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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So we were discussing having a MMF last night but have found an awful lot of ejit single males on here in the past has put us off, so filters are down for a bit now....prove us wrong,her type = fit with a nice face and someone whos not a gobshite lol over confident and up thier own arse need not apply as its a turn off to be honest,my requirements are that your respectful and realize your not alpha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not sure you will attract anyone with a post lik this to be honest , telling men they are not alpha types doesnt usually go down well , why not come right out and say your looking for a fella whos a sub and will let your fella have his arse while you humiliate and or dominate him , cos that sounds more up your street

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

Op you forgot to reiterate that they need to be bi as per your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"not sure you will attract anyone with a post lik this to be honest , telling men they are not alpha types doesnt usually go down well , why not come right out and say your looking for a fella whos a sub and will let your fella have his arse while you humiliate and or dominate him , cos that sounds more up your street "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't have to be like the wild where one guy pisses around everything that is his.

In my experience of mmf once the 2 guys respect each other and the lady good times happen.

In the bi sense if you are a top no point having another top there same if you are a bottom no point having the lady knackered from using her strap on

My preference and sorts out all hassle is just tie the lady to a chair so she can watch while the two guys have their fun. Don't know why people think I'm greedy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"not sure you will attract anyone with a post lik this to be honest , telling men they are not alpha types doesnt usually go down well , why not come right out and say your looking for a fella whos a sub and will let your fella have his arse while you humiliate and or dominate him , cos that sounds more up your street "

We are not looking for bi play tho...otherwise wed have said we were,and any lads who dont realize they are not the alpha with us dont interest us so its no loss on us really if they dont like that... Infact its better as there is no confusion then

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Op you forgot to reiterate that they need to be bi as per your profile. "

They dont need to be bi tho as per our profile

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By *avysbackyetagainMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Hey guys im well verified met few couples for mmf im straight read my veris and mail me if yiu wish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well your looking for a needle in a haystack then cos 99.9 % of fellas here are here for themslves ! their own pleasure and telling them they are not alpha is the equivalent of throwing a rattle out of the proverbial pram .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Doesn't have to be like the wild where one guy pisses around everything that is his.

In my experience of mmf once the 2 guys respect each other and the lady good times happen.

In the bi sense if you are a top no point having another top there same if you are a bottom no point having the lady knackered from using her strap on

My preference and sorts out all hassle is just tie the lady to a chair so she can watch while the two guys have their fun. Don't know why people think I'm greedy "

LMAO that sounds like alot of fun tbh we were thinking of something similar except her strapped to the bed and the two guys have their wicked way with herself for our 1st mmf tho we weren't thinking of bi play,and i guess what i mean by the other guy not being alpha is that he understands and has respect for our boundaries...sounds like a given, unfortunately past has proved we need to point it out

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"well your looking for a needle in a haystack then cos 99.9 % of fellas here are here for themslves ! their own pleasure and telling them they are not alpha is the equivalent of throwing a rattle out of the proverbial pram . "

I guess we should just take any lad thats offering then lol .... We know what we are looking for thanks and it doesn't bother us if lads aren't happy at not being alpha male (which looking at our inbox seems to suggest otherwise) like if they dont understand that then we are not interested anyway ya know ,we have our own terms and conditions so to speak and wont compromise at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The majority of men who contacted us were nice and respectful. Perhaps it's my poor perspective but very few if any were alpha males or pretended to be alpha males.

Most people are n ot tops o r bottoms. They are both, depending on the personality of the people they are with.

I disagree with the generalisation of men on the site that is being put forward on this thread.

There are pests, yes. But the majority are just people looking to connect with others. men are rewarded in life for being tenacious and persistent. Here they are lumped together and mocked. I often tell men on here to walk in a woman's shoes for a moment and consider what she has to put up with.

Now I would ask the women contributing to this thread to walk in a man's shoe. If they sit back and wait what will happen? They will never be contacted. Would any of you join a site to be ignored ? Or how about mocked and emasculated as a sex in general? Would any woman stay for that?

The reason the forum is dying a slow death is because there is a general lack of respect from both sexes ... In my humble opinion

Mr A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And excuse any generalisations I made

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

@ thearrows

On the tops and bottoms bit. I have found a few versatile guys but predominately they are one or the other.

I'm bottom exclusive will never ever top I'm afraid if I top I might be gay

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The majority of men who contacted us were nice and respectful. Perhaps it's my poor perspective but very few if any were alpha males or pretended to be alpha males.

Most people are n ot tops o r bottoms. They are both, depending on the personality of the people they are with.

I disagree with the generalisation of men on the site that is being put forward on this thread.

