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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So what if iam posting again. This is the boy my second or third today

Just wondering have you ever spoke to anyone here that you fancy but you actually wouldn't meet them purely because you percieve them as being out of your league and ye reckon in reality you wouldn't have a chance?

It's apparent to me that confidence is vital here and to not have it is seen as a weakness but how you can you be confident if you genuinely truly believe somebody is out of your league??

Thoughts and experiences??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd meet anyone I message to say I'd like to meet.

Don't see the point otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So what if iam posting again. This is the boy my second or third today

Just wondering have you ever spoke to anyone here that you fancy but you actually wouldn't meet them purely because you percieve them as being out of your league and ye reckon in reality you wouldn't have a chance?

It's apparent to me that confidence is vital here and to not have it is seen as a weakness but how you can you be confident if you genuinely truly believe somebody is out of your league??

Why would they be out of your league? It's a bit like Star Wars .. Feel the force lol

Thoughts and experiences?? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I fancy someone or think profile is sexy or cute, I'll give em a wink or fab their pics. If I get sumthing back I take that as a good sign if I don't I move on. Fairly Simples for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So let's say your from one location and the girl is from another 2 hours away and you feel she's out of your league despite her wanting to meet. Would you risk the journey for rejection?!

I need to be sure they want / like me to commit to meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So let's say your from one location and the girl is from another 2 hours away and you feel she's out of your league despite her wanting to meet. Would you risk the journey for rejection?!

I need to be sure they want / like me to commit to meeting "

Surely that's what pictures are for.

Also, there's no guarantee that someone 'below your league' won't change their mind on meeting face to face.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Pictures are deviating. That's the problem

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

*deceiving even

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pictures are deviating. That's the problem "

So how do you know that the out of your league person hasn't sent you enhanced or even fake pics?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So let's say your from one location and the girl is from another 2 hours away and you feel she's out of your league despite her wanting to meet. Would you risk the journey for rejection?!

I need to be sure they want / like me to commit to meeting "

Why can't you go & meet her to find out if she likes you? You don't have to marry every girl you have coffee with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So let's say your from one location and the girl is from another 2 hours away and you feel she's out of your league despite her wanting to meet. Would you risk the journey for rejection?!

I need to be sure they want / like me to commit to meeting

Why can't you go & meet her to find out if she likes you? You don't have to marry every girl you have coffee with."

Because it sucks to wanna fuck someone and to discover they wouldn't touch off you because facially you don't do it for them lol and then you have to drive back home knowing the whole lot, the texting, the traveling, the whole build up was a waist of time. It's different for women. So long as yee open ur legs, yall get what ye want regardless of wether the guy fancies you. Most men just see pussy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...It's different for women. So long as yee open ur legs, yall get what ye want regardless of wether the guy fancies you. Most men just see pussy "

Wow! Just wow!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"...It's different for women. So long as yee open ur legs, yall get what ye want regardless of wether the guy fancies you. Most men just see pussy

Wow! Just wow!"

Sorry but there's truth in that. A man will lower his standards if he knows sex is guaranteed. Fact and i don't believe any man that says he wouldn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...It's different for women. So long as yee open ur legs, yall get what ye want regardless of wether the guy fancies you. Most men just see pussy

Wow! Just wow!

Sorry but there's truth in that. A man will lower his standards if he knows sex is guaranteed. Fact and i don't believe any man that says he wouldn't "

Then you need a new definition of a man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Part - and only a very small part - of the reason I won't meet younger lads is MAYBE a feeling of inadequecy.

I'm older - my body shows I've lived. No way am I gonna go with some ripped young thing.

It could traumatise them

Forever!

And don't confuse my thinking this way with a lack of confidence. Age means I'm grand that way Tho I'm not sure if it's confidence or cgaf

I'm waffling ... I've had a good last hour in a vanilla way

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"...It's different for women. So long as yee open ur legs, yall get what ye want regardless of wether the guy fancies you. Most men just see pussy

Wow! Just wow!

Sorry but there's truth in that. A man will lower his standards if he knows sex is guaranteed. Fact and i don't believe any man that says he wouldn't

Then you need a new definition of a man. "

Think of a guy you have fancied but he has never shown interest in you. Message him and suddenly talk dirty and get the message across that you would fuck him and boom watch his interest grow once be realizes sex is being put on a plate for him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...It's different for women. So long as yee open ur legs, yall get what ye want regardless of wether the guy fancies you. Most men just see pussy

Wow! Just wow!

