FabSwingers.com forum: Query ? Attached / Married

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Would you hook up with someone who is married or attached ?

Maybe not even hook up would chat or consider someone attached ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me personally, no. Messing with another woman's man is not something that interests me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Me personally, no. Messing with another woman's man is not something that interests me. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have to say I prefer not to as it can be a whole load of drama... but I have and I will in the future I'd imagine. Honestly, I never ask.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm married and have met people here, I don't hide it but I can understand people not interested! It's a pretty out there site but people have there own principles and I personally respect that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have to say I prefer not to as it can be a whole load of drama... but I have and I will in the future I'd imagine. Honestly, I never ask. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would you hook up with someone who is married or attached ?

Maybe not even hook up would chat or consider someone attached ?"

Why wouldn't I talk to someone married? Or even hook up with? Their personal stuff is their personal stuff...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well it's not my relationship so it's none of my business

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well it's not my relationship so it's none of my business"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of the first meets i had when we started swinging was a bi meet with what i thought was a single guy. Meet was shit but as i was leaving i seen a picture of his wife/girlfriend. So anyway im walking out of the estate and lo and behold she walks in as im walking out.

If i left 5 mins later she would have walked in and skin and hair probably would have flew.

Never again way too close for comfort

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One of the first meets i had when we started swinging was a bi meet with what i thought was a single guy. Meet was shit but as i was leaving i seen a picture of his wife/girlfriend. So anyway im walking out of the estate and lo and behold she walks in as im walking out.

If i left 5 mins later she would have walked in and skin and hair probably would have flew.

Never again way too close for comfort

Maybe meet on neutral ground next time.

Who knows, maybe she would have joined in?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i left 5 mins later she would have walked in and skin and hair probably would have flew.

Never again way too close for comfort

Maybe meet on neutral ground next time.

Who knows, maybe she would have joined in? "

On the neutral ground i thought he was single.

And as for her joining in

You must watch way too much porn if you think that was the likely outcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Me personally, no. Messing with another woman's man is not something that interests me. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well it's not my relationship so it's none of my business

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i left 5 mins later she would have walked in and skin and hair probably would have flew.

Never again way too close for comfort

Maybe meet on neutral ground next time.

Who knows, maybe she would have joined in?

On the neutral ground i thought he was single.

And as for her joining in

You must watch way too much porn if you think that was the likely outcome

Hope dies last

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks

Some will, some won't but most of all I found out that people like honesty so they can make up their own mind!

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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago

otherside of nowhere

We don't care ...we are inclined to look after our own marriage no one else's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We don't care ...we are inclined to look after our own marriage no one else's"

..my sentiments exactly.Worrying about one is hard enough!!

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By *ilentgirlWoman
over a year ago

That place in

No I would prefer the man to be single but as part of a married couple for me be ok as they are both swinging together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No I would prefer the man to be single but as part of a married couple for me be ok as they are both swinging together "

We have met alone ourselves but only with full knowledge of what's going on at all times.

Saves so much hassle at the end of the day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a separated man I always say married , that way people don't expect a relationship to develop and I've had to change username due to one regular meet. As long as the people know the status , go for it.

No men really care as long as the pussy is on the table he'll keep eating and if he's caught, it's his problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a separated man I always say married , that way people don't expect a relationship to develop and I've had to change username due to one regular meet. As long as the people know the status , go for it.

No men really care as long as the pussy is on the table he'll keep eating and if he's caught, it's his problem "

I don't understand your logic of telling people that you're married when you're not. Why lie at all?

If you don't want a relationship, then don't have one. I can never see a need to lie, but definitely can't see why you'd need to lie in this situation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why choose to play with a married,cheating partner , while the single unattached men are constantly seeking a meet ?and in abundance.

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare

"Why choose to play with a married,cheating partner , while the single unattached men are constantly seeking a meet ?and in abundance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why choose to play with a married,cheating partner , while the single unattached men are constantly seeking a meet ?and in abundance.

Because we can choose to play with whoever we like. Same as all the single guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why choose to play with a married,cheating partner , while the single unattached men are constantly seeking a meet ?and in abundance.

Because we can choose to play with whoever we like. Same as all the single guys

Of course you can choose to meet whoever you please That question was directed at those that prefer cheating partners over single members.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why choose to play with a married,cheating partner , while the single unattached men are constantly seeking a meet ?and in abundance.

