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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

4 months, £20, 600 msgs sent and 0 replies. That's me that is lmfao. I need a new TV series to watch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't worry mate it's not you i have floated off and on this site for a couple of years now and even on the forum you can see it's very clique. You might only be looking for a chat but if your not a member of the 'gang' your ignored.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meet some guys then

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for confidence boost daz

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lol dirtyfecker. Bit early for that sort of carry on.. But I'll keep it in mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rubbish!

There are more people who don't use the forums than do!

Both your profiles will attract a certain kind of woman so especially with the Fab logistics you've already limited your chances

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By *inkywife1981Couple
over a year ago

A town near you

Mr here.

Guys will have much better luck in clubs n bars due to the m/f ratio on here, it's very easy to meet girls when out

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm going out! Thanks kinkywife

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give it time lol

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By *oftgentle123Man
over a year ago

Letterkenny

Judging by your profile there was a lot of those mails wasted. Cant imagine there was 600 ladies into what you are. Narrow your search on the searches and pick the soecific ladies that do what you want. Cant imagine you will have many mails to send

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By *limboy69Man
over a year ago

Cork


"Don't worry mate it's not you i have floated off and on this site for a couple of years now and even on the forum you can see it's very clique. You might only be looking for a chat but if your not a member of the 'gang' your ignored. "
completely agree with you. ..I have been saying it for ages there is an exclusive "Clique " on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't worry mate it's not you i have floated off and on this site for a couple of years now and even on the forum you can see it's very clique. You might only be looking for a chat but if your not a member of the 'gang' your ignored. completely agree with you. ..I have been saying it for ages there is an exclusive "Clique " on fab"
Especially on the forums the clique take over. if you don't stand up to them they will try to bully and intimidate You.

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By *ord Willy McFuck-BucketMan
over a year ago

newcastle

Never found a clique on the forums , probably because I am too lazy to look but it is only used by a very small minority of the members but just the ratio of men to women means you really have to stand out if you are going to be successful. That's why I go to the pub and people can see me being a headcase in person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never found a clique on the forums , probably because I am too lazy to look but it is only used by a very small minority of the members but just the ratio of men to women means you really have to stand out if you are going to be successful. That's why I go to the pub and people can see me being a headcase in person"
The clique is always there sometimes they ignore you sometimes they tell others to ignore you.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Op you might be better off on a fetish website as it is very specific what you're looking for.

Also profiles with no avatar/public pictures are rarely looked at and considered when making the initial contact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

600 messages and not 1 reply I find that hard to fathom when I first started it took me a while But never looked back. Self entitlement is not a nice trait if you were in s bar u wouldn't go from girl to girl 600 times if refused you surely would evaluate your look and technique.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op you are a submissive male in an existing relationship. Right there you have cut out a large number of women in any situation. You are always going to be a minority interest in any situation.

There's nothing wrong with that. At least you know what your interests are and if you find a woman into your interests it will be good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First, the forums only represent a very small faction of the site. They are a place to chat. If you whine you get mocked. This thread has gone better than the usual ones.

I know it seems cliquey here but it shouldn't be surprising. These folks have all met each other. Maybe had sex and good times together. It's not reasonable for people to have a good time, maybe become friends and then ignore all that in the name of "Internet fairness"

Secondly, you have a fet profile. How much traction do you get there with that? Similar number of messages I'm sure. Similar number of replies.

You are looking for a dominant woman. The ratio of men to women on this site is at least 100:1 AND 1000:1 is the ratio of dominant women to non dominant in a population. You are competing with so many men for such a small target on a site that doesn't attract a lot of the particular women you are interested in.

Now. Potential fixes.

Most important thing is to make your profile look good. You don't need lots of photos. You don't need lots of cock pics. Show yourself off. You need to attract interest so be a little bit different.

Broaden your aim. Looking for a strapon wearing domina who will beat the living shit out of you while you are forced to suck some guys cock ... that is a touch ambitious. You will scare away the vanilla women, intimidate the ones who might be interested in a little power play and turn off the aforementioned domina because it is your fantasy not hers. Bdsm is about connections and dynamics. hard to find on a swinging website where there is less emphasis put on deep bonds.

Get social. Get to a meet and greet. Find a newbie meet. Or go to nimhneach or a rope class or something kink related and you will find people there who are on this site and boom. You get a real verification. then you are on your way

Happiness isn't found on a website, it's found with other people

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


" I know it seems cliquey here but it shouldn't be surprising. These folks have all met each other. Maybe had sex and good times together. It's not reasonable for people to have a good time, maybe become friends and then ignore all that in the name of "Internet fairness" "

Just to put that right: No, not everyone on the forum has met each other! I don't know any of the regular forum posters in person and I know that many other posters don't either. Yes there's peeps that know each other from parties and m&gs and nothing wrong with it. However to assume that everyone does know each other on here is complete nonsense.