Sorry but there's truth in that. A man will lower his standards if he knows sex is guaranteed. Fact and i don't believe any man that says he wouldn't "

Wouldn't that depend on what his standards are ?? They come in various forms for most I suppose .. Some men are blown away by looks and all that that entails .. That forbidden fruit that seems out of reach as she's sooooo hot .. Then there are men who are blown away by sensuality and sex appeal ..in that lies the conundrum ... Is it a notch on the bed post your after or mind blowing sex ? Just a simple thought from a simple guy lol

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By *ombikerMan
over a year ago

the right side of the river

Nope

I never go with the expectation of anything so if there is kinky fun at the end of a meet then great. If not then no loss. But when I send my pics they are if 100% me and I am the ooooh yessss please or gooooddddd noooo type apparently

If ye ladies want a pic just ask lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...It's different for women. So long as yee open ur legs, yall get what ye want regardless of wether the guy fancies you. Most men just see pussy

Wow! Just wow!

Sorry but there's truth in that. A man will lower his standards if he knows sex is guaranteed. Fact and i don't believe any man that says he wouldn't

Then you need a new definition of a man.

Think of a guy you have fancied but he has never shown interest in you...

"

They stopped making them when I was about 15.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So let's say your from one location and the girl is from another 2 hours away and you feel she's out of your league despite her wanting to meet. Would you risk the journey for rejection?!

I need to be sure they want / like me to commit to meeting

Why can't you go & meet her to find out if she likes you? You don't have to marry every girl you have coffee with.

Because it sucks to wanna fuck someone and to discover they wouldn't touch off you because facially you don't do it for them lol and then you have to drive back home knowing the whole lot, the texting, the traveling, the whole build up was a waist of time. It's different for women. So long as yee open ur legs, yall get what ye want regardless of wether the guy fancies you. Most men just see pussy "

And this has just confirmed why I wouldn't meet a young lad

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By *oupleuncutCouple
over a year ago

dun laoghaire

My boyfriend and I met on plenty of fish and he told me that he looked at my profile a few times but didn't think I'd be interested in him but he messaged me after a while and I'm so glad he did cause I'm crazy about him, so never be afraid to take a chance xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My boyfriend and I met on plenty of fish and he told me that he looked at my profile a few times but didn't think I'd be interested in him but he messaged me after a while and I'm so glad he did cause I'm crazy about him, so never be afraid to take a chance xxx "

Thats lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...It's different for women. So long as yee open ur legs, yall get what ye want regardless of wether the guy fancies you. Most men just see pussy

Wow! Just wow!

Sorry but there's truth in that. A man will lower his standards if he knows sex is guaranteed. Fact and i don't believe any man that says he wouldn't "

I wouldn't !

Shelicious (sir1967)

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin


"So let's say your from one location and the girl is from another 2 hours away and you feel she's out of your league despite her wanting to meet. Would you risk the journey for rejection?!

I need to be sure they want / like me to commit to meeting

Why can't you go & meet her to find out if she likes you? You don't have to marry every girl you have coffee with.

Because it sucks to wanna fuck someone and to discover they wouldn't touch off you because facially you don't do it for them lol and then you have to drive back home knowing the whole lot, the texting, the traveling, the whole build up was a waist of time. It's different for women. So long as yee open ur legs, yall get what ye want regardless of wether the guy fancies you. Most men just see pussy

And this has just confirmed why I wouldn't meet a young lad"

Yes, a touch immature. There's many a lady that could do the splits naked in front of me and it would not guarantee that i would be up for playing. If the mind is not engaged, the groin ain't gonna join in Hilfman.

Sorry but I disagree with you strongly on this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...It's different for women. So long as yee open ur legs, yall get what ye want regardless of wether the guy fancies you. Most men just see pussy

Wow! Just wow!

Sorry but there's truth in that. A man will lower his standards if he knows sex is guaranteed. Fact and i don't believe any man that says he wouldn't

I wouldn't !

Shelicious (sir1967)"

Mr69: no neither would I.

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Yes, i've looked at profiles and thought there was no way, but i'd still chance my arm.

It's better to know than not to know in my opinion.

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By *ain4uWoman
over a year ago

dublin

I think you are trying too hard. . Thinking too much..and posting on every single topic and thought that enters your head .. too much dude

That's jus my opinion ...

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By *oupleuncutCouple
over a year ago

dun laoghaire


"I think you are trying too hard. . Thinking too much..and posting on every single topic and thought that enters your head .. too much dude

That's jus my opinion ...

"
thats harsh, poor guy is trying to get the chats going

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"I think you are trying too hard. . Thinking too much..and posting on every single topic and thought that enters your head .. too much dude

That's jus my opinion ...

"

It's the scattershot "if I'm seen everywhere they'll remember my name" tactic.

It's a bold tactic let's see how it plays out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think you are trying too hard. . Thinking too much..and posting on every single topic and thought that enters your head .. too much dude

That's jus my opinion ...

thats harsh, poor guy is trying to get the chats going"

Everything you do here is an annoyance to some ppl. Ye cant win In fact, I might aim to create 5 threads tomorrow

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By *ain4uWoman
over a year ago

dublin


"I think you are trying too hard. . Thinking too much..and posting on every single topic and thought that enters your head .. too much dude

That's jus my opinion ...

thats harsh, poor guy is trying to get the chats going"

I'm not being harsh at all.. check my green tick .. I'm not that type xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think you are trying too hard. . Thinking too much..and posting on every single topic and thought that enters your head .. too much dude

That's jus my opinion ...

