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By *iamo69 OP   Man
over a year ago

South

Some like the idea or risk involved meeting attached people where some dont.

I think its more the risk involved personaly that makes

it a turn on.

I know some think it a complete no no to do it.

What are your views people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh I have met attatched people I'd prefer to make that decision for myself ..but I have met others on here that after a few meets I found out that they were in a relationship and that hurt .. I'd rather mske up my own mind so just be truthful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tbh I have met attatched people I'd prefer to make that decision for myself ..but I have met others on here that after a few meets I found out that they were in a relationship and that hurt .. I'd rather mske up my own mind so just be truthful "

Same as this... it's the liars that are the cheats in my opinion!

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By *iamo69 OP   Man
over a year ago

South

Yes always be honest from start but i think its knowing its the kick in it

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By *rishcouple12Couple
over a year ago

Cork County

Have enough drama in life without adding someone else's drama

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By *ove2lick76Man
over a year ago

Ardee

No problem as long as all parties know from the outset and freely make there own decisions. ....no right to pass judgement on other people's choice or circumstances but should be warned with the facts so you can make your own informed decision

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm attached and here alone. Its on my profile so not hiding it. I think attached people are less complicated caz they have to be discreet. I know if I meet I'd be the most discreet and hassle free on here. We're just here for fun.

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By *iamo69 OP   Man
over a year ago

South


"No problem as long as all parties know from the outset and freely make there own decisions. ....no right to pass judgement on other people's choice or circumstances but should be warned with the facts so you can make your own informed decision"

Agreed

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

I've met attached men, no big deal because it's none of my business, but I don't really see/get any additional kick in/out of it.

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By *ove2lick76Man
over a year ago

Ardee

I'll be honest....that little devil on my shoulder prob gets more of a kick when the hubby is actually present at the meet...depending on situation but one my first couples meets involved tying and blindfolding the husband in the corner of room while I made out with his wife and all he could do was listen.....that was a kick and a half lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do them meets actually happen.

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By *ove2lick76Man
over a year ago

Ardee

Very rare and admittedly was a Canadian couple on hols......been searching for irish equivalent ever since

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't get anymore of a kick out of meeting an attached guy from a single guy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't get anymore of a kick out of meeting an attached guy from a single guy!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've met attached men, no big deal because it's none of my business, but I don't really see/get any additional kick in/out of it. "

Same here ,what kick would there be in it ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about Siamese twins?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about Siamese twins? "

They are not married to one another so that's ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about Siamese twins? "

Depends which one kaiser

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about Siamese twins?

They are not married to one another so that's ok "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think only attached guys are attracted to me .

Being honest... I meet attached guys but I'm starting to think that karma will come back to bite me in the ass (not in a good way). So I'm trying to keep away from the attached ones.

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By *iamo69 OP   Man
over a year ago

South


"What about Siamese twins?

They are not married to one another so that's ok "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its a turn on...playing with someone else's property....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some like the idea or risk involved meeting attached people where some dont.

I think its more the risk involved personaly that makes

it a turn on.

I know some think it a complete no no to do it.

What are your views people"

Just curious.

Are you an attached person?

Is that why you ask?

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By *irl4girlsWoman
over a year ago

Celbridge


"I think its a turn on...playing with someone else's property...."
My feelings exactly

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By *isdirtygirlWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Tbh I have met attatched people I'd prefer to make that decision for myself ..but I have met others on here that after a few meets I found out that they were in a relationship and that hurt .. I'd rather mske up my own mind so just be truthful

Same as this... it's the liars that are the cheats in my opinion! "

Agreed ladies, it gives me the chance to make an informed decision.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not by choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tbh I have met attatched people I'd prefer to make that decision for myself ..but I have met others on here that after a few meets I found out that they were in a relationship and that hurt .. I'd rather mske up my own mind so just be truthful

Same as this... it's the liars that are the cheats in my opinion!

Agreed ladies, it gives me the chance to make an informed decision. "

Yurt...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I want to cheat there is only one person responsible. And it's not the woman I would be meeting

Cheating is an active decision. You dont slip, trip and fall into a vagina.

I don't believe we can judge other people unless we are in their position. If a woman is locked in a sex less marriage who am I to tell her no. If a man wants to suck cock, who am I to stop him?

I'm greedy. I want to have sex with more women than my wife. I'm going to try to be ethical. But i can't judge those who can't or won't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big turn-off for me. Can't imagine enjoying having sex with someone I have little respect for and I have no respect for people who cheat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think only attached guys are attracted to me .

Being honest... I meet attached guys but I'm starting to think that karma will come back to bite me in the ass (not in a good way). So I'm trying to keep away from the attached ones. "

Don't be silly all men would be attracted to.you not just attached

I putvattached on my profile so women know from the get go

Others that don't domsonforntheir own reasons

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By *oughandCurvyCouple
over a year ago

galway


"Have enough drama in life without adding someone else's drama "

Exactly this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think its a turn on...playing with someone else's property.... My feelings exactly "

Property!!! Really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Again no judgement if above board about it. No idea of people's circumstances, nor do I want to...just be honest about it!!! Lying about your situation is just shitty and uncalled for.

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By *iamo69 OP   Man
over a year ago

South

Interesting opinions

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By *eltic CplCouple
over a year ago

Kildare

No added excitement for us if someone is attached or not and Im sure there are more "attached" people shagging after nightclubs on weekends than there is in here

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By *oupleuncutCouple
over a year ago

dun laoghaire


"I think its a turn on...playing with someone else's property.... My feelings exactly

Property!!! Really "
my ex husband thought of me as his property....thats why he's my ex!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think its a turn on...playing with someone else's property.... My feelings exactly

Property!!! Really my ex husband thought of me as his property....thats why he's my ex!"

Mine too but I battled it to the death;)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"property"....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a thing for older married women but generally yes wouldnt matter to me if they were attached or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have met attached people. Not really my business tbh. I don't get a kick out of it though. In fact meeting attached people can be annoying ie. Last minute cancellations, no sociable time cause might be seen and all that

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By *unnitoesWoman
over a year ago

Belfast


"I have met attached people. Not really my business tbh. I don't get a kick out of it though. In fact meeting attached people can be annoying ie. Last minute cancellations, no sociable time cause might be seen and all that "

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By *unnitoesWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

I never had any issue about attached guys until I received a call from a wife saying " I think you are sleeping with my husband" ...silly man had left his account details open and I doubt I was the only woman who got a call that night.

