FabSwingers.com forum: Vanilla peeps

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Soo...ive started dating (i know, shocker!) hes lovely but hes SUPER vanilla! Kinkiest think hes done is tie someone up....snooze!

Hes very interested in kink, but my question is, how do I convert him without scaring him away?

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By *ease_EMan
over a year ago

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"Soo...ive started dating (i know, shocker!) hes lovely but hes SUPER vanilla! Kinkiest think hes done is tie someone up....snooze!

Hes very interested in kink, but my question is, how do I convert him without scaring him away?

One new thing at a time.....

Then one night or weekend, the Whole Lot.

Variety, then it becomes normal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Soo...ive started dating (i know, shocker!) hes lovely but hes SUPER vanilla! Kinkiest think hes done is tie someone up....snooze!

Hes very interested in kink, but my question is, how do I convert him without scaring him away?

Take him to a meet & greet. Tell him it's a works party that you must attended. Then sit back and enjoy

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By *ean0001Man
over a year ago

Dublin West

slowly..

I'm sure he will be happy enough somehow..

Some guys are fast learners when they are with a hot woman ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We, as fabbers are supposed to be the open minded one's. He may not be remotely interested in this lifestyle. I was with a guy that knew I was Bi and into threesomes and he wasn't into it. Communication is the key here if you want things to progress. Congratulations on relationship op and hope it works out to everyone's total satisfaction;)

Madame B

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By *ombikerMan
over a year ago

the right side of the river

"Soo...ive started dating (i know, shocker!) hes lovely but hes SUPER vanilla! Kinkiest think hes done is tie someone up....snooze!

Hes very interested in kink, but my question is, how do I convert him without scaring him away?

Well I'm sure if you mentioned that you might like a fmf, he wouldent run away screaming and looking for a barge pole to poke you away with.

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By *axxyMaLeMan
over a year ago

Bray

Just go ahead and talk to him about it.

surely if you are dating him he must be smart and open minded enough to appreciate your open approach and he should be keen in meeting your needs as well

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

I'd try turning the lights on first while u go cowgirl baby steps remember

He says he's vanilla but how vanilla is he really has he looked ad skin mags,porn anything that he might have seen in a movie that he thought was hot and he'd like to try,at this early stage communication is vital and that takes trust which is built over time so take ur time to talk to him even while sitting naked in the middle of a bed post sex where he feels comfortable

Other than that give me a shout and he can sit in the corner taking notes

I am nice like that

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

He could be a lad like me that's looking for the love of his life and just wants you

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By *cilWoman
over a year ago

Wexford

One man's kinky is another man's tame. Nothing wrong with vanilla as a base flavour, just think of the fun you will have introducing all the new flavours!!

If you have already talked about him tying someone up, he probably has an idea that you like your sex to be exciting. I think he will enjoy exploring!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well if you plan on eventually introducing him to Fab and parties and all that, the longer you leave it the harder it'll be. Maybe talk about tinder and POF and different dating apps, and say you were on a dating site for kinky people. He will probably be so interested/curious he will ask you whatever he wants to know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The response would be so different if the OP was a guy

Best of luck to the OP all the same.

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"The response would be so different if the OP was a guy

Best of luck to the OP all the same. "

No i dont think so well maybe a tad

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By *ord Willy McFuck-BucketMan
over a year ago

newcastle

Yes change him immediately

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