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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Not the football kind...

Do you ever think someone is out of your league?

Why is it? Does it just come down to a confidence thing?

Just curious...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No never....close thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, all the time.

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

No one is ever out of your league hold your head up n your as good as everyone else .ladies stop putting yourself down .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No never....close thread

You're just a hussy for a hot chocolate

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes, all the time.

Can you pinpoint why?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No one is ever out of your league hold your head up n your as good as everyone else .ladies stop putting yourself down ."

Ah I'm just wondering is all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just walk up and start talking shite to anybody and if I don't get a fook off within ten secs I'm in there lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, all the time.

Can you pinpoint why? "

It's definitely a confidence thing and fear of rejection for me.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

"Not the football kind...

Do you ever think someone is out of your league?

Why is it? Does it just come down to a confidence thing?

Just curious...

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most Deffo. The line is often used if u don't try you won't know but sometimes u just think nah I'll leave it be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No never....close thread

You're just a hussy for a hot chocolate

Says yer wan!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, all the time.

Can you pinpoint why?

It's definitely a confidence thing and fear of rejection for me. "

Me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Never.

Call me arrogant but I know what I bring to the table/ bed / floor / others.

I only go after gentlemen I want and know will "fit" me ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, all the time.

Can you pinpoint why?

It's definitely a confidence thing and fear of rejection for me.

Me too"
Totally agree with both of the ladies definetly the fear of rejection

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

"No. Never.

Call me arrogant but I know what I bring to the table/ bed / floor / others.

I only go after gentlemen I want and know will "fit" me ..

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make sure his cock Is a tight squeeze

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By *lo1 slo2Couple
over a year ago

newry

Yes we've constantly thought it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time

but I've also met men way out of my league, I suppose it all depends how confident you are feeling at that exact time, as it can change constantly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fear of rejection is a big thing for me. It held me back when I was a kid. But I'm not going to let it hold me back now.

What is the worst thing that can happen. They say no. The world won't end. You won't die. Or be marked. The only thing that will happen is they miss out on a wonderful experience. It is their loss

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway

Yup, even after they've mailed...silly but sure that's the way things are.

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By *jb_1980Man
over a year ago

limerick

It's a rejection fear....simple as.

Confidence comes with age too.

If I ever don't get a date or meet I say it's them that are missing out.....their loss.

Chin up hun.

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By *ommickMan
over a year ago

cork

"Fear of rejection is a big thing for me. It held me back when I was a kid. But I'm not going to let it hold me back now.

What is the worst thing that can happen. They say no. The world won't end. You won't die. Or be marked. The only thing that will happen is they miss out on a wonderful experience. It is their loss"

Well said

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By *lo1 slo2Couple
over a year ago

newry

"Yes we've constantly thought it "

Its women that I really like but there way out of my league and I can't find the courage to say it. I'm small and plump and shy off course my Hubby disagrees but I can't seem to find the confidence to ask. I have no issues being confident with men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep all the time

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Its a fecking bollix

(or not as the case may be).

Away from the fab world, I was chatted up by a guy I would personally consider out of my league. I had to even ask my friend was he chatting me up because I couldn't get my head around it

Just wish I had been a bit more confident about it and gone for it.

How can you build confidence though? Or is it a fake it till you make it kinda thing?

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By *ombikerMan
over a year ago

the right side of the river

Nope

Life is too short

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its a fecking bollix

(or not as the case may be).

Away from the fab world, I was chatted up by a guy I would personally consider out of my league. I had to even ask my friend was he chatting me up because I couldn't get my head around it

Just wish I had been a bit more confident about it and gone for it.

How can you build confidence though? Or is it a fake it till you make it kinda thing?

You are you.

You are gorgeous. Sexy. A real woman.

Any man would be lucky to get with you.

Smile. Walk with your hear held high. You are one of a kind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its a fecking bollix

(or not as the case may be).

Away from the fab world, I was chatted up by a guy I would personally consider out of my league. I had to even ask my friend was he chatting me up because I couldn't get my head around it

Just wish I had been a bit more confident about it and gone for it.

How can you build confidence though? Or is it a fake it till you make it kinda thing?

You are you.

You are gorgeous. Sexy. A real woman.

Any man would be lucky to get with you.

Smile. Walk with your hear held high. You are one of a kind.

*head

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Never, there's no such thing as leagues. Who defines them? They only exist in our heads if any. Who tells you that he/she doesn't find you attractive or that you're in lower league than yourself while actually he/she could think completely different?

Also I admit rejection isn't a nice thing to experience but on here so what? It's just NSA fun and you can just move on to the next one. No big deal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never, there's no such thing as leagues. Who defines them? They only exist in our heads if any. Who tells you that he/she doesn't find you attractive or that you're in lower league than yourself while actually he/she could think completely different?