It's the scattershot "if I'm seen everywhere they'll remember my name" tactic.

It's a bold tactic let's see how it plays out. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you are trying too hard. . Thinking too much..and posting on every single topic and thought that enters your head .. too much dude

That's jus my opinion ...

thats harsh, poor guy is trying to get the chats going

I'm not being harsh at all.. check my green tick .. I'm not that type xx "
....ah yer an aul bitch....

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By *ain4uWoman
over a year ago

dublin


"I think you are trying too hard. . Thinking too much..and posting on every single topic and thought that enters your head .. too much dude

That's jus my opinion ...

thats harsh, poor guy is trying to get the chats going

I'm not being harsh at all.. check my green tick .. I'm not that type xx ....ah yer an aul bitch.... "

I know ..worst bitch on here xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm going to go mail everyone on my hotlist just to see if I'll be rejected out of curiosity.......

No.... I'm too chicken shit .

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By *oupleuncutCouple
over a year ago

dun laoghaire


"I think you are trying too hard. . Thinking too much..and posting on every single topic and thought that enters your head .. too much dude

That's jus my opinion ...

thats harsh, poor guy is trying to get the chats going

I'm not being harsh at all.. check my green tick .. I'm not that type xx ....ah yer an aul bitch....

I know ..worst bitch on here xx "
lol actually I see your point, just saw the amount of shite he's put up

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm going to go mail everyone on my hotlist just to see if I'll be rejected out of curiosity.......

No.... I'm too chicken shit . "

Fingers crossed you mail me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you are trying too hard. . Thinking too much..and posting on every single topic and thought that enters your head .. too much dude

That's jus my opinion ...

thats harsh, poor guy is trying to get the chats going

I'm not being harsh at all.. check my green tick .. I'm not that type xx ....ah yer an aul bitch....

I know ..worst bitch on here xx "
.....now now...dont be trying to steal my crown..

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin


"I'm going to go mail everyone on my hotlist just to see if I'll be rejected out of curiosity.......

No.... I'm too chicken shit . "

Oh go on, do. Might make the weekend a whole Lotta fun!

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By *ain4uWoman
over a year ago

dublin


"I think you are trying too hard. . Thinking too much..and posting on every single topic and thought that enters your head .. too much dude

That's jus my opinion ...

thats harsh, poor guy is trying to get the chats going

I'm not being harsh at all.. check my green tick .. I'm not that type xx ....ah yer an aul bitch....

I know ..worst bitch on here xx lol actually I see your point, just saw the amount of shite he's put up "

Lol.. see... not harsh. . Lol

Xx

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"I'm going to go mail everyone on my hotlist just to see if I'll be rejected out of curiosity.......

No.... I'm too chicken shit . "

*crossing fingers that i'm on her hotlist*

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By *ain4uWoman
over a year ago

dublin


"I think you are trying too hard. . Thinking too much..and posting on every single topic and thought that enters your head .. too much dude

That's jus my opinion ...

thats harsh, poor guy is trying to get the chats going

I'm not being harsh at all.. check my green tick .. I'm not that type xx ....ah yer an aul bitch....

I know ..worst bitch on here xx .....now now...dont be trying to steal my crown.. "

We can share it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you are trying too hard. . Thinking too much..and posting on every single topic and thought that enters your head .. too much dude

That's jus my opinion ...

thats harsh, poor guy is trying to get the chats going

I'm not being harsh at all.. check my green tick .. I'm not that type xx ....ah yer an aul bitch....

I know ..worst bitch on here xx .....now now...dont be trying to steal my crown..

We can share it "
....feck off....I had to break a lot of balls to get it.....no sharing. ...I'll let you touch it.....thats it.!!

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

Confidence is a preference for the habitual voyeur of what is known as fablife.

And morning soup can be avoided if you take a route straight through what is known as fablife.

OP's got brewers droop he gets intimidated by the dirty fabbers

They love a bit of it.

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By *ain4uWoman
over a year ago

dublin


"I think you are trying too hard. . Thinking too much..and posting on every single topic and thought that enters your head .. too much dude

That's jus my opinion ...

thats harsh, poor guy is trying to get the chats going

I'm not being harsh at all.. check my green tick .. I'm not that type xx ....ah yer an aul bitch....

I know ..worst bitch on here xx .....now now...dont be trying to steal my crown..

We can share it ....feck off....I had to break a lot of balls to get it.....no sharing. ...I'll let you touch it.....thats it.!!"

Well I suppose that will do... I like touching

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many a time but been a farmer I can negotiate my way around it and plough on just like trump massaging his facts.

