FabSwingers.com forum: Attached man: is there light at the end of the tunnel?

By *matthews114 OP Man
over a year ago

bettystown

Hi I'm 31 and on this a while and it seems that there are serious clicks on this and that really not a lot of couples or single/attached women up for new meets. Genuine and discreet a must and assured but just seems to be a real lack of people willing to try new people and ideas??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i respect your right to be here looking for fun , but I dont get the clicque angle , perhaps its that a lot of swingers are uncomfortable with the fact your playing behind your partners back .Youd be surprised how many people will not entertain you because of this . Best of luck tho , theres someone for everyone here

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By *irtypair00Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

"i respect your right to be here looking for fun , but I dont get the clicque angle , perhaps its that a lot of swingers are uncomfortable with the fact your playing behind your partners back .Youd be surprised how many people will not entertain you because of this . Best of luck tho , theres someone for everyone here "

Well said ,

We won't meet with anyone who is attached and swinging behind their partners back .

As for the click think not so . We thought the same but after attending some party's and m&g you will see a totally different side to people and fab

We have as much crack just haven a drink as we do playing and meeting normal down to earth people. I mean fab normal btw lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said ,

We won't meet with anyone who is attached and swinging behind their partners back .

As for the click think not so . We thought the same but after attending some party's and m&g you will see a totally different side to people and fab

We have as much crack just haven a drink as we do playing and meeting normal down to earth people. I mean fab normal btw lol

Great point's and as for light at the end of the tunnel... it's called divorce

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been chatting here with plenty of people and have met some lovely down to earth genuine people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope that the light at the end of the tunnel is not an on coming train

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi I'm 31 and on this a while and it seems that there are serious clicks on this and that really not a lot of couples or single/attached women up for new meets. Genuine and discreet a must and assured but just seems to be a real lack of people willing to try new people and ideas??"
.....you're seriously attaching blame to cliques because you're married and can't get a meet?. We aren't judging you...but just saying it's a completely new take on it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi I'm 31 and on this a while and it seems that there are serious clicks on this and that really not a lot of couples or single/attached women up for new meets. Genuine and discreet a must and assured but just seems to be a real lack of people willing to try new people and ideas??.....you're seriously attaching blame to cliques because you're married and can't get a meet?. We aren't judging you...but just saying it's a completely new take on it...

The word clique tends to be overused on here. If you mean people sharing a laugh and a bit of craic whilst passing a few hours then yes am happy to be in the "clique"

Yes its a swing site but hey if you cant have a laugh and enjoy yourself as well then i am truely doomed.

As said above theres someone for everyone and i do hope you find your preferences. So good luck on.here.

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By *isdirtygirlWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

Ive made a fair few friends from here that are part of my real life but that doesnt mean im part of any clique.

Believe me when i tell you, the amount of women who say they wont meet married or attached men but in fact do, are in plentiful supply here.

I admire your honesty though for saying you are attached. People can make their own minds up about meeting you or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are cliques here. Just like there is in any social setting. But to blame cliques for not getting a meet is a bit much. They don't have a vendetta against you getting a meet.

Everyone here is more than capable of making an informed decision as to whether to meet you or not without the help of others.

You're being married is going to put people off meeting you. But we all have different things that put people off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive no prob with attached guys once everyone is honest! It's a swing site not a dating site so once everyone's on the same page theres no problem.

Everyone has their own reasons for being on here so just keep going with what you're doing! We were all new here once I think some people forget that. Happy hunting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are cliques here. Just like there is in any social setting. But to blame cliques for not getting a meet is a bit much. They don't have a vendetta against you getting a meet.

Everyone here is more than capable of making an informed decision as to whether to meet you or not without the help of others.

You're being married is going to put people off meeting you. But we all have different things that put people off. "
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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

clique = illuminati and we all know they have it in for guys on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just try to enjoy the site for what it is. A place for like minded people to communicate. Treat a meet if/when it happens as a bonus and don't put pressure on yourself.

I've found honestly is the best policy with meeting people.

