FabSwingers.com forum: Arrogance

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I had a message from a guy who is well known on here, has a party profile etc, telling me how he can't wait to meet me!! Ughhh!!!!! What an instant turn off dude!!! Don't assume a woman wants to fuck you just cos you is black

Rant over my lovelies!!! (I'm gonna get in trouble for this aren't I? lol)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there are some men here whos ego is the biggest thing about them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How is that arrogant? should take it as a compliment it was his way of saying he finds your profile appealing..if it was from a white guy would you of seen it differently?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a message from a guy who is well known on here, has a party profile etc, telling me how he can't wait to meet me!! Ughhh!!!!! What an instant turn off dude!!! Don't assume a woman wants to fuck you just cos you is black

Rant over my lovelies!!! (I'm gonna get in trouble for this aren't I? lol)"

I don't get it. Where is he being arrogant? How is someone telling you he can't wait to meet you an instant turn off??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry OP, you get turned OFF by a guy saying he can't wait to meet you?

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By *ord Willy McFuck-BucketMan
over a year ago

newcastle

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How is that arrogant? should take it as a compliment it was his way of saying he finds your profile appealing..if it was from a white guy would you of seen it differently?

I personally find it a huge turn off that a man (regardless of race) assumes a woman will sleep with him because of his looks, or job, or what his wallet has inside. The message was presumptuous and therefore off-putting. He can find a profile appealing and be complimentary without assuming I will meet him

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By *s louWoman
over a year ago

Enniskillen

Rant over my lovelies!!! (I'm gonna get in trouble for this aren't I? lol)

I don't get it. Where is he being arrogant? How is someone telling you he can't wait to meet you an instant turn off??"

Well if she hasn't had contact with this bloke and this was his first message I'd find it a turn off too....as if he thinks that it's a given he's gonna get a fuck. Just because we're on here doesn't mean we're gonna drop the knickers for anyone

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sorry OP, you get turned OFF by a guy saying he can't wait to meet you?

Maybe I should have stated that this was the first message I received and we had never even chatted before?

Jeez!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Rant over my lovelies!!! (I'm gonna get in trouble for this aren't I? lol)

I don't get it. Where is he being arrogant? How is someone telling you he can't wait to meet you an instant turn off??

Exactly, thank you. In fairness I probably should have mentioned in the OP that I had never chatted with this dude before xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry OP, you get turned OFF by a guy saying he can't wait to meet you?

Maybe I should have stated that this was the first message I received and we had never even chatted before?

Jeez!!"

Ah, that's a different story. Forget my previous post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Positive attitude anyone? Jeez ladies!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i hazard a guess that you got this kind of mail because your profile stipulates black men only and therefore every black dude from here to timbucktoo thinks he qualifies and will mail you assuming his skin colour is your only criteria ,AND THEN when you meet one black guy here ...every other black guy assumes your up for being fucked sideways by him and his many brothas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rant over my lovelies!!! (I'm gonna get in trouble for this aren't I? lol)

I don't get it. Where is he being arrogant? How is someone telling you he can't wait to meet you an instant turn off??

That's a whole other ball game, puts a totally different context on things.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sorry OP, you get turned OFF by a guy saying he can't wait to meet you?

Maybe I should have stated that this was the first message I received and we had never even chatted before?

Jeez!!

Ah, that's a different story. Forget my previous post

lol thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i hazard a guess that you got this kind of mail because your profile stipulates black men only and therefore every black dude from here to timbucktoo thinks he qualifies and will mail you assuming his skin colour is your only criteria ,AND THEN when you meet one black guy here ...every other black guy assumes your up for being fucked sideways by him and his many brothas

Ah shur it's great craic all the same lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As far as an opening .. it was rather presumptuous.. but compared to some first emails I have read on here .. I would say he's a keeper ??????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well when people expect certain things before you've even met it makes me feel uncomfortable never mind first message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How is that arrogant? should take it as a compliment it was his way of saying he finds your profile appealing..if it was from a white guy would you of seen it differently?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome to Fab

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By *xplicitlyricsMan
over a year ago

south dublin

Its a thin line between confidence and arrogance for some. Assuming anyones gonna trip over themselves racing to meet you is a badbidea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be turned off too tbh

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Just on a side note, you made kinda clear who you're talking about without naming, however you might as well named the profile which is against the forum rules. If a man did that there would be upheaval. Yes it is presumptuous, but knowing who you're talking about he's certainly not arrogant. I recommend to handle messages like that with a bit of humour and just write a cheeky message back rather than blowing it up on the forum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

^ agreed.

