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By *s2b3c OP   Man
over a year ago

Dublin

Just curious as I'm still waiting for my first but does anyone have any tips for me?

I question my limits and whats expected from me that it's making me more nervous about it.

Some advice would be really helpful. thanks

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By *s2b3c OP   Man
over a year ago

Dublin

I feel like I want to watch one first but that makes me feel like a creep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing wrong with a little nerves. Just relax, be yourself and it may help to chat to the couple prior to meeting to see if ye have the same things in mind? Have fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just curious as I'm still waiting for my first but does anyone have any tips for me?

I question my limits and whats expected from me that it's making me more nervous about it.

Some advice would be really helpful. thanks "

Discuss expectations and boundaries with the couple beforehand. Everyone is different.

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By *Belfast_FellaMan
over a year ago

belfast

I would agree that you should meet the couple socially beforehand and see how you get on.

You should perhaps also agree what you all want from it - one of the men may be bi and the other may not. This can all be done via e-mail or text if you're all a little embarrassed to sit in Starbucks and discuss where you should all put your peepees!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would agree that you should meet the couple socially beforehand and see how you get on.

You should perhaps also agree what you all want from it - one of the men may be bi and the other may not. This can all be done via e-mail or text if you're all a little embarrassed to sit in Starbucks and discuss where you should all put your peepees! "

Kik group chat

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By *oodbuddy 51Man
over a year ago

Puerto Rico, Gran Canaria

I was made real welcome by both and it just happened, good sex between adults and the Mr liked seeing his lady having pleasure. So go and enjoy yourself and have fun.

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By *e CountMan
over a year ago

Kilkenny

Best to know the detail of what is allowed and the boundaries are important. Do meet socially first, get to know the personalities of the couple, and make your judgement on what you learn from this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't cross swords

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never mind al the above....just get stuck in....lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take a deep breath, relax and enjoy. The amount of people in the room is irrelevant, it's always about communicating needs and desires. If you can do it in an MF situation, you can do it just as well in MMF, MMMF, MFMF or even the illusive FFM.

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By *allfungent24Man
over a year ago

city

Just pick the right people and you can't go wrong. Not having too many hang ups or limits goes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't cross swords"
...he's bi...I think he's planning more than crossing them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't cross swords...he's bi...I think he's planning more than crossing them"

Always sheath the swords then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't cross swords...he's bi...I think he's planning more than crossing them

Always sheath the swords then. "

..maybe not necessary. .if its just hand to hand combat...

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By *ean0001Man
over a year ago

Dublin West

Dont cross the streams ...

Or maybe that was Ghostbusters ...

Just relax and go with the flow. sure whats the worst that can happen.

And i find its the couples that can sit and discuss stuff in starbucks that usually are the most fun.

The second meet will usually be better than the first..

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By *eauhoMan
over a year ago

City Centre

Any mmf I've had we have all had a drink and chat beforehand, so we are well aware of each others likes, dislikes, no-no's etc. It's a good way to break the ice and be comfortable with each other, after that just have fun!

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By *s2b3c OP   Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Don't cross swords...he's bi...I think he's planning more than crossing them

Always sheath the swords then. ..maybe not necessary. .if its just hand to hand combat... "

I actually don't want any bi fun. It'll be less complicated if it's just straight I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't cross swords...he's bi...I think he's planning more than crossing them

Always sheath the swords then. ..maybe not necessary. .if its just hand to hand combat...

I actually don't want any bi fun. It'll be less complicated if it's just straight I think. "

...you're making it very difficult for yourself. Straight couples looking for mmf, may not be interested because you have bi on your profile. And bi couples won't be interested in you if you're only after straight mmf.imo anyway

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By *s2b3c OP   Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Don't cross swords...he's bi...I think he's planning more than crossing them

Always sheath the swords then. ..maybe not necessary. .if its just hand to hand combat...

I actually don't want any bi fun. It'll be less complicated if it's just straight I think. ...you're making it very difficult for yourself. Straight couples looking for mmf, may not be interested because you have bi on your profile. And bi couples won't be interested in you if you're only after straight mmf.imo anyway"

You're actually right because I've been told before they're not interested in bi and i have also turned down a bi couple...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't cross swords...he's bi...I think he's planning more than crossing them

Always sheath the swords then. ..maybe not necessary. .if its just hand to hand combat...

I actually don't want any bi fun. It'll be less complicated if it's just straight I think. ...you're making it very difficult for yourself. Straight couples looking for mmf, may not be interested because you have bi on your profile. And bi couples won't be interested in you if you're only after straight mmf.imo anyway

You're actually right because I've been told before they're not interested in bi and i have also turned down a bi couple... "

....ok...happy hunting anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

New to this too. I'm also interested in an MMF as a single guy. However, I'm finding the likelihood and chances are slim!

Overall though, I think it would be important to meet up for a drink or a coffee first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lay out the rules. Meet socially first. Only play safe and within the limits of all involved. The lady usually has the last word but that applies to all players. If you ain't comfy with something then open your mouth and say it.

Oh and last but not least. Learn to duck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jaysus.....such analysing..... JUST GET STUCK IN....!!!!.....

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin

In an mmf it's simple if you're the single guy.

1. Turn up.

2. Get hard.

3. Stay hard.

4. Spoil the lady

5. Don't be an asshole.

6. Don't overstay your welcome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In an mmf it's simple if you're the single guy.

1. Turn up.

2. Get hard.

3. Stay hard.

4. Spoil the lady

5. Don't be an asshole.

6. Don't overstay your welcome. "

Bang on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The basics!

Well said!!

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By *safunwituMan
over a year ago

Enniscorthy


"In an mmf it's simple if you're the single guy.

1. Turn up.

2. Get hard.

3. Stay hard.

4. Spoil the lady

5. Don't be an asshole.

6. Don't overstay your welcome. "

Thats it in a nutshell.

Always be repectful to those you are lucky enough to meet, remember its them letting you join them...

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By *ortyfunMan
over a year ago

east Meath


"In an mmf it's simple if you're the single guy.

1. Turn up.

2. Get hard.

3. Stay hard.

4. Spoil the lady

5. Don't be an asshole.

6. Don't overstay your welcome. "

They should be the mmf commandments

Perfect advice

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By *safunwituMan
over a year ago

Enniscorthy


"In an mmf it's simple if you're the single guy.

1. Turn up.

2. Get hard.

3. Stay hard.

4. Spoil the lady

5. Don't be an asshole.

6. Don't overstay your welcome.

They should be the mmf commandments

Perfect advice "

The 6 mmf commandments, according to John Mingo.

What are the other 4 missing ones???

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Those 6 sum it up for me, but if anyone has more feel free to add to them.

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By *ortyfunMan
over a year ago

east Meath


"Those 6 sum it up for me, but if anyone has more feel free to add to them."

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"Those 6 sum it up for me, but if anyone has more feel free to add to them. "

I'm a bit confused by those emoticons.

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