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By *herry_bombshell OP   Woman
over a year ago

northside

How do you out the messers? A phone call? Viber messages till you feel comfy? Message verifications for confirmation? Granted there's always a few that slip past you but how do you do your sussing?

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

Gardai clearance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get them to write my username on peice of paper and take selfie usually works!

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare

I stalk them for a bit. Then I out those that appear odd

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Intuition

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would read their profile and read their verifications too, (I'd never contact their verifications) but i would check if I had met or knew any of them, we all know the well known and respected fab users male, female and couples, so if they had a verification from someone like that, or if the people who had verified them had verifications like that, I'd be more than happy meeting them, as we would of already chatted and swapped pics, more than likely moved on to KiK or another similar instant messaging app.

As a single male, with filters up, I very rarely come across time wasters and fakes

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By *herry_bombshell OP   Woman
over a year ago

northside

Intuition is good but some sneaky buggers out there. I've a few key questions I ask (nothing too personal) that usually gets them to reveal themselves.

Nothing I hate more than. A sneak or a liar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First clue they are a messer will be profile over a year old and nothing written in it no pics no verifications bad spelling and or just a cock pic avatar with discreet and cannot accom . Just bin without reading

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also anything along the lines of ... What will you do to me when me meet are you ever in Cavan/cork / Sligo will be a total messer too fact !

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By *rishcouple12Couple
over a year ago

Cork County

content of their messages or profile is a big indicator for us...if someone isn't willing to make any effort in either we tend not to make effort with them..

factor other things into it aswell... been verified and time on site etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Forum posts are a great filter

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By *herry_bombshell OP   Woman
over a year ago

northside

My latest is being aware of deleted messages/pics or the popular photo bomb thing (ugh). Sure indication of hiding something and not just being discreet.

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By *ublincouple80Couple
over a year ago

brisbane

We get messages from girls who just joined fab... but they're usually the fakers

So we aim for at least photo verified, some pictures up, and a kik to contact them on. Can't stand the messages we get from couples who don't even read our profile and just send a Copy and Paste messages or "howz uz" messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big dicks. And the ability to use full stops.

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By *rishcouple12Couple
over a year ago

Cork County


"My latest is being aware of deleted messages/pics or the popular photo bomb thing (ugh). Sure indication of hiding something and not just being discreet."

deleted messages? sorry don't understand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My latest is being aware of deleted messages/pics or the popular photo bomb thing (ugh). Sure indication of hiding something and not just being discreet.

deleted messages? sorry don't understand "

If you send them a message on fab and they delete it immediately after reading, there's a good chance they are keeping their fab activity a secret from someone close....

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By *herry_bombshell OP   Woman
over a year ago

northside


"My latest is being aware of deleted messages/pics or the popular photo bomb thing (ugh). Sure indication of hiding something and not just being discreet.

deleted messages? sorry don't understand

If you send them a message on fab and they delete it immediately after reading, there's a good chance they are keeping their fab activity a secret from someone close...."

True. And it wouldn't really be an issue but for me....I'm only after single men or couples and the amt of married/attached men that mail me and are dishonest about it is why I've gotten a better vetting process than in the past

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Using my brain and gut feeling has worked so far

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By *rdinaryladMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"My latest is being aware of deleted messages/pics or the popular photo bomb thing (ugh). Sure indication of hiding something and not just being discreet.

deleted messages? sorry don't understand

If you send them a message on fab and they delete it immediately after reading, there's a good chance they are keeping their fab activity a secret from someone close...."

I'm not sure I get this point. Surely if someone is being deceptive no one else has access to the account, so what does it matter if messages are kept/ deleted. Are we talking about one member of a couples profile or something?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My latest is being aware of deleted messages/pics or the popular photo bomb thing (ugh). Sure indication of hiding something and not just being discreet.

deleted messages? sorry don't understand

If you send them a message on fab and they delete it immediately after reading, there's a good chance they are keeping their fab activity a secret from someone close...."

