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By *eedycpl OP   Couple
over a year ago

belfast

Really sorry if ppl feel we r giving single blokes a hard time but honestly they really are their own worst enemy, we been chatting to a bloke for nearly 3 weeks texting flirting etc all the usual then arrange to meet last night I went to the hassle of getting 4 kids minded hubby was out with work and he was offered to come to ours early to meet Mrs on own for a while to make it easier and all along he was saying he can't wait and looking forward to a good night then on the day of the meet BANG nothen no text or anything would not reply to messages even tho he was online gggrrrrr wot a prick rant over now question is r single blokes only here for a mess about because we have chatted to quite a few and there's only been 1 or 2 that actually stuck by their word ?

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks

Sorry to hear that and totally agree with you!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's strange how things work on this site. From my experience as a single guy, it's usually the couples who get cold feet. I don't even bother contacting couples profiles, for that very reason. There are plenty of genuine couples on here, but trying to locate them is needle in a hay stack stuff, so I just don't bother anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot a couples and single women do the same,have been chatting with with 3 ladys,every time make plans to meet up for a coffee meet noting, so don't say single guys do all the time wasting..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep....not exclusively single male behaviour unfortunately.

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks


"A lot a couples and single women do the same,have been chatting with with 3 ladys,every time make plans to meet up for a coffee meet noting, so don't say single guys do all the time wasting.. "

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No one said single guys do all the time wasting.

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By *irArdMan
over a year ago

Rush


"Really sorry if ppl feel we r giving single blokes a hard time but honestly they really are their own worst enemy, we been chatting to a bloke for nearly 3 weeks texting flirting etc all the usual then arrange to meet last night I went to the hassle of getting 4 kids minded hubby was out with work and he was offered to come to ours early to meet Mrs on own for a while to make it easier and all along he was saying he can't wait and looking forward to a good night then on the day of the meet BANG nothen no text or anything would not reply to messages even tho he was online gggrrrrr wot a prick rant over now question is r single blokes only here for a mess about because we have chatted to quite a few and there's only been 1 or 2 that actually stuck by their word ?"
It's not just the men that f@ck you around, lots of immature women doing it too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's strange how things work on this site. From my experience as a single guy, it's usually the couples who get cold feet. I don't even bother contacting couples profiles, for that very reason. There are plenty of genuine couples on here, but trying to locate them is needle in a hay stack stuff, so I just don't bother anymore. "

Ooh! We're the new unicorns...

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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago

and surrounding areas

This is the reason we mainly stick to parties, saves all the hassle of getting dressed up for someone not to show up

Mr crazy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can understand the frustration but we're all adults and allowed to change our minds, it's understandable if it's your first time and nerves get to you. I don't agree with not even a call or text though, rude and cowardly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, you answered your own question. The answer is no.

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks


"I can understand the frustration but we're all adults and allowed to change our minds, it's understandable if it's your first time and nerves get to you. I don't agree with not even a call or text though, rude and cowardly. "

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I agree, not even a call/text to cancel can be worst bit!

One wouldn't like same thing done to them!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can understand the frustration but we're all adults and allowed to change our minds, it's understandable if it's your first time and nerves get to you. I don't agree with not even a call or text though, rude and cowardly.

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I agree, not even a call/text to cancel can be worst bit!

One wouldn't like same thing done to them!!"
...you have no excuse for not making a phone call. .

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

I never had an issue with single lads. Maybe meeting a couple is more intimidating than a lil, innocent woman like me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never had an issue with single lads. Maybe meeting a couple is more intimidating than a lil, innocent woman like me. "

Innocent my hole!

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"I never had an issue with single lads. Maybe meeting a couple is more intimidating than a lil, innocent woman like me. "

Innocent my arse

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"I never had an issue with single lads. Maybe meeting a couple is more intimidating than a lil, innocent woman like me.

Innocent my hole! "

Snap

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

It's not time to give up yet there's plenty of guys willing to meet cpls, maybe change a little it can be daunting to turn up to someone's house on your own maybe meet in a pub or coffee and bring him home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never had an issue with single lads. Maybe meeting a couple is more intimidating than a lil, innocent woman like me. "
.....said the spider to the fly...

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks


"I can understand the frustration but we're all adults and allowed to change our minds, it's understandable if it's your first time and nerves get to you. I don't agree with not even a call or text though, rude and cowardly.