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway


"I think you are trying too hard. . Thinking too much..and posting on every single topic and thought that enters your head .. too much dude

That's jus my opinion ...

thats harsh, poor guy is trying to get the chats going"

good call there.The way I see it he posts he engages and as such he intrigues whether it be good or bad,I guarantee he will have more luck by engaging than by being stuck in the corner I have been in the corner before but not anymore because like the lord of summer holiday dance once said NOBODY PUTS MXY IN THE CORNER!!!!!!!!

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By *ain4uWoman
over a year ago

dublin


"I think you are trying too hard. . Thinking too much..and posting on every single topic and thought that enters your head .. too much dude

That's jus my opinion ...

thats harsh, poor guy is trying to get the chats going

good call there.The way I see it he posts he engages and as such he intrigues whether it be good or bad,I guarantee he will have more luck by engaging than by being stuck in the corner I have been in the corner before but not anymore because like the lord of summer holiday dance once said NOBODY PUTS MXY IN THE CORNER!!!!!!!!"

They took back what they said after they clicked his green arrow .. I wasn't being harsh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Confidence is a preference for the habitual voyeur of what is known as fablife.

And morning soup can be avoided if you take a route straight through what is known as fablife.

OP's got brewers droop he gets intimidated by the dirty fabbers

They love a bit of it."

I don't understand a word of that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you are trying too hard. . Thinking too much..and posting on every single topic and thought that enters your head .. too much dude

That's jus my opinion ...

thats harsh, poor guy is trying to get the chats going

I'm not being harsh at all.. check my green tick .. I'm not that type xx ....ah yer an aul bitch....

I know ..worst bitch on here xx .....now now...dont be trying to steal my crown..

We can share it ....feck off....I had to break a lot of balls to get it.....no sharing. ...I'll let you touch it.....thats it.!!

Well I suppose that will do... I like touching "
....are you a serial toucher...?

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By *ain4uWoman
over a year ago

dublin


"I think you are trying too hard. . Thinking too much..and posting on every single topic and thought that enters your head .. too much dude

That's jus my opinion ...

thats harsh, poor guy is trying to get the chats going

I'm not being harsh at all.. check my green tick .. I'm not that type xx ....ah yer an aul bitch....

I know ..worst bitch on here xx .....now now...dont be trying to steal my crown..

We can share it ....feck off....I had to break a lot of balls to get it.....no sharing. ...I'll let you touch it.....thats it.!!

Well I suppose that will do... I like touching ....are you a serial toucher...? "

Depends who's asking .... I could be yes ...

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway


"I think you are trying too hard. . Thinking too much..and posting on every single topic and thought that enters your head .. too much dude

That's jus my opinion ...

thats harsh, poor guy is trying to get the chats going

good call there.The way I see it he posts he engages and as such he intrigues whether it be good or bad,I guarantee he will have more luck by engaging than by being stuck in the corner I have been in the corner before but not anymore because like the lord of summer holiday dance once said NOBODY PUTS MXY IN THE CORNER!!!!!!!!

They took back what they said after they clicked his green arrow .. I wasn't being harsh "

I still think the original call was a good one,it is not a slight on you in any way shape or form,if we chastise people for posting topics on here then people will stop posting and then we will criticise the lack of posts on the forums.One does not have to reply to or indeed even read a particular posters threads but if we do then we cannot turn round and criticise just because we think a person may post too much.The Op is finding his way he will settle into a pattern or might find love and not post any more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you are trying too hard. . Thinking too much..and posting on every single topic and thought that enters your head .. too much dude

That's jus my opinion ...

thats harsh, poor guy is trying to get the chats going

I'm not being harsh at all.. check my green tick .. I'm not that type xx ....ah yer an aul bitch....

I know ..worst bitch on here xx .....now now...dont be trying to steal my crown..

We can share it ....feck off....I had to break a lot of balls to get it.....no sharing. ...I'll let you touch it.....thats it.!!

Well I suppose that will do... I like touching ....are you a serial toucher...?

Depends who's asking .... I could be yes ... "
....hahaha...

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"Confidence is a preference for the habitual voyeur of what is known as fablife.

And morning soup can be avoided if you take a route straight through what is known as fablife.

OP's got brewers droop he gets intimidated by the dirty fabbers

They love a bit of it."

allllllll the women. such pretty women

and they won't reply to my mails...

...all my mails on this fab site........

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By *ain4uWoman
over a year ago

dublin


"I think you are trying too hard. . Thinking too much..and posting on every single topic and thought that enters your head .. too much dude

That's jus my opinion ...

thats harsh, poor guy is trying to get the chats going

good call there.The way I see it he posts he engages and as such he intrigues whether it be good or bad,I guarantee he will have more luck by engaging than by being stuck in the corner I have been in the corner before but not anymore because like the lord of summer holiday dance once said NOBODY PUTS MXY IN THE CORNER!!!!!!!!