So in order never to hear those words again I protect myself by not meeting attached fellas whose partners don't know they're on here.

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By *oughandCurvyCouple
over a year ago

galway


"Again no judgement if above board about it. No idea of people's circumstances, nor do I want to...just be honest about it!!! Lying about your situation is just shitty and uncalled for."

But they thing is if they are lying to the person they are attached with why do people expect them to be honest with a stranger?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Again no judgement if above board about it. No idea of people's circumstances, nor do I want to...just be honest about it!!! Lying about your situation is just shitty and uncalled for.

But they thing is if they are lying to the person they are attached with why do people expect them to be honest with a stranger?"

Well they have a lot to lose with their partner. But with someone you meet online why bother lying? If they don't like it there's plenty more who won't mind

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By *oughandCurvyCouple
over a year ago

galway


"Again no judgement if above board about it. No idea of people's circumstances, nor do I want to...just be honest about it!!! Lying about your situation is just shitty and uncalled for.

But they thing is if they are lying to the person they are attached with why do people expect them to be honest with a stranger?

Well they have a lot to lose with their partner. But with someone you meet online why bother lying? If they don't like it there's plenty more who won't mind "

But yet alot of them still lie about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Again no judgement if above board about it. No idea of people's circumstances, nor do I want to...just be honest about it!!! Lying about your situation is just shitty and uncalled for.

But they thing is if they are lying to the person they are attached with why do people expect them to be honest with a stranger?

Well they have a lot to lose with their partner. But with someone you meet online why bother lying? If they don't like it there's plenty more who won't mind

But yet alot of them still lie about it "

I'm not disputing that. Just making a point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for me, no go zone,

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By *oughandCurvyCouple
over a year ago

galway


"Again no judgement if above board about it. No idea of people's circumstances, nor do I want to...just be honest about it!!! Lying about your situation is just shitty and uncalled for.

But they thing is if they are lying to the person they are attached with why do people expect them to be honest with a stranger?

Well they have a lot to lose with their partner. But with someone you meet online why bother lying? If they don't like it there's plenty more who won't mind

But yet alot of them still lie about it

I'm not disputing that. Just making a point "

I get your point though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't bother me if I meet an attached person or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Doesn't bother me if I meet an attached person or not. "

Most of the guys on here don't seem too bothered.

We guess it is because a lot of them are attached themselves.

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By *xcited99Couple
over a year ago

omagh

Really don't mind have met both. As long as I give hubby all the dirty details.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Again no judgement if above board about it. No idea of people's circumstances, nor do I want to...just be honest about it!!! Lying about your situation is just shitty and uncalled for.

But they thing is if they are lying to the person they are attached with why do people expect them to be honest with a stranger?

Well they have a lot to lose with their partner. But with someone you meet online why bother lying? If they don't like it there's plenty more who won't mind

But yet alot of them still lie about it

I'm not disputing that. Just making a point

I get your point though "

Thousands on here and I am not attached so find it extremely offensive that they lied to me... again not bothered about their personal life just don't lie about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think its a turn on...playing with someone else's property.... My feelings exactly

Property!!! Really "

Waiting for that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think its a turn on...playing with someone else's property.... My feelings exactly

Property!!! Really

Waiting for that"

Brave or silly... can't decide

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Property. If it's consensual then ok. There are quite a few women and men here who want to be considered property (in a bdsm sense)

But in a non power exchange relationship there is no such thing as property.

I thought swingers were supposed to be more enlightened. In theory it's more egalitarian.

Although today I have seen slut shaming on here too so maybe it's a me problem

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By *ease_EMan
over a year ago

DDD12


"I think only attached guys are attracted to me .

Being honest... I meet attached guys but I'm starting to think that karma will come back to bite me in the ass (not in a good way). So I'm trying to keep away from the attached ones. "

Lol

Unattached, and Attracted to you

;-)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Again no judgement if above board about it. No idea of people's circumstances, nor do I want to...just be honest about it!!! Lying about your situation is just shitty and uncalled for."

that I agree with completely (As usual)

let the potential meet make an informed choice. no need to be a liar to everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Again no judgement if above board about it. No idea of people's circumstances, nor do I want to...just be honest about it!!! Lying about your situation is just shitty and uncalled for.

that I agree with completely (As usual)

let the potential meet make an informed choice. no need to be a liar to everyone"

I just don't get the need for it! Maybe they get off on the lies but lay it out there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Again no judgement if above board about it. No idea of people's circumstances, nor do I want to...just be honest about it!!! Lying about your situation is just shitty and uncalled for.

that I agree with completely (As usual)

let the potential meet make an informed choice. no need to be a liar to everyone

I just don't get the need for it! Maybe they get off on the lies but lay it out there. "

lies are easy. It's harder to tell the truth. There is a bigger chance of rejection.

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare

Cheaters are lowlives in my eyes. Spineless.

And the ppl who cheat with them aren't much better. Selfish. As a lot of the posts here show

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheaters are lowlives in my eyes. Spineless.

And the ppl who cheat with them aren't much better. Selfish. As a lot of the posts here show"

Gosh....

Judgement much...

Nobody knows what goes on in a relationship so I think that comment is unfair and uncalled for...

Marriage isn't so black and white

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare


"Cheaters are lowlives in my eyes. Spineless.

And the ppl who cheat with them aren't much better. Selfish. As a lot of the posts here show

Gosh....

Judgement much...

Nobody knows what goes on in a relationship so I think that comment is unfair and uncalled for...

Marriage isn't so black and white "

Ye I judge ppl that I see doing what I think are shitty things. We all do

And that part of marriage is black and white actually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheaters are lowlives in my eyes. Spineless.

And the ppl who cheat with them aren't much better. Selfish. As a lot of the posts here show

Gosh....

Judgement much...

Nobody knows what goes on in a relationship so I think that comment is unfair and uncalled for...

Marriage isn't so black and white

Ye I judge ppl that I see doing what I think are shitty things. We all do

And that part of marriage is black and white actually"

So you've been married and can speak from experience

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare


"Cheaters are lowlives in my eyes. Spineless.