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I agree, not even a call/text to cancel can be worst bit!

One wouldn't like same thing done to them!!...you have no excuse for not making a phone call. .

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No pennies for the slot!

Button A was stuck!

Sheep chewed the lines!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can understand the frustration but we're all adults and allowed to change our minds, it's understandable if it's your first time and nerves get to you. I don't agree with not even a call or text though, rude and cowardly.

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I agree, not even a call/text to cancel can be worst bit!

One wouldn't like same thing done to them!!...you have no excuse for not making a phone call. .

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No pennies for the slot!

Button A was stuck!

Sheep chewed the lines!"
....it wasn't bo's sheep anyway. ..she moved. ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That must be one of the longest sentences I've seen on Fab but a perfect onomatopoeia as it brilliantly portrays your feelings; and so I congratulate you for that and commiserate with you at the same time. Wouldn't it be great if a system of non refundable security deposits were introduced? Judging from your profile it certainly was his loss.

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks


"I can understand the frustration but we're all adults and allowed to change our minds, it's understandable if it's your first time and nerves get to you. I don't agree with not even a call or text though, rude and cowardly.

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I agree, not even a call/text to cancel can be worst bit!

One wouldn't like same thing done to them!!...you have no excuse for not making a phone call. .

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No pennies for the slot!

Button A was stuck!

Sheep chewed the lines!....it wasn't bo's sheep anyway. ..she moved to get nearer to Leitrim. .. "

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Not sure, but they are tasty!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

His loss! Chalk it to down to a bad meet and use that block button!

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By *eedycpl OP   Couple
over a year ago

belfast

We don't think for one minute that it's only single males that mess ppl about its just that we r a cpl that like to give single blokes the chance to be honest I think lots of single blokes love the idea of playing with a cpl or a married woman but when it actually comes to it then they get cold feet. We get pissed off because for us to get 4 kids minded is hard enough then not to even get a text to say sorry can't meet its really annoying and unfair

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks

Possibly next time have a Coffee Meet first then arrange meet for day or two later??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be up for it ..it's trying to convince people that's the problem

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By *s2b3cMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"It's strange how things work on this site. From my experience as a single guy, it's usually the couples who get cold feet. I don't even bother contacting couples profiles, for that very reason. There are plenty of genuine couples on here, but trying to locate them is needle in a hay stack stuff, so I just don't bother anymore. "

This has been my experience for the majority of couples too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't give up. According to the forum this scenario does happen but doubt its unique to single men only but just part of fab life. But we all have experienced the fun meets with genuine fabbers so that worth staying for

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

We'll if I get a chance to meet people I go n meet them . But I had a couple who r back on disapear on me so n women too disapear too. There's so many messers on both sides u can't keep on about us guys . Maybe one r two giving us genuine guys a bad name .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had a single guy arrange to meet us one nite last weekend at 8 o'clock, rite up until 6 he was messaging and really excited apparently then suddenly nothin from him. He then decided at 12 to contact us and say one thing, "too late" in a seriously pissed voice lol we wudda been very offended had we not already replaced him with someone else and had a great night lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would really love to experience a couple

Been tentatively trying to make contact with a few couples that I thought I had shared interests with.

It's hard work trying to get people to trust me.

And TRUST is what is needed to meet with anyone on Fab.

On my first meeting I was extremely nervous but the people involved were great and in no time I relaxed.

It doesn't make things easier when there's a No Show.

That's My thoughts on the matter for what there worth.

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By *eedycpl OP   Couple
over a year ago

belfast

Onwards and upwards lol hopefully u blokes don't think we r having a dig at u we r sure there r some genuine blokes among u lol just hard to bloody find u lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shame there's so many people giving us genuine folk a bad name. If I was not intending to play I wouldn't arrange it......

And that said, why would you? The goal is to meet after all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's strange how things work on this site. From my experience as a single guy, it's usually the couples who get cold feet. I don't even bother contacting couples profiles, for that very reason. There are plenty of genuine couples on here, but trying to locate them is needle in a hay stack stuff, so I just don't bother anymore.

This has been my experience for the majority of couples too."

But you've only been verified by two men. One by meeting and one on cam. Did the couple or couples that you meet not leave verifications?

