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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What are your fab expectations and are they being met?

Lately I find myself contemplating this question a lot. I don't really have a huge expectation, but a base line of interacting with like minded adults, is definetly my minimum expectation. I'm a single guy, why chose fab when getting sex would be far easier on a dating site. It's that expectation of interaction with liberated, open minded adults, that brought me here. Though in some cases, that's being met, there is a small but very persistent element of childishness going on in the background. That really leaves a bad taste and makes me question if my expectations of Fab are actually being met.

So again I ask the question, what are your expectations and do you feel they're being met?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No... they aren't. Probably mostly my own fault as a small amount of nasty guys has put me off meeting in general. I think I'm just jaded to the whole thing at this stage. I would imagine it's probably time to decide to stay or go but the people I do like, especially on the forums, keep me here

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

I joined because my marriage broke up and missed the physical side. I wanted the sex without the commitment. So yes the site has provided that but also has given me much more. I've had experiences that I would never dream of having in a vanilla life and have made such a wonderful group of friends ( that I can call friends).

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By *exyDownUnderWoman
over a year ago

Westmeath

No, they're not. Like Snow I'm getting a bit jaded too. Messages like ... 'do you want me to phone you so you can hear me cum' or 'do you want to meet for some car fun', just don't do it for me.

I joined to meet likeminded people who I click with and explore sexually and push boundaries for myself.

I find guys just want the quick fuck and get outta there. Have learnt this isn't for me, I want some depth to my meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No... they aren't. Probably mostly my own fault as a small amount of nasty guys has put me off meeting in general. I think I'm just jaded to the whole thing at this stage. I would imagine it's probably time to decide to stay or go but the people I do like, especially on the forums, keep me here "

That's exactly how I feel...

Bored out of my mind with the dribble of messages asking if I'm horny/free/in their area or how my day is going....

Massive yawn....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, they're not. Like Snow I'm getting a bit jaded too. Messages like ... 'do you want me to phone you so you can hear me cum' or 'do you want to meet for some car fun', just don't do it for me.

I joined to meet likeminded people who I click with and explore sexually and push boundaries for myself.

I find guys just want the quick fuck and get outta there. Have learnt this isn't for me, I want some depth to my meets. "

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By *elfastDMan
over a year ago

belfast

Us men are a simple bunch

We appear to be a very simple bunch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, they're not. Like Snow I'm getting a bit jaded too. Messages like ... 'do you want me to phone you so you can hear me cum' or 'do you want to meet for some car fun', just don't do it for me.

I joined to meet likeminded people who I click with and explore sexually and push boundaries for myself.

I find guys just want the quick fuck and get outta there. Have learnt this isn't for me, I want some depth to my meets.

"
Im just what you ladies have been looking for cum and get me.

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

Reached,surpassed and raised

The interaction with like minded people and experience both mine and their fantasy's pushing the boundaries a little no alot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dunno Belfast I'm thinking of going all lesbian....

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks


"I dunno Belfast I'm thinking of going all lesbian...."

.

Me too!!

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"No... they aren't. Probably mostly my own fault as a small amount of nasty guys has put me off meeting in general. I think I'm just jaded to the whole thing at this stage. I would imagine it's probably time to decide to stay or go but the people I do like, especially on the forums, keep me here

That's exactly how I feel...

Bored out of my mind with the dribble of messages asking if I'm horny/free/in their area or how my day is going....

Massive yawn....

"

Mmm fancy a fook

Getting to know someone and what they desire is a satisfy as the act it self in fact increasing the pleasure of the act

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Us men are a simple bunch

We appear to be a very simple bunch "

Its not every guy.. some guys on here are great. But it's the amount of mails we get either asking for a quickie in their car, asking to meet to verify them (so they can meet someone else) or just nasty rude mails that puts me off meeting. It's rare I'd find a get who would actually make me consider shaving me legs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I joined because I'm single and thoroughly enjoy sex, but don't want the complications of a relationship.

I've had the pleasure of fulfilling fantasies and I've made some cracking friends, which is what I set out to do.