And the ppl who cheat with them aren't much better. Selfish. As a lot of the posts here show

Gosh....

Judgement much...

Nobody knows what goes on in a relationship so I think that comment is unfair and uncalled for...

Marriage isn't so black and white

Ye I judge ppl that I see doing what I think are shitty things. We all do

And that part of marriage is black and white actually

So you've been married and can speak from experience "

I was involved in many faithful relationships that lasted many years.its not so unusual

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By *orkchippyMan
over a year ago

Crosshaven

I'm attached and it's on my profile .Im playing alone.I just love the excitement ,the Unknown

Can't help it (Horny Alpha male here ,love experimenting )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheaters are lowlives in my eyes. Spineless.

And the ppl who cheat with them aren't much better. Selfish. As a lot of the posts here show

Gosh....

Judgement much...

Nobody knows what goes on in a relationship so I think that comment is unfair and uncalled for...

Marriage isn't so black and white "

We agee marriage isn't black and white.

But surely honesty is to people you care for?

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheaters are lowlives in my eyes. Spineless.

And the ppl who cheat with them aren't much better. Selfish. As a lot of the posts here show

Gosh....

Judgement much...

Nobody knows what goes on in a relationship so I think that comment is unfair and uncalled for...

Marriage isn't so black and white

Ye I judge ppl that I see doing what I think are shitty things. We all do

And that part of marriage is black and white actually

So you've been married and can speak from experience

I was involved in many faithful relationships that lasted many years.its not so unusual"

No its not...I was too for over 20 yrs completely faithful!

However...you don't know what goes on in each individuals relationships!

Some don't get the affection they desire, some don't get the sex or kink or for whatever reason but still love that person dearly and would not want to be without them...

Or hurt them...so their logic is what the eyes don't see!

It might not work for you but it's not fair to make such assumptions about other people'srelationships....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheaters are lowlives in my eyes. Spineless.

And the ppl who cheat with them aren't much better. Selfish. As a lot of the posts here show

Gosh....

Judgement much...

Nobody knows what goes on in a relationship so I think that comment is unfair and uncalled for...

Marriage isn't so black and white

Ye I judge ppl that I see doing what I think are shitty things. We all do

And that part of marriage is black and white actually

So you've been married and can speak from experience

I was involved in many faithful relationships that lasted many years.its not so unusual

No its not...I was too for over 20 yrs completely faithful!

However...you don't know what goes on in each individuals relationships!

Some don't get the affection they desire, some don't get the sex or kink or for whatever reason but still love that person dearly and would not want to be without them...

Or hurt them...so their logic is what the eyes don't see!

It might not work for you but it's not fair to make such assumptions about other people'srelationships....

"

Shouldn't any decisions be made by both partners though?

If you love them that much do they not deserve a choice? Surely they should be able to choose if they accept the situation just as the person choosing to go elsewhere has made their choice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Again no judgement if above board about it. No idea of people's circumstances, nor do I want to...just be honest about it!!! Lying about your situation is just shitty and uncalled for.

But they thing is if they are lying to the person they are attached with why do people expetc them to be honest with a stranger?

Well they have a lot to lose with their partner. But with someone you meet online why bother lying? If they don't like it there's plenty more who won't mind

But yet alot of them still lie about it

I'm not disputing that. Just making a point

I get your point though

Thousands on here and I am not attached so find it extremely offensive that they lied to me... again not bothered about their personal life just don't lie about it."

As a previous poster stated that why wouldn't you expect them too...they're lying to their partner who is supposedly important to them so why not to you a stranger for all intents and purpose? If it is such an issue for you and Many others on here then don't meet knowingly anyone who is not single.

The lying subject comes up weekly on here and I find it interesting that it's only when 'we' are lied to that we take offence but we don't think much about lying to others...there's not a single person on here that isn't lying or who hasn't lied in some way about their fab activities to someone. It's easy to throw the first stone as they say and not stand back in judgement.

I do find it a bit two faced when I read those who complain about others cheating and yet they themselves see nothing about meeting a married or attached person who is playing behind their partners back. Just my thoughts and not intended as personal to anyone on the post here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheaters are lowlives in my eyes. Spineless.

And the ppl who cheat with them aren't much better. Selfish. As a lot of the posts here show

Gosh....

Judgement much...

Nobody knows what goes on in a relationship so I think that comment is unfair and uncalled for...

Marriage isn't so black and white

Ye I judge ppl that I see doing what I think are shitty things. We all do

And that part of marriage is black and white actually

So you've been married and can speak from experience

I was involved in many faithful relationships that lasted many years.its not so unusual

No its not...I was too for over 20 yrs completely faithful!

However...you don't know what goes on in each individuals relationships!

Some don't get the affection they desire, some don't get the sex or kink or for whatever reason but still love that person dearly and would not want to be without them...

Or hurt them...so their logic is what the eyes don't see!

It might not work for you but it's not fair to make such assumptions about other people'srelationships....

Shouldn't any decisions be made by both partners though?

If you love them that much do they not deserve a choice? Surely they should be able to choose if they accept the situation just as the person choosing to go elsewhere has made their choice? "

Not everyone has such openness in their relationships....

The majority of attached people I've been with have all brought up the ideas of swinging to their partners and their reactions were anything but favourable.....

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare


"Cheaters are lowlives in my eyes. Spineless.

And the ppl who cheat with them aren't much better. Selfish. As a lot of the posts here show

Gosh....

Judgement much...

Nobody knows what goes on in a relationship so I think that comment is unfair and uncalled for...

Marriage isn't so black and white

Ye I judge ppl that I see doing what I think are shitty things. We all do

And that part of marriage is black and white actually

So you've been married and can speak from experience

I was involved in many faithful relationships that lasted many years.its not so unusual

No its not...I was too for over 20 yrs completely faithful!

However...you don't know what goes on in each individuals relationships!

Some don't get the affection they desire, some don't get the sex or kink or for whatever reason but still love that person dearly and would not want to be without them...

Or hurt them...so their logic is what the eyes don't see!

It might not work for you but it's not fair to make such assumptions about other people'srelationships....