Because we can choose to play with whoever we like. Same as all the single guys

Of course you can choose to meet whoever you please That question was directed at those that prefer cheating partners over single members.

I really don't think it's a case of preferring to meet attached people or not (in most cases anyway).. you like who you like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our choice is not to meet married guys. We don't need the drama.

We met a guy once who spent half an hour in a hotel with us then had to rush off.. he looked for another meet but due to our liking of several hours of ones time we didn't entertain him..

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks

"Why choose to play with a married,cheating partner , while the single unattached men are constantly seeking a meet ?and in abundance.

Some prefer Married guys simply because the single unattached men are constantly messaging females/couples seeking a meet and are in abundance and married guys are less inclined to brag to others.

One of the biggest hassles here are single guys pretending to be females or a couple and the multitude that join, post something, then go UNLOS.

Then take the numbers of single guys that get invites to Socials etc and are too scared to show!

...and then there are the "single" guys that are married!

People decide for themselves who they do, or do not, want to meet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's none of my business if they are married or single but I have more respect for people who are honest and upfront about it

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By *agda1974Man
over a year ago

Clonmel

From the off, most folk have assumed that it's the married man that is on the site looking for a little something on the side. Just wondering why it's nearly always assumed that the married lady never plays away from home.

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By *van awfellornMan
over a year ago

belfast

"From the off, most folk have assumed that it's the married man that is on the site looking for a little something on the side. Just wondering why it's nearly always assumed that the married lady never plays away from home."

..i can reliably inform you there are quite a few married ladies on here...

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By *ommickMan
over a year ago

cork

..i can reliably inform you there are quite a few married ladies on here...

I hope so lead the way my friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

married guys wud be more discreet dosent bother us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have to say I prefer not to as it can be a whole load of drama... but I have and I will in the future I'd imagine. Honestly, I never ask. "

Can be a lot of drama alright, I tend not to ask either, if you won't like the answer don't ask the question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This subject has been flogged to death on the forums and always proves divisive.

Like another contributor said, it's a choice.

Many consider the swinging lifestyle a sharing sexual experience with a loved one, shared and trusted. Sharing that with a cheating partner may seem a contradiction.

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By *eadue stallionMan
over a year ago

Yes

Certainly has been flogged to death...

It is no wonder so many married males/females have to pretend they are single!

Then there are people, not married but living together as a couple.... Are they Single?

Married Males/Females won't disclose they are Married because of other people's attitude towards them...

Single guys put them down in order to "improve their chances"!

How many people holding Socials, Coffee Meets etc have huge numbers of no shows from Single guys??

One often sees "Invite 20 single males, 5 might show"

Some meets Married people, some don't and it is no one else's business!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not trying to railroad the thread but genuinely curious as to why SOME not all single guy's don't show up after arranging meets or to go to parties.

I do think that it is tougher on the guy's...Married or single due to ratio and attitude/behavior of some but why not show up when you do get the chance? Can single guy's enlighten me please, may seem obvious to other's but I just don't get it.

Madame B

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare

Why is it being assumed single guys let you down more than married guys?

If anything I'd say married guys on here are more prone to cancel or just be here for online kicks and not meets and also are proven liars by the very fact of them being here in the first place so will have no problem spinning people here lies

Single guys come without all that baggage in my eyes

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By *oungcouple1993xCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

We wouldn't meet a married or attached men just cause we want to stay out of trouble. Usually if the man gets caught it's the other lady who gets the shit for it. I've never been in a fight in my life and don't intend to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im single and am slightly weery about single profiles that say "no married or attatched men", so prefare to meet married myself as some people are on here for something more than sex

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks

"Why is it being assumed single guys let you down more than married guys?

Single guys come without all that baggage in my eyes"

Because there are more Single guys!

I've never cancelled with anyone, had invites to Socials, got accepted 6 weeks before Social, booked Hotel and 6 weeks later turned up at Social.

5 weeks on another!

If I say I'll meet someone on 5th Sept at 2 p.m. then I'll meet on 5th Sept at 2 p.m.!

You can try to have a pop at married guys all you want, but if I say I'll meet then I meet.... and the proof is there!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people... Regardless of relationship status are no shows for meets or parties. My first meet was with a couple who didn't show! It happens a lot according to the forums, I am curious to know that if someone doesn't turn up...Is it nerves, did a better offer rock up to them at the last minute, is it I just couldn't be bothered, is it fake profiles.