And take no for an answer without complaining.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive no prob with attached guys once everyone is honest! It's a swing site not a dating site so once everyone's on the same page theres no problem.

Everyone has their own reasons for being on here so just keep going with what you're doing! We were all new here once I think some people forget that. Happy hunting

Great point, this is basically a sex site, once everyone is consenting, clean and discreet then all is good. Each to their own though, i can see why some people might feel bad meeting an attatched person too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive no prob with attached guys once everyone is honest! It's a swing site not a dating site so once everyone's on the same page theres no problem.

Everyone has their own reasons for being on here so just keep going with what you're doing! We were all new here once I think some people forget that. Happy hunting

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Here here ruby not my issue plus how does anyone know there married or not .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Great point's and as for light at the end of the tunnel... it's called divorce

I disagree there. You can tell your wife. Introduce her to the idea. Don't do what I did. I vomited it up in front of my wife like a greedy puppy.

Talk to your wife about ethical non monogamy. Treat her like an adult and give her the respect she deserves. That conversation will be fucking painful and humiliating and will make you sick. But it's worth it. Would she like to feel two cocks inside her? What about three ? What about women? Talk the fuck out of it and if she says no, respect her decision. Or get a divorce.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive no prob with attached guys once everyone is honest! It's a swing site not a dating site so once everyone's on the same page theres no problem.

Everyone has their own reasons for being on here so just keep going with what you're doing! We were all new here once I think some people forget that. Happy hunting

I don't mine either. If they are honest about it. Generally they aren't. And they are stupid and their wives finds out and then it's all your fault... even though you had no idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are cliques here. Just like there is in any social setting. But to blame cliques for not getting a meet is a bit much. They don't have a vendetta against you getting a meet.

Everyone here is more than capable of making an informed decision as to whether to meet you or not without the help of others.

You're being married is going to put people off meeting you. But we all have different things that put people off. "

What! I thought all fabbers were perfect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are cliques here. Just like there is in any social setting. But to blame cliques for not getting a meet is a bit much. They don't have a vendetta against you getting a meet.

Everyone here is more than capable of making an informed decision as to whether to meet you or not without the help of others.

You're being married is going to put people off meeting you. But we all have different things that put people off.

What! I thought all fabbers were perfect

Well I am but ssshhhhhh don't tell anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are cliques here. Just like there is in any social setting. But to blame cliques for not getting a meet is a bit much. They don't have a vendetta against you getting a meet.

Everyone here is more than capable of making an informed decision as to whether to meet you or not without the help of others.

You're being married is going to put people off meeting you. But we all have different things that put people off.

What! I thought all fabbers were perfect

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...we can only speak for ourselves. ...yes indeed we're perfect. ....

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks

"There are cliques here. Just like there is in any social setting. But to blame cliques for not getting a meet is a bit much. They don't have a vendetta against you getting a meet.

Everyone here is more than capable of making an informed decision as to whether to meet you or not without the help of others.

You're being married is going to put people off meeting you. But we all have different things that put people off.

What! I thought all fabbers were perfect

...we can only speak for ourselves. ...yes indeed we're perfect. ....

I'm not!! Still can't get rid of the CurlyWurly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are cliques here. Just like there is in any social setting. But to blame cliques for not getting a meet is a bit much. They don't have a vendetta against you getting a meet.

Everyone here is more than capable of making an informed decision as to whether to meet you or not without the help of others.

You're being married is going to put people off meeting you. But we all have different things that put people off.

What! I thought all fabbers were perfect

Well I am but ssshhhhhh don't tell anyone

Not a word...my Lip's are perfectly sealed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are cliques here. Just like there is in any social setting. But to blame cliques for not getting a meet is a bit much. They don't have a vendetta against you getting a meet.

Everyone here is more than capable of making an informed decision as to whether to meet you or not without the help of others.

You're being married is going to put people off meeting you. But we all have different things that put people off.

What! I thought all fabbers were perfect

...we can only speak for ourselves. ...yes indeed we're perfect. ....

I'm not!! Still can't get rid of the CurlyWurly!