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By *osmicGateMan
over a year ago

louth


"4 months, £20, 600 msgs sent and 0 replies. That's me that is lmfao. I need a new TV series to watch "

Whats the 20 quid for? Site supporter?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I know it seems cliquey here but it shouldn't be surprising. These folks have all met each other. Maybe had sex and good times together. It's not reasonable for people to have a good time, maybe become friends and then ignore all that in the name of "Internet fairness"

Just to put that right: No, not everyone on the forum has met each other! I don't know any of the regular forum posters in person and I know that many other posters don't either. Yes there's peeps that know each other from parties and m&gs and nothing wrong with it. However to assume that everyone does know each other on here is complete nonsense. "
I agree. I took that as obvious.

The forums are not one big clique or even two sides despite what some people want. It's like every Internet forum in have been on. When you feel like you are on the outside then the forum is full of cliques you can't get into. Once you get used to it you realise that it's not.

People who think about issues the same way are going to talk about them issues the same therefore to an outsider they are one clique. I got lumped into the big feminist clique by one moron because I believe in equality despite being in a male led D/s relationship.

Some people will use anything to blame the lack of success in here rather than accept responsibility for it themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People that share a sense of humour will always gravitate towards each other --

Some folks take this place way too seriously!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your not alone as the worst fabber ever...im probley up there with you but on the positive ive had great chats many a laugh along the way and relise the world is full of lovely people with the odd ball trown in......dont take ittoo seriuos just run with it....hey you will be lucky....

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin

I heart you Mr arrows. You say exactly what I want to say, just with more patience and eloquence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I heart you Mr arrows. You say exactly what I want to say, just with more patience and eloquence."

I heart you too Mr mingo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I heart you Mr arrows. You say exactly what I want to say, just with more patience and eloquence.

I heart you too Mr mingo"

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By *heoldhippyMan
over a year ago

Midleton


"4 months, £20, 600 msgs sent and 0 replies. That's me that is lmfao. I need a new TV series to watch "

Maybe you need to re-write your profile. Sometimes there can be to much detail which results in limited options. Also at least try to get photo verified.

You'd swear that I was inundated with offers but I prefer to think there has been quality rather than quantity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"4 months, £20, 600 msgs sent and 0 replies. That's me that is lmfao. I need a new TV series to watch "

I can't believe you didn't even get one reply back come on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never found a clique on the forums , "

Should have gone to specsavers lmfao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I heart you Mr arrows. You say exactly what I want to say, just with more patience and eloquence.

I heart you too Mr mingo"

Get a room boy's

Madame B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I heart you Mr arrows. You say exactly what I want to say, just with more patience and eloquence.

I heart you too Mr mingo

Get a room boy's

Madame B"

Total bromance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm just curious how did he limited his chances I say to him your snd just stay here until u find some who is interested in u your talking rubbish yes I knw I'm not verified here now but I was years back wen there was no special group and every1 meet up an no time wasters either and stop talking shit just because u have more experience then him on here you just need to losing up that it not given out just having a rant lol??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"4 months, £20, 600 msgs sent and 0 replies. That's me that is lmfao. I need a new TV series to watch "

You have no public pics up

Youd have been better off pissing that 20 quid down a drain

Hopeless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm just curious how did he limited his chances I say to him your snd just stay here until u find some who is interested in u your talking rubbish yes I knw I'm not verified here now but I was years back wen there was no special group and every1 meet up an no time wasters either and stop talking shit just because u have more experience then him on here you just need to losing up that it not given out just having a rant lol??"

I actually dont even know what you're saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can vouch for that . It's very hard to meet women on here.. bar your brad Pitt or you have a toned fit body you have a chance...I mean here I am , tall good looking, funny genuine and still it's hard to talk to women on Fab...

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By *xpandmyhorizonsMan
over a year ago

Co. Antrim

Yes it can be a bit disheartening when someone you have liked the look of and took the time to message doesn't reply. But look at it from the other side, if you didn't fancy someone would you want to meet them, etc?

Some ladies on here get bombarded with messages, I know that from females who I am very good friends with that have been on here and have shown me their inbox!

Keep the chin up and just be respectful, the right ladies will come along

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Super advice mate... you sound like a decent bloke . Thanks

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By *ortadowncplCouple
over a year ago

Portadown

For what you are asking it's going to be difficult, not only are you wanting to be bissed on you can't accom so you want to be pissed on at someone else's house!

