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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have seen a few comments suggesting people get pissed off at others for sleeping with this person and that person. What have peoples experiences been like with this, are there many people on this who think just because you played with them they have some right over whoever else you meet?

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Personally, I've not experienced it. But I've heard of it going on.

Ironic considering this is a swinging site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a lot of this crap unfortunately

I try to avoid at all costs

Jealousy is not a nice trait

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unsurprisingly, there are lots of insecure egos here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally, I've not experienced it. But I've heard of it going on.

Ironic considering this is a swinging site.

"

I have experienced it a lot first hand but lol I'm same it's a swing site so what's ur problem

Found some good ladies tho that do like to share and I'm loving the fun we are having

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally, I've not experienced it. But I've heard of it going on.

Ironic considering this is a swinging site.

I have experienced it a lot first hand but lol I'm same it's a swing site so what's ur problem

Found some good ladies tho that do like to share and I'm loving the fun we are having "

id love to be shared

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By *oughandCurvyCouple
over a year ago

galway

Yeah it happens for sure, far too much jealousy here considering it's a swing site. I know I'll get shite for saying it but alot of the drama comes from the singles but not all of them mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah it happens for sure, far too much jealousy here considering it's a swing site. I know I'll get shite for saying it but alot of the drama comes from the singles but not all of them mind."

Single women in my experience

Though I have played with couples and then seen the same possessiveness with them too, but not so often

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By *ingerrrrWoman
over a year ago

Meath

Some people are drama magnets..

Some aren't..

I like to keep my head down, do my own thing and keep it to myself..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had people judge me for the people who I have met cause they had history! Ridiculous if ya ask me....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Complete turn off.

Definitely the wrong site to be on if you have that attitude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally, I've not experienced it. But I've heard of it going on.

Ironic considering this is a swinging site.

I have experienced it a lot first hand but lol I'm same it's a swing site so what's ur problem

Found some good ladies tho that do like to share and I'm loving the fun we are having

id love to be shared "

Ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its a bit like the forums when you have banter with somebody and you soon find out who they are friendly with by the sniping remarks for no reason.. Or when people's egos are knocked and others are told not to talk to you etc. Naaaa that doesn't happen on here at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jealousy

Possessiveness

Real life emotions get mixed up with sex and not wanting to share the person you have amazing sex with

Unfortunately it happens

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By *exyDownUnderWoman
over a year ago

Westmeath

Never come across it myself.

It's a sex site .... shouldn't happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never come across it myself.

It's a sex site .... shouldn't happen "

Now shouldn't happen but it does

Insecure people

People who get their feelings tangled in with the sex

It's natural

It's human nature after all

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

You'd think being a swingers site there would be minimal levels of it but I guess for some you cannot take human emotion out of it. Even the social dynamic of the site is very clear to see with various cliques!

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By *iktikiCouple
over a year ago

cork

There's nowt queerer than folk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally, I've not experienced it. But I've heard of it going on.

Ironic considering this is a swinging site.

I have experienced it a lot first hand but lol I'm same it's a swing site so what's ur problem

Found some good ladies tho that do like to share and I'm loving the fun we are having

id love to be shared

Ha ha"

fancy discussing this alone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stay away from the fruitloops

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stay away from the fruitloops"

you're mine, all mine i tell you mwahahahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whilst yes this is a swingers site and we are free to do what we like alot use that to behave shitty. Just because we are swingers doesn't mean that meets can be arranged them dropped at the last minute, cos something better came along ....followed by but we are swingers.

There is a lady local to me who is notorious for going through veri lists and picking off those she likes, bad mouths you to them and then claims them as hers. All the local women hate her guts but all she does is quote 'but we are swingers my lovelies'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How could any men be swayed from you my god girl you've some body

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stay away from the fruitloops

you're mine, all mine i tell you mwahahahaha"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jealously of meets on a swingers site?

The irony and ridiculousness of it all.

If you can't stand the heat- Get out of the kitchen ( or bedroom for that matter!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How could any men be swayed from you my god girl you've some body "

Oh I'm only into the ladies so she leaves me alone lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How could any men be swayed from you my god girl you've some body

Oh I'm only into the ladies so she leaves me alone lol."

Gets better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stay away from the fruitloops

you're mine, all mine i tell you mwahahahaha"

Look me in the eyes and say that Geordie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stay away from the fruitloops

you're mine, all mine i tell you mwahahahaha

Look me in the eyes and say that Geordie"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stay away from the fruitloops

you're mine, all mine i tell you mwahahahaha

Look me in the eyes and say that Geordie

"
Christ what did I do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Possessiveness and jealousy are unhealthy in any relationship, be it a casual hook-up or a something much more long-term.

Trust is paramout over anything in any form of relationship and a big part of that is learning to respect the needs and wishes of the person (or persons) in the mix.

Possessiveness (the non consensual kind) is a really negative trait in anybody.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

don't want to meet people that shag the whole site !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

According to the lads veris on Fab they would be doing well to manage it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Possessivness and jealousy are human nature and people can find it difficult to switch it off in the swinging world.

I've had people (and I mean guys) get jealous that I've met this person or that person and not them. It's very unattractive to me. I do what I like when I like and with whom I like. I only answer to one person and he's the only one who needs to know what I'm doing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Possessivness and jealousy are human nature and people can find it difficult to switch it off in the swinging world.