"

That's just another way of wording what I said really,that they are spineless and selfish,just depends on your point of view

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare


"Cheaters are lowlives in my eyes. Spineless.

And the ppl who cheat with them aren't much better. Selfish. As a lot of the posts here show

Gosh....

Judgement much...

Nobody knows what goes on in a relationship so I think that comment is unfair and uncalled for...

Marriage isn't so black and white

Ye I judge ppl that I see doing what I think are shitty things. We all do

And that part of marriage is black and white actually

So you've been married and can speak from experience

I was involved in many faithful relationships that lasted many years.its not so unusual

No its not...I was too for over 20 yrs completely faithful!

However...you don't know what goes on in each individuals relationships!

Some don't get the affection they desire, some don't get the sex or kink or for whatever reason but still love that person dearly and would not want to be without them...

Or hurt them...so their logic is what the eyes don't see!

It might not work for you but it's not fair to make such assumptions about other people'srelationships....

Shouldn't any decisions be made by both partners though?

If you love them that much do they not deserve a choice? Surely they should be able to choose if they accept the situation just as the person choosing to go elsewhere has made their choice?

Not everyone has such openness in their relationships....

The majority of attached people I've been with have all brought up the ideas of swinging to their partners and their reactions were anything but favourable..... "

Ah well then,if they didn't get exactly what they want then it's all ok to lie and cheat to get it

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over a year ago

Please don't give up on us.

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare


"Please don't give up on us. "

Save it for the mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheaters are lowlives in my eyes. Spineless.

And the ppl who cheat with them aren't much better. Selfish. As a lot of the posts here show

Gosh....

Judgement much...

Nobody knows what goes on in a relationship so I think that comment is unfair and uncalled for...

Marriage isn't so black and white

Ye I judge ppl that I see doing what I think are shitty things. We all do

And that part of marriage is black and white actually

So you've been married and can speak from experience

I was involved in many faithful relationships that lasted many years.its not so unusual

No its not...I was too for over 20 yrs completely faithful!

However...you don't know what goes on in each individuals relationships!

Some don't get the affection they desire, some don't get the sex or kink or for whatever reason but still love that person dearly and would not want to be without them...

Or hurt them...so their logic is what the eyes don't see!

It might not work for you but it's not fair to make such assumptions about other people'srelationships....

That's just another way of wording what I said really,that they are spineless and selfish,just depends on your point of view"

Points of view....ammmm

If a couple swing some people don't see that as being the norm they see it as warped and strange that a man would let his partner kiss let alone fuck another man let alone couples who meet separately but thankfully not everyone is so closed minded!

They aren't in your boat your not in theirs!

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare


"Cheaters are lowlives in my eyes. Spineless.

And the ppl who cheat with them aren't much better. Selfish. As a lot of the posts here show

Gosh....

Judgement much...

Nobody knows what goes on in a relationship so I think that comment is unfair and uncalled for...

Marriage isn't so black and white

Ye I judge ppl that I see doing what I think are shitty things. We all do

And that part of marriage is black and white actually

So you've been married and can speak from experience

I was involved in many faithful relationships that lasted many years.its not so unusual

No its not...I was too for over 20 yrs completely faithful!

However...you don't know what goes on in each individuals relationships!

Some don't get the affection they desire, some don't get the sex or kink or for whatever reason but still love that person dearly and would not want to be without them...

Or hurt them...so their logic is what the eyes don't see!

It might not work for you but it's not fair to make such assumptions about other people'srelationships....

That's just another way of wording what I said really,that they are spineless and selfish,just depends on your point of view

Points of view....ammmm

If a couple swing some people don't see that as being the norm they see it as warped and strange that a man would let his partner kiss let alone fuck another man let alone couples who meet separately but thankfully not everyone is so closed minded!

They aren't in your boat your not in theirs!

"

Comparing swinging too cheating

You're on wrong site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheaters are lowlives in my eyes. Spineless.

And the ppl who cheat with them aren't much better. Selfish. As a lot of the posts here show

Gosh....

Judgement much...

Nobody knows what goes on in a relationship so I think that comment is unfair and uncalled for...

Marriage isn't so black and white

Ye I judge ppl that I see doing what I think are shitty things. We all do

And that part of marriage is black and white actually

So you've been married and can speak from experience

I was involved in many faithful relationships that lasted many years.its not so unusual

No its not...I was too for over 20 yrs completely faithful!

However...you don't know what goes on in each individuals relationships!

Some don't get the affection they desire, some don't get the sex or kink or for whatever reason but still love that person dearly and would not want to be without them...

Or hurt them...so their logic is what the eyes don't see!

It might not work for you but it's not fair to make such assumptions about other people'srelationships....

That's just another way of wording what I said really,that they are spineless and selfish,just depends on your point of view

Points of view....ammmm

If a couple swing some people don't see that as being the norm they see it as warped and strange that a man would let his partner kiss let alone fuck another man let alone couples who meet separately but thankfully not everyone is so closed minded!

They aren't in your boat your not in theirs!

Comparing swinging too cheating

You're on wrong site"

No I'm comparing other people's points of view!!

Not mine...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So if the cheaters are lying to those meeting them and say they are single are the ones meeting them still as bad?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So if the cheaters are lying to those meeting them and say they are single are the ones meeting them still as bad? "

That seems to be the assumption...

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare


"Cheaters are lowlives in my eyes. Spineless.

And the ppl who cheat with them aren't much better. Selfish. As a lot of the posts here show

Gosh....

Judgement much...

Nobody knows what goes on in a relationship so I think that comment is unfair and uncalled for...

Marriage isn't so black and white

Ye I judge ppl that I see doing what I think are shitty things. We all do

And that part of marriage is black and white actually

So you've been married and can speak from experience

I was involved in many faithful relationships that lasted many years.its not so unusual

No its not...I was too for over 20 yrs completely faithful!

However...you don't know what goes on in each individuals relationships!

Some don't get the affection they desire, some don't get the sex or kink or for whatever reason but still love that person dearly and would not want to be without them...

Or hurt them...so their logic is what the eyes don't see!

It might not work for you but it's not fair to make such assumptions about other people'srelationships....