I do that all the time and its purely to clear out my inbox nothing to do with having anything to hide . Op I usually chat on kik and exchange pics etc that way and will usually have a coffee first if possible, also if a facepic looks too good to be real a reverse search on Google is always a handy tool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My latest is being aware of deleted messages/pics or the popular photo bomb thing (ugh). Sure indication of hiding something and not just being discreet.

deleted messages? sorry don't understand

If you send them a message on fab and they delete it immediately after reading, there's a good chance they are keeping their fab activity a secret from someone close....

I'm not sure I get this point. Surely if someone is being deceptive no one else has access to the account, so what does it matter if messages are kept/ deleted. Are we talking about one member of a couples profile or something?"

If you close the screen and don't log out and someone looks at your phone they'll have access to the account. We're talking about someone whose partner has no knowledge that they are here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A PPS number usually helps

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"My latest is being aware of deleted messages/pics or the popular photo bomb thing (ugh). Sure indication of hiding something and not just being discreet.

deleted messages? sorry don't understand

If you send them a message on fab and they delete it immediately after reading, there's a good chance they are keeping their fab activity a secret from someone close....

True. And it wouldn't really be an issue but for me....I'm only after single men or couples and the amt of married/attached men that mail me and are dishonest about it is why I've gotten a better vetting process than in the past"

I'd say you're better off taking a relaxed approach about it and they actually will reveal themselves rather than you making wild speculations about deleting messages and them trying to hide it as they know from your profile that you've an issue with it.

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By *rdinaryladMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"My latest is being aware of deleted messages/pics or the popular photo bomb thing (ugh). Sure indication of hiding something and not just being discreet.

deleted messages? sorry don't understand

If you send them a message on fab and they delete it immediately after reading, there's a good chance they are keeping their fab activity a secret from someone close....

I'm not sure I get this point. Surely if someone is being deceptive no one else has access to the account, so what does it matter if messages are kept/ deleted. Are we talking about one member of a couples profile or something?

If you close the screen and don't log out and someone looks at your phone they'll have access to the account. We're talking about someone whose partner has no knowledge that they are here."

Deleting the messages in your inbox in that instance will only soften the blow

You've just been found to have an account on a swingers site

I'd often delete messages after I read them, I'm a site supporter so I can see the history of the conversation by holding the last message or on the next incoming one. I'm not sure that's a mechanism I'd use personally to out the messers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

You've just been found to have an account on a swingers site

"

And without the messages they were "only looking"

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

Well I've chatted to a few ladies n next thing there gone n I even had phone numbers . So phone numbers don't help

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By *rdinaryladMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"

You've just been found to have an account on a swingers site

And without the messages they were "only looking" "

No one would buy that.

They have a hot list, friends list etc....

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By *herry_bombshell OP   Woman
over a year ago

northside


"My latest is being aware of deleted messages/pics or the popular photo bomb thing (ugh). Sure indication of hiding something and not just being discreet.

deleted messages? sorry don't understand

If you send them a message on fab and they delete it immediately after reading, there's a good chance they are keeping their fab activity a secret from someone close....

I'm not sure I get this point. Surely if someone is being deceptive no one else has access to the account, so what does it matter if messages are kept/ deleted. Are we talking about one member of a couples profile or something?"

The point is not all fabbers are after a quick ride. They may want to feel safe with the partner they choose for the evening. They may want to make sure the person their chatting or will meet is the type they're after (single,age,body type ,ect). So there are things they look for to ensure their evening/potential meeting goes as planned with few negative surprises. That is what the post is about and that's the point. Hope that answers your question.

Also. Not everyone's vetting process is full proof so I was asking ppl if they would like to share some of theirs

xxx.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

You've just been found to have an account on a swingers site

And without the messages they were "only looking"

No one would buy that.

They have a hot list, friends list etc...."

Some people are remarkably gullible.

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By *rdinaryladMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"

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Hope that answers your question.

Also. Not everyone's vetting process is full proof so I was asking ppl if they would like to share some of theirs

xxx."

It does and thanks OP. Great thread btw.

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By *rdinaryladMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"...

