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By *ullfrog69 OP   Man
over a year ago

Fermangh/ Cavan

Is it me or what,? the amount of profiles that say come and say hi, you take time and write a nice friendly message and no reply, would it not be manners to reply , even just say not interested,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm afraid the site rules say no reply - no interest.

Its nothing to do with manners more to do with if a lady answers with a 'no thanks' then they can get a whole load of mail asking why not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would be in the normal world. But this is fab and it's taken that no reply = not interested or lost in the inbox. Wouldn't take it personally. A profile pic might help your plight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would be in the normal world. But this is fab and it's taken that no reply = not interested or lost in the inbox. Wouldn't take it personally. A profile pic might help your plight "

Perhaps a change of name too. ..?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's the way it is, I don't even reply to most of the mails I get, if you send one back, they'll likely send one back, before you know it you've mailed each other about ten times each...to usually end up saying or hearing no thanks at the end of it all...if you send a mail, don't expect a reply from 9 out of 10, if you get one back from somebody you like, well and good....you're better off using you're typing skills here on the forum, in the chat room or on your profile.

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By *onedbodMan
over a year ago

co Galway


"That's the way it is, I don't even reply to most of the mails I get, if you send one back, they'll likely send one back, before you know it you've mailed each other about ten times each...to usually end up saying or hearing no thanks at the end of it all...if you send a mail, don't expect a reply from 9 out of 10, if you get one back from somebody you like, well and good....you're better off using you're typing skills here on the forum, in the chat room or on your profile."
Totally agree especially with the 9/10 don't reply! Even in the forum some are so touchy! They might take something you say up the wrong way and bang the bitchy side comes out!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people just can't take no for an answer and take friendliness for sexual interest even when you've made it clear you're not interested at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it me or what,? the amount of profiles that say come and say hi, you take time and write a nice friendly message and no reply, would it not be manners to reply , even just say not interested, "

I do try and reply but can get snowed under

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By *ean0001Man
over a year ago

Dublin West

Its just the way it is. You will get used to it and be grand or you won't and it will drive you nuts and you will leave the site.

For lots of guys its the second option.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As much as rejection dents the ego, it's a fact of life around here and on dating sites. However people handle it in different ways and a lot choose to get nasty. So the safest option is not to reply. You will never know why someone decided you're not for them, you just need to accept it and move on. Also a ratio of probably 100 males to every 1 woman, means you're fighting long odds to start with, so 10/1 is good going in reply terms.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it me or what,? the amount of profiles that say come and say hi, you take time and write a nice friendly message and no reply, would it not be manners to reply , even just say not interested, "

Maybe your message is not as nice or as friendly as you believe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The amount of messages women get. Perhaps they don't have the time to reply. They are not interested. From personal experience when I do politely decline in a reply you get these self entitled morons demanding detailed explanation's as to why they are not good enough. Also some men like a challenge and pester you even when you reply your not interested. Bottom line we are all strangers. You typed a few lines to someone. They don't owe you anything. Move on and try the next one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's the way it is, I don't even reply to most of the mails I get, if you send one back, they'll likely send one back, before you know it you've mailed each other about ten times each...to usually end up saying or hearing no thanks at the end of it all...if you send a mail, don't expect a reply from 9 out of 10, if you get one back from somebody you like, well and good....you're better off using you're typing skills here on the forum, in the chat room or on your profile. Totally agree especially with the 9/10 don't reply! Even in the forum some are so touchy! They might take something you say up the wrong way and bang the bitchy side comes out!! "

If you walked a mile in their shoes you would see things differently. I have only seen it on a smaller level. Being the male part of a couple on here is like being treated like a useless fleshy attachment to the thing everyone wants.

Being treated like an object is degrading. You wouldn't put up with it if it happened to you

"Wow great tits."

"I want to fuck your ass all day."

"I want that pussy on my mouth and I'm going to make it cum til it can't take anymore."

It doesn't take many of these messages to make a woman feel like a piece of meat, that you are interested only in her holes. Talking directly to a woman's tits in public isn't a good idea but on here we forget. She's looking for sex, I have a cock and it's really pretty, why wouldn't she. Obviously there are guys who don't do this. I'm not saying every guy is the same. But it's more messages than not.

If women were messaging you asking for your bank balance and what car you drive (and photo proof btw) along with an expectation of being pampered the whole night, you would avoid the "gold diggers". You would complain on the forum about women only being after you for your money, about how demeaning it is to be objectified ... You are more than your bank balance

You don't need cock pics to impress women on here. They are not mobile ass and tit units , or pussys with bodies attached.

I'm sure there will be guys saying but I can't get a message read, how can I show them I am different? That's for you to figure out but I will say this. You dont need to beg, you don't need to crawl or demean yourself. (That might come later if it's what you both are into).

Women like confident men. Learn what that really means and treat women (and couples) like people not profile pics

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks

The best thing to do is not send messages, wait for a reply, then send message!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we get msgs directed at one of us , we assume that if they are making fun of us.....we're allowed to do the same. .sometimes it doesn't end well....

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

We'll if a lady r couple take to time to reply even to say a polite no I will always send a return reply saying thanks very much for ur kind reply .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't you hate it when you take the time to read a persons bio on tinder and look through their profile to see if you like them, and they don't even swipe right!! So rude! Why can't they have the manners to swipe right and then tell me if they are not interested. :/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We'll if a lady r couple take to time to reply even to say a polite no I will always send a return reply saying thanks very much for ur kind reply . "

Why?

Never understood why some folk thank us for refusing their advances?

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By *ain4uWoman
over a year ago

dublin


"I'm afraid the site rules say no reply - no interest.

Its nothing to do with manners more to do with if a lady answers with a 'no thanks' then they can get a whole load of mail asking why not"

Exactly

I've tested out this... sent no thank you ... then the person constantly texts over and over with questions and could we jus chat. ..etc etc..

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By *ain4uWoman
over a year ago

dublin


"The amount of messages women get. Perhaps they don't have the time to reply. They are not interested. From personal experience when I do politely decline in a reply you get these self entitled morons demanding detailed explanation's as to why they are not good enough. Also some men like a challenge and pester you even when you reply your not interested. Bottom line we are all strangers. You typed a few lines to someone. They don't owe you anything. Move on and try the next one. "

Couldn't of put it better myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The amount of messages women get. Perhaps they don't have the time to reply. They are not interested. From personal experience when I do politely decline in a reply you get these self entitled morons demanding detailed explanation's as to why they are not good enough. Also some men like a challenge and pester you even when you reply your not interested. Bottom line we are all strangers. You typed a few lines to someone. They don't owe you anything. Move on and try the next one. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I just can't be arsed to read messages let alone reply. If that sounds mean then apologies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it me or what,? the amount of profiles that say come and say hi, you take time and write a nice friendly message and no reply, would it not be manners to reply , even just say not interested, "

Yeah it is bad and everybody knows about .. Do not expect anything. Do not complain.. or you'll hear: "Anyone can use Fab as he wants"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it me or what,? the amount of profiles that say come and say hi, you take time and write a nice friendly message and no reply, would it not be manners to reply , even just say not interested, "

Oh wait I forgot ..The Women Men ratio. Every fun seeking woman gets about 2.5 million messages 2,499 999 are rude and abusive .. just as apology

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