OP why not have the backbone to message the guy and say this to him in private? This passive, aggressive, public shaming line you took was pathetic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Often the dividing line between arrogance and confidence is your attraction.

If you dig this guy then he's just reciprocating your own feelings. If not then he comes across as presumptuous.

But you are allowed to feel how you feel. The breakdown in communication between him and you happened. He gave you a signal that was the wrong one for you at this moment. Maybe if you meet him at an event you might change your mind. First connections online are not always easy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just on a side note, you made kinda clear who you're talking about without naming, however you might as well named the profile which is against the forum rules. If a man did that there would be upheaval. Yes it is presumptuous, but knowing who you're talking about he's certainly not arrogant. I recommend to handle messages like that with a bit of humour and just write a cheeky message back rather than blowing it up on the forum. "

We all receive all kinds of mails, you just decide to reply or ignore and block... No need for this IMO.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I delete messages that don't appeal..Don't have time in my life to reply to every disagreeable message I receive! Yea the guy may be popular in certain circles but to assume he will be meeting me without at least having a chat is a turn off. If the post is against forum rules I will accept the consequences, I have a life outside of here after all... but hey, good to know the vast majority of you here can see where I'm coming from

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"^ agreed.

OP why not have the backbone to message the guy and say this to him in private? This passive, aggressive, public shaming line you took was pathetic. "

Love you too

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

Well when I send a message to a lady I never say I want to meet , that would b d last thing u would say to a lady in d first message .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I put meeting here sometimes and never happends because people never read the meeting or even care about read the profile i just block or ignore this days is only way

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By *ccasional couple 32Couple
over a year ago

mayo

Rant over my lovelies!!! (I'm gonna get in trouble for this aren't I? lol)"

So he is in with a chance !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"^ agreed.

OP why not have the backbone to message the guy and say this to him in private? This passive, aggressive, public shaming line you took was pathetic. "

And who mentioned jobs or wallets?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I delete messages that don't appeal..Don't have time in my life to reply to every disagreeable message I receive! Yea the guy may be popular in certain circles but to assume he will be meeting me without at least having a chat is a turn off. If the post is against forum rules I will accept the consequences, I have a life outside of here after all... but hey, good to know the vast majority of you here can see where I'm coming from

We all delete what we don't agree with what we don't do is write about it on Forum. Unnecessary really.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We all delete what we don't agree with what we don't do is write about it on Forum. Unnecessary really. "

Well, I am not "we all" and with all due respect, I can write about whatever I like on the Forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its obvious shes just started this whole thread as an almost type of faux-outrage bragging 'look everyone, some guy wants to fuck me...how dare he'. Clearly, shes in her element and probably loved every word of the message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all delete what we don't agree with what we don't do is write about it on Forum. Unnecessary really.

Well, I am not "we all" and with all due respect, I can write about whatever I like on the Forum

Your right "We can" and if your offended or find that message arrogant you'll be a regular forum poster can't wait to read all about your hundreds of texts daily

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know who the OP means

off to investigate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really hope 2017 becomes the year when public shaming loses its appeal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't be offended by a message like that. I might wonder why he wanted to meet without chatting to me first but that would be it.

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By *ynx12Man
over a year ago

South

We all receive all kinds of mails, you just decide to reply or ignore and block... No need for this IMO. "

Sure if they don't post it on a forum how will the ego get inflated???

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ohhh look at you all. I pissed some of you off huh?

Excuse me while I go cry into my pillow! After that I might start a new thread about how beautiful and sexy I am and sit back and watch while all the men agree

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We all delete what we don't agree with what we don't do is write about it on Forum. Unnecessary really.

Well, I am not "we all" and with all due respect, I can write about whatever I like on the Forum

Your right "We can" and if your offended or find that message arrogant you'll be a regular forum poster can't wait to read all about your hundreds of texts daily "

YOU'RE so right of course. If you prefer I can give you the link to my fan page, so you don't have to wait for my exciting posts

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You got me babe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all delete what we don't agree with what we don't do is write about it on Forum. Unnecessary really.

