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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I just seen a post about amount of decent guys on fab doesn't much outnumbere the ladies on fab.But my question is who decides if you're decent or not and how can you tell if you never meet or chat with those people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The fact that a small % of single guys, join up and immediately expect sex and get abusive when denied tends to tar a lot with the same brush.

Single guys are a soft target on here but in our experience a shunned female is worse....rarely gets mentioned though.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Your question is valid. Also the statement is a sheer assumption and non factual based.

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By *eltic CplCouple
over a year ago

Kildare


"I just seen a post about amount of decent guys on fab doesn't much outnumbere the ladies on fab.But my question is who decides if you're decent or not and how can you tell if you never meet or chat with those people. "

To be honest OP I would look at your profile and have no interest due to the lack of content on it, it does not make me want to chat or meet with you. There are lots of good guys on here, they take the time and effort to put together a decent profile that gives you a feel for them.

I do think decent in this instance is in relation to guys who show up, who are mannerly, polite and good fun.

Just my opinion and not fact or carved in stone.

Mrs C

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I just seen a post about amount of decent guys on fab doesn't much outnumbere the ladies on fab.But my question is who decides if you're decent or not and how can you tell if you never meet or chat with those people.

To be honest OP I would look at your profile and have no interest due to the lack of content on it, it does not make me want to chat or meet with you. There are lots of good guys on here, they take the time and effort to put together a decent profile that gives you a feel for them.

I do think decent in this instance is in relation to guys who show up, who are mannerly, polite and good fun.

Just my opinion and not fact or carved in stone.

Mrs C "
Ok so you have no interest because of my profile fair enough but that don't mean im not a decent guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The real question is the % of decent guys to decent women on fab. And let's be honest - it's an impossible question to answer.

There are some bad uns on both sides of the gender fence.

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By *eltic CplCouple
over a year ago

Kildare


"I just seen a post about amount of decent guys on fab doesn't much outnumbere the ladies on fab.But my question is who decides if you're decent or not and how can you tell if you never meet or chat with those people.

To be honest OP I would look at your profile and have no interest due to the lack of content on it, it does not make me want to chat or meet with you. There are lots of good guys on here, they take the time and effort to put together a decent profile that gives you a feel for them.

I do think decent in this instance is in relation to guys who show up, who are mannerly, polite and good fun.

Just my opinion and not fact or carved in stone.

Mrs C Ok so you have no interest because of my profile fair enough but that don't mean im not a decent guy."

Your question was how can you tell if you never meet or chat, I was just saying that to meet or chat you need to put in some effort to create an interest. I did not say you were not a decent guy. So you have a catch 22 there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I just seen a post about amount of decent guys on fab doesn't much outnumbere the ladies on fab.But my question is who decides if you're decent or not and how can you tell if you never meet or chat with those people.

To be honest OP I would look at your profile and have no interest due to the lack of content on it, it does not make me want to chat or meet with you. There are lots of good guys on here, they take the time and effort to put together a decent profile that gives you a feel for them.

I do think decent in this instance is in relation to guys who show up, who are mannerly, polite and good fun.

Just my opinion and not fact or carved in stone.

Mrs C "
Let's be honest I could spend half the day writing stuff about my self but none of it might be true.Would that make me a decent guy.

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By *eltic CplCouple
over a year ago

Kildare


"The real question is the % of decent guys to decent women on fab. And let's be honest - it's an impossible question to answer.

There are some bad uns on both sides of the gender fence. "

Totally agree, like in all things in life good and bad everywhere and again all subject to opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not saying yer a decent guy or not but basically you asking people to take leap of faith in meeting ya to find out if ya are a decent guy... That's quick a big thing to ask someone to do tbh on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with other posters on this subject, if ya wanna show people how decent a guy ya are then you have to put a little effort in, profile , M and G's , being yerself on forums etc and honestly Ireland small country your decent guy reputation will be know quickly. Be respectful would be my only advice

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am not saying yer a decent guy or not but basically you asking people to take leap of faith in meeting ya to find out if ya are a decent guy... That's quick a big thing to ask someone to do tbh on here. "
What other way is there its only word's otherwise. I could say im this or that on my profile but again its only word's nice word's don't always mean an nice person.