Try some "regular" meets forst then once you have met a few people and have some friends here build up to where you want to be. Good luck bud!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you focus on the negative, you will attract the negative. Choose to see things differently and things will be different.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"4 months, £20, 600 msgs sent and 0 replies. That's me that is lmfao. I need a new TV series to watch

I can't believe you didn't even get one reply back come on "

True story

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all the great advice fabbers. Notes have been taken

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By *van awfellornMan
over a year ago

belfast

..have no idea why someone would do something voluntarily that doesnt benefit any other person,when they clearly dont enjoy it.

If it is shit...leave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"..have no idea why someone would do something voluntarily that doesnt benefit any other person,when they clearly dont enjoy it.

If it is shit...leave"

Or persevere til it does work

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By *ir1967Man
over a year ago

in da sticks, london, amsterdam, madrid

600 messages? Gosh you got a lot of spare time. But as many stated before, no avatar pics doesn't help. Attendance to social M&G does. Make yourself known and appealing. I rarely send messages to any female profile as first way to make acquaintances, never mind anything else. Most of my acquaintances I have met before mailing. But in all fairness, I do not have the need to operate clandestine, which I can imagine is a big turn off for many you aim for.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

The "clique" u talk about I'd say are people who have met at meet and greets and tend to stick together/back one another up on the forums

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary


"600 messages? Gosh you got a lot of spare time. But as many stated before, no avatar pics doesn't help. Attendance to social M&G does. Make yourself known and appealing. I rarely send messages to any female profile as first way to make acquaintances, never mind anything else. Most of my acquaintances I have met before mailing. But in all fairness, I do not have the need to operate clandestine, which I can imagine is a big turn off for many you aim for. "
see alot of people have no interest in attending meet and greets and parties on here. At the end of the day it's just about giving somebody a chance.

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By *ir1967Man
over a year ago

in da sticks, london, amsterdam, madrid


"600 messages? Gosh you got a lot of spare time. But as many stated before, no avatar pics doesn't help. Attendance to social M&G does. Make yourself known and appealing. I rarely send messages to any female profile as first way to make acquaintances, never mind anything else. Most of my acquaintances I have met before mailing. But in all fairness, I do not have the need to operate clandestine, which I can imagine is a big turn off for many you aim for. see alot of people have no interest in attending meet and greets and parties on here. At the end of the day it's just about giving somebody a chance. "

Why would you bother to give someone a chance who is entirely incognito? The purpose of this site and life style is to chill and have fun. Some anonymous mailing wouldn't really get us out of the door. But each to his own

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary


"600 messages? Gosh you got a lot of spare time. But as many stated before, no avatar pics doesn't help. Attendance to social M&G does. Make yourself known and appealing. I rarely send messages to any female profile as first way to make acquaintances, never mind anything else. Most of my acquaintances I have met before mailing. But in all fairness, I do not have the need to operate clandestine, which I can imagine is a big turn off for many you aim for. see alot of people have no interest in attending meet and greets and parties on here. At the end of the day it's just about giving somebody a chance.

Why would you bother to give someone a chance who is entirely incognito? The purpose of this site and life style is to chill and have fun. Some anonymous mailing wouldn't really get us out of the door. But each to his own "
Simple answer to that. Alot are quick to jump to conclusions about someone through a screen. Bottom line is until u meet somebody you really don't know

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By *ysteryman2009Man
over a year ago

Ireland

If you send out 600 CV,S and got no replies then you would have to change your CV, Same rules should apply with your messages. Take stock and reinvent yourself.

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks


"4 months, £20, 600 msgs sent and 0 replies. That's me that is lmfao. I need a new TV series to watch

Whats the 20 quid for? Site supporter?"

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Paste!

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By *ir1967Man
over a year ago

in da sticks, london, amsterdam, madrid


"600 messages? Gosh you got a lot of spare time. But as many stated before, no avatar pics doesn't help. Attendance to social M&G does. Make yourself known and appealing. I rarely send messages to any female profile as first way to make acquaintances, never mind anything else. Most of my acquaintances I have met before mailing. But in all fairness, I do not have the need to operate clandestine, which I can imagine is a big turn off for many you aim for. see alot of people have no interest in attending meet and greets and parties on here. At the end of the day it's just about giving somebody a chance.

Why would you bother to give someone a chance who is entirely incognito? The purpose of this site and life style is to chill and have fun. Some anonymous mailing wouldn't really get us out of the door. But each to his own Simple answer to that. Alot are quick to jump to conclusions about someone through a screen. Bottom line is until u meet somebody you really don't know "

Agreed to last sentence, that is why we prefer to prowl on socials

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you think you got it bad Op...move to America... it's a sausage party here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you think you got it bad Op...move to America... it's a sausage party here "

Dude you live in NYC and have tinder...don't complain

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