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By *s2b3cMan
over a year ago

Dublin

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By *s2b3cMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"It's strange how things work on this site. From my experience as a single guy, it's usually the couples who get cold feet. I don't even bother contacting couples profiles, for that very reason. There are plenty of genuine couples on here, but trying to locate them is needle in a hay stack stuff, so I just don't bother anymore.

This has been my experience for the majority of couples too.

But you've only been verified by two men. One by meeting and one on cam. Did the couple or couples that you meet not leave verifications?"

Huh? I'm confused by that comment. If they left verifications then they didn't get cold feet and my comment would make no sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Onwards and upwards lol hopefully u blokes don't think we r having a dig at u we r sure there r some genuine blokes among u lol just hard to bloody find u lol"

Hellooooo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's strange how things work on this site. From my experience as a single guy, it's usually the couples who get cold feet. I don't even bother contacting couples profiles, for that very reason. There are plenty of genuine couples on here, but trying to locate them is needle in a hay stack stuff, so I just don't bother anymore.

This has been my experience for the majority of couples too.

But you've only been verified by two men. One by meeting and one on cam. Did the couple or couples that you meet not leave verifications?

Huh? I'm confused by that comment. If they left verifications then they didn't get cold feet and my comment would make no sense. "

Yeah, but you said the majority of couples. Which would suggest that you have met one or more couples. So would maybe get a veri from them. Unless they have deliberately not left you a veri's. Does that make sense?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's strange how things work on this site. From my experience as a single guy, it's usually the couples who get cold feet. I don't even bother contacting couples profiles, for that very reason. There are plenty of genuine couples on here, but trying to locate them is needle in a hay stack stuff, so I just don't bother anymore.

This has been my experience for the majority of couples too.

But you've only been verified by two men. One by meeting and one on cam. Did the couple or couples that you meet not leave verifications?

Huh? I'm confused by that comment. If they left verifications then they didn't get cold feet and my comment would make no sense. "

Actually this comment would make more sense if you hadn't deleted your last one about couples getting cold feet in the middle of arranging meets with you

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks


"Onwards and upwards lol hopefully u blokes don't think we r having a dig at u we r sure there r some genuine blokes among u lol just hard to bloody find u lol"

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No one thinks you are having a dig but you have to consider..

How many guys have been set up to go to a house for a meet?

Only to get there and No Answer, or the person who answers the door hasn't a clue about anything......

Any couples I've met have met up nearby and either gone for a drink first or just went to their house from there!

OK, you were genuine BUT what if it had been a set-up???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think meeting a couple would be a bit odd to say the least..the rules would have to be set out clearly before anything happened..do the men interfere with each other or is it just for the sole pleasure of the wife?..i also have a fear I'd be ballsdeep in some fellas wife and then suddenly hes overcome in a jealous rage and you get a beating..I'm sure its happened before..you'd need to be careful with so many nutters out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I think meeting a couple would be a bit odd to say the least..the rules would have to be set out clearly before anything happened..do the men interfere with each other or is it just for the sole pleasure of the wife?..i also have a fear I'd be ballsdeep in some fellas wife and then suddenly hes overcome in a jealous rage and you get a beating..I'm sure its happened before..you'd need to be careful with so many nutters out there "

Interfere with each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I think meeting a couple would be a bit odd to say the least..the rules would have to be set out clearly before anything happened..do the men interfere with each other or is it just for the sole pleasure of the wife?..i also have a fear I'd be ballsdeep in some fellas wife and then suddenly hes overcome in a jealous rage and you get a beating..I'm sure its happened before..you'd need to be careful with so many nutters out there

Interfere with each other "

sounds like they're forced upon each other!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I think meeting a couple would be a bit odd to say the least..the rules would have to be set out clearly before anything happened..do the men interfere with each other or is it just for the sole pleasure of the wife?..i also have a fear I'd be ballsdeep in some fellas wife and then suddenly hes overcome in a jealous rage and you get a beating..I'm sure its happened before..you'd need to be careful with so many nutters out there

Interfere with each other

sounds like they're forced upon each other! "

It didn't sound too good lol

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks


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I think meeting a couple would be a bit odd to say the least..the rules would have to be set out clearly before anything happened..do the men interfere with each other or is it just for the sole pleasure of the wife?..i also have a fear I'd be ballsdeep in some fellas wife and then suddenly hes overcome in a jealous rage and you get a beating..I'm sure its happened before..you'd need to be careful with so many nutters out there

