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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If someone tells you they genuinely like you, do you ever believe it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone tells you they genuinely like you, do you ever believe it? "

Usually not

Years of being told whoppers has made me very wary & I was born cynical

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends. If its on here yeah, in real life I'd say no if you hear shit been spouted by people. Judge the compliment with facts about that person

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By *imeoutaloneMan
over a year ago

Dublin to Westmeath


"If someone tells you they genuinely like you, do you ever believe it? "

Had this on a few occasions here and elsewhere. But when I need to then become a ghost hunter to find them again...I become a little cynical

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On fab I find it very hard to believe that someone likes me, I think they are just after what they can get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone tells me they genuinely like me then I'll let you know.

But more seriously, yes I would. Realistically I'm a guy so the chances of someone lying and telling me they genuinely like me just to get into my boxers is pretty slim.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, never.

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By *xplicitlyricsMan
over a year ago

south dublin

Think it depends on the context really. Do they mean like you as a person? Then yeah if youve talked a bit then yeah I could see it. Theres some people Ive seen on the forums a lot or chatted to that seem like good people and equally some Id steer clear of based on their personality but theres never any harm in being wary and taking anything said with a pinch of salt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bottom line on fab is we are all here for the same thing...how people choose to approach it speaks volumes. I personally would rather that they crack jokes than blow steam up my ass (not a fab kink)

People can be excited at the prospect of meeting you but personally how can you truly like someone before meeting them.

NSA requires chemistry not a commitment. If I had a good time hanging out with them, that is what I will tell them not that I like them personally, I think these two get a bit confused sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We never ever believe it. We've met too many people who start out all sugar and spice but quickly change once they get the end result.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get put off with statements expressing fondness and likebility tbh when they haven't met me or chatted to me much. Now, once I have met a person or chatted for a long time, and they say similar statement, I'll accept it

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By *lowlearnerMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Oh my Girls....

I suppose the cynicism has been earned but isn't it a little sad too....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope :-/. Horrible way to think though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone tells you they genuinely like you, do you ever believe it? "

I like both of you

Sorry couldnt resist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes they are only human

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once I overhead a couple saying they really like me, made me feel more at ease in their company, but generally won't believe it on fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On fab no and it's served me well

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

Some one here tells me they like me I know they are only saying it to get in my boxers in the real world I ask them are they feeling alright

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On fab? Take everything with a shit load of salt.

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

If I've never met them or only briefly met them then no. Have met some wonderful people on here that have become very good friends. Have also met some that would stab you in the back just as quick. Fab isn't real life.....so as someone said you take everything with a pinch of salt till you've been proved wrong by that person telling you they like you

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"If I've never met them or only briefly met them then no. Have met some wonderful people on here that have become very good friends. Have also met some that would stab you in the back just as quick. Fab isn't real life.....so as someone said you take everything with a pinch of salt till you've been proved wrong by that person telling you they like you "

I like u

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends. If it's someone from here I'd be less likely to believe them just because I assume men spew bullshit to get their leg over. In saying that if chatting for a while then it's only natural to like someone eventually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone tells you they genuinely like you, do you ever believe it? "

In the beginning yes I believed in people being genuine, unfortunately I'm all grown up now and I don't!

Apart from a odd few!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate to admit it but I think this place has made me a bit cynical! I like to see the good in people but fabland has a weird way of turning nice people into not so nice people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hate to admit it but I think this place has made me a bit cynical! I like to see the good in people but fabland has a weird way of turning nice people into not so nice people "

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast


"If I've never met them or only briefly met them then no. Have met some wonderful people on here that have become very good friends. Have also met some that would stab you in the back just as quick. Fab isn't real life.....so as someone said you take everything with a pinch of salt till you've been proved wrong by that person telling you they like you

I like u "

Really?? It doesn't show. Maybe you need to try harder

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast


"I hate to admit it but I think this place has made me a bit cynical! I like to see the good in people but fabland has a weird way of turning nice people into not so nice people "

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By *ean0001Man
over a year ago

Dublin West

To be honest this thread has made me a bit sad.

While i understand what people are saying it still makes me a little sad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

^ Agreed, this has been a depressing read.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I hate to admit it but I think this place has made me a bit cynical! I like to see the good in people but fabland has a weird way of turning nice people into not so nice people "

This is the thing, when I meet someone in "the real world", I won't give them a chance really because I'm just assuming they're out for one thing. Sometimes I'm sorry I ever discovered Fab . I just wonder would I be more trusting if I wasn't on here.

Then sometimes you meet someone on here and they will get under your skin no matter how hard you try to ignore it.You're damned if you do and damned if you don't I guess or maybe I just am because I can't let down the walls

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hate to admit it but I think this place has made me a bit cynical! I like to see the good in people but fabland has a weird way of turning nice people into not so nice people

This is the thing, when I meet someone in "the real world", I won't give them a chance really because I'm just assuming they're out for one thing. Sometimes I'm sorry I ever discovered Fab . I just wonder would I be more trusting if I wasn't on here.

