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By *evilsAdvocate72 OP   Woman
over a year ago

East

One of the first emails I received today was from a man telling me "he'd love to fuck me from behind".

I told him it was an offensive opening line And asked if he would use that line in public and I was told No way.

But I was silly for finding it offensive and disrespectful on here based solely on my profile picture.

Anyone else find it offensive or is it ok because we chose to share erotic photos of ourselves?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of the first emails I received today was from a man telling me "he'd love to fuck me from behind".

I told him it was an offensive opening line And asked if he would use that line in public and I was told No way.

But I was silly for finding it offensive and disrespectful on here based solely on my profile picture.

Anyone else find it offensive or is it ok because we chose to share erotic photos of ourselves?

"

He probably should have weaved his desires into his opening paragraph. It's tough in a way because your pic graphically shows what you like so maybe he just made the jump straight to 'she's up for it'.

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

That's the problem they see pictures and big brain goes out the door..... It does not matter what your profile picture consists of... The first message should be respectable. They should show respect to you..... No way would anyone approach a woman in a pub club scene like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sure there's all breeds of stupidity on this site, in the scottish forum there's a thread going where some guy wants to buy used condoms that are full of cum,

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town


"sure there's all breeds of stupidity on this site, in the scottish forum there's a thread going where some guy wants to buy used condoms that are full of cum, "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sure there's all breeds of stupidity on this site, in the scottish forum there's a thread going where some guy wants to buy used condoms that are full of cum, "

that seems to be the general reaction of the public for this request haha

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Whenever I'm about to do something, I think, "Would an idiot do that?" And if they would, I do not do that thing

-Dwight from The US Office.

Words to live by.

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By *oughandCurvyCouple
over a year ago

galway

[Removed by poster at 07/11/16 15:44:26]

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By *oughandCurvyCouple
over a year ago

galway

We get those kinds of messages too and yes we also find them offensive, best thing to do is delete and move on!

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By *rishcouple12Couple
over a year ago

Cork County

Some people on here think its a free brothel, and basically once you are in then it's free sex..the same users generally don't last long and are the ones who throw up childish status updates which is merely down to there perception of fab not been that free brothel been shattered .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sure there's all breeds of stupidity on this site, in the scottish forum there's a thread going where some guy wants to buy used condoms that are full of cum, "

Wtf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's the problem they see pictures and big brain goes out the door..... It does not matter what your profile picture consists of... The first message should be respectable. They should show respect to you..... No way would anyone approach a woman in a pub club scene like that."

Much better way of saying it than my hamfisted attempt

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By *rishcouple12Couple
over a year ago

Cork County


"sure there's all breeds of stupidity on this site, in the scottish forum there's a thread going where some guy wants to buy used condoms that are full of cum,

Wtf"

I was going to go with they are no words but wft is equal to that

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By *rishcouple12Couple
over a year ago

Cork County


"That's the problem they see pictures and big brain goes out the door..... It does not matter what your profile picture consists of... The first message should be respectable. They should show respect to you..... No way would anyone approach a woman in a pub club scene like that."

Sadly they are guys in pubs who do that...usually they at the very least get told where to go...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a fairly shy person, I do open up when I get to know people. However I think my shyness has extended into my messaging. When I type I feel like the boy afraid to look at the girl he is talking to. I will admit to saying things in my head when I see some of the pictures on the site (sometimes I say them outloud when the picture is too good for just thoughts). But I don't think I could ever start a conversation with those words.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of the first emails I received today was from a man telling me "he'd love to fuck me from behind".

I told him it was an offensive opening line And asked if he would use that line in public and I was told No way.

But I was silly for finding it offensive and disrespectful on here based solely on my profile picture.

Anyone else find it offensive or is it ok because we chose to share erotic photos of ourselves?

"

I also get offensive mail, and like you have wondered if it's because I am displaying erotic pics...... Do I deserve it? I don't think so..... It's the messenger who has the problem.... Best to delete and forget.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't say offensive bearing in mind where we are but I'd be unlikely to respond.

If people choose to be unmannerly, return the favour & ignore them. Answering them will only mean further correspondence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just a small point.... Is it charming or whatever maybe not... But to put it in context I don't think it's 'offensive'. Undesired sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sure there's all breeds of stupidity on this site, in the scottish forum there's a thread going where some guy wants to buy used condoms that are full of cum, "

Ewwwwww

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

I don't get the offensive bit. It's a stupid message written by an idiot who disqualified himself in one go. I just laugh those ones off, I've no time to get upset over lines like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wouldn't necessarily annoy me too much. Then, I not easily offended. Guy being honest, straight talking even if not respectful or gentlemanly. Prob meant it as a compliment albeit not appropriate.

Not the best opening line and I imagine wouldn't have much success with it.

And putting sexy or suggestive pics up doesn't give people the right to be presumptuous but it is fab and always be some smart ass.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't get the offensive bit. It's a stupid message written by an idiot who disqualified himself in one go. I just laugh those ones off, I've no time to get upset over lines like that."