Interfere with each other "

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Yes interfere! Grab remote control, change channels etc!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I think meeting a couple would be a bit odd to say the least..the rules would have to be set out clearly before anything happened..do the men interfere with each other or is it just for the sole pleasure of the wife?..i also have a fear I'd be ballsdeep in some fellas wife and then suddenly hes overcome in a jealous rage and you get a beating..I'm sure its happened before..you'd need to be careful with so many nutters out there

Interfere with each other

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Yes interfere! Grab remote control, change channels etc!!"

I'd rather thats what was meant !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I think meeting a couple would be a bit odd to say the least..the rules would have to be set out clearly before anything happened..do the men interfere with each other or is it just for the sole pleasure of the wife?..i also have a fear I'd be ballsdeep in some fellas wife and then suddenly hes overcome in a jealous rage and you get a beating..I'm sure its happened before..you'd need to be careful with so many nutters out there

Interfere with each other

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Yes interfere! Grab remote control, change channels etc!!"

that's one way to put it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I think meeting a couple would be a bit odd to say the least..the rules would have to be set out clearly before anything happened..do the men interfere with each other or is it just for the sole pleasure of the wife?..i also have a fear I'd be ballsdeep in some fellas wife and then suddenly hes overcome in a jealous rage and you get a beating..I'm sure its happened before..you'd need to be careful with so many nutters out there

Interfere with each other

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Yes interfere! Grab remote control, change channels etc!!

that's one way to put it!"

Well, we know where plenty of men on here keep the Sky remote

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin

No you've got it all wrong. He's "balls deep" in the guys wife and the husband starts saying. Are you happy with your career? Do you think retraining is an option? I think you could stand to lose a little weight. And that haircut is all wrong for you.

Personally I hate when men interfere with me like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol what are we even talking about now?

Sorry OP

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks


"Lol what are we even talking about now?

Sorry OP "

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The thread changed channels!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone hit 'guide' and lets see what's on....

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By *unguy151Man
over a year ago

Drogheda

This really annoys me i try really hard to get meets and guys who dont tuen up makes it hard for people to trust us

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By *s2b3cMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"It's strange how things work on this site. From my experience as a single guy, it's usually the couples who get cold feet. I don't even bother contacting couples profiles, for that very reason. There are plenty of genuine couples on here, but trying to locate them is needle in a hay stack stuff, so I just don't bother anymore.

This has been my experience for the majority of couples too.

But you've only been verified by two men. One by meeting and one on cam. Did the couple or couples that you meet not leave verifications?

Huh? I'm confused by that comment. If they left verifications then they didn't get cold feet and my comment would make no sense.

Yeah, but you said the majority of couples. Which would suggest that you have met one or more couples. So would maybe get a veri from them. Unless they have deliberately not left you a veri's. Does that make sense? "

I get what you mean now, but no my experience is chat based and in the middle of chatting or arranging the meet, the couples just stop. It's almost like there's no patience. Other couples I still currently chat to so I can't say all couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's strange how things work on this site. From my experience as a single guy, it's usually the couples who get cold feet. I don't even bother contacting couples profiles, for that very reason. There are plenty of genuine couples on here, but trying to locate them is needle in a hay stack stuff, so I just don't bother anymore.

This has been my experience for the majority of couples too.

But you've only been verified by two men. One by meeting and one on cam. Did the couple or couples that you meet not leave verifications?

Huh? I'm confused by that comment. If they left verifications then they didn't get cold feet and my comment would make no sense.

Yeah, but you said the majority of couples. Which would suggest that you have met one or more couples. So would maybe get a veri from them. Unless they have deliberately not left you a veri's. Does that make sense?

I get what you mean now, but no my experience is chat based and in the middle of chatting or arranging the meet, the couples just stop. It's almost like there's no patience. Other couples I still currently chat to so I can't say all couples. "

Roger that. With you now.

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By *s2b3cMan
over a year ago

Dublin


" Roger that. With you now. "

First time I've been allowed clarify something without being called stupid or other personal comments being made. Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Roger that. With you now.

First time I've been allowed clarify something without being called stupid or other personal comments being made. Thank you "

No worries dumb ass!