So yes, it's working for me.

BG

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By *exyDownUnderWoman
over a year ago

Westmeath

Where are the men who actually want to get to know you first. Do you not realise us women need a connection first, once it's there the sex will refect this.

Where are the interesting men, the ones who have depth to their personalities.

Anyone can have sex ... it's quality we're after not to shag the site.

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By *elfastDMan
over a year ago

belfast


"Us men are a simple bunch

We appear to be a very simple bunch

Its not every guy.. some guys on here are great. But it's the amount of mails we get either asking for a quickie in their car, asking to meet to verify them (so they can meet someone else) or just nasty rude mails that puts me off meeting. It's rare I'd find a get who would actually make me consider shaving me legs. "

I've got very hairy legs too

I haven't been tempted in a while

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Us men are a simple bunch

We appear to be a very simple bunch

Its not every guy.. some guys on here are great. But it's the amount of mails we get either asking for a quickie in their car, asking to meet to verify them (so they can meet someone else) or just nasty rude mails that puts me off meeting. It's rare I'd find a get who would actually make me consider shaving me legs.

I've got very hairy legs too

I haven't been tempted in a while

"

Well winter is coming need a way to keep warm

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By *elfastDMan
over a year ago

belfast


"Us men are a simple bunch

We appear to be a very simple bunch

Its not every guy.. some guys on here are great. But it's the amount of mails we get either asking for a quickie in their car, asking to meet to verify them (so they can meet someone else) or just nasty rude mails that puts me off meeting. It's rare I'd find a get who would actually make me consider shaving me legs.

I've got very hairy legs too

I haven't been tempted in a while

Well winter is coming need a way to keep warm "

Nice link back to the thread

I could do with keeping someone warm this winter

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks


"Us men are a simple bunch

We appear to be a very simple bunch

Its not every guy.. some guys on here are great. But it's the amount of mails we get either asking for a quickie in their car, asking to meet to verify them (so they can meet someone else) or just nasty rude mails that puts me off meeting. It's rare I'd find a get who would actually make me consider shaving me legs. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No mine havent either..the amount of fakes, timewasters people who like to play mind games and cause drama and downright weirdos has ruined it for me and turned me off meeting at the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Expectations??? I have no expectations. I'm doing what I want how I want when I want. That's as far as fab goes for me. It's a timeout and an escape from the shite that real life often brings. It makes me laugh makes me giggle and sometimes does my nut in. But hey I can shut the phone off at any time. It's all good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Will you lot stop complaining and get on with what you're good at.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The site is what you make of it yourself .

Yes lots of time wasters and outright weirdos but you can meet them on any given night out

If you find yourself complaining about fab more then enjoying it well maybe it's time to leave

Fab is a tool that's given to you to use ... it's up to you how to use it ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The site is what you make of it yourself .

Yes lots of time wasters and outright weirdos but you can meet them on any given night out

If you find yourself complaining about fab more then enjoying it well maybe it's time to leave

Fab is a tool that's given to you to use ... it's up to you how to use it .... "

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"Will you lot stop complaining and get on with what you're good at."

Ffs man we are read the thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The site is what you make of it yourself .

Yes lots of time wasters and outright weirdos but you can meet them on any given night out

If you find yourself complaining about fab more then enjoying it well maybe it's time to leave

Fab is a tool that's given to you to use ... it's up to you how to use it .... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Expectations??? I have no expectations. I'm doing what I want how I want when I want. That's as far as fab goes for me. It's a timeout and an escape from the shite that real life often brings. It makes me laugh makes me giggle and sometimes does my nut in. But hey I can shut the phone off at any time. It's all good "

^^^ this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wasn't complaining about fab in general more a select few, just letting off some steam..if having a little rant is a reason to leave the whole of fab would have to go Im certain the nice genuine people here far outweigh the bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab is meeting my expectations and some. Just take the fun bit with likeminded guys and gals, and ignore any nonsense. It works for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Expectations??? I have no expectations. I'm doing what I want how I want when I want. That's as far as fab goes for me. It's a timeout and an escape from the shite that real life often brings. It makes me laugh makes me giggle and sometimes does my nut in. But hey I can shut the phone off at any time. It's all good

^^^ this "

This also.