Then sometimes you meet someone on here and they will get under your skin no matter how hard you try to ignore it.You're damned if you do and damned if you don't I guess or maybe I just am because I can't let down the walls "

I totally get what your saying and I've struggled with this exact thing a lot recently. I'm afraid I don't have an answer though bar taking a break which is what I intend to do over the Xmas and just concentrate on real life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with Lolli about taking a break. It does the mind good I was offline for just one week and it was quite relaxing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree with Lolli about taking a break. It does the mind good I was offline for just one week and it was quite relaxing! "

Yep even a wk can make a huge difference, just get out of the madness and give your head some peace

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We ought to believe them, when they like what you let them see!

What makes me cynical is what I see on people's profiles! That is what I take with a pinch of salt!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree with Lolli about taking a break. It does the mind good I was offline for just one week and it was quite relaxing!

Yep even a wk can make a huge difference, just get out of the madness and give your head some peace "

Exactly. Gives some perspective. You can get sucked into the drama etc. When offline you realise how insignificant it all is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op I love to get under that skin him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It depends. If it's someone from here I'd be less likely to believe them just because I assume men spew bullshit to get their leg over. In saying that if chatting for a while then it's only natural to like someone eventually "
this lady knows what she's talking about I happen to talk shite very well I'll have you know

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"If I've never met them or only briefly met them then no. Have met some wonderful people on here that have become very good friends. Have also met some that would stab you in the back just as quick. Fab isn't real life.....so as someone said you take everything with a pinch of salt till you've been proved wrong by that person telling you they like you

I like u

Really?? It doesn't show. Maybe you need to try harder "

Harder deeper faster

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I hate to admit it but I think this place has made me a bit cynical! I like to see the good in people but fabland has a weird way of turning nice people into not so nice people

This is the thing, when I meet someone in "the real world", I won't give them a chance really because I'm just assuming they're out for one thing. Sometimes I'm sorry I ever discovered Fab . I just wonder would I be more trusting if I wasn't on here.

Then sometimes you meet someone on here and they will get under your skin no matter how hard you try to ignore it.You're damned if you do and damned if you don't I guess or maybe I just am because I can't let down the walls

I totally get what your saying and I've struggled with this exact thing a lot recently. I'm afraid I don't have an answer though bar taking a break which is what I intend to do over the Xmas and just concentrate on real life "

It's so addictive though, half the time I'm just going to go on Facebook for a nose and type Fa....... next thing I know I'm here.

Yeah, I've been thinking about having a break myself. So maybe now is a good time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hate to admit it but I think this place has made me a bit cynical! I like to see the good in people but fabland has a weird way of turning nice people into not so nice people

This is the thing, when I meet someone in "the real world", I won't give them a chance really because I'm just assuming they're out for one thing. Sometimes I'm sorry I ever discovered Fab . I just wonder would I be more trusting if I wasn't on here.

Then sometimes you meet someone on here and they will get under your skin no matter how hard you try to ignore it.You're damned if you do and damned if you don't I guess or maybe I just am because I can't let down the walls

I totally get what your saying and I've struggled with this exact thing a lot recently. I'm afraid I don't have an answer though bar taking a break which is what I intend to do over the Xmas and just concentrate on real life

It's so addictive though, half the time I'm just going to go on Facebook for a nose and type Fa....... next thing I know I'm here.

Yeah, I've been thinking about having a break myself. So maybe now is a good time."

If PMing side of things that gets to you, you could hide your profile for a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been cynical has its qualities. And this site obviously gives reason to be cynical. Best not to over think it. But by been cynical, it keeps you aware of dangers outside and makes you more aware of been safe,also makes you not raise your hopes too high, but in regard to what happens on Fab, don't let it creep into your normal life. If it is, take 3 weeks of and engage in social interaction and forget it for a while. Been cynical is just a sign of truths you've seen, but they aren't truths linked to every person. Feel better folks xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't. Cause it's true. I'm pretty hot

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By *rdinaryladMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"To be honest this thread has made me a bit sad.

While i understand what people are saying it still makes me a little sad. "

This...

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

I'm long enough on this planet to distinguish between flattery and honest compliments/feelings. I've made some good friends on here who cherish my company and the other way around but I still though take it as it is NSA and that's where I keep it.

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By *upoftea2Man
over a year ago

Dublin

Sure Irish people can't take a compliment at all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I don't believe half the crap I read.lads will tell ya owt to get in yer drawers and prob send same message to every other girl on here.there is obviously gona be odd sound one though.not branding all lads the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I don't believe half the crap I read.lads will tell ya owt to get in yer drawers and prob send same message to every other girl on here.there is obviously gona be odd sound one though.not branding all lads the same"

I dont BS in messages, rather be honest as can be, and see what happens, no point beefing someone up, just for the ride, thats lame

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin

There are people on this thread, and fab in general that I genuinely like.

I can understand the cynicism though, disappointing as it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are people on this thread, and fab in general that I genuinely like.

I can understand the cynicism though, disappointing as it is."

You mean us right......ahem

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"There are people on this thread, and fab in general that I genuinely like.

I can understand the cynicism though, disappointing as it is.

You mean us right......ahem "

Of course, you're definitely on the list.

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By *xplicitlyricsMan
over a year ago

south dublin

Looking at the thread theres a definite difference between the guys and the girls opinions. I guess guys dont have girls messaging them telling them whatever to get a meet whereas girls do. Shows how different an experience something like this is for each side and how some rotten apples spoil it for others.

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