Ha ha! Joking. No worries, anytime.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP really sorry that happened , I've never had the experience myself . I only meet with people I've met through friends or at socials or parties this is especially true for single guys . At least then you know that they are not messers .

Don't give up just yet .

I'd suggest getting yourselfs to a meet & greet and building up a circle of friends .

Lots of great guys , couples and girls here .give it time and you will find fab can be very sexy fun .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a pain as it gives the guys that want to meet or get verified tarred with the same brush but everyone gets cold feet but to not text and let ppl know or even answer n say sorry I can't meet its rude rant over

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By *organ81Man
over a year ago

ennis

I'm a single guy who is not a messer but because of idiots like that people here don't give you a chance.

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"I'm a single guy who is not a messer but because of idiots like that people here don't give you a chance."

i used to think like that, but now my approach is that if they're gonna be idiots it just means theres more for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well we arnt all the same us single guys this is my second time on fab I've asked advice on the forms I've put up a profile pic I'm not rude in the mails I do send and still the women don't reply are give us new single men a chance it is hard and you dont enjoy it when your arnt getting anywhere ,I'm sorry that man let you down as everyone said a txt are call would of been nice but we're not all the same I'm mad looking a meet and can't get one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a single guy who is not a messer but because of idiots like that people here don't give you a chance.

i used to think like that, but now my approach is that if they're gonna be idiots it just means theres more for me. "

Yes and no. The sheer amount of noise from the gobshites makes it hard to get emails read I find.

Btw I'm sure it's been said over and over. There are 20 times more men than women so 20 times more male gobshites. Dosent mean the percentage of female muppet is any different

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"I'm a single guy who is not a messer but because of idiots like that people here don't give you a chance.

i used to think like that, but now my approach is that if they're gonna be idiots it just means theres more for me.

Yes and no. The sheer amount of noise from the gobshites makes it hard to get emails read I find.

Btw I'm sure it's been said over and over. There are 20 times more men than women so 20 times more male gobshites. Dosent mean the percentage of female muppet is any different "

more than 50% of my mails are read and replied to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Likelihood is OP has turned down, ignored, deleted a fair number of decent blokes, that wouldn't have let them down.

It's called having your cake and eat it.

For guys, Fab is 99% rejection, usually without explanation and often with poor manners and sometimes abuse.

Couples have to expect similar, at least the odd time and move on. I don't know a couple, that couldn't get a meet, within 30 mins of a no show happening.

If you have to ask, should you leave, the answer is probably yes.

IMO of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's strange how things work on this site. From my experience as a single guy, it's usually the couples who get cold feet. I don't even bother contacting couples profiles, for that very reason. There are plenty of genuine couples on here, but trying to locate them is needle in a hay stack stuff, so I just don't bother anymore. "

I beg to differ, couples are my favourite to play with. No drama, jealousy or bitchiness if you meet with other couples or singles, plus MFM's or being the bull in a hot wife or cockold scenario is fucking hot, and a lot of fun. Don't get me wrong, I love playing with the sexy single ladies on fab too, just the one or two bad experiences I've had on here, let's just say it wasn't with couples

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By *eedycpl OP   Couple
over a year ago

belfast


"Likelihood is OP has turned down, ignored, deleted a fair number of decent blokes, that wouldn't have let them down.

It's called having your cake and eat it.

For guys, Fab is 99% rejection, usually without explanation and often with poor manners and sometimes abuse.

Couples have to expect similar, at least the odd time and move on. I don't know a couple, that couldn't get a meet, within 30 mins of a no show happening.

If you have to ask, should you leave, the answer is probably yes.

IMO of course"

I'd say ur prob right ref ignored and turned down decent blokes but we really don't have the time to go through 100 plus messages when we advertise a meet so we kinda go with whoever catches our eye at the time that's why we say on our profile if we did not reply to ur message 1st time don't let it out u off messaging us again ref arranging another meet within 30mins of a no show happening that's not our thing we like to get to know a potential meet through messages before meeting I know everyone experiences no shows it's the sheer lack of manners that was most annoying after all week being told they can't wait to meet etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's strange how things work on this site. From my experience as a single guy, it's usually the couples who get cold feet. I don't even bother contacting couples profiles, for that very reason. There are plenty of genuine couples on here, but trying to locate them is needle in a hay stack stuff, so I just don't bother anymore.

