FabSwingers.com forum: Age difference

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What is a socially accepted age difference these days. I know its each to your own and all that but 35 and 20 just doesnt seem right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's wrong with it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love is love and fun is fun

Who has the to judge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us we love older

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"What is a socially accepted age difference these days. I know its each to your own and all that but 35 and 20 just doesnt seem right"

It doesn't seem right because at thirty five ur considered more experienced preying on the innocence of a twenty year old but u know what if it works for those involved who is anyone to judge

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"For us we love older "

Well hello there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For us we love older "

But you're not 20

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a 12 year gap between my parents and after 39 married iv never seen them happier or more in love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a 12 year gap between my parents and after 39 married iv never seen them happier or more in love "
sister is 41her man is 65..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My hubbys 12 years older than me and weve been married 11 years and together 16. He's still hot

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By *ienDePlusCouple
over a year ago

dublin

"preying on the innocence of a twenty year old"

Whut?

A 20 year old? Where do we meet these 'innocent' 20 year olds? Most 20 year olds we meet are box clever and one step ahead.

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By *ka ..Agent k ..Man
over a year ago

"For us we love older "

they say older bears make better lovers

i sometimes wonder.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me i prefer an older man

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

""preying on the innocence of a twenty year old"

Whut?

A 20 year old? Where do we meet these 'innocent' 20 year olds? Most 20 year olds we meet are box clever and one step ahead."

This may be true but the perception would be that u have the advantage of years and experience the question was what's socials acceptable. While it's not something that would bother me I believe it would bother alot of others

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By *s louWoman
over a year ago

Enniskillen

I've gone as far as 15 years younger and 30-odd older over the years...didn't bother me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not so much the age difference that bothers me.

Its the fact that theres a whole lot of difference in a 35 yr old man and a 20 yr old girl.

If she was 30 and him 45 - I would have no problem at all

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"I've gone as far as 15 years younger and 30-odd older over the years...didn't bother me

I have went 22 yrs younger can't seem to find older

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've gone as far as 15 years younger and 30-odd older over the years...didn't bother me

I have went 22 yrs younger can't seem to find older

You're just not looking hard enough

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By *s ParisWoman
over a year ago

My Dungeon Room

Won't go lower than 4yrs younger than me and 6yrs older

no exceptions made

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a young fab member I find it really difficult to get meets, I actually enjoy older couples/women as well but they just don't seem interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh dear god...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guess I should stay away from the 24 yr olds so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its not so much the age difference that bothers me.

Its the fact that theres a whole lot of difference in a 35 yr old man and a 20 yr old girl.

If she was 30 and him 45 - I would have no problem at all

Were you innocent at 20?

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

I have a niece n she 39 n has a bf 72 but looks 50 odd n they get on like a house on fire gave her her 2kids she wanted. So I say let them enjoy their lives together

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

I've been with a few young ladies in their 20 ts .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its not so much the age difference that bothers me.

Its the fact that theres a whole lot of difference in a 35 yr old man and a 20 yr old girl.

If she was 30 and him 45 - I would have no problem at all

Were you innocent at 20? "

No. But I wasn't nearly as worldly wise as any 35 year old man.

And having had a 20 year old daughter I wouldn't have wanted a 35 yr old man near her

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

All valid, opened up a box of worms, still none the wiser, guess theres no real answer, Thanx guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All valid, opened up a box of worms, still none the wiser, guess theres no real answer, Thanx guys"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The saying "don't criticise me because my kink is different to your kink " clearly dosent apply here. Broad general sweeping statements based on your own prejudice? Now that's the way to go.

Why not just set your profile to the age sexual orientation and other settings you like and let everyone else do the same?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The saying "don't criticise me because my kink is different to your kink " clearly dosent apply here. Broad general sweeping statements based on your own prejudice? Now that's the way to go.

Why not just set your profile to the age sexual orientation and other settings you like and let everyone else do the same? "

If that was at me - my profile is set that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What ever makes you happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For sexton it doesn't really matter. I've slept with someone 25 years older than me. For dating personal preference really. I'd usually not date anyone beyond 8/9 years older. I'd prefer to be at the same stages of life.

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By *ean0001Man
over a year ago

Dublin West

They say dont go younger than half your age plus 7.