That's just another way of wording what I said really,that they are spineless and selfish,just depends on your point of view

Points of view....ammmm

If a couple swing some people don't see that as being the norm they see it as warped and strange that a man would let his partner kiss let alone fuck another man let alone couples who meet separately but thankfully not everyone is so closed minded!

They aren't in your boat your not in theirs!

Comparing swinging too cheating

You're on wrong site

No I'm comparing other people's points of view!!

Not mine..."

That's not a point of view that should be aired here on a swing site,that swinging is warped, because we all know that what happens between consenting adults is perfectly fine don't we???

Whereas cheaters hurt their nonconsenting other halves

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare


"So if the cheaters are lying to those meeting them and say they are single are the ones meeting them still as bad? "

No just more victims of the cheaters lies

The meets that know and don't care are just as bad IMO

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare


"So if the cheaters are lying to those meeting them and say they are single are the ones meeting them still as bad?

That seems to be the assumption... "

Maybe by you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheaters are lowlives in my eyes. Spineless.

And the ppl who cheat with them aren't much better. Selfish. As a lot of the posts here show

Gosh....

Judgement much...

Nobody knows what goes on in a relationship so I think that comment is unfair and uncalled for...

Marriage isn't so black and white

Ye I judge ppl that I see doing what I think are shitty things. We all do

And that part of marriage is black and white actually

So you've been married and can speak from experience

I was involved in many faithful relationships that lasted many years.its not so unusual

No its not...I was too for over 20 yrs completely faithful!

However...you don't know what goes on in each individuals relationships!

Some don't get the affection they desire, some don't get the sex or kink or for whatever reason but still love that person dearly and would not want to be without them...

Or hurt them...so their logic is what the eyes don't see!

It might not work for you but it's not fair to make such assumptions about other people'srelationships....

That's just another way of wording what I said really,that they are spineless and selfish,just depends on your point of view

Points of view....ammmm

If a couple swing some people don't see that as being the norm they see it as warped and strange that a man would let his partner kiss let alone fuck another man let alone couples who meet separately but thankfully not everyone is so closed minded!

They aren't in your boat your not in theirs!

Comparing swinging too cheating

You're on wrong site

No I'm comparing other people's points of view!!

Not mine...

That's not a point of view that should be aired here on a swing site,that swinging is warped, because we all know that what happens between consenting adults is perfectly fine don't we???

Whereas cheaters hurt their nonconsenting other halves

"

They are only hurt if they find out about it....

You have your views I have mine!

I don't judge those attached people who for whatever reason are on the site!

As I said there is lots of grey in a relationship...not just black and white!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So if the cheaters are lying to those meeting them and say they are single are the ones meeting them still as bad?

That seems to be the assumption...

Maybe by you "

And in your opinion as stated!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So if the cheaters are lying to those meeting them and say they are single are the ones meeting them still as bad?

No just more victims of the cheaters lies

The meets that know and don't care are just as bad IMO

"

Ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I definitely empathise with attached people who play away on some level as have been in relationships previously myself where temptation levels were very frustrating - a high sex drive can sometimes be a curse - but I prefer personally to avoid attached fabbers - Karmic Disaster in waiting !!

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By *imetoexplore69Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"Cheaters are lowlives in my eyes. Spineless.

And the ppl who cheat with them aren't much better. Selfish. As a lot of the posts here show

Gosh....

Judgement much...

Nobody knows what goes on in a relationship so I think that comment is unfair and uncalled for...

Marriage isn't so black and white

Ye I judge ppl that I see doing what I think are shitty things. We all do

And that part of marriage is black and white actually"
still puzzles me when people say dont judge. everybody judges every single day.think your response is spot on and not hidden behind bullshit which is rather refreshing .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheaters are lowlives in my eyes. Spineless.

And the ppl who cheat with them aren't much better. Selfish. As a lot of the posts here show

Gosh....

Judgement much...

Nobody knows what goes on in a relationship so I think that comment is unfair and uncalled for...

Marriage isn't so black and white

Ye I judge ppl that I see doing what I think are shitty things. We all do

And that part of marriage is black and white actually

So you've been married and can speak from experience

I was involved in many faithful relationships that lasted many years.its not so unusual

No its not...I was too for over 20 yrs completely faithful!

However...you don't know what goes on in each individuals relationships!

Some don't get the affection they desire, some don't get the sex or kink or for whatever reason but still love that person dearly and would not want to be without them...

Or hurt them...so their logic is what the eyes don't see!

It might not work for you but it's not fair to make such assumptions about other people'srelationships....

That's just another way of wording what I said really,that they are spineless and selfish,just depends on your point of view

Points of view....ammmm

If a couple swing some people don't see that as being the norm they see it as warped and strange that a man would let his partner kiss let alone fuck another man let alone couples who meet separately but thankfully not everyone is so closed minded!

They aren't in your boat your not in theirs!

Comparing swinging too cheating

You're on wrong site

No I'm comparing other people's points of view!!

Not mine...

That's not a point of view that should be aired here on a swing site,that swinging is warped, because we all know that what happens between consenting adults is perfectly fine don't we???

Whereas cheaters hurt their nonconsenting other halves

They are only hurt if they find out about it....

You have your views I have mine!

I don't judge those attached people who for whatever reason are on the site!

As I said there is lots of grey in a relationship...not just black and white!

"

They are only hurt if they find out?

So are we saying it is okay to do it and not tell them??

To take away their choice of what they will accept while a cheat makes the choice of both doing what they want, and saying that their partner must accept it?

Okay....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reading down through this thread made me wonder why hasn't the term NSA been mentioned! Should we change it to No Judgement Attached? People meeting up to swing IMO should be open and honest and upfront other than that it's all good. Why they are here is their own business....no body should have to justify their presence on this site to another member

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Reading down through this thread made me wonder why hasn't the term NSA been mentioned! Should we change it to No Judgement Attached? People meeting up to swing IMO should be open and honest and upfront other than that it's all good. Why they are here is their own business....no body should have to justify their presence on this site to another member"

Are we talking about justifying being here to other members, or talking about being honest to the person we profess to love so much we cannot bear to be without them?

Surely a question is would they want to be with a partner who is cheating? Surely they should be allowed that choice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Reading down through this thread made me wonder why hasn't the term NSA been mentioned! Should we change it to No Judgement Attached? People meeting up to swing IMO should be open and honest and upfront other than that it's all good. Why they are here is their own business....no body should have to justify their presence on this site to another member

Are we talking about justifying being here to other members, or talking about being honest to the person we profess to love so much we cannot bear to be without them?