I beg to differ, couples are my favourite to play with. No drama, jealousy or bitchiness if you meet with other couples or singles, plus MFM's or being the bull in a hot wife or cockold scenario is fucking hot, and a lot of fun. Don't get me wrong, I love playing with the sexy single ladies on fab too, just the one or two bad experiences I've had on here, let's just say it wasn't with couples "

I'm not saying couples aren't fun to play with though. I'm saying that I've given up contacting them, because of the amount of times, they get cold feet, or pull out of meets. I'm not adverse to meeting them, just adverse to wasting my time pursuing them. If I meet a couple socially and we click, then I'd most definitely follow through as it is indeed very hot. I just don't bother trying to initiate and converse through here.

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over a year ago


"It's strange how things work on this site. From my experience as a single guy, it's usually the couples who get cold feet. I don't even bother contacting couples profiles, for that very reason. There are plenty of genuine couples on here, but trying to locate them is needle in a hay stack stuff, so I just don't bother anymore.

I beg to differ, couples are my favourite to play with. No drama, jealousy or bitchiness if you meet with other couples or singles, plus MFM's or being the bull in a hot wife or cockold scenario is fucking hot, and a lot of fun. Don't get me wrong, I love playing with the sexy single ladies on fab too, just the one or two bad experiences I've had on here, let's just say it wasn't with couples

I'm not saying couples aren't fun to play with though. I'm saying that I've given up contacting them, because of the amount of times, they get cold feet, or pull out of meets. I'm not adverse to meeting them, just adverse to wasting my time pursuing them. If I meet a couple socially and we click, then I'd most definitely follow through as it is indeed very hot. I just don't bother trying to initiate and converse through here. "

..tricky one...ive had some great meets with couples...but in terms of frustration, lack replies, and wishing to be pursued to the nth degree, I have also given up with couples although I would have loved a regular couple or two before I left..

.in terms if no shows...single girls win that one hands down..

.in 5 years I cancelled once on fab...and I have a lot of commitments...so I find it hard to stomach the excuses anymore...

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

people tend to call single bi females as unicorns but genuine experienced single guys that can turn up hold a conversation and preform are just as rare if not more so than single bi females.

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks


"

I'd say ur prob right ref ignored and turned down decent blokes but we really don't have the time to go through 100 plus messages when we advertise a meet so we kinda go with whoever catches our eye at the time that's why we say on our profile if we did not reply to ur message 1st time don't let it out u off messaging us again ref arranging another meet within 30mins of a no show happening that's not our thing we like to get to know a potential meet through messages before meeting I know everyone experiences no shows it's the sheer lack of manners that was most annoying after all week being told they can't wait to meet etc "

.

Well you choose a guy by pot luck.. then you have to accept what happens!

Fail to plan, plan to fail!

You haven't time or can't be bothered reading replies, so just accept what you get.

You chose the messer, no one's fault but your own!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You see as single guy this shit passes me off. Its so hard to get couples to meet let alone trying to meet women on here. I hate this shit because it ruins it for guys who genuinely want to meet and love to meet couples.

Generally I only meet a few and if I agree to meet I keep to it, SHITHEADS like that guy fuck it up for everyone not just us guys......rant over

Hope you guys don't leave and continue to have fun.

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks


"You see as single guy this shit passes me off. Its so hard to get couples to meet let alone trying to meet women on here. I hate this shit because it ruins it for guys who genuinely want to meet and love to meet couples.

Generally I only meet a few and if I agree to meet I keep to it, SHITHEADS like that guy fuck it up for everyone not just us guys......rant over

Hope you guys don't leave and continue to have fun."

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Because he was given the opportunity to!

There may well have been some lovely replies from genuine guys but this couple couldn't even be bothered to read them!

As has been said it's no wonder so many guys can't be bothered contacting couples anymore!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Needyclp - that is typical of people here - happened us on 2 occasions waiting in hotel room - paid for etc - so many fakes and messers on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My first meet, I was stood up by a couple and a single guy came to my rescue...people are people regardless of their status on fab.