I've had people (and I mean guys) get jealous that I've met this person or that person and not them. It's very unattractive to me. I do what I like when I like and with whom I like. I only answer to one person and he's the only one who needs to know what I'm doing. "

See where you're coming from entirely. Maybe I'm thinking more "excessive" possessiveness and jealousy. There's a natural element to both but when that overrides mutual respect it crosses boundaries and effects people poorly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Possessivness and jealousy are human nature and people can find it difficult to switch it off in the swinging world.

I've had people (and I mean guys) get jealous that I've met this person or that person and not them. It's very unattractive to me. I do what I like when I like and with whom I like. I only answer to one person and he's the only one who needs to know what I'm doing.

See where you're coming from entirely. Maybe I'm thinking more "excessive" possessiveness and jealousy. There's a natural element to both but when that overrides mutual respect it crosses boundaries and effects people poorly. "

The excessive thing has happened to me here. I would prefer to meet the same people, ones I click with and have the most fun with. But when I have they've gotten jealous when I've met someone new. They've never disrespected me but they've known what they were getting into at the beginning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Possessivness and jealousy are human nature and people can find it difficult to switch it off in the swinging world.

I've had people (and I mean guys) get jealous that I've met this person or that person and not them. It's very unattractive to me. I do what I like when I like and with whom I like. I only answer to one person and he's the only one who needs to know what I'm doing.

See where you're coming from entirely. Maybe I'm thinking more "excessive" possessiveness and jealousy. There's a natural element to both but when that overrides mutual respect it crosses boundaries and effects people poorly.

The excessive thing has happened to me here. I would prefer to meet the same people, ones I click with and have the most fun with. But when I have they've gotten jealous when I've met someone new. They've never disrespected me but they've known what they were getting into at the beginning. "

You mean you are seeing someone behind my back....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Possessivness and jealousy are human nature and people can find it difficult to switch it off in the swinging world.

I've had people (and I mean guys) get jealous that I've met this person or that person and not them. It's very unattractive to me. I do what I like when I like and with whom I like. I only answer to one person and he's the only one who needs to know what I'm doing.

See where you're coming from entirely. Maybe I'm thinking more "excessive" possessiveness and jealousy. There's a natural element to both but when that overrides mutual respect it crosses boundaries and effects people poorly.

The excessive thing has happened to me here. I would prefer to meet the same people, ones I click with and have the most fun with. But when I have they've gotten jealous when I've met someone new. They've never disrespected me but they've known what they were getting into at the beginning. "

Exactly. People know what they're getting themselves into from the beginning and if they're not sure they really seek clarification. It's only fair on the other people, and indeed them in the long run

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Possessivness and jealousy are human nature and people can find it difficult to switch it off in the swinging world.

I've had people (and I mean guys) get jealous that I've met this person or that person and not them. It's very unattractive to me. I do what I like when I like and with whom I like. I only answer to one person and he's the only one who needs to know what I'm doing.

See where you're coming from entirely. Maybe I'm thinking more "excessive" possessiveness and jealousy. There's a natural element to both but when that overrides mutual respect it crosses boundaries and effects people poorly.

The excessive thing has happened to me here. I would prefer to meet the same people, ones I click with and have the most fun with. But when I have they've gotten jealous when I've met someone new. They've never disrespected me but they've known what they were getting into at the beginning.

You mean you are seeing someone behind my back...."

You know you're my no 1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have unfortunately experienced this side of fab, and in its extreme form becomes stalking. Now, I will distance myself on the first sign of controlling or possessive traits. I have found once they realise their behaviour will impact future meets, they try and backtrack. A mask always falls. Fab for me is fun with likeminded people. I am not here to annoy anyone so if my meets annoy you, probably best to go have fun with someone else

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By *addy36Man
over a year ago

Mayo

Jazus I hate it when they start fighting over me, I'm a lover not a fighter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ignore and steer clear of it. Not much else you can do really with that kinda drama.

Majority of members know this is for no strings meets, others believe it's some kinda let's fall in love dot com site. Or I've fucked and verified you so jump to my tune and I'm gonna stick my nose in about who you should or shouldn't meet.

When you keep hearing the same names being mentioned for bat shit crazy behaviour you do begin to wonder are they really in a good place to be on here in the first place.

You learn quite quickly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have seen a few comments suggesting people get pissed off at others for sleeping with this person and that person. What have peoples experiences been like with this, are there many people on this who think just because you played with them they have some right over whoever else you meet?"

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Possessivness and jealousy are human nature and people can find it difficult to switch it off in the swinging world.

I've had people (and I mean guys) get jealous that I've met this person or that person and not them. It's very unattractive to me. I do what I like when I like and with whom I like. I only answer to one person and he's the only one who needs to know what I'm doing.

See where you're coming from entirely. Maybe I'm thinking more "excessive" possessiveness and jealousy. There's a natural element to both but when that overrides mutual respect it crosses boundaries and effects people poorly.

The excessive thing has happened to me here. I would prefer to meet the same people, ones I click with and have the most fun with. But when I have they've gotten jealous when I've met someone new. They've never disrespected me but they've known what they were getting into at the beginning.

You mean you are seeing someone behind my back....

You know you're my no 1 "

That's okay then! I'm not possessive thou I swear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jealousy and possessiveness have no place on a swing site, we're all adults, most of us are very aware of our various needs and desires. Let's keep it fun and simple, people

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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago

otherside of nowhere

Less chance when your a cpl meeting cpls I think....

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