Warrior and Snow are perfect and you have a CurlyWurly what exactly

I am perfectly fucked up enough for fab... I think we have the makings of a decent fairy tale here lol

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"There are cliques here. Just like there is in any social setting. But to blame cliques for not getting a meet is a bit much. They don't have a vendetta against you getting a meet.

Everyone here is more than capable of making an informed decision as to whether to meet you or not without the help of others.

You're being married is going to put people off meeting you. But we all have different things that put people off.

What! I thought all fabbers were perfect

...we can only speak for ourselves. ...yes indeed we're perfect. ....

I'm not!! Still can't get rid of the CurlyWurly!

Warrior and Snow are perfect and you have a CurlyWurly what exactly

I am perfectly fucked up enough for fab... I think we have the makings of a decent fairy tale here lol"

Don't be mentioning fairys here the elves will get u

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks

Don't be mentioning fairys here the elves will get u

Elves has left the building!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And just for your information.

Every time you cheat on you're wife....

God kills a kitten. ..

Don't blame me...I don't make the rules. ..

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By *ain4uWoman
over a year ago

dublin

"And just for your information.

Every time you cheat on you're wife....

God kills a kitten. ..

Don't blame me...I don't make the rules. .."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive no prob with attached guys once everyone is honest! It's a swing site not a dating site so once everyone's on the same page theres no problem.

Everyone has their own reasons for being on here so just keep going with what you're doing! We were all new here once I think some people forget that. Happy hunting

Here here ruby not my issue plus how does anyone know there married or not . "

The majority of genuine single guys are married ffs...

like they are all telling the truth here?

I agree with Rubz and Blue eyes tho...

Married playmates can be less complicated than single ones...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are cliques here. Just like there is in any social setting. But to blame cliques for not getting a meet is a bit much. They don't have a vendetta against you getting a meet.

Everyone here is more than capable of making an informed decision as to whether to meet you or not without the help of others.

You're being married is going to put people off meeting you. But we all have different things that put people off.

What! I thought all fabbers were perfect

...we can only speak for ourselves. ...yes indeed we're perfect. ....

I'm not!! Still can't get rid of the CurlyWurly!

Warrior and Snow are perfect and you have a CurlyWurly what exactly

I am perfectly fucked up enough for fab... I think we have the makings of a decent fairy tale here lol

Don't be mentioning fairys here the elves will get u

Snow white has that covered...brush up on your fairy tales lol

Princess role not filled yet...calm down guy's I said role!

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks

"There are cliques here. Just like there is in any social setting. But to blame cliques for not getting a meet is a bit much. They don't have a vendetta against you getting a meet.

Everyone here is more than capable of making an informed decision as to whether to meet you or not without the help of others.

You're being married is going to put people off meeting you. But we all have different things that put people off.

What! I thought all fabbers were perfect

...we can only speak for ourselves. ...yes indeed we're perfect. ....

I'm not!! Still can't get rid of the CurlyWurly!

Warrior and Snow are perfect and you have a CurlyWurly what exactly

I am perfectly fucked up enough for fab... I think we have the makings of a decent fairy tale here lol

Don't be mentioning fairys here the elves will get u

Snow white has that covered...brush up on your fairy tales lol

Princess role not filled yet...calm down guy's I said role!

Will it have a happy ending?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are cliques here. Just like there is in any social setting. But to blame cliques for not getting a meet is a bit much. They don't have a vendetta against you getting a meet.

Everyone here is more than capable of making an informed decision as to whether to meet you or not without the help of others.

You're being married is going to put people off meeting you. But we all have different things that put people off.

What! I thought all fabbers were perfect

...we can only speak for ourselves. ...yes indeed we're perfect. ....

I'm not!! Still can't get rid of the CurlyWurly!

Warrior and Snow are perfect and you have a CurlyWurly what exactly

I am perfectly fucked up enough for fab... I think we have the makings of a decent fairy tale here lol

Don't be mentioning fairys here the elves will get u

Snow white has that covered...brush up on your fairy tales lol

Princess role not filled yet...calm down guy's I said role!