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By *emmaGJWoman
over a year ago

Wexford

Perhaps if you filled in a little more detail about your interests, what you're looking for etc? I'm only here for the fairer sex myself but tbh if a woman messaged me from a pretty blank profile I'd think she wasn't all that serious...just a thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree . Spent time on profile. Go to meet and greets to get to know ppl. As without is a waste of time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am not saying yer a decent guy or not but basically you asking people to take leap of faith in meeting ya to find out if ya are a decent guy... That's quick a big thing to ask someone to do tbh on here. What other way is there its only word's otherwise. I could say im this or that on my profile but again its only word's nice word's don't always mean an nice person. "

Profile is way to get people to interact with ya initially it's up to you to do rest, conversations, chats, photos , Web cam etc if ya don't put the effort in with these... IMO you can't be upset if someone doesn't want to take that chance and meet ya

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Perhaps if you filled in a little more detail about your interests, what you're looking for etc? I'm only here for the fairer sex myself but tbh if a woman messaged me from a pretty blank profile I'd think she wasn't all that serious...just a thought "
I understand what you're saying about my profile but that's by choice.But just because my profile isn't full of stuff about how brilliant a person I am don't mean im not a decent person and lots more like me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This thread was about who has the right to say your not a decent person. It's not about my profile or getting meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Perhaps if you filled in a little more detail about your interests, what you're looking for etc? I'm only here for the fairer sex myself but tbh if a woman messaged me from a pretty blank profile I'd think she wasn't all that serious...just a thought I understand what you're saying about my profile but that's by choice.But just because my profile isn't full of stuff about how brilliant a person I am don't mean im not a decent person and lots more like me."

I've been chatting to you for quite a long time now, and I believe you to be a decent and kind person. It's never been for what you've written or not on your profile, it's been for actually reaching out and starting that conversation, but as others have said, most don't interact with almost blank profiles.

I guess I'm agreeing with you, you can't judge anyone on their profile alone, you need to dig a little bit deeper.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just seen a post about amount of decent guys on fab doesn't much outnumbere the ladies on fab.But my question is who decides if you're decent or not and how can you tell if you never meet or chat with those people. "

On a personality level, you decide how decent you are.

On a looks level, different folks, different strokes. What's hot to one may not be to the next.

For me it's a package deal... Decent is personality, banter, looks, chemistry, attraction, respect, wit.

So many factors.

Madame B

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Perhaps if you filled in a little more detail about your interests, what you're looking for etc? I'm only here for the fairer sex myself but tbh if a woman messaged me from a pretty blank profile I'd think she wasn't all that serious...just a thought I understand what you're saying about my profile but that's by choice.But just because my profile isn't full of stuff about how brilliant a person I am don't mean im not a decent person and lots more like me.

I've been chatting to you for quite a long time now, and I believe you to be a decent and kind person. It's never been for what you've written or not on your profile, it's been for actually reaching out and starting that conversation, but as others have said, most don't interact with almost blank profiles.

I guess I'm agreeing with you, you can't judge anyone on their profile alone, you need to dig a little bit deeper. "
Thanks for that sally ans yes sometimes you got to dig a lot deeper to find the real person and that goes for everyone not just me.

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

What makes u a decent person ?

Personality,manners treatment of others

A profile is just an outline of the person u think u are it's not going to establish wheather ur a decent person or not. Interaction with other wheather it's online,meeting in person or going to meet and greets gives others the opportunity to make their own judgment and yes we judge.

There's lots of people here with varying outlooks on decent people one outlook may not agree with another but that's humans for u if we all thought the same we not evolve as we have over the centuries

Don't think u have to be attending meet and greets to establish this but yes u have interact positively with others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread was about who has the right to say your not a decent person. It's not about my profile or getting meets."

Everyone has right to opinions on people it's how people react to it shows what type of person they really are and I say IMO most sensible decent people will see that

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