They took back what they said after they clicked his green arrow .. I wasn't being harsh

I still think the original call was a good one,it is not a slight on you in any way shape or form,if we chastise people for posting topics on here then people will stop posting and then we will criticise the lack of posts on the forums.One does not have to reply to or indeed even read a particular posters threads but if we do then we cannot turn round and criticise just because we think a person may post too much.The Op is finding his way he will settle into a pattern or might find love and not post any more."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Confidence is a preference for the habitual voyeur of what is known as fablife.

And morning soup can be avoided if you take a route straight through what is known as fablife.

OP's got brewers droop he gets intimidated by the dirty fabbers

They love a bit of it."

Ha ha ha ha ha That's brilliant

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway


"I think you are trying too hard. . Thinking too much..and posting on every single topic and thought that enters your head .. too much dude

That's jus my opinion ...

thats harsh, poor guy is trying to get the chats going

good call there.The way I see it he posts he engages and as such he intrigues whether it be good or bad,I guarantee he will have more luck by engaging than by being stuck in the corner I have been in the corner before but not anymore because like the lord of summer holiday dance once said NOBODY PUTS MXY IN THE CORNER!!!!!!!!

They took back what they said after they clicked his green arrow .. I wasn't being harsh

I still think the original call was a good one,it is not a slight on you in any way shape or form,if we chastise people for posting topics on here then people will stop posting and then we will criticise the lack of posts on the forums.One does not have to reply to or indeed even read a particular posters threads but if we do then we cannot turn round and criticise just because we think a person may post too much.The Op is finding his way he will settle into a pattern or might find love and not post any more.

"

BOOMMMMMM!!!!!!!!!!!!! MIND BLOWN

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By *ain4uWoman
over a year ago

dublin


"I think you are trying too hard. . Thinking too much..and posting on every single topic and thought that enters your head .. too much dude

That's jus my opinion ...

thats harsh, poor guy is trying to get the chats going

good call there.The way I see it he posts he engages and as such he intrigues whether it be good or bad,I guarantee he will have more luck by engaging than by being stuck in the corner I have been in the corner before but not anymore because like the lord of summer holiday dance once said NOBODY PUTS MXY IN THE CORNER!!!!!!!!

They took back what they said after they clicked his green arrow .. I wasn't being harsh

I still think the original call was a good one,it is not a slight on you in any way shape or form,if we chastise people for posting topics on here then people will stop posting and then we will criticise the lack of posts on the forums.One does not have to reply to or indeed even read a particular posters threads but if we do then we cannot turn round and criticise just because we think a person may post too much.The Op is finding his way he will settle into a pattern or might find love and not post any more.

BOOMMMMMM!!!!!!!!!!!!! MIND BLOWN"

Yes . .that's what that face meant. ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi OP, think you should message people you like the look of anyway! I feel like you sometimes , no can't talk to her/them they way above me etc but we're on a sex site! Be bold and go balls deep lol

If people write back to you that's an obvious green light of yup your a yummy let's talk more and see.. Looks are initial but if your an ejit that's what people find unattractive! Just my two cents from a woman's point of view and actually put up a thread about these feelings a few months ago!! Best of luck OP

Jules

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So what if iam posting again. This is the boy my second or third today

Just wondering have you ever spoke to anyone here that you fancy but you actually wouldn't meet them purely because you percieve them as being out of your league and ye reckon in reality you wouldn't have a chance?

It's apparent to me that confidence is vital here and to not have it is seen as a weakness but how you can you be confident if you genuinely truly believe somebody is out of your league??

Thoughts and experiences?? "

If I'm chatting to someone here, I'm not going to consider them out of my league. We're chatting, there must be something keeping that going. I know I'm not going to be everybody's dream meet, but that's not because I'm not good enough, it's because I'm not what they're looking for. I'm always good enough, if someone thinks I'm not, that says more about them than it does about me.

ps Keep posting, I don't see you doing any harm

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"Hi OP, think you should message people you like the look of anyway! I feel like you sometimes , no can't talk to her/them they way above me etc but we're on a sex site! Be bold and go balls deep lol

If people write back to you that's an obvious green light of yup your a yummy let's talk more and see.. Looks are initial but if your an ejit that's what people find unattractive! Just my two cents from a woman's point of view and actually put up a thread about these feelings a few months ago!! Best of luck OP

Jules "

I'd be chancing messaging you if i could, but you've guys filtered.....and i'm not bi.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So what if iam posting again. This is the boy my second or third today

Just wondering have you ever spoke to anyone here that you fancy but you actually wouldn't meet them purely because you percieve them as being out of your league and ye reckon in reality you wouldn't have a chance?

It's apparent to me that confidence is vital here and to not have it is seen as a weakness but how you can you be confident if you genuinely truly believe somebody is out of your league??

Thoughts and experiences??