Also I admit rejection isn't a nice thing to experience but on here so what? It's just NSA fun and you can just move on to the next one. No big deal. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its a fecking bollix

(or not as the case may be).

Away from the fab world, I was chatted up by a guy I would personally consider out of my league. I had to even ask my friend was he chatting me up because I couldn't get my head around it

Just wish I had been a bit more confident about it and gone for it.

How can you build confidence though? Or is it a fake it till you make it kinda thing?

yes. People don't know what you feel inside. Project confidence and they will see it.

Plus realise that there is no leagues. Only attraction. I'm sure that you have often felt attraction to people who are not in your league. Your subconscious doesn't know about leagues. Just go with the flow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've turned 2 lads down cos they were way out of my league

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in a league of my own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ay and DeborahCouple
over a year ago

Co. Down

Yep.....and dont find as I get older I get more confident...the opposite actually..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All of the time and after been stood up 6 times by guys on here beginning to wonder wtf

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

Yep.....even the ones I meet I still think they could do better

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

There maybe degrees of physical attractiveness, but it is subjective, and that only goes so far. Ultimately we cannot control what it is that people find attractive about us. Again subjective and variable.

You miss every shot you don't take. In a way you're rejecting yourself first. Rejection can sting a little but hey its worth the risk. Confidence in yourself is everything. You rock what you got essentially. Its something that diminishes with age, that fear of rejection. It isn't enough stop me from trying.

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By *elfastDMan
over a year ago

belfast

I think you're way out of my league Busty!

Just in case you fancy a lower league sometime

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By *ust4fun555Man
over a year ago

city centre

When I was younger I used assume some girls were way out of my league and would be too shy to even try chatting them up.

As I got older and managed to stammer some kind of hello, I still pigeoned holed some girls as out of my league or stuck up snobby biatches.

However, I have managed to get over myself now and reject any sort of league mentality. If a lady is into you and you her, enjoy it, nothing more.

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By *ease_EMan
over a year ago

DDD12

"Yes, all the time.

Can you pinpoint why?

It's definitely a confidence thing and fear of rejection for me.

Me too"

Me Three.

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By *ease_EMan
over a year ago

DDD12

"I'm in a league of my own

And I'm another league below...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dam I only clicked in thinking this was about football lol

Yes I think that all the time it is a confidence thing definitely but it's also the way people treat yourself to make you think like that too I think

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By *evilinsidemeMan
over a year ago

Trim

I feel most are out of my league, always surprise to get replies online as even with the pic I take I still dont feel online I put myself across as well as I do at a social or a party.

Plus I'm not anyone's first choice in the looks department, it's just the way it is. So I use being fun to make a large chunk of my sex appeal and that works. Unfortunately online in text, it's a lot harder to do so.

It's always a boost when someone I think is out my league at least has a chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Leagues???? Sex appeal and charisma is what it's all about not looks, body shape or status.

Great sense of humour and confidence is what rocks my boat. Intelligent wit combined with charisma wow

Madame B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have never come across anyone out of our league... plenty of stuck up twats though

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

Nope nobody is out of my league however i do look at some peeps and think "Na too much like hard work there"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kinda yes.. I do think Im out of some people league.. but not like call it in that words. I prefer say Im defo not them cup of tea/not girl they would fancy! And no its not cause my confidence is low..cause its not! Just we all have preferences!

There is times I risk and send msg first and last time I did.. Im still happy I did

What can worst happen?! Person can just say no..

You never know until you try;)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do think so. I class people. I don't think I'm ugly, but I don't think I'm a stunner either. I'm probably ok looking. So if I see someone that's a stunner I think they are out of my league. But I don't think my wife is out of my league and I'm punching about my weight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to think that before when low on confidence but now I say f**k it what ya got to lose... if I like to meet someone then I will say it (wink mails etc), the worst that can happen is they say no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a realist and know mrs kinky is well out of my league.....all the same we are in love and have been for some time now,I guess what matters is how you see it and then what you do about it,I mean I knew herself was 10 out of 10 when we met but sure I went for it anyways

and look how its turning out luckily for me lol

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

Frequently....

However if I didn't know how to cope in some way with rejection I'd not be here long as us single guys get it here a lot.

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By *addy36Man
over a year ago

Mayo

Yes always

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By *ean0001Man
over a year ago

Dublin West

"Frequently....

However if I didn't know how to cope in some way with rejection I'd not be here long as us single guys get it here a lot. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes definitely

I would be insecure about my looks

But I make up for it with other talents

But on site like this it's always looks that start the ball rolling

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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago

otherside of nowhere

No....we are attracted or not to ppl for many reasons not just the obvious.. And ppl that think the same are the ones we go for...but sometimes it nice to pull a young hot toned guy ..just for the craic lol...mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. And I don't need to tell myself that it's their loss if someone is not attracted to me either.

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