FabSwingers.com mobile

Join us FREE, we're FREE to use

Web's largest swingers site since 2006.

Already registered?
Login here

Back to forum list
Back to Ireland

Vanilla dinner date

Jump to newest
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have a vanilla dinner date tonight the first in two years . Will i remember how to behave . Do i talk about my swing life etc any thoughts

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *aura66Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

Keep off the vino & you'll do well woman

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just play it by ear...and if he gets his cock out while ye are waiting for the soup you'll know its ok

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin

God, recently I've found myself wanting a vanilla date just for the change of pace.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a vanilla dinner date tonight the first in two years . Will i remember how to behave . Do i talk about my swing life etc any thoughts "

Be yourself, relax and try to have fun. I know it's cliche, but it's true

I go on quite a few vanilla dates when I am away with work, unfortuneitly fab isn't as popular everywhere as it is in Ireland and the U.K. but I like them and you'd be surprised at how many vanillas are just as naughty as us Fabbers.

Good luck to night

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would only bring up Fab if your looking to introduce him to the lifestyle. Personally it would be the last thing I'd bring up on a first date unless they already know you.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *evilinsidemeMan
over a year ago

Trim

I had my first vannila date in 16 years a few weeks back. It's great. Wouldn't have mentioned the fabbing though as it was very casual and we didn't click sexually.

It was so relaxing I was happy for days.

Have a nice time and dont forget to report back with how it went.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would only bring up Fab if your looking to introduce him to the lifestyle. Personally it would be the last thing I'd bring up on a first date unless they already know you. "

Totally agree, enjoy your night OP

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Wow guys thank u so much . U have mirrored my own thoughts . Just feel i need some normal life for a while and step out of my comfort zone of fab

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow guys thank u so much . U have mirrored my own thoughts . Just feel i need some normal life for a while and step out of my comfort zone of fab "

Totally agree with you! Think I'm gooy eyed from FAB lately!! It's great to just take a step back!! Good luck with your Date, let us know how u get on!!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure if you will suss out his mindset in first meet. It's your private sex life also. You obviously like him if you agreed to this as it's no longer the norm for you. I think treat it as exactly what it is, a vanilla dinner date, see how it goes but I personally wouldn't be laying it all up on the table as he knows your real life I assume and if it doesn't go well you have the worry of it being out there. If and when thing's progress and you see him again if it gets to the bedroom and thing's get adventurous...it will open up the opportunity to discuss it and you will know when. Go with what you feel comfortable with but keep in mind the private nature of this lifestyle and how it can be perceived in the vanilla world.

Hope you have a fab vanilla time. Interested to know how you get on. X

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ommickMan
over a year ago

cork

Not on a first date enjoy it....what a lucky guy.....

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I will let u all know how it pans out guys . And i always go by my guy instinct and it rarely lets me down . When i joined fab i made a deal with my self when i stoppped enjoying it i would step back from it . But have had fantastic experiences and made great friends

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not on a first date enjoy it....what a lucky guy....."
ah thank you

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

Keep the fab scene to yourself. See how you both get on, enjoy the "vanilla date" it's not fab related...if in time things progress and if you want than bring fab up... but for the time being enjoy it...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *penyoureyes2722Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

Enjoy yourself. I'm also starting to think that a date without anyone asking about sex would be a lovely change.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Keep the fab scene to yourself. See how you both get on, enjoy the "vanilla date" it's not fab related...if in time things progress and if you want than bring fab up... but for the time being enjoy it..."

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Enjoy yourself. I'm also starting to think that a date without anyone asking about sex would be a lovely change. "

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh god its been forever since I went on a vanilla date I dont think I remeber what its like lol ..

Good luck OP xx

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't bring up swinging.

Be yourself, and enjoy!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What vinallia date guys or am I just stupid

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What vinallia date guys or am I just stupid"

It's just a regular date. Non fab-like!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OK cheers bold girl.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OK cheers bold girl. "
I taught it was ice cream.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *orguyMan
over a year ago

Tuam

Sometimes it can be hard to separate the vanilla side of life from the chocolate.