If I'm chatting to someone here, I'm not going to consider them out of my league. We're chatting, there must be something keeping that going. I know I'm not going to be everybody's dream meet, but that's not because I'm not good enough, it's because I'm not what they're looking for. I'm always good enough, if someone thinks I'm not, that says more about them than it does about me.

ps Keep posting, I don't see you doing any harm "

You're dead right Sally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think there is anyone on this site with the capacity to make me feel inadequate. Infact the only people on the planet capeable of doing that are my children. Even then it's not them it's me.

I don't get the out of my league thing either, unless it's referring to people who have rejected my advances. Even though that doesn't make them out of my league, it just makes them not interested. I've never come across anyone on fab, that I wouldn't consider contacting or meeting, because I thought them too good for me. There are some I won't contact due to their stated preferences.

In reality I'm very shy, that causes me difficulty meeting people when out, though that's never a sense of inadequacy and I'd never let it stop me meeting someone from here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think there is anyone on this site with the capacity to make me feel inadequate. Infact the only people on the planet capeable of doing that are my children. Even then it's not them it's me.

I don't get the out of my league thing either, unless it's referring to people who have rejected my advances. Even though that doesn't make them out of my league, it just makes them not interested. I've never come across anyone on fab, that I wouldn't consider contacting or meeting, because I thought them too good for me. There are some I won't contact due to their stated preferences.

In reality I'm very shy, that causes me difficulty meeting people when out, though that's never a sense of inadequacy and I'd never let it stop me meeting someone from here. "

Awww and I winked you this one time..... but it's ok its cool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think there is anyone on this site with the capacity to make me feel inadequate. Infact the only people on the planet capeable of doing that are my children. Even then it's not them it's me.

I don't get the out of my league thing either, unless it's referring to people who have rejected my advances. Even though that doesn't make them out of my league, it just makes them not interested. I've never come across anyone on fab, that I wouldn't consider contacting or meeting, because I thought them too good for me. There are some I won't contact due to their stated preferences.

In reality I'm very shy, that causes me difficulty meeting people when out, though that's never a sense of inadequacy and I'd never let it stop me meeting someone from here. "

You surprise me that you're shy

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By *heoldhippyMan
over a year ago

Midleton


"So what if iam posting again. This is the boy my second or third today

Just wondering have you ever spoke to anyone here that you fancy but you actually wouldn't meet them purely because you percieve them as being out of your league and ye reckon in reality you wouldn't have a chance?

It's apparent to me that confidence is vital here and to not have it is seen as a weakness but how you can you be confident if you genuinely truly believe somebody is out of your league??

Happened several times to be honest. Think it can be called "performance anxiety" Many thanks to a particular lady (you know who you are ) who was totally understanding. We're only human after all

Thoughts and experiences?? "

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

I don't get this kinda league/inadequate stuff. Who defines them? There's no such thing or do we have a fab class system I'm not aware of?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always feel inadequate here. On the forum that is and I guess when I read all the quirky, funny, intelligent posts from some forum users I think how the hell do I keep them interested.

Guess I'm still growing and learning and realising nobody is perfect so shouldn't be so hard on myself.

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By *elfastDMan
over a year ago

belfast

I have to admit I feel inadequate quite often on here

But I think it keeps me grounded

I'll never be one of the cocky ones but when something happens it makes it feel like a child at Christmas

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin


"I always feel inadequate here. On the forum that is and I guess when I read all the quirky, funny, intelligent posts from some forum users I think how the hell do I keep them interested.

Guess I'm still growing and learning and realising nobody is perfect so shouldn't be so hard on myself.

"

Well, if you were to go with OP verdict, you just have to show pussy! That's not my opinion and I ain't one of the six pack, Pecs, truncheon in trousers lucky guys but for me, chat/banter/humour and good old craic works much better than anything else.

No, you're not perfect. Nobody is. Except for themselves. Once you are true to yourself, you are perfect to yourself. Everyone else will judge/assess you but that is according to their standards, not yours. All you have to do is think of how many friends you have, that are true and good people. That is what I consider a marker of what I'm like. After that, nobody here can hurt me and that's what gives me the confidence, small though it may be, to chat to people on Fab. If we click, excellent! If we don't, no harm done.

My problem is with OP's attitude about all men being driven by pussy, once we see it, we can't help ourselves. I won't repeat what I said earlier, other than, it ain't true.

Rant over, for now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always feel inadequate here. On the forum that is and I guess when I read all the quirky, funny, intelligent posts from some forum users I think how the hell do I keep them interested.

Guess I'm still growing and learning and realising nobody is perfect so shouldn't be so hard on myself.

Well, if you were to go with OP verdict, you just have to show pussy! That's not my opinion and I ain't one of the six pack, Pecs, truncheon in trousers lucky guys but for me, chat/banter/humour and good old craic works much better than anything else.