Some people are remarkably gullible."

It would certainly seem so , cheers.

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By *ust4fun555Man
over a year ago

city centre

It does make it harder for the genuine cheaters on here though...

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By *herry_bombshell OP   Woman
over a year ago

northside


"

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Hope that answers your question.

Also. Not everyone's vetting process is full proof so I was asking ppl if they would like to share some of theirs

xxx.

It does and thanks OP. Great thread btw."

Thanks. Was just curious about other ppls process. That being said some have no vetting process and jump in with both feet and that's OK too. What works for one may not for someone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My latest is being aware of deleted messages/pics or the popular photo bomb thing (ugh). Sure indication of hiding something and not just being discreet."

I use photo bomb all the time and I'm not hiding anything!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

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Hope that answers your question.

Also. Not everyone's vetting process is full proof so I was asking ppl if they would like to share some of theirs

xxx.

It does and thanks OP. Great thread btw.

Thanks. Was just curious about other ppls process. That being said some have no vetting process and jump in with both feet and that's OK too. What works for one may not for someone else."

Tbh id say I'm still finding out something new everyday, we learn from our mistakes . Only the other day I was exchanging pics and when he sent a face pic I searched it and it turns out he's a model all over the internet said gentleman is very well verified and when I messaged him asking about his "fame" he just deleted message , he was site verified and meet verified and was still using fake pic so I'm being alot more cautious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My latest is being aware of deleted messages/pics or the popular photo bomb thing (ugh). Sure indication of hiding something and not just being discreet.

I use photo bomb all the time and I'm not hiding anything! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes your just dealing with Messer's and fakes.

Even after exchanging pics/ messaging on Kik and you finally arrange to meet!socially.

You get stood up!

It's a chicken and egg scenario

You need to get verified, but people who are already verified will rarely meet you.

I know,I know- there are some decent verified folk on FAB, who give newbies a break. But let's be honest they are very few.

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By *ean0001Man
over a year ago

Dublin West

I always assume the worst untill i know better.

The old 6th sense comes in handy. No expectations = no disapointments.

Am happy to take my time. The ones that are comfortable taking it slow usually have turned out to be the best.

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

i round you a few and make them fight to the death gladiator style.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Paid membership and verified by someone I know or someone who knows someone I know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been tempted to mail previous verifications but never have done. I guess one person's trash can be another person's treasure. So I prefer to make my own mind up.

Recent veris,recent pics,ability to have to chats and bants about non-fab related stuff too. Exchange a few pics, someone easy going that doesn't hound for a meet. Most of all I go on my gut instinct.

I've never met a non verified guy though. Maybe that should be on my list for the new year.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask them to pull there trousers down and bend over

Scares most messers off !!

But like everyone verries ... Forum and socials. Iv certainly made mistakes and learnt from them.

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By *herry_bombshell OP   Woman
over a year ago

northside


"I've been tempted to mail previous verifications but never have done. I guess one person's trash can be another person's treasure. So I prefer to make my own mind up.

Recent veris,recent pics,ability to have to chats and bants about non-fab related stuff too. Exchange a few pics, someone easy going that doesn't hound for a meet. Most of all I go on my gut instinct.

I've never met a non verified guy though. Maybe that should be on my list for the new year. "

I don't think I've ever mailed someone asking to confirm a verification but I always check the verifications on a man's page THEN I go to his meets and read what he wrote about the meet. If he speaks of her/the couple respectfully it's a plus. If he's crass rude and obnoxious giving his verification I take a miss.

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By *alwaygirlpWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"My latest is being aware of deleted messages/pics or the popular photo bomb thing (ugh). Sure indication of hiding something and not just being discreet.

deleted messages? sorry don't understand

If you send them a message on fab and they delete it immediately after reading, there's a good chance they are keeping their fab activity a secret from someone close...."

I usually read a message, reply and then delete so I can keep my inbox tidy. Definitely not hiding anything from anyone. I do see how this might be the case though.