You have to remember everybody isn't thinking the same way.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh enjoy!!! xxxx

If you cooking he will fall in love with you!!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck!!! I've been in the same predicament lately and it's nerve wracking! Relax and be your self and you'll be absolutely fine xx

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Oh enjoy!!! xxxx

If you cooking he will fall in love with you!! "
ha ha lol im not cooking to night lol

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ean0001Man
over a year ago

Dublin West

it says something when a vanilla brings out more nerves than a fab one...

The fab ones are usually more fun and more relaxed in my opinion.

at least you know the person sitting opposite to you at the table is fairly openminded if nothing else

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its been so long since I had a normal non fab date I wouldn't know how to act it may be nice for a change when someone asks what are you into they mean hobby wise rather then sex lol

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

Well if u think this will go further long term I would put a hold on sex on d first date r so n if he thinks ur worth waiting for then he will wait for u . At least then u know he's not just after a quick fuck excuse my upfrontness . Wish u good luck , u will know bye d end of d nite how it's going to go . Enjoy urself

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a vanilla dinner date tonight the first in two years . Will i remember how to behave . Do i talk about my swing life etc any thoughts "

Probably not the best conversation topic for a 1st date lol!

Enjoy yourself.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a great night Serafine x

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be your georgous lovely self girl. You will be fine best of luck. Xx

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *irdnBorisMan
over a year ago

meath


"Oh enjoy!!! xxxx

If you cooking he will fall in love with you!! ha ha lol im not cooking to night lol "
just enjoy yourself ive had few vanilla nites out for dinner and they went well but wouldnt mention fab at all and only first base allowed lol

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's mad how many P's and Q's you have to watch when on a non fab date

What do you like? Has a totally different connotation

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well i will know soon enough as im leaving work to go meet him . Thanks for all the positivity and i will update u later . Havent felt this nervous on years but excited too

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well i will know soon enough as im leaving work to go meet him . Thanks for all the positivity and i will update u later . Havent felt this nervous on years but excited too "

Just ...Don't drop the hand, and you don't need to meet in the dark corner of the room

It's OK for people to overhear

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

Midnight on a Thursday and no update. I think it's going well

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well what can i say . It was a really lovely eve . The conversation flowed . The setting was very romantic and i do feel that my experience on fab helped alot as it has given me back my confidence in my self so the rest fell into place . And the good night kiss was lovely . So yes roll on date no 2 . The eve was just what i needed

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well what can i say . It was a really lovely eve . The conversation flowed . The setting was very romantic and i do feel that my experience on fab helped alot as it has given me back my confidence in my self so the rest fell into place . And the good night kiss was lovely . So yes roll on date no 2 . The eve was just what i needed "

Aw that's lovely to hear!!! Well done and hope it's the start of something wonderful

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well what can i say . It was a really lovely eve . The conversation flowed . The setting was very romantic and i do feel that my experience on fab helped alot as it has given me back my confidence in my self so the rest fell into place . And the good night kiss was lovely . So yes roll on date no 2 . The eve was just what i needed "

Delighted to hear ya had good time... Jock

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *irdnBorisMan
over a year ago

meath


"Well what can i say . It was a really lovely eve . The conversation flowed . The setting was very romantic and i do feel that my experience on fab helped alot as it has given me back my confidence in my self so the rest fell into place . And the good night kiss was lovely . So yes roll on date no 2 . The eve was just what i needed "
glad to hear you had a great nite and all the best for date no 2 x

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

Good for u glad u had a good time hope it works out it sounds like it going well for u . Happy fabbing n don't tel him about fab he does not need to know good luck

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If u think it might possibly lead somewhere more than just a few dates I would avoid mentioning fab or swinging at all, EVER!, unless u want him to join you. In my experience vanilla guys can get quite intemidated by a female being so sexually experienced and comfortable and insatiable. Delighted for you though. I know it's not easy!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ceryMan
over a year ago

Malahide & Waterford

Just becareful how you respond if he asks you do you play at anything ...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great news OP that you had fun. Enjoy where it takes you

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
Post new Message to Thread
back to top