There are pests, yes. But the majority are just people looking to connect with others. men are rewarded in life for being tenacious and persistent. Here they are lumped together and mocked. I often tell men on here to walk in a woman's shoes for a moment and consider what she has to put up with.

Now I would ask the women contributing to this thread to walk in a man's shoe. If they sit back and wait what will happen? They will never be contacted. Would any of you join a site to be ignored ? Or how about mocked and emasculated as a sex in general? Would any woman stay for that?

The reason the forum is dying a slow death is because there is a general lack of respect from both sexes ... In my humble opinion

Mr A"

Tbh theres no generalisation going on here.... Simply our own view based on previous experiences there are of course nice guys genuine guys wankers stalkers etc id say out of all our conversations with single men Safely i could say its been 35/40% wankbags with no respect,which as you know as a couple or anyone for that matter is 100% unacceptable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

436% of people believe statistics are exaggerated

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin


"Op you forgot to reiterate that they need to be bi as per your profile.

They dont need to be bi tho as per our profile "

Well your profile says this....

Looking for bi males (no straight guys) bi females and bi couples.

......You may need to change your wording if that's not true as I spotted that weeks ago and never contacted as a result and I'm sure many others are the same .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mr arow if that comment was aimed at me, i will say this much , the vast majority of men on here have neither respect not manners twords women , and that is my perspective and opinion . I would like to say otherwise, but perhaps a couples perspective is diffrent due to the fact that the majority of disrespecting muppets on here wont mail couples in case the man breaks their jaw .

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By *iamo69Man
over a year ago

South

Dont settle for anything less than you want and be sure the person is right before hand..meet and greet etc...this place full of assholes..ive seen it first hand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"mr arow if that comment was aimed at me, i will say this much , the vast majority of men on here have neither respect not manners twords women , and that is my perspective and opinion . I would like to say otherwise, but perhaps a couples perspective is diffrent due to the fact that the majority of disrespecting muppets on here wont mail couples in case the man breaks their jaw ."

I'd be 95% in agreement with you there Ava so many absolute trolls and assholes around.

I just let juicy deal with them though

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Op you forgot to reiterate that they need to be bi as per your profile.

They dont need to be bi tho as per our profile

Well your profile says this....

Looking for bi males (no straight guys) bi females and bi couples.

......You may need to change your wording if that's not true as I spotted that weeks ago and never contacted as a result and I'm sure many others are the same ....."

needs to be updated then lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Dont settle for anything less than you want and be sure the person is right before hand..meet and greet etc...this place full of assholes..ive seen it first hand"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"436% of people believe statistics are exaggerated "

436% no less lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"436% of people believe statistics are exaggerated

436% no less lol "

That's probably the same number of messages you've received since you started this thread,

Mines lost in there somewhere

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

There is a lot of messers on here but u will know before u meet them . If ur looking for two guys to tag team u , u would need two friends who know each other cos they need to b relaxed being naked together . Wish u d best of luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"mr arow if that comment was aimed at me, i will say this much , the vast majority of men on here have neither respect not manners twords women , and that is my perspective and opinion . I would like to say otherwise, but perhaps a couples perspective is diffrent due to the fact that the majority of disrespecting muppets on here wont mail couples in case the man breaks their jaw ."

Firstly I said both sexes need more respect.

Second, my wife is capable of breaking any jaws she wants all by herself.

I have often said I would not like to be a woman on this site. It must be like Andy duphraine crawling through that pipe, so much crap to crawl through. I have 2 daughters and I'm raising them to be card carrying feminists. But part of feminism is respecting everyone.

The same advice applies for women that applies for men. If you want to be respected you need to show respect first. And if they don't show you respect after then you know they are not worth the effort

In the battle of the sexes no one wins

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

I've always wanted to explore being domed bye a dominant lady but I'm straight n u think ur probably to far away

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

Ur right mr arrow I don't know how d ladies put up with some of d idiots on here it's bad enough what guys get but what my lady friend gets sometimes it's horrible .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"436% of people believe statistics are exaggerated

436% no less lol

That's probably the same number of messages you've received since you started this thread,

Mines lost in there somewhere "

not far off lol

Its not lost

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

Well it's looks like every guy on fab messaged u then , wish u good luck in finding d right guys

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well it's looks like every guy on fab messaged u then , wish u good luck in finding d right guys "

Ill be letting herself sift thru them all when shes home

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

Hope u get to enjoy urself , im looking forward to giving my lady friend one on Monday . Good luck

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

Well im looking forward to giving my lady friend an mmf on Monday , it's her birthday pressy wish u good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Filters staying up for another hour.... Alot of lads for herself to look thru and chat to lol alot of respectful msgs too which is assuring

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By *ilbearniMan
over a year ago

peninsula


"The majority of men who contacted us were nice and respectful. Perhaps it's my poor perspective but very few if any were alpha males or pretended to be alpha males.