It can be daunting stepping into a couple mix too but doesn't justify that behaviour. Maybe there is more to the story? Just wondering but I do know it happens regardless of how carefully planned and respectful you are. The down side of all this. Don't let it dictate beyond the no show though, learn and move on or just move on as sometimes there is no explanation and nothing you did could change that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"people tend to call single bi females as unicorns but genuine experienced single guys that can turn up hold a conversation and preform are just as rare if not more so than single bi females. "

Never been called a unicorn before

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks


"people tend to call single bi females as unicorns but genuine experienced single guys that can turn up hold a conversation and preform are just as rare if not more so than single bi females.

Never been called a unicorn before "

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It was a typo!

Should have been unique horn!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Needyclp - that is typical of people here - happened us on 2 occasions waiting in hotel room - paid for etc - so many fakes and messers on here"

.wondering g if they were well verified...anyone that let me down was you see...which makes it very hard to sustain the enthusiasm...if they were newbies or no veris in a year idda just slapped myself..but they were well verified 'genuine'...(my fucking arse)..swingers..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Needyclp - that is typical of people here - happened us on 2 occasions waiting in hotel room - paid for etc - so many fakes and messers on here

.wondering g if they were well verified...anyone that let me down was you see...which makes it very hard to sustain the enthusiasm...if they were newbies or no veris in a year idda just slapped myself..but they were well verified 'genuine'...(my fucking arse)..swingers.."

That is the chance we all take but personally I have had more great meets than bad experiences on fab.

It is the shitty reality that happens to us all sadly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"people tend to call single bi females as unicorns but genuine experienced single guys that can turn up hold a conversation and preform are just as rare if not more so than single bi females.

Never been called a unicorn before

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It was a typo!

Should have been unique horn!! "

Well that ....YES

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"Likelihood is OP has turned down, ignored, deleted a fair number of decent blokes, that wouldn't have let them down.

It's called having your cake and eat it.

For guys, Fab is 99% rejection, usually without explanation and often with poor manners and sometimes abuse.

Couples have to expect similar, at least the odd time and move on. I don't know a couple, that couldn't get a meet, within 30 mins of a no show happening.

If you have to ask, should you leave, the answer is probably yes.

IMO of course"

Organising a new meet within 30minutes? unless you go for a 'wanna fuck' offer, this is complete cockooland fantasy.

Beside that most people want to know who they're meeting, the single lads have a life outside fab too - I assume - and won't just sit at home waiting for the call out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a couple, we're going to have a great night together in a nice hotel even if the third party doesn't turn up, so nothing lost from our perspective.

I can see that for a single, it's not the same.

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks


"

Organising a new meet within 30minutes? unless you go for a 'wanna fuck' offer, this is complete cockooland fantasy.

Beside that most people want to know who they're meeting, the single lads have a life outside fab too - I assume - and won't just sit at home waiting for the call out. "

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Well there are probably guys that will come running at the click of a finger.. plus it shows the attitude some people have towards guys!

Thankfully some of us do have a life outside of FAB!

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks


"Really sorry if ppl feel we r giving single blokes a hard time but honestly they really are their own worst enemy, we been chatting to a bloke for nearly 3 weeks texting flirting etc all the usual then arrange to meet last night I went to the hassle of getting 4 kids minded hubby was out with work and he was offered to come to ours early to meet Mrs on own for a while to make it easier and all along he was saying he can't wait and looking forward to a good night then on the day of the meet BANG nothen no text or anything would not reply to messages even tho he was online gggrrrrr wot a prick rant over now question is r single blokes only here for a mess about because we have chatted to quite a few and there's only been 1 or 2 that actually stuck by their word ?"

.

The original posts could easily be...

Really sorry if ppl feel we r giving single blokes a hard time but honestly WE really are own worst enemy, we couldn't be arsed reading messages and just chose one at random....

He didn't show!

Next time we will real replies and choose better!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Likelihood is OP has turned down, ignored, deleted a fair number of decent blokes, that wouldn't have let them down.

It's called having your cake and eat it.

For guys, Fab is 99% rejection, usually without explanation and often with poor manners and sometimes abuse.

Couples have to expect similar, at least the odd time and move on. I don't know a couple, that couldn't get a meet, within 30 mins of a no show happening.

If you have to ask, should you leave, the answer is probably yes.

IMO of course

Organising a new meet within 30minutes? unless you go for a 'wanna fuck' offer, this is complete cockooland fantasy.

