right to live how they were born and we do not have the right to take that from them. I love to hear from people who came out and maybe try and understand how it was for them. I know there is a very very thin line between locked in and coming out and one way opens the door and the other closes it for good leaving only the heartache of loss.

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By *ombikerMan
over a year ago

the right side of the river

I wouldn't think there is a stigma now days, but people probably get a bit fed up with some people wanting to flaunt it in their faces.

For example a guy in your office might be gay, comes to work, does his job like everyone else etc, now if they decide to arrive in skipping around in a pair of rainbow hot pants like some panto version of what gay is and complains that they are discriminated against when asked to dress and act appropriately. That does tend to piss people off, now I know that might be a rare occurrence but I'm sure I'm not the only one that have had to endure such a site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't think there is a stigma now days, but people probably get a bit fed up with some people wanting to flaunt it in their faces.

For example a guy in your office might be gay, comes to work, does his job like everyone else etc, now if they decide to arrive in skipping around in a pair of rainbow hot pants like some panto version of what gay is and complains that they are discriminated against when asked to dress and act appropriately. That does tend to piss people off, now I know that might be a rare occurrence but I'm sure I'm not the only one that have had to endure such a site "

Why would anyone want to be a panto version of a gay person? Have you really seen someone do that where you work?

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By *ombikerMan
over a year ago

the right side of the river


"I wouldn't think there is a stigma now days, but people probably get a bit fed up with some people wanting to flaunt it in their faces.

For example a guy in your office might be gay, comes to work, does his job like everyone else etc, now if they decide to arrive in skipping around in a pair of rainbow hot pants like some panto version of what gay is and complains that they are discriminated against when asked to dress and act appropriately. That does tend to piss people off, now I know that might be a rare occurrence but I'm sure I'm not the only one that have had to endure such a site

Why would anyone want to be a panto version of a gay person? Have you really seen someone do that where you work? "

Yes

You know the car insurance advert with the builders and stutters. Well let's just say it was not a builder.

Oh just an attention seeking type.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because we as people like to label things. If it has a label we know what it means and understand it. If it doesn't then we don't understand it and we fear it.

Thankfully things have changed a lot in the past decade or 2. You won't change a lot of older people's minds now so the key is to educate younger people to the diversity of life.

Now there's not one kid I personally know who discriminates against any of sexuality or 'label'. They are so more accepting than people I would have grown up with.

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

I have a daughter who recently came out...I was fortunate enough that we have a great relationship...

I support her in her relationship no matter what the gender is. You can't help who you fall in love with or who your falling in love with.... My daughter is happy...happy daughter happy mum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest, even though I'm originally imported product, I feel I've been in Ireland long enough to notice some positive change over the years.

That being said, hailing from the Netherlands, and having enjoyed a very open, non-judgemental upbringing, I can tell you there's still plenty progress to be made.

Ultimately, everyone should be able to live life the way they want.

If you are happy and confident with yourself as a person, other people's judgemental narrow mindedness should impact you lastingly.

Respect yourself and be respectfully to others.

As a parent myself, I would say we have the responsibility to teach our children tolerance and respect from an early age, and make them feel loved, regardless of their own developing sexual identities.

I feel lucky, fortunate, that both me and my wife can talk openly with our kids about such things.

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By *ixpackCouple
over a year ago

South

I think its fashionable to appear to be accepting of peoples sexuality at present but I don't feel everyone is as ok with it as they either think they are or pretend to be.

There are plenty of examples of this in everyday life, even on this site.

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