Not asking people to publicly admit they did a no show, just asking for others opinions on it.

Madame B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We wouldn't meet a married or attached men just cause we want to stay out of trouble. Usually if the man gets caught it's the other lady who gets the shit for it. I've never been in a fight in my life and don't intend to

This is exactly why I don't meet attached people.

The majority of women lash out at the other woman (who may or may not know the man is attached) and not their partner.

It's not worth the risk for me.

I couldn't care less if people on here are attached or not. But it's self preservation for me.

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks

"Some people... Regardless of relationship status are no shows for meets or parties. My first meet was with a couple who didn't show! It happens a lot according to the forums, I am curious to know that if someone doesn't turn up...Is it nerves, did a better offer rock up to them at the last minute, is it I just couldn't be bothered, is it fake profiles.

Not asking people to publicly admit they did a no show, just asking for others opinions on it.

Madame B"

Goodness knows Why, but it would be interesting to see what %age of Couples, Females and Males don't show for a Social!

Wonder what the biggest group would be!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not asking people to publicly admit they did a no show, just asking for others opinions on it.

Madame B

Goodness knows Why, but it would be interesting to see what %age of Couples, Females and Males don't show for a Social!

Wonder what the biggest group would be!

Get on to your old pal Sydney

Madame B

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks

Not asking people to publicly admit they did a no show, just asking for others opinions on it.

Madame B

Goodness knows Why, but it would be interesting to see what %age of Couples, Females and Males don't show for a Social!

Wonder what the biggest group would be!

Get on to your old pal Sydney

Madame B"

On Sydney University, Table 17(B) makes very interesting reading on the Subject!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not asking people to publicly admit they did a no show, just asking for others opinions on it.

Madame B

Goodness knows Why, but it would be interesting to see what %age of Couples, Females and Males don't show for a Social!

Wonder what the biggest group would be!

Get on to your old pal Sydney

Madame B

On Sydney University, Table 17(B) makes very interesting reading on the Subject!"

Saw that but Sub section 17(B)i says that Leitrim meets couldn't be discussed! Wonder what's going on there

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks

Not asking people to publicly admit they did a no show, just asking for others opinions on it.

Madame B

Goodness knows Why, but it would be interesting to see what %age of Couples, Females and Males don't show for a Social!

Wonder what the biggest group would be!

Get on to your old pal Sydney

Madame B

On Sydney University, Table 17(B) makes very interesting reading on the Subject!

Saw that but Sub section 17(B)i says that Leitrim meets couldn't be discussed! Wonder what's going on there

Ahhh... that was just a favour to keep Leitrim HQ secret!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not asking people to publicly admit they did a no show, just asking for others opinions on it.

Madame B

Goodness knows Why, but it would be interesting to see what %age of Couples, Females and Males don't show for a Social!

Wonder what the biggest group would be!

Get on to your old pal Sydney

Madame B

On Sydney University, Table 17(B) makes very interesting reading on the Subject!

Saw that but Sub section 17(B)i says that Leitrim meets couldn't be discussed! Wonder what's going on there

Ahhh... that was just a favour to keep Leitrim HQ secret!"

But the gps location of the phone box is included in the annual stats

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare

"Why is it being assumed single guys let you down more than married guys?

Single guys come without all that baggage in my eyes

Because there are more Single guys!

I've never cancelled with anyone, had invites to Socials, got accepted 6 weeks before Social, booked Hotel and 6 weeks later turned up at Social.

5 weeks on another!

If I say I'll meet someone on 5th Sept at 2 p.m. then I'll meet on 5th Sept at 2 p.m.!

You can try to have a pop at married guys all you want, but if I say I'll meet then I meet.... and the proof is there!!"

The only proof I see in your post is that you're a liar,like I said,unless you told your partner that you were going to it

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks

Not asking people to publicly admit they did a no show, just asking for others opinions on it.

Madame B

Goodness knows Why, but it would be interesting to see what %age of Couples, Females and Males don't show for a Social!

Wonder what the biggest group would be!

Get on to your old pal Sydney

Madame B

On Sydney University, Table 17(B) makes very interesting reading on the Subject!

Saw that but Sub section 17(B)i says that Leitrim meets couldn't be discussed! Wonder what's going on there

Ahhh... that was just a favour to keep Leitrim HQ secret!

But the gps location of the phone box is included in the annual stats"

That was while they were recording the AGM for Statistics purposes, but it is Mobile!

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