The part about shutting the phone off is a good point. If you don't like somethings on tele then just change the channel. We are not living in two channel land anymore.

Same for the lads. If you don't like fabs stop complaining and just leave. If you are not meeting and want to meet then you are probably doing something wrong so take a look at that.

Like someone has pointed out, like all the other sites, fabs is just a connection tool.

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By *verready32Man
over a year ago

omagh


"What are your fab expectations and are they being met?

Lately I find myself contemplating this question a lot. I don't really have a huge expectation, but a base line of interacting with like minded adults, is definetly my minimum expectation. I'm a single guy, why chose fab when getting sex would be far easier on a dating site. It's that expectation of interaction with liberated, open minded adults, that brought me here. Though in some cases, that's being met, there is a small but very persistent element of childishness going on in the background. That really leaves a bad taste and makes me question if my expectations of Fab are actually being met.

So again I ask the question, what are your expectations and do you feel they're being met? "

No sadly I joined to meet like minded people for some NSA fun. And to some point I have managed to get that with a select few, but it's been a constant battle of endless messages. I like so many thinking it's time to call it a day on here, the number of times I have been let down and sometimes after traveling a fair distance is just not worth the effort, and the number of non replies. I understand to a point some folk are overwhelmed with messages so I guess I can't comprehend what that is like lol!!

Not sure how we can fix it but I am getting fed up with it lol!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wasn't complaining about fab in general more a select few, just letting off some steam..if having a little rant is a reason to leave the whole of fab would have to go Im certain the nice genuine people here far outweigh the bad "

My post was not about you

It was my view on question asked by op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, they're not. Like Snow I'm getting a bit jaded too. Messages like ... 'do you want me to phone you so you can hear me cum' or 'do you want to meet for some car fun', just don't do it for me.

I joined to meet likeminded people who I click with and

explore sexually and push boundaries for myself.

I find guys just want the quick fuck and get outta there. Have learnt this isn't for me, I want some depth to my meets. "

You clearly have not been with me im not here to pleasure me i get more pleasure from licking out than sex lol so when ever get my frist meet they will come back for more as i dont like one offs lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wasn't complaining about fab in general more a select few, just letting off some steam..if having a little rant is a reason to leave the whole of fab would have to go Im certain the nice genuine people here far outweigh the bad

My post was not about you

It was my view on question asked by op "

Neither was mine so its all good, I just wanted to clarify that I do think most here are genuinely nice people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No... they aren't. Probably mostly my own fault as a small amount of nasty guys has put me off meeting in general. I think I'm just jaded to the whole thing at this stage. I would imagine it's probably time to decide to stay or go but the people I do like, especially on the forums, keep me here

That's exactly how I feel...

Bored out of my mind with the dribble of messages asking if I'm horny/free/in their area or how my day is going....

Massive yawn....

"

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By *ay and DeborahCouple
over a year ago

Co. Down

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By *exyDownUnderWoman
over a year ago

Westmeath


"No, they're not. Like Snow I'm getting a bit jaded too. Messages like ... 'do you want me to phone you so you can hear me cum' or 'do you want to meet for some car fun', just don't do it for me.

I joined to meet likeminded people who I click with and

explore sexually and push boundaries for myself.

I find guys just want the quick fuck and get outta there. Have learnt this isn't for me, I want some depth to my meets.

You clearly have not been with me im not here to pleasure me i get more pleasure from licking out than sex lol so when ever get my frist meet they will come back for more as i dont like one offs lol"

No, I haven't met you. And yes it's great to find a guy who is great at oral.

But I was referring to some guys who are just out for one offs and move on. That's just not for me.