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we've not read the thread properly, so just to confirm...

Who's fucking who in the arse and where are we sending the used condom full of spunk ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I literally skim over my mail, if its not from someone I think I might like then I just delete. I get all sorts of filth lol but so far everyone has been really nice xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's the problem they see pictures and big brain goes out the door..... It does not matter what your profile picture consists of... The first message should be respectable. They should show respect to you..... No way would anyone approach a woman in a pub club scene like that."

I think it's that so many people equate women who like sex to porn. There is a time for porn talk and a time for real talk.

If I say to my wife, I want to fuck you from behind, in the right mindset she will respond well. If we are doing something serious I will get a dead stare and a thinly veiled threat

lots of people think that they can say the shit they see in porn on here because the women want sex. They want sex with the right people. Not have sex with just anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of the first emails I received today was from a man telling me "he'd love to fuck me from behind".

I told him it was an offensive opening line And asked if he would use that line in public and I was told No way.

But I was silly for finding it offensive and disrespectful on here based solely on my profile picture.

Anyone else find it offensive or is it ok because we chose to share erotic photos of ourselves?

I also get offensive mail, and like you have wondered if it's because I am displaying erotic pics...... Do I deserve it? I don't think so..... It's the messenger who has the problem.... Best to delete and forget..... "

no one deserves offensive mail. Regardless of whether pics you have up no one deserves abuse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nice tits hun" was my opening mail from the latest. I was thinking to myself, do you think because u used the word "hun" do you think it's ok then????

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

'Mug pic?' has to be my favourite opener thus far, needless to say my response (if I gave one, can't remember) did not include any pictures attached

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By *arkedMan
over a year ago

Trim


"One of the first emails I received today was from a man telling me "he'd love to fuck me from behind".

I told him it was an offensive opening line And asked if he would use that line in public and I was told No way.

But I was silly for finding it offensive and disrespectful on here based solely on my profile picture.

Anyone else find it offensive or is it ok because we chose to share erotic photos of ourselves?

I also get offensive mail, and like you have wondered if it's because I am displaying erotic pics...... Do I deserve it? I don't think so..... It's the messenger who has the problem.... Best to delete and forget..... "

Nobody deserves that, no matter what pics or words they have up.

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By *evilsAdvocate72 OP   Woman
over a year ago

East


"sure there's all breeds of stupidity on this site, in the scottish forum there's a thread going where some guy wants to buy used condoms that are full of cum, "

I've been asked to sell my worn "panties" but used condoms is a new one on me! Lol

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By *evilsAdvocate72 OP   Woman
over a year ago

East


"Whenever I'm about to do something, I think, "Would an idiot do that?" And if they would, I do not do that thing

-Dwight from The US Office.

Words to live by."

Very good Advice J Mingo

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By *evilsAdvocate72 OP   Woman
over a year ago

East


"That's the problem they see pictures and big brain goes out the door..... It does not matter what your profile picture consists of... The first message should be respectable. They should show respect to you..... No way would anyone approach a woman in a pub club scene like that.

I think it's that so many people equate women who like sex to porn. There is a time for porn talk and a time for real talk.

If I say to my wife, I want to fuck you from behind, in the right mindset she will respond well. If we are doing something serious I will get a dead stare and a thinly veiled threat

lots of people think that they can say the shit they see in porn on here because the women want sex. They want sex with the right people. Not have sex with just anyone. "

Well said

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By *evilsAdvocate72 OP   Woman
over a year ago

East


"One of the first emails I received today was from a man telling me "he'd love to fuck me from behind".

I told him it was an offensive opening line And asked if he would use that line in public and I was told No way.

But I was silly for finding it offensive and disrespectful on here based solely on my profile picture.

Anyone else find it offensive or is it ok because we chose to share erotic photos of ourselves?

I also get offensive mail, and like you have wondered if it's because I am displaying erotic pics...... Do I deserve it? I don't think so..... It's the messenger who has the problem.... Best to delete and forget.....

no one deserves offensive mail. Regardless of whether pics you have up no one deserves abuse "

Ah it wasn't abusive to be fair and I was trying to make him think about what he was doing rather than actually being offended.

I normally laugh at such emails but I was in the mood to give a lecture and he was the unfortunate victim..and I did get an apology in the end. Lol

I am fascinated though that men only ten years younger appear to be coming from a completely different generation to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get offended but I did feel abit queasy after I read my first msg this morning "piss, I'd drink yours"

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

The cheek of some people using an opening line to talk about sex and sexual positions on here eh? Do they not realise that fabswingers is a training website for nuns? Imagine the audacity to comment saying how they would love to do what is being done in someones profile photo the very nerve of them tsk tsk tsk.

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway


""Nice tits hun" was my opening mail from the latest. I was thinking to myself, do you think because u used the word "hun" do you think it's ok then???? "

the cheeky scrote they aren't even that nice sure

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By *orguyMan
over a year ago

Tuam

"Cum get me".....worst ever kinda sad.

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