Most people are n ot tops o r bottoms. They are both, depending on the personality of the people they are with.

I disagree with the generalisation of men on the site that is being put forward on this thread.

There are pests, yes. But the majority are just people looking to connect with others. men are rewarded in life for being tenacious and persistent. Here they are lumped together and mocked. I often tell men on here to walk in a woman's shoes for a moment and consider what she has to put up with.

Now I would ask the women contributing to this thread to walk in a man's shoe. If they sit back and wait what will happen? They will never be contacted. Would any of you join a site to be ignored ? Or how about mocked and emasculated as a sex in general? Would any woman stay for that?

The reason the forum is dying a slow death is because there is a general lack of respect from both sexes ... In my humble opinion

Mr A"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Although my gorgeously sexy filthy better half started this thread with great intentions.. his straight forward no bullshit sort of attitude might have offended some in his choice of previous wording!! It'll take a ladies touch to portray our way of thinking! So gentlemen apologies for any generalisations

Jules X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well your looking for a needle in a haystack then cos 99.9 % of fellas here are here for themslves ! their own pleasure and telling them they are not alpha is the equivalent of throwing a rattle out of the proverbial pram . "

Firstly I think you must be meeting the wrong "fellas"...

I've had some exceptional meets from men! Gasp!!!

To embark on such a percentage...it's ridiculous!!

Also getting the hubby to take his arse!

Really..??

And you think men are nasty towards women, that comment to me that's pretty disrespectful to the majority of the genuine sound guys here

And finally I joined as a couple with my now exhusband, lots of guys assumed it was the husband they were talking to and lots were very disrespectful, mailing saying things like oh I'd fuck/lick/piss/ride/bust her ass...bla bla bla....but I'm able to break jaws myself!

I still am.....

Thankfully....

I don't get disrespectful mails from men the occasional ones I have are blocked!!

I'm a country girl.....

I've been on many haystacks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Although my gorgeously sexy filthy better half started this thread with great intentions.. his straight forward no bullshit sort of attitude might have offended some in his choice of previous wording!! It'll take a ladies touch to portray our way of thinking! So gentlemen apologies for any generalisations

Jules X"

Your husbands approach is spot on. 99% of guys who label themselves alphas simply aren't, they are normally just guys with massive self-esteem issues. Best avoided for obvious reasons.

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By *oandWexCouple
over a year ago

arklow

From hosting parties i can say there are a lot of messers but there are also a lot of genuine nice guys.

Our advice would be to trust ur gut from the initial message, maybe check their verifications and arrange a social meet first to check if there is chemistry and set the boundaries. Hopefully u can then post a thread about the wonderful experience u had

Xxxx

J&V

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By *lik UrgeeMan
over a year ago

mallow

Can't you build up a kinda rapport over mails back and forth for as long or short a time as ye feel comfortable!? Establish boundaries and what ye both want to get out of the mmf and then if everyone is comfortable and on the same page organise a meet !!!

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks


"not sure you will attract anyone with a post lik this to be honest , telling men they are not alpha types doesnt usually go down well , why not come right out and say your looking for a fella whos a sub and will let your fella have his arse while you humiliate and or dominate him , cos that sounds more up your street "

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Leave me out of it!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"not sure you will attract anyone with a post lik this to be honest , telling men they are not alpha types doesnt usually go down well , why not come right out and say your looking for a fella whos a sub and will let your fella have his arse while you humiliate and or dominate him , cos that sounds more up your street

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Leave me out of it!! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As in all walks of life and fab is no different (just more vocal about it) there are going to be people ( both sexes) who act like idiot's. Use this as a filter. Respect is a two way street.

As for putting up a post... it's all in the wording and I just think it was a case of exceptionally fast typing

Hope it goes well for you...all 3 involved.

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By *hocoholicWoman
over a year ago

The big D


"From hosting parties i can say there are a lot of messers but there are also a lot of genuine nice guys.

Our advice would be to trust ur gut from the initial message, maybe check their verifications and arrange a social meet first to check if there is chemistry and set the boundaries. Hopefully u can then post a thread about the wonderful experience u had

Xxxx

This.. Some good advice from the exceptional V&G. (Again a post is hijacked by the politics of sexes, wordings, bitching etc of fab). Hopefully OP ul get your mfm (Iv had a few & thoroughly enjoyed them. Ps love ur profile xx

J&V "

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks


"not sure you will attract anyone with a post lik this to be honest , telling men they are not alpha types doesnt usually go down well , why not come right out and say your looking for a fella whos a sub and will let your fella have his arse while you humiliate and or dominate him , cos that sounds more up your street

.

Leave me out of it!!

"

.

I'll calm down eventually!!

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