No, you're not perfect. Nobody is. Except for themselves. Once you are true to yourself, you are perfect to yourself. Everyone else will judge/assess you but that is according to their standards, not yours. All you have to do is think of how many friends you have, that are true and good people. That is what I consider a marker of what I'm like. After that, nobody here can hurt me and that's what gives me the confidence, small though it may be, to chat to people on Fab. If we click, excellent! If we don't, no harm done.

My problem is with OP's attitude about all men being driven by pussy, once we see it, we can't help ourselves. I won't repeat what I said earlier, other than, it ain't true.

Rant over, for now."

We think the same way . I just try not judge people full stop.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pobody's nerfect

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin


"I always feel inadequate here. On the forum that is and I guess when I read all the quirky, funny, intelligent posts from some forum users I think how the hell do I keep them interested.

Guess I'm still growing and learning and realising nobody is perfect so shouldn't be so hard on myself.

Well, if you were to go with OP verdict, you just have to show pussy! That's not my opinion and I ain't one of the six pack, Pecs, truncheon in trousers lucky guys but for me, chat/banter/humour and good old craic works much better than anything else.

No, you're not perfect. Nobody is. Except for themselves. Once you are true to yourself, you are perfect to yourself. Everyone else will judge/assess you but that is according to their standards, not yours. All you have to do is think of how many friends you have, that are true and good people. That is what I consider a marker of what I'm like. After that, nobody here can hurt me and that's what gives me the confidence, small though it may be, to chat to people on Fab. If we click, excellent! If we don't, no harm done.

My problem is with OP's attitude about all men being driven by pussy, once we see it, we can't help ourselves. I won't repeat what I said earlier, other than, it ain't true.

Rant over, for now.

We think the same way . I just try not judge people full stop. "

Same, except when they make ridiculous comments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pobody's nerfect "

Hey...speak for yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Well, if you were to go with OP verdict, you just have to show pussy! That's not my opinion and I ain't one of the six pack, Pecs, truncheon in trousers lucky guys but for me, chat/banter/humour and good old craic works much better than anything else.

No, you're not perfect. Nobody is. Except for themselves. Once you are true to yourself, you are perfect to yourself. Everyone else will judge/assess you but that is according to their standards, not yours. All you have to do is think of how many friends you have, that are true and good people. That is what I consider a marker of what I'm like. After that, nobody here can hurt me and that's what gives me the confidence, small though it may be, to chat to people on Fab. If we click, excellent! If we don't, no harm done.

My problem is with OP's attitude about all men being driven by pussy, once we see it, we can't help ourselves. I won't repeat what I said earlier, other than, it ain't true.

Rant over, for now."

Well said...

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By *limboy69Man
over a year ago

Cork


"So what if iam posting again. This is the boy my second or third today

Just wondering have you ever spoke to anyone here that you fancy but you actually wouldn't meet them purely because you percieve them as being out of your league and ye reckon in reality you wouldn't have a chance?

It's apparent to me that confidence is vital here and to not have it is seen as a weakness but how you can you be confident if you genuinely truly believe somebody is out of your league??

Thoughts and experiences?? "
...Couldn't agree more with you, you look at some profiles and think to yourself, Omg that profile is way out of my league or I am not experienced enough for that profile so you don't even message them and then if you do you say something stupid and make a fool of yourself out of pure nerves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get what you're saying but at the same time I don't at all think it's only men who are allowed to feel this way. I feel inadequate a lot of the time regardless of who I talk to or what men say to me. Confidence is sex so fake it til you make it! (Wish I could take my own advice lol)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think there is anyone on this site with the capacity to make me feel inadequate. Infact the only people on the planet capeable of doing that are my children. Even then it's not them it's me.

I don't get the out of my league thing either, unless it's referring to people who have rejected my advances. Even though that doesn't make them out of my league, it just makes them not interested. I've never come across anyone on fab, that I wouldn't consider contacting or meeting, because I thought them too good for me. There are some I won't contact due to their stated preferences.

In reality I'm very shy, that causes me difficulty meeting people when out, though that's never a sense of inadequacy and I'd never let it stop me meeting someone from here.

You surprise me that you're shy"

It surprises most people. It plays havoc when talking to strangers. When you're having a mild panic attack and trying to hide it, it can appear that you're being rude or aloof. Truth is you're just shitting it and your fight or flight responses are looking for the door. That's why I have never chatted anyone up in a bar.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

I rarely send messages...not because the ladies are out of my league ... I have to find a profile that ticks my boxes ..if I find one that does and I m within her preferences I'll message,

If I message and the lady replies fantastic, if it's deleted or not replied to ..I don't believek it's because she was out of my league..it's because she didn't find me or what I offer attractive ..

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

I guess it all boils down to what you think your league is,if out of your league is someone with retouched,filtered,best angle good lighting photos then cool but remember very few people post their "normal" photos on here and as such most photos give an enhanced vision of the profile.Some people proverbially "aim low" and anything else is a bonus but why not just go for whatever tickles your fancy and hope to be pleasantly surprised.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No never!