Surely a question is would they want to be with a partner who is cheating? Surely they should be allowed that choice?"

To other members here...end of.

People's personal life is their own business. Be honest on your profile and it's an informed decision on who chooses to interact with them beyond that point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Reading down through this thread made me wonder why hasn't the term NSA been mentioned! Should we change it to No Judgement Attached? People meeting up to swing IMO should be open and honest and upfront other than that it's all good. Why they are here is their own business....no body should have to justify their presence on this site to another member

Are we talking about justifying being here to other members, or talking about being honest to the person we profess to love so much we cannot bear to be without them?

Surely a question is would they want to be with a partner who is cheating? Surely they should be allowed that choice?

To other members here...end of.

People's personal life is their own business. Be honest on your profile and it's an informed decision on who chooses to interact with them beyond that point. "

With the greatest of respect, that is your opinion, and you are entitled to it.

Others do not share it, and that is the beauty of public discussion in Forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Reading down through this thread made me wonder why hasn't the term NSA been mentioned! Should we change it to No Judgement Attached? People meeting up to swing IMO should be open and honest and upfront other than that it's all good. Why they are here is their own business....no body should have to justify their presence on this site to another member

Are we talking about justifying being here to other members, or talking about being honest to the person we profess to love so much we cannot bear to be without them?

Surely a question is would they want to be with a partner who is cheating? Surely they should be allowed that choice?

To other members here...end of.

People's personal life is their own business. Be honest on your profile and it's an informed decision on who chooses to interact with them beyond that point.

With the greatest of respect, that is your opinion, and you are entitled to it.

Others do not share it, and that is the beauty of public discussion in Forums."

If you read back you will see that some do and to back that up also there are a lot of married men and women on this site getting action so if nobody agreed with me this thread wouldn't be being debated. I simply stated my opinion on a thread for open discussion as did you. I am not telling you that nobody agrees with what you are saying as that would not be factual... people disagree about issue's all the time, this is no different...merely opinions, not personal...that is what the forum's are for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about Siamese twins?

They are not married to one another so that's ok "

The question was "attached"

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By *iamo69 OP   Man
over a year ago

South

Think they key is to be honest from start with whoever you are meeting..if its ok with both parties than no harm. Lots of reasons people cheat or lie buts thats life...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am attached and will be upfront about it.. it's up to the other person if they are comfortable with that.. I would meet either attached or unattached. The way I see it is its everyone's choice. Once your upfront both parties can make their decision with all info

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife has strong opinions on this topic. To her cheating is a marriage ending action.

Emotional cheating is the worst of the worst to her. She could forgive me sleeping with someone (eventually (possibly)) but if I had an affair and loved someone else it would kill her. Or she would kill me more likely.

People who cheat are not low life's. They are not scum. They can be lonely people who have suffered abuse or neglect. They can be prisoners of circumstance. A sick spouse. Or a spouse who has no interest in sex

And where do you draw the line. Is flirting cheating ? Or is it physical contact ? What about intent? If a spouse wants to cheat but gets stood up?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Err no cheating is cheating, when the trust is gone whats left

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate the whole "don't judge me" bollox. I judge people who are racists and I judge people who are homophobic. Is that wrong? If Paul down the local hates black people should I just shrug and say "Ah, can't judge Paul for that, sure I don't know the reasons why he hates black people." Fuck that. Paul's a cunt and the reaon's for why Paul hates black people isn't going to change that.

The same with cheaters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hate the whole "don't judge me" bollox. I judge people who are racists and I judge people who are homophobic. Is that wrong? If Paul down the local hates black people should I just shrug and say "Ah, can't judge Paul for that, sure I don't know the reasons why he hates black people." Fuck that. Paul's a cunt and the reaon's for why Paul hates black people isn't going to change that.

The same with cheaters. "

Well said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jeez!!

Much ado about nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hate the whole "don't judge me" bollox. I judge people who are racists and I judge people who are homophobic. Is that wrong? If Paul down the local hates black people should I just shrug and say "Ah, can't judge Paul for that, sure I don't know the reasons why he hates black people." Fuck that. Paul's a cunt and the reaon's for why Paul hates black people isn't going to change that.

This yep

The same with cheaters. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cant be arsed reading the thread; men wont care if the woman is attached cos all they want is a ride, whereas women can be far more picky so view attached men as vermin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheaters are lowlives in my eyes. Spineless.

And the ppl who cheat with them aren't much better. Selfish. As a lot of the posts here show

Gosh....

Judgement much...

Nobody knows what goes on in a relationship so I think that comment is unfair and uncalled for...

Marriage isn't so black and white

Ye I judge ppl that I see doing what I think are shitty things. We all do

And that part of marriage is black and white actually

So you've been married and can speak from experience

I was involved in many faithful relationships that lasted many years.its not so unusual

No its not...I was too for over 20 yrs completely faithful!

However...you don't know what goes on in each individuals relationships!

Some don't get the affection they desire, some don't get the sex or kink or for whatever reason but still love that person dearly and would not want to be without them...

Or hurt them...so their logic is what the eyes don't see!

It might not work for you but it's not fair to make such assumptions about other people'srelationships....

Shouldn't any decisions be made by both partners though?

If you love them that much do they not deserve a choice? Surely they should be able to choose if they accept the situation just as the person choosing to go elsewhere has made their choice?

Not everyone has such openness in their relationships....

The majority of attached people I've been with have all brought up the ideas of swinging to their partners and their reactions were anything but favourable..... "

Well said, from an attached male!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My wife has strong opinions on this topic. To her cheating is a marriage ending action.

Emotional cheating is the worst of the worst to her. She could forgive me sleeping with someone (eventually (possibly)) but if I had an affair and loved someone else it would kill her. Or she would kill me more likely.

People who cheat are not low life's. They are not scum. They can be lonely people who have suffered abuse or neglect. They can be prisoners of circumstance. A sick spouse. Or a spouse who has no interest in sex

And where do you draw the line. Is flirting cheating ? Or is it physical contact ? What about intent? If a spouse wants to cheat but gets stood up?"