But if both happy then what the hell but people do a whole lot of growing up in their 20s and are usually a bit more grounded in their 30s but of course you will always have exceptions to this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm 23 and my partner is 35

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it fine as people get older, i stick to people near my own age though...used to think a 16 year old going out with somebody in their mid twenties was a bit strange...but if people like that stayed together for years ther'd only be small gap later in life...different strokes, never been for me though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wud rather older myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My hubbys 12 years older than me and weve been married 11 years and together 16. He's still hot

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if he is that hot why are you doing on fab.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"My hubbys 12 years older than me and weve been married 11 years and together 16. He's still hot

if he is that hot why are you doing on fab."

That's like something "Sligo" would've said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My hubbys 12 years older than me and weve been married 11 years and together 16. He's still hot

if he is that hot why are you doing on fab.

That's like something "Sligo" would've said

10-4 MM.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

On the maturity thing... I know 20yr olds who are more mature than some of the 50 year olds here so the maturity argument doesn't work for me.

How important is social acceptability when it comes to swinging or nsa sex? It's hardly socially acceptable to begin with.

If it's dating your talking about it might be a different matter. I'd be inclined to say follow your heart regardless of whether it's socially acceptable at the moment of not. Social norms change over time. It's not that long since it was socially acceptable to send your child off on a day out with the local priest. You don't hear of that happening much these days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My hubbys 12 years older than me and weve been married 11 years and together 16. He's still hot

Age is only a number. It's all down to the person and how the act, by the way, your a very hot looking woman

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By *ingerrrrWoman
over a year ago

Meath

I seem to have developed a thing for a guy I train with.. He's only 23.. I'm 45..

I'm trying to resist but it's very hard.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"I seem to have developed a thing for a guy I train with.. He's only 23.. I'm 45..

I'm trying to resist but it's very hard.

He's probably got a thing for you as well!

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"I seem to have developed a thing for a guy I train with.. He's only 23.. I'm 45..

I'm trying to resist but it's very hard.

He's probably got a thing for you as well!

Wait, your thing shouldn't be hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Went to a concert recently with my 19 yr old son and I chatted to this woman my age with a guy who was about 25, I said oh I see you got roped in to come to this thing too by your son, she said no its my boyfriend...

Talk about putting my foot in it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oops!

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By *rian78Man
over a year ago

navan

Age can be just a number. If the difference doesn't suit don't go there. For me it do sent matter. My grandparents had 53 year age gap got married had a family and they were happy. Each to there own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Went to a concert recently with my 19 yr old son and I chatted to this woman my age with a guy who was about 25, I said oh I see you got roped in to come to this thing too by your son, she said no its my boyfriend...

Talk about putting my foot in it

Scarlet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My hubbys 12 years older than me and weve been married 11 years and together 16. He's still hot

if he is that hot why are you doing on fab.

That's like something "Sligo" would've said

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....he just did....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm 23 Liam is 38. We are both very happy, I really don't see the problem, or why it's anyone else's business what the age gap between couples is. If you don't wanna meet someone a certain gap older or younger than you then don't? It's each to their own when it comes to ages.

Katie xx

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By *p519Man
over a year ago

Cork

I'd love to have some fun with an older woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My hubbys 12 years older than me and weve been married 11 years and together 16. He's still hot

if he is that hot why are you doing on fab.

That's like something "Sligo" would've said

....he just did....

He has way too much time on his hands

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

I think mmc rapped it up well there in that the ops question was asked is it socially acceptable,what wasn't accepted 20 years ago is changing as people's perceptions change

Meeting for nsa sex age doesn't bother me more the maturity of the person I am meeting is what I am interested in as was said there are some that's on these sites

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even socially acceptable can varu wildly between social standings.

For me it had never been a real issue.

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By *urious2013cCouple
over a year ago

Co Cork

I'm 15 years older than mr curious we get on great if anyone else has a problem with it they can just jog on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Normally older for me, or same age. From my experience, people under 25 are still pretty immature so generally try to avoid that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id love to meet an older grilf!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm 11 years older then my partner , never been an issue for us and no ones ever passed any comment.

But I Have to say in general the guys in their 20's here can send really stupid messages . Just today I've gotten .

You look great for your age .

Wow I can't believe you are 42 you look 20 and the award for dummeist message today went to the guy who told me I should be proud of the fact that my arse hasn't fallen yet .

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"I'm 11 years older then my partner , never been an issue for us and no ones ever passed any comment.

But I Have to say in general the guys in their 20's here can send really stupid messages . Just today I've gotten .

You look great for your age .