Well, I am not "we all" and with all due respect, I can write about whatever I like on the Forum

Your right "We can" and if your offended or find that message arrogant you'll be a regular forum poster can't wait to read all about your hundreds of texts daily

YOU'RE so right of course. If you prefer I can give you the link to my fan page, so you don't have to wait for my exciting posts

Please do because that wouldn't be arrogant at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It could be that some people that message you may want to match the attitude in your profile,

your profile reads to me that the person although maybe presumptions in his statements felt anything less confident would be instantly dismissed

Hard to get it right, and your entitled to your opinion maybe just not so openly on the forums

On a plus point you seem in a good place with your private life / swinger life balance so that's good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I'm glad you got that off your chests.....lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"there are some men here whos ego is the biggest thing about them

Oh no not him...

His ego is tiny compared to his "thing"

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By *s louWoman
over a year ago

Enniskillen

"there are some men here whos ego is the biggest thing about them

Oh no not him...

His ego is tiny compared to his "thing"

Biatch....I've just spat my wine across the living room

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree...

He's not arrogant I think you should give him the benefit of the doubt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"there are some men here whos ego is the biggest thing about them

Oh no not him...

His ego is tiny compared to his "thing"

Biatch....I've just spat my wine across the living room

Tut...

And I heard you swallowed

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I agree...

He's not arrogant I think you should give him the benefit of the doubt

The man assumed that because he is black that I would be meeting him and to be honest that irked me. To tell me how much he is looking forward to meeting me in his first msg (without even having seen what I look like might I add!) to me just comes across as cocky and very off-putting. Im not into men who show they have no standards when it comes to who they will have sex with. Now I get that some of you have met him personally and perhaps he is a nice guy but... just but!!

I hope I'm getting my point across here without sounding bitchy???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a fair point

If you are annoyed you are annoyed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I say stuff like that I get blocked

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

I get what your saying..... And you was having a rant about it . your not the first to do this and you won't be the last

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I say stuff like that I get blocked"

It's all in the subtle as a brick delivery

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all delete what we don't agree with what we don't do is write about it on Forum. Unnecessary really.

Well, I am not "we all" and with all due respect, I can write about whatever I like on the Forum

As long as we stay within the forum rules we have freedom of speech.

Yes, his message may well be presumptuous, over confident, maybe even arrogant, posting about it in this fashion just makes you look thin skinned.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We all delete what we don't agree with what we don't do is write about it on Forum. Unnecessary really.

Well, I am not "we all" and with all due respect, I can write about whatever I like on the Forum

As long as we stay within the forum rules we have freedom of speech.

Yes, his message may well be presumptuous, over confident, maybe even arrogant, posting about it in this fashion just makes you look thin skinned."

I can be.... to be totally honest lol! I can be a grumpy fuckin bitch truth be known! And yea, I felt like having a wee rant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all delete what we don't agree with what we don't do is write about it on Forum. Unnecessary really.

Well, I am not "we all" and with all due respect, I can write about whatever I like on the Forum

As long as we stay within the forum rules we have freedom of speech.

Yes, his message may well be presumptuous, over confident, maybe even arrogant, posting about it in this fashion just makes you look thin skinned.

I can be.... to be totally honest lol! I can be a grumpy fuckin bitch truth be known! And yea, I felt like having a wee rant

Having a rant is okay, I'm sure most have had one by now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op you state in your profile text that "you will not shag anything with a pulse. ( unlike some )"is that not a bit cocky and arrogant on your behalf.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all delete what we don't agree with what we don't do is write about it on Forum. Unnecessary really.

Well, I am not "we all" and with all due respect, I can write about whatever I like on the Forum

As long as we stay within the forum rules we have freedom of speech.

Yes, his message may well be presumptuous, over confident, maybe even arrogant, posting about it in this fashion just makes you look thin skinned.

I can be.... to be totally honest lol! I can be a grumpy fuckin bitch truth be known! And yea, I felt like having a wee rant

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I know, its not uncommon to see people get ro a point where somethimg snaps and they succumb to the overbearing urge to do a rant post on fab, this place can be testing at times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Op you state in your profile text that "you will not shag anything with a pulse. ( unlike some )"is that not a bit cocky and arrogant on your behalf. "
don't forget to mention it can be misconstrued as something quite macabre if read while tired or under the influence....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all delete what we don't agree with what we don't do is write about it on Forum. Unnecessary really.

Well, I am not "we all" and with all due respect, I can write about whatever I like on the Forum

As long as we stay within the forum rules we have freedom of speech.

Yes, his message may well be presumptuous, over confident, maybe even arrogant, posting about it in this fashion just makes you look thin skinned.

I can be.... to be totally honest lol! I can be a grumpy fuckin bitch truth be known! And yea, I felt like having a wee rant

Having a rant is okay, I'm sure most have had one by now

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I'll count on your understanding when I finally succumb and post a rant

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Op you state in your profile text that "you will not shag anything with a pulse. ( unlike some )"is that not a bit cocky and arrogant on your behalf. "

How???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree...