As an attached male on hear, all I can say from my experience is that people cheat cause they are missing something from the partner! What that is varies. But they do it so they don't cause emotional upset to there partners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cant be arsed reading the thread; men wont care if the woman is attached cos all they want is a ride, whereas women can be far more picky so view attached men as vermin"

Wrong. Most women are attracted to attached men who are in a happy relationship. Attraction doesn't mean they want to have sex with them.they can easily picture him in a relationship with themselves. If she can put up him so could I

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My wife has strong opinions on this topic. To her cheating is a marriage ending action.

Emotional cheating is the worst of the worst to her. She could forgive me sleeping with someone (eventually (prossibly)) but if I had an affair and loved someone else it would kill her. Or she would kill me more likely.

People who cheat are not low life's. They are not scum. They can be lonely people who have suffered abuse or neglect. They can be prisoners of circumstance. A sick spouse. Or a spouse who has no interest in sex

And where do you draw the line. Is flirting cheating ? Or is it physical contact ? What about intent? If a spouse wants to cheat but gets stood up?

As an attached male on hear, all I can say from my experience is that people cheat cause they are missing something from the partner! What that is varies. But they do it so they don't cause emotional upset to there partners "

So they get to choose to have sex elsewhere and their partner doesn't get to choose whether they accept it or not?

That sound like a good way to treat someone you care about??

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"I hate the whole "don't judge me" bollox. I judge people who are racists and I judge people who are homophobic. Is that wrong? If Paul down the local hates black people should I just shrug and say "Ah, can't judge Paul for that, sure I don't know the reasons why he hates black people." Fuck that. Paul's a cunt and the reaon's for why Paul hates black people isn't going to change that.

The same with cheaters. "

I fail to follow your logic. While you're entitled to your opinion that cheating is wrong, it's a bit far fetched to compare 'cheaters' with racists and homophobes. The two latter groups are generally feeling superior and/or are hatred filled against people of other race or because of their sexual orientation, while being such is in itself is appalling but not illegal however discrimination or acting upon it is. Not reacting sensibly when such occurs makes you a bystander.

Now going back on 'cheaters' you may argue that 'cheaters' disrespect their partners, but that might not necessarily be the case. So you might have your own opinion on cheating and condemn it, but it's not down to you to judge them as it is not of your business especially when you don't know the circumstances.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well interesting forum as always when it comes too the married scenario alas my profile says it out let ladies decide for themselves

Life is short it is to be fulfilled and the ladies I have met wether sexually or socially I have always enjoyed for it is the mutual interest that brings us to meets

Wether ladies meet married or married meets ladies is irrevelevent we all joined here with the prosper that others wouldn't judge so why not continue to prosper and love each other whatever they choose to do

Some choose to hide it others express it some aren't some are does it matter if for a moment in your life you can be another person and subtract thyself from the current judgemental shivenistic society that we compete against and be who you are or want to be.

Rant over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is really funny are the number of cheating people on here who say they are 'honest' in their profile.

Tell that honest bit to the partner back home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is really funny are the number of cheating people on here who say they are 'honest' in their profile.

Tell that honest bit to the partner back home."

A debate on the forum's is neutral and opinions are just that, each to their own not all will agree hence the debate. When you resort to pointing out what is on people's profiles that is making it personal but just says that you have lost the argument when all you are doing is being repetitive and making it personal.

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By *eadue stallionMan
over a year ago

Yes


"Cant be arsed reading the thread; men wont care if the woman is attached cos all they want is a ride, whereas women can be far more picky so view attached men as vermin"

.

Not true... have met a few ladies who had 'single' profile, but were Married and they preferred Married guys as they didn't run back to their mates to brag about 'their conquest'!

The married guys had to keep their mouth shut, no bragging, etc etc.... hence more discreet!

A few local ladies refused to meet me as the single guys they had met told other guys, who were then contacting them because they told other guys about them!

One lady was approached in a supermarket by a guy she'd never met introducing himself as a friend of a guy she'd met! He was with the guy she had met!

She left the supermarket in tears!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is really funny are the number of cheating people on here who say they are 'honest' in their profile.

Tell that honest bit to the partner back home.

A debate on the forum's is neutral and opinions are just that, each to their own not all will agree hence the debate. When you resort to pointing out what is on people's profiles that is making it personal but just says that you have lost the argument when all you are doing is being repetitive and making it personal. "

So how does it work then?

Selective honesty??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is really funny are the number of cheating people on here who say they are 'honest' in their profile.

Tell that honest bit to the partner back home.

A debate on the forum's is neutral and opinions are just that, each to their own not all will agree hence the debate. When you resort to pointing out what is on people's profiles that is making it personal but just says that you have lost the argument when all you are doing is being repetitive and making it personal.

So how does it work then?

Selective honesty??"

N.S.A.

People's lives outside of fab are their own business. Why they are here is their own business.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"What is really funny are the number of cheating people on here who say they are 'honest' in their profile.

Tell that honest bit to the partner back home.

A debate on the forum's is neutral and opinions are just that, each to their own not all will agree hence the debate. When you resort to pointing out what is on people's profiles that is making it personal but just says that you have lost the argument when all you are doing is being repetitive and making it personal.

So how does it work then?

Selective honesty??

N.S.A.

People's lives outside of fab are their own business. Why they are here is their own business.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is really funny are the number of cheating people on here who say they are 'honest' in their profile.

Tell that honest bit to the partner back home.

A debate on the forum's is neutral and opinions are just that, each to their own not all will agree hence the debate. When you resort to pointing out what is on people's profiles that is making it personal but just says that you have lost the argument when all you are doing is being repetitive and making it personal.

So how does it work then?

Selective honesty??

N.S.A.

People's lives outside of fab are their own business. Why they are here is their own business.

"

No problem.

Just leave out the word 'honest'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cant be arsed reading the thread; men wont care if the woman is attached cos all they want is a ride, whereas women can be far more picky so view attached men as vermin

.

Not true... have met a few ladies who had 'single' profile, but were Married and they preferred Married guys as they didn't run back to their mates to brag about 'their conquest'!

The married guys had to keep their mouth shut, no bragging, etc etc.... hence more discreet!