Close thread

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By *limboy69Man
over a year ago

Cork


"I get what you're saying but at the same time I don't at all think it's only men who are allowed to feel this way. I feel inadequate a lot of the time regardless of who I talk to or what men say to me. Confidence is sex so fake it til you make it! (Wish I could take my own advice lol)"
....the confidence bit can be a problem, unfortunately you could get over confident and make a bigger fool of yourself, alot depends if you get let's say a "normal" reply to a message you send and then you're relaxed and things can flow along-. Trying too hard can be the biggest mistake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So what if iam posting again. This is the boy my second or third today

Just wondering have you ever spoke to anyone here that you fancy but you actually wouldn't meet them purely because you percieve them as being out of your league and ye reckon in reality you wouldn't have a chance?

It's apparent to me that confidence is vital here and to not have it is seen as a weakness but how you can you be confident if you genuinely truly believe somebody is out of your league??

Thoughts and experiences?? "

OP, just because someone is confident, it doesn't mean they won't be rejected by someone, it just means that they will take it for what it is, and not as a reflection on them personally.

The power to change your reactions lies with you, and only with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No never!

Close thread "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That feeling of inadequacy can sometimes be down to the nature of the site. Let's be honest we aren't on here to make lifelong connections with meaningful people. We are here for sex,sex chats,perving pics and all the fabulous exploration into the diversity of our sexuality.

Don't measure urself against a random person who may or may not be the epitome of ur desires. Hold ur head up high and remember that the only person entitled to measure your worth as a person is you!!!! Stand in front of your mirror and tell that little voice to shut the hell up, u are who you are, and you are priceless to someone,everyone but most especially you gotta learn to place the same value on urself as you place on others.

Sometimes we are our own harshest critics,especially when we are dealing on here with people who aren't necessarily genuine and really only have their own interests at heart. This is one of the few platforms where it is ok to be totally and completely selfish and self indulgent. You too are out of someone else's league u just haven't figured it out yet.

Sorry for rabbitting on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm always adequately inadequate except when I'm inadequately adequate but that is a league of its own which I'm not in most of the time unless I am a lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I felt inadequate once, her boyfriend weren't to happy about it, hey hoooooo I'm here all week folks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...It's different for women. So long as yee open ur legs, yall get what ye want regardless of wether the guy fancies you. Most men just see pussy

Wow! Just wow!"

Just so the people of fab know.. he doesnt speak for me in this comment.. just putting that out there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lv been traumatised by older ladies. .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you are trying too hard. . Thinking too much..and posting on every single topic and thought that enters your head .. too much dude

That's jus my opinion ...

thats harsh, poor guy is trying to get the chats going

I'm not being harsh at all.. check my green tick .. I'm not that type xx ....ah yer an aul bitch....

I know ..worst bitch on here xx "

Ahem...push over

Since when does giving an honest opinion which is what op sought equate to being harsh.

Op in my honest opinion the more you post, the more you reveal and at time's and this thread is no exception you have displayed your own very honest opinion that is sometimes controversial but I like that you are very honest however you also display a lack of self confidence too again this thread not excluded but we all put the best cocky foot forward and all have moment's of insecurity that throws us a little...we are very exposed on fab and not always in a bodily way. If you feel insecure about a person is that not a little shallow based on their looks...most down to earth person could be behind that amazing smile...chance your arm by chatting and if it's not a click then move on. It's not just about the face pic.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This thread has proved to be more interesting then expected. Some great replies

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By *ain4uWoman
over a year ago

dublin


"I think you are trying too hard. . Thinking too much..and posting on every single topic and thought that enters your head .. too much dude

That's jus my opinion ...

thats harsh, poor guy is trying to get the chats going

I'm not being harsh at all.. check my green tick .. I'm not that type xx ....ah yer an aul bitch....

I know ..worst bitch on here xx

Ahem...push over

Since when does giving an honest opinion which is what op sought equate to being harsh.

Op in my honest opinion the more you post, the more you reveal and at time's and this thread is no exception you have displayed your own very honest opinion that is sometimes controversial but I like that you are very honest however you also display a lack of self confidence too again this thread not excluded but we all put the best cocky foot forward and all have moment's of insecurity that throws us a little...we are very exposed on fab and not always in a bodily way. If you feel insecure about a person is that not a little shallow based on their looks...most down to earth person could be behind that amazing smile...chance your arm by chatting and if it's not a click then move on. It's not just about the face pic. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You know when I feel inadequate?, being called the C word. It really is the lowest of the low that resort to using that word as a derogatory term towards a woman!

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin


"You know when I feel inadequate?, being called the C word. It really is the lowest of the low that resort to using that word as a derogatory term towards a woman! "

Is it ok to use it in a non-derogatory, sexual way? Just asking

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