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By *irtypair00Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

We find that once you ask them for a social meet for coffee they just go quiet and respond a few days after

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Big dicks. And the ability to use full stops. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My latest is being aware of deleted messages/pics or the popular photo bomb thing (ugh). Sure indication of hiding something and not just being discreet.

deleted messages? sorry don't understand

If you send them a message on fab and they delete it immediately after reading, there's a good chance they are keeping their fab activity a secret from someone close....

True. And it wouldn't really be an issue but for me....I'm only after single men or couples and the amt of married/attached men that mail me and are dishonest about it is why I've gotten a better vetting process than in the past"

I think that is the case at all

What cheating person shares their fab account with their partner?! It's just a sign that they get a lot of messages and want to keep their inbox free

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meet and greets are great for making friends , parties and clubs too . You can chat to people and you know the people there are genuine .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great stuff. I'm a 3 month old noob,need to find one of those respected ones to have a coffee with by the sounds of things. Ps. I've a big cock, full stop...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Conversation. It's works for me offline so why change a winning formula.

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By *apt blackMan
over a year ago

Lurgan

Phone numbers soon sorts the wheat from the chaff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But what about people who aren't interested in meet and greets and parties?

Where does that leave them, I wonder??

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By *illy2Couple
over a year ago

birr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was going to suggest take two bricks sneak up behind and slam bricks together but make sure you don't get your fingers caught between the bricks....

Not sure if thats the right sort of vetting....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ha ha fuck it I just agree to meet and do everyone lol The if there time wasters I don't miss out to much lol

No but serious. If someone is willing to take live pics and chat then I'm willing to take a chance. Lol never been stood up yet thank fook lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Conversation. It's works for me offline so why change a winning formula.

"

Most people reveal more of themselves than they realise in conversation .

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By *herry_bombshell OP   Woman
over a year ago

northside


"Conversation. It's works for me offline so why change a winning formula.

Most people reveal more of themselves than they realise in conversation ."

Very true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Intuition is my only vetting technique. I'm not a huge fan of endless chit chat so I like to organise a meet as soon as possible. I've met with many unverified guys and couples that people afterwards have actually told me they thought they were fake. I have maybe had 2 or 3 bad meets and been cancelled on (never stood up) a handful of times so I consider myself one of the lucky ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ha ha fuck it I just agree to meet and do everyone lol The if there time wasters I don't miss out to much lol

No but serious. If someone is willing to take live pics and chat then I'm willing to take a chance. Lol never been stood up yet thank fook lol "

Nobody in their right mind, would not turn up for a meet with you Ms cox

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But what about people who aren't interested in meet and greets and parties?

Where does that leave them, I wonder??"

Cinema?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Big dicks. And the ability to use full stops. "

'And' would have functioned as a comma in that sentence. There was no need for the first full stop.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Big dicks. And the ability to use full stops.

'And' would have functioned as a comma in that sentence. There was no need for the first full stop. "

This grammatical knowledge is a turn on right!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Filters.

Be specific about what you want.

Set ground rules.

Move it on to kik.

Ask for face pics. Recent ones not from 1 million years ago. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Conversation. It's works for me offline so why change a winning formula.

Most people reveal more of themselves than they realise in conversation ."

Exactly. Far better than using anything else.

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By *arebear1000Woman
over a year ago

galway


"My latest is being aware of deleted messages/pics or the popular photo bomb thing (ugh). Sure indication of hiding something and not just being discreet.

deleted messages? sorry don't understand

If you send them a message on fab and they delete it immediately after reading, there's a good chance they are keeping their fab activity a secret from someone close....

I do that all the time and its purely to clear out my inbox nothing to do with having anything to hide . Op I usually chat on kik and exchange pics etc that way and will usually have a coffee first if possible, also if a facepic looks too good to be real a reverse search on Google is always a handy tool "
I did this.. was txtin a guy for a bit.. he was so nice.. everything I was lookin for on here..txtin kik but I had a feeling...he jus seemed to good to be true.. So I googled him, and got absolutely nothing... I said it to him.. haven't heard from him since.. and his blocked me..

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