Beside that most people want to know who they're meeting, the single lads have a life outside fab too - I assume - and won't just sit at home waiting for the call out. "

Ring this number 98654432445556876...I'm sitting here waiting. Oh but I charge for each hole and don't do.... but I'm sure others would.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reorganised that situation at short notice but it was with a guy I had been chatting to for awhile and wasin contact with all day right up to the cancellation ( oone liner, no reason) so he was aware of what was happening as soon as I was. That meet is still way up there as one of my great meets

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By *eedycpl OP   Couple
over a year ago

belfast


"

I'd say ur prob right ref ignored and turned down decent blokes but we really don't have the time to go through 100 plus messages when we advertise a meet so we kinda go with whoever catches our eye at the time that's why we say on our profile if we did not reply to ur message 1st time don't let it out u off messaging us again ref arranging another meet within 30mins of a no show happening that's not our thing we like to get to know a potential meet through messages before meeting I know everyone experiences no shows it's the sheer lack of manners that was most annoying after all week being told they can't wait to meet etc

.

Well you choose a guy by pot luck.. then you have to accept what happens!

Fail to plan, plan to fail!

You haven't time or can't be bothered reading replies, so just accept what you get.

You chose the messer, no one's fault but your own!"
u talk nonsense no offence everyone on here chooses someone to talk to it's hardly our fault they turn out to be a messer u say if we fail to plan then we plan to fail that's hardly true when we planned to meet for over a week here's the planning process we went through-- started chatting to a bloke for about a week seemed genuine and decent, then started chatting about meeting so we set a date that suited , arranged to have our kids minded overnight and bought some drink in , texts were back and forward morning noon and night until the day of meet them there was nothing not even a text to say sorry something has came up. How can that be our fault ? If u can point to wot we done wrong in the planning plz do.

As we said we know it's not just blokes who mess ppl around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Likelihood is OP has turned down, ignored, deleted a fair number of decent blokes, that wouldn't have let them down.

It's called having your cake and eat it.

For guys, Fab is 99% rejection, usually without explanation and often with poor manners and sometimes abuse.

Couples have to expect similar, at least the odd time and move on. I don't know a couple, that couldn't get a meet, within 30 mins of a no show happening.

If you have to ask, should you leave, the answer is probably yes.

IMO of course

Organising a new meet within 30minutes? unless you go for a 'wanna fuck' offer, this is complete cockooland fantasy.

Beside that most people want to know who they're meeting, the single lads have a life outside fab too - I assume - and won't just sit at home waiting for the call out. "

I presume that most couples, looking for single guys, are in conversation with more than one guy at a time, with the intention of meeting more than just one....unless they are monogamous Swingers? Everyone speaks from their own experience, of course and my experience, is both as the single guy and the couple, so hardly cuckooland.

Well there ya go....

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By *eedycpl OP   Couple
over a year ago

belfast


"Really sorry if ppl feel we r giving single blokes a hard time but honestly they really are their own worst enemy, we been chatting to a bloke for nearly 3 weeks texting flirting etc all the usual then arrange to meet last night I went to the hassle of getting 4 kids minded hubby was out with work and he was offered to come to ours early to meet Mrs on own for a while to make it easier and all along he was saying he can't wait and looking forward to a good night then on the day of the meet BANG nothen no text or anything would not reply to messages even tho he was online gggrrrrr wot a prick rant over now question is r single blokes only here for a mess about because we have chatted to quite a few and there's only been 1 or 2 that actually stuck by their word ?

.

The original posts could easily be...

Really sorry if ppl feel we r giving single blokes a hard time but honestly WE really are own worst enemy, we couldn't be arsed reading messages and just chose one at random....

He didn't show!

Next time we will real replies and choose better!!"
and why would we say we are our own worst enemy? We just take it as bad luck we can hardly sit and reply to 100plus messages we do have a life outside fab. I assume we all have good and bad luck on here we just happened to choose a messer that seemed genuine not really a fault of ours

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By *ordjeffMan
over a year ago

around and about ,as travel.

My sentiments on this subject.

I have been on this site over a year and only got 3 meets

I too get let down by women and couples.

It is very frustrating as when you are serious and a legitimate site user and get let down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow, the amount of hassle you went through only to be let down like that. Fuck, I cringe at the thought.

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