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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

There's a kajillion threads on this, but with all the in-house nudge nudge, kink kinks, its sometimes hard to find real useful info - and as a newbie couple (married) we're trying to ensure our first experience isn't unsettling.

We're going to our first party in a fortnight and we're both looking forward to it, but she's particularly anxious. We were wondering about the married couples on this (as opposed to solos/fuck buddies) - how was your first time? Was it a huge leap? Did ye build it up/or temper expectations - and - without getting into the physical side of how it went, how was the mental/emotional side of thing after?

Please, no stream of bravado, genuinely curious how ye handled it, etiquette for first timers and, beyond the obvious oodles of communication - and secrets to making sure the first night is a positive - and not therefore the last night!!!!!! Like I said, we're both up for this, but its a huge leap for any relationship and curious what others experience was like!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The good thing about the a swinging party is the everyone there is in the same frame of mind and almost every couple there felt the same as you their first party and go out of their way to make you feel welcome and at ease. Hope you have a great night with lots more nights to follow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A private party I assume and not a meet and greet ...It's perfectly normal to be nervous and excited all at once for your first party or any party thereafter inclyding M&G's...We still get nervous but love the nervous excitement of a party even when hosting ...Have no expectations of what will or won't happen...Set your own rules boundaries before hand ..Treat it as a social night after that everything else is a bonus otherwise you will end up frustrated if you don't play..Above all else don't get d*unk to help the nerves it's never a good idea you will spoil your own night and the hosts night...Ask your host questions too they will help you feel at ease and let you know how other parties have went ..Good luck relax and enjoy it ...Jilly

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We're going to Jo&Wexs next Venue gig, that way no feeling pressurised as so many there! So our thinking goes anyway!

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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago

otherside of nowhere

Your right it is a big leap for any cpl...we were married for 20 years before we took the plunge.... But please relax you will be the same ppl the next day...joewex are a great cpl and will understand your fears...all the action is upstairs so you can keep it social if you want...also contact ppl that are going and chat....above all relax its just another social night out....really hope you enjoy.xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks , appreciate the reply

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By *evilinsidemeMan
over a year ago

Trim

I am still a newbie, the two parties I went to had me extremely nervous and the butterflies in the stomach were having a party of their own.

But it was great.

EVERYONE was so welcoming. There is no pressure (apart from what you put on yourself) to be sexual. It feels like a party with slightly more open people.

The first time I was on my own and travelled a long way, I was made to feel more comfortable by the hosts and the friendly people there.

It was fantastic, even without the sexual side. The people were friendly and polite, extremely fun and so easy to talk too.

The secound one was a surprise, I met someone who took me at the last minute.

Again everyone was great the host was fantastic and I really enjoyed the social side a lot. Many others there did to.

I would suggest, chat with the hosts, if there is a kik group ask questions to people chatting in private or in the group. They will 99% of the time be lovely.

Go enjoy it like a normal party and find out how fab a fab party can be! You'll never be able to have a first party again! But you will make friends and I'm sure be hooked. Worst case scenario, you have a drink, met some nice people and maybe, just maybe find your a fab couple after all.

By far the best way to start swinging and met people.

Happy fabbing.

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By *e r usCouple
over a year ago

derry

Just want to say welcome to fab party scene. Just want to say previous posters are right in what they say. Put no pressure on yourselves to play and set whatever boundaries you have beforehand with each other. Don't let alcohol ruin your experience and sure that you will meet some lovely people. Think sometimes that being on here more a marathon than a sprint.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cheers all, very useful info here and from a few PMs. Got a much better idea of what the Venue is like now.

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