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By *oreplay lover1234Man
over a year ago

Belfast

Joining fab has been good for me..of course there is a few time wasters. .but hey..We don't live in a perfect world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, they're not. Like Snow I'm getting a bit jaded too. Messages like ... 'do you want me to phone you so you can hear me cum' or 'do you want to meet for some car fun', just don't do it for me.

I joined to meet likeminded people who I click with and

explore sexually and push boundaries for myself.

I find guys just want the quick fuck and get outta there. Have learnt this isn't for me, I want some depth to my meets.

You clearly have not been with me im not here to pleasure me i get more pleasure from licking out than sex lol so when ever get my frist meet they will come back for more as i dont like one offs lol

No, I haven't met you. And yes it's great to find a guy who is great at oral.

But I was referring to some guys who are just out for one offs and move on. That's just not for me."

Yeah i dont have time for that you cant bring a women to maximum pleasure one time and leve it at that i perfer to do it as much as possible so they cum more mmmmm yummy ??

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By *exyDownUnderWoman
over a year ago

Westmeath


"No, they're not. Like Snow I'm getting a bit jaded too. Messages like ... 'do you want me to phone you so you can hear me cum' or 'do you want to meet for some car fun', just don't do it for me.

I joined to meet likeminded people who I click with and

explore sexually and push boundaries for myself.

I find guys just want the quick fuck and get outta there. Have learnt this isn't for me, I want some depth to my meets.

You clearly have not been with me im not here to pleasure me i get more pleasure from licking out than sex lol so when ever get my frist meet they will come back for more as i dont like one offs lol

No, I haven't met you. And yes it's great to find a guy who is great at oral.

But I was referring to some guys who are just out for one offs and move on. That's just not for me.

Yeah i dont have time for that you cant bring a women to maximum pleasure one time and leve it at that i perfer to do it as much as possible so they cum more mmmmm yummy ?? "

Exactly, I love giving oral too and pride myself on my skills.

Also find each time you meet the same person it just keeps getting better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, they're not. Like Snow I'm getting a bit jaded too. Messages like ... 'do you want me to phone you so you can hear me cum' or 'do you want to meet for some car fun', just don't do it for me.

I joined to meet likeminded people who I click with and

explore sexually and push boundaries for myself.

I find guys just want the quick fuck and get outta there. Have learnt this isn't for me, I want some depth to my meets.

You clearly have not been with me im not here to pleasure me i get more pleasure from licking out than sex lol so when ever get my frist meet they will come back for more as i dont like one offs lol

No, I haven't met you. And yes it's great to find a guy who is great at oral.

But I was referring to some guys who are just out for one offs and move on. That's just not for me.

Yeah i dont have time for that you cant bring a women to maximum pleasure one time and leve it at that i perfer to do it as much as possible so they cum more mmmmm yummy ??

Exactly, I love giving oral too and pride myself on my skills.

Also find each time you meet the same person it just keeps getting better "

Maybe wee should meet some time you can try my skills and ill try yours

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By *exyDownUnderWoman
over a year ago

Westmeath


"No, they're not. Like Snow I'm getting a bit jaded too. Messages like ... 'do you want me to phone you so you can hear me cum' or 'do you want to meet for some car fun', just don't do it for me.

I joined to meet likeminded people who I click with and

explore sexually and push boundaries for myself.

I find guys just want the quick fuck and get outta there. Have learnt this isn't for me, I want some depth to my meets.

You clearly have not been with me im not here to pleasure me i get more pleasure from licking out than sex lol so when ever get my frist meet they will come back for more as i dont like one offs lol

No, I haven't met you. And yes it's great to find a guy who is great at oral.

But I was referring to some guys who are just out for one offs and move on. That's just not for me.

Yeah i dont have time for that you cant bring a women to maximum pleasure one time and leve it at that i perfer to do it as much as possible so they cum more mmmmm yummy ??

Exactly, I love giving oral too and pride myself on my skills.

Also find each time you meet the same person it just keeps getting better

Maybe wee should meet some time you can try my skills and ill try yours "

Lol. A bonding of sorts over mutual appreciation of skills.