A few local ladies refused to meet me as the single guys they had met told other guys, who were then contacting them because they told other guys about them!

One lady was approached in a supermarket by a guy she'd never met introducing himself as a friend of a guy she'd met! He was with the guy she had met!

She left the supermarket in tears!!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is really funny are the number of cheating people on here who say they are 'honest' in their profile.

Tell that honest bit to the partner back home.

A debate on the forum's is neutral and opinions are just that, each to their own not all will agree hence the debate. When you resort to pointing out what is on people's profiles that is making it personal but just says that you have lost the argument when all you are doing is being repetitive and making it personal.

So how does it work then?

Selective honesty??

N.S.A.

People's lives outside of fab are their own business. Why they are here is their own business.

No problem.

Just leave out the word 'honest'."

Their profile, their business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is really funny are the number of cheating people on here who say they are 'honest' in their profile.

Tell that honest bit to the partner back home.

A debate on the forum's is neutral and opinions are just that, each to their own not all will agree hence the debate. When you resort to pointing out what is on people's profiles that is making it personal but just says that you have lost the argument when all you are doing is being repetitive and making it personal.

So how does it work then?

Selective honesty??

N.S.A.

People's lives outside of fab are their own business. Why they are here is their own business.

No problem.

Just leave out the word 'honest'.

Their profile, their business."

Of course they can describe themselves as what they want, but they are just not honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is really funny are the number of cheating people on here who say they are 'honest' in their profile.

Tell that honest bit to the partner back home.

A debate on the forum's is neutral and opinions are just that, each to their own not all will agree hence the debate. When you resort to pointing out what is on people's profiles that is making it personal but just says that you have lost the argument when all you are doing is being repetitive and making it personal.

So how does it work then?

Selective honesty??

N.S.A.

People's lives outside of fab are their own business. Why they are here is their own business.

No problem.

Just leave out the word 'honest'.

Their profile, their business.

Of course they can describe themselves as what they want, but they are just not honest.

"

Everybody on fab is 100% honest on their profiles! This is an adult site, people have written up how they view themselves but that is their prerogative on their own profile.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"What is really funny are the number of cheating people on here who say they are 'honest' in their profile.

Tell that honest bit to the partner back home.

A debate on the forum's is neutral and opinions are just that, each to their own not all will agree hence the debate. When you resort to pointing out what is on people's profiles that is making it personal but just says that you have lost the argument when all you are doing is being repetitive and making it personal.

So how does it work then?

Selective honesty??

N.S.A.

People's lives outside of fab are their own business. Why they are here is their own business.

No problem.

Just leave out the word 'honest'.

Their profile, their business.

Of course they can describe themselves as what they want, but they are just not honest.

"

They might not be honest with their partners which is none of your business but they are upfront on their profile. That leaves you with the choice to meet them or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is really funny are the number of cheating people on here who say they are 'honest' in their profile.

Tell that honest bit to the partner back home.

A debate on the forum's is neutral and opinions are just that, each to their own not all will agree hence the debate. When you resort to pointing out what is on people's profiles that is making it personal but just says that you have lost the argument when all you are doing is being repetitive and making it personal.

So how does it work then?

Selective honesty??

N.S.A.

People's lives outside of fab are their own business. Why they are here is their own business.

No problem.

Just leave out the word 'honest'.

Their profile, their business.

Of course they can describe themselves as what they want, but they are just not honest.

They might not be honest with their partners which is none of your business but they are upfront on their profile. That leaves you with the choice to meet them or not. "

Like we said. A selectively honest person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is really funny are the number of cheating people on here who say they are 'honest' in their profile.

Tell that honest bit to the partner back home.

A debate on the forum's is neutral and opinions are just that, each to their own not all will agree hence the debate. When you resort to pointing out what is on people's profiles that is making it personal but just says that you have lost the argument when all you are doing is being repetitive and making it personal.

So how does it work then?

Selective honesty??

N.S.A.

People's lives outside of fab are their own business. Why they are here is their own business.

No problem.

Just leave out the word 'honest'.

Their profile, their business.

Of course they can describe themselves as what they want, but they are just not honest.

They might not be honest with their partners which is none of your business but they are upfront on their profile. That leaves you with the choice to meet them or not. "

I agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

each to there own. but don't tell me lies..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheaters are lowlives in my eyes. Spineless.

And the ppl who cheat with them aren't much better. Selfish. As a lot of the posts here show

Gosh....

Judgement much...

Nobody knows what goes on in a relationship so I think that comment is unfair and uncalled for...

Marriage isn't so black and white

Ye I judge ppl that I see doing what I think are shitty things. We all do

And that part of marriage is black and white actually

So you've been married and can speak from experience

I was involved in many faithful relationships that lasted many years.its not so unusual

No its not...I was too for over 20 yrs completely faithful!

However...you don't know what goes on in each individuals relationships!

Some don't get the affection they desire, some don't get the sex or kink or for whatever reason but still love that person dearly and would not want to be without them...

Or hurt them...so their logic is what the eyes don't see!

It might not work for you but it's not fair to make such assumptions about other people'srelationships....

That's just another way of wording what I said really,that they are spineless and selfish,just depends on your point of view

Points of view....ammmm

If a couple swing some people don't see that as being the norm they see it as warped and strange that a man would let his partner kiss let alone fuck another man let alone couples who meet separately but thankfully not everyone is so closed minded!

They aren't in your boat your not in theirs!

Comparing swinging too cheating

You're on wrong site

No I'm comparing other people's points of view!!

Not mine...

That's not a point of view that should be aired here on a swing site,that swinging is warped, because we all know that what happens between consenting adults is perfectly fine don't we???

Whereas cheaters hurt their nonconsenting other halves

They are only hurt if they find out about it....

You have your views I have mine!

I don't judge those attached people who for whatever reason are on the site!

As I said there is lots of grey in a relationship...not just black and white!

They are only hurt if they find out?

So are we saying it is okay to do it and not tell them??

To take away their choice of what they will accept while a cheat makes the choice of both doing what they want, and saying that their partner must accept it?

Okay...."

Not everyone has perfect lives/relationship like yours where both partners consent to go swinging or both partners have kinks they want to explore...

Your comments are repetitive and I've said my bit I'm done!

Happy NSA swinging

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