He's not arrogant I think you should give him the benefit of the doubt

I hope I'm getting my point across here without sounding bitchy???

Your not bitchy that's my job usually...

However!

In the guys defence he's a nice fella...

I like you girl I like your posts your my twinnie remember, but take it from me I've gotten worse first mails and it does state your looking for black guys, yes I think he jumped the gun a bit...

And yes I get what you mean about guys and standards!! Totally!!!!

But fuckit...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Op you state in your profile text that "you will not shag anything with a pulse. ( unlike some )"is that not a bit cocky and arrogant on your behalf.

How??? "
as in you are assuming some people on this site and I presume you meant women ,will fuck anything that moves.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Op you state in your profile text that "you will not shag anything with a pulse. ( unlike some )"is that not a bit cocky and arrogant on your behalf.

How??? as in you are assuming some people on this site and I presume you meant women ,will fuck anything that moves. "

I'm not assuming anything. I know for a fact that this is the case (for men and women) because I have seen it with my own eyes. I am so familiar with this site and some of its members you won't believe! I think you mean I have high standards as opposed to being egotistical and arrogant...

Thank you for your input

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Op you state in your profile text that "you will not shag anything with a pulse. ( unlike some )"is that not a bit cocky and arrogant on your behalf.

How??? as in you are assuming some people on this site and I presume you meant women ,will fuck anything that moves.

Thank you for your input

Think you forgot the word patronising

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rant over my lovelies!!! (I'm gonna get in trouble for this aren't I? lol)

I don't get it. Where is he being arrogant? How is someone telling you he can't wait to meet you an instant turn off??

WHAT !!!!???? I thought that ye ladies were duty bound to drop knickers and assume the position for ANY guy that either winks, messages you or fabs one of your pics. What sort of society are we living in otherwise ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funniest part about the whole thing is all he said was looking forward to meeting not looking forward to fucking or licking or kissing or anything else unless I'm missing something I don't see the problem with the mail. He's a well known party organiser so it's more a PR exersize to him than anything else especially when the lady specifies she is looking to enjoy BBC.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Funniest part about the whole thing is all he said was looking forward to meeting not looking forward to fucking or licking or kissing or anything else unless I'm missing something I don't see the problem with the mail. He's a well known party organiser so it's more a PR exersize to him than anything else especially when the lady specifies she is looking to enjoy BBC. "

So I'm not allowed to be put out? Just because he has met all the "usual suspects" on here and just because I like black men doesn't mean I'm automatically interested in meeting him. It's like he saw my profile and thought "oh another one". Nah. I am me, and whether you guys understand it or not, this type of shit pisses me off. Simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some might see it as Arrogance some might see as Confidence... When people read it they might react you arrogant twat or they might say ohhh you cheeky fecker that is life everyone is different. In this case you saw approach as Arrogance and clearly expressed your views on it and others have expressed their views on it which don't agree with yours. Welcome to the cynical cynical world of Fab where it seems you don't have me at Hello lolol

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

"Some might see it as Arrogance some might see as Confidence... When people read it they might react you arrogant twat or they might say ohhh you cheeky fecker that is life everyone is different. In this case you saw approach as Arrogance and clearly expressed your views on it and others have expressed their views on it which don't agree with yours. Welcome to the cynical cynical world of Fab where it seems you don't have me at Hello lolol "
or a eye fluttering emoji.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh can't wait for our coffee meet

lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I get that... I've been on and off here for almost 2 years, and believe me 99% of my messages are ignored and deleted because they are sent by people who quite clearly didn't even read my profile... I just felt like having a rant yesterday, honestly I sometimes have no tolerance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rant over my lovelies!!! (I'm gonna get in trouble for this aren't I? lol)"

So, let me get this right; a guy 'private mail' you, that 'he can't wait to meet you'. Then, you find that annoying and went public to call him out? Classy that is!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rant over my lovelies!!! (I'm gonna get in trouble for this aren't I? lol)

So, let me get this right; a guy 'private mail' you, that 'he can't wait to meet you'. Then, you find that annoying and went public to call him out? Classy that is!"

Kinda ironic calling him out for being a fool and weird yet you expose him as if you're gods gift.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I saw your side yesterday but you've had time to sleep on it and chill out so now you are definitely being ott

'put out'....what a major setback and inconvenience lolz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think people are over reacting tbh

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