I bet I could last longer than you ... like a bit of a challenge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, they're not. Like Snow I'm getting a bit jaded too. Messages like ... 'do you want me to phone you so you can hear me cum' or 'do you want to meet for some car fun', just don't do it for me.

I joined to meet likeminded people who I click with and

explore sexually and push boundaries for myself.

I find guys just want the quick fuck and get outta there. Have learnt this isn't for me, I want some depth to my meets.

You clearly have not been with me im not here to pleasure me i get more pleasure from licking out than sex lol so when ever get my frist meet they will come back for more as i dont like one offs lol

No, I haven't met you. And yes it's great to find a guy who is great at oral.

But I was referring to some guys who are just out for one offs and move on. That's just not for me.

Yeah i dont have time for that you cant bring a women to maximum pleasure one time and leve it at that i perfer to do it as much as possible so they cum more mmmmm yummy ??

Exactly, I love giving oral too and pride myself on my skills.

Also find each time you meet the same person it just keeps getting better

Maybe wee should meet some time you can try my skills and ill try yours

Lol. A bonding of sorts over mutual appreciation of skills.

I bet I could last longer than you ... like a bit of a challenge "

Yeah what better way is there though im too you to message you so youll have to send the frist message lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty much, it's just one of many ways to find adult fun so if there's slim pickings here you use one of the other tools.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No... they aren't. Probably mostly my own fault as a small amount of nasty guys has put me off meeting in general. I think I'm just jaded to the whole thing at this stage. I would imagine it's probably time to decide to stay or go but the people I do like, especially on the forums, keep me here

That's exactly how I feel...

Bored out of my mind with the dribble of messages asking if I'm horny/free/in their area or how my day is going....

Massive yawn....

"

couldn't have put it better myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The site is what you make of it yourself .

Yes lots of time wasters and outright weirdos but you can meet them on any given night out

If you find yourself complaining about fab more then enjoying it well maybe it's time to leave

Fab is a tool that's given to you to use ... it's up to you how to use it .... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am separated and left dating site to join fab as I did not want a relationship at that point in my life... I wanted sex no complications but with substance and excitement with like minded sexually liberated people. Fab mostly has surpassed my expectations by giving me friendships, banter and escapism. Yes there are day's when it's more frustrating than pleasurable and they are the day's I remind myself that I am not married to fab

I have left once during that time as I had too much going on privately and fab was frustrating because I couldn't do meets etc... I reevaluated what I wanted from fab during that break and came back and adjusted fab to work for me. We all get the idiotic messages...have received some blinders lol but you shudder and block, love the banter with you fab peeps but do loose the run of myself at times

Love the parties and meets I do go on... I really enjoy interacting with people so it works for me on those levels. Happy with my fantasy fab life and as much crap is ongoing in my life, I am happy with that too.

Op, great question and sorry to hear you are having doubt's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, it's meeting mine and more...

Expectations are good adult sex with no emotional commitment just fun.

I haven't experienced the childishness because I avoid it. I dont judge people but reckon I'm a good judge of character.

I have well working filters on my profile. Wink/message profiles that interest me and if I get a response take it from there.

So far so good and long may it continue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was really interested to read any couples' responses to the OP and I'm surprised that there are none! I wonder is it a lot easier for couples on here than single people?

Speaking from personal experience, our expectations have been met and continue to be surpassed we don't take this site too seriously, and we try to have a positive attitude about it. I (Mrs) sometimes find myself sending snooty replies to annoying messages but when that happens, Mr tells me to take a step back and just ignore them, and it works. We can laugh the idiots/weirdos off together. For the most part we're friendly and reply to the majority of messages we receive (even if it's a "no thanks") and it's an eye-opener how many guys message us back when we turn them down just to say thanks for being friendly/kind! Makes us realise how tough single guys have it on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was really interested to read any couples' responses to the OP and I'm surprised that there are none!... "

We answered...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was really interested to read any couples' responses to the OP and I'm surprised that there are none!...

We answered..."

Oops! Well just one other so

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