Will it have a happy ending?

A fab one of course

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks

"There are cliques here. Just like there is in any social setting. But to blame cliques for not getting a meet is a bit much. They don't have a vendetta against you getting a meet.

Everyone here is more than capable of making an informed decision as to whether to meet you or not without the help of others.

You're being married is going to put people off meeting you. But we all have different things that put people off.

What! I thought all fabbers were perfect

...we can only speak for ourselves. ...yes indeed we're perfect. ....

I'm not!! Still can't get rid of the CurlyWurly!

Warrior and Snow are perfect and you have a CurlyWurly what exactly

I am perfectly fucked up enough for fab... I think we have the makings of a decent fairy tale here lol

Don't be mentioning fairys here the elves will get u

Snow white has that covered...brush up on your fairy tales lol

Princess role not filled yet...calm down guy's I said role!

Will it have a happy ending?

A fab one of course "

Standards must be maintained!!

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By *onnaluvdollTV/TS
over a year ago

cork

coming from tbe guy who sent me a message wanting fun and didnt think it made a bit of difference between a woman and a tv..... straight my ass. Time waster looking for a 10 second jolly more like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being here doesn't give you a God given right to met women. Number one your cheating so that's a strike against you in other women's books. There are probably others. Maybe your not approaching women right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, you'd probably have more luck elsewhere, people with standards can be a pain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I genuinely think that a lot of men have some lofty unrealistic expectation that once you join a site like this, you get regular threesomes/orgies/hotel meets etc. The reality is that everyone here has their own life and when they do get to meet, it's a big commitment that they would prefer to take when knowing someone through chatting over weeks or months as opposed to the "shag after one mail". We have been swinging for almost 10 years now. In that time we have met two women for 3somes and the male half has met one girl on his own for fun. We may be one of the less active as the party scene is not our thing, but the point is you should not expect anyone to be scrambling to meet you after a couple of emails. Be honest, friendly and patient. Expect that some mails/chats will be ignored or missed (a single females inbox is probably as cluttered as their handbags ??). Why should you have to you say? Because that person/couple/day will come along that you strike up a chemistry and it's worth it. If you only want some shag with minimal effort, I suggest any nightclub on a Saturday night ??. For some serious fun with mutual respect, just be nice on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blaming a clique because people aren't buying what you're selling, is stretching things a bit far. There are probably regular posters here, who meet each other. There are also probably plenty of posters here, in the so called cliques, that have never and probably never will meet each other sexually.

You need to accept two things. Firstly for every woman on this site, there are probably one thousand single males. Therefore they can afford to be very choosy and maybe half of them don't do OPP. So you'd have a far greater chance of getting what you're looking for in a regular dating site. Secondly you need to accept the laws of attraction and realise that not every woman is going to be attracted to you, there can be a million reasons for this. But none of them will be that they're in a clique.

I don't message a lot of people, in the last 6 weeks I've probably sent messages to 10 women, because I liked their profile and they don't interact on parts of the site I use. Two of them responded and I consider that extremely successful. It could very easily have been zero. Neither have led to anything though and that's often the way of the site. Neither are in any clique either, they just weren't that interested in me. Such is life, there are those who are and that's how this place works. It's not some sort of secret society that's impenetrable, it just requires some effort on your behalf.

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By *matthews114 OP Man
over a year ago

bettystown

Hey I was honest and described my situation. Maybe I was too honest but I would say 40-50% Of people on here aren't being honest about there circumstances. I in a loveless relationship with kids and they have to come first ans staying with wife is best for them. I do have a sex drive that I suppose selfishly needs to be satisfied I don't want to hurt anyone. So discreetly yes I on this. But I'm genuine and honest that's all I can be. But yes I am probably wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing wrong with being honest, it's a better approach. People are just being honest back though. You just need to manage your expectations and accept that it's difficulty for guys to get meets, end of story. It's not about being married or not, it's simple mathamatics. Your circumstances may impact on your ability to find people, as in you might not be comfortable going to M&G's but they won't make it impossible if you're patient.

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