Wow I can't believe you are 42 you look 20 and the award for dummeist message today went to the guy who told me I should be proud of the fact that my arse hasn't fallen yet .

All accurate statements though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm 11 years older then my partner , never been an issue for us and no ones ever passed any comment.

But I Have to say in general the guys in their 20's here can send really stupid messages . Just today I've gotten .

You look great for your age .

Wow I can't believe you are 42 you look 20 and the award for dummeist message today went to the guy who told me I should be proud of the fact that my arse hasn't fallen yet .

All accurate statements though!

I wish I looked 20 !

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"I'm 11 years older then my partner , never been an issue for us and no ones ever passed any comment.

But I Have to say in general the guys in their 20's here can send really stupid messages . Just today I've gotten .

You look great for your age .

Wow I can't believe you are 42 you look 20 and the award for dummeist message today went to the guy who told me I should be proud of the fact that my arse hasn't fallen yet .

All accurate statements though!

I wish I looked 20 ! "

To be fair, you look as good as any twenty year old I've seen dressed like that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm 11 years older then my partner , never been an issue for us and no ones ever passed any comment.

But I Have to say in general the guys in their 20's here can send really stupid messages . Just today I've gotten .

You look great for your age .

Wow I can't believe you are 42 you look 20 and the award for dummeist message today went to the guy who told me I should be proud of the fact that my arse hasn't fallen yet .

All accurate statements though!

I wish I looked 20 !

To be fair, you look as good as any twenty year old I've seen dressed like that!

Awh Micheal you charmer

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By *llie and ApplesCouple
over a year ago

where ever

Can't believe Apples put my real age on our profile....

that's why I keep getting those you're a "Lucky Fecker" messages...

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"I'm 11 years older then my partner , never been an issue for us and no ones ever passed any comment.

But I Have to say in general the guys in their 20's here can send really stupid messages . Just today I've gotten .

You look great for your age .

Wow I can't believe you are 42 you look 20 and the award for dummeist message today went to the guy who told me I should be proud of the fact that my arse hasn't fallen yet .

All accurate statements though!

I wish I looked 20 !

To be fair, you look as good as any twenty year old I've seen dressed like that!

Awh Micheal you charmer

You look great for any age though. Right, enough of that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm 11 years older then my partner , never been an issue for us and no ones ever passed any comment.

But I Have to say in general the guys in their 20's here can send really stupid messages . Just today I've gotten .

You look great for your age .

Wow I can't believe you are 42 you look 20 and the award for dummeist message today went to the guy who told me I should be proud of the fact that my arse hasn't fallen yet .

That's just their penis talking.

But yeah you look brilliant. Your ass can fall on me anyday!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm 11 years older then my partner , never been an issue for us and no ones ever passed any comment.

But I Have to say in general the guys in their 20's here can send really stupid messages . Just today I've gotten .

You look great for your age .

Wow I can't believe you are 42 you look 20 and the award for dummeist message today went to the guy who told me I should be proud of the fact that my arse hasn't fallen yet .

All accurate statements though!

I wish I looked 20 !

To be fair, you look as good as any twenty year old I've seen dressed like that!

Their is not to many 20 year olds look as good

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By *oughandCurvyCouple
over a year ago

galway

Age is just a number and lets face it if you're here you cant be too bothered about social norms.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But if anyone's noticed most women on the site only prefer 30 and up.. so it's very hard for younger members to even strike up a conversation. Because they can't even send a wink lol age is just a number of you are both attracted to each other then Wats the harm.. we're all here to have fun.. that's the main thing

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

Too close to my sons age then the answer is definitely no. Just doesn't sit right with me whether it is NSA fun or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah of course if you don't feel comfortable that's fair enough.. But that's what I'm saying it's good that you can set an age limit so your not pestered

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By *ickirishallsortsMan
over a year ago

Lickie Manor

"I seem to have developed a thing for a guy I train with.. He's only 23.. I'm 45..

I'm trying to resist but it's very hard.

Hey Sr, Fr. Lick here, same thing happened me.

I seem to have developed a thing for a girl I work with, she's only 21...

I too am trying to resist, and yes, it's also very hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age is but a number...

But im just too old to remember

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If age is just a number, why do so many here lie about theirs?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If age is just a number, why do so many here lie about theirs?"

Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love older guys...

My first experience was at 18 with a hot 36 year old....

I generally find older guys more attractive...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sure we all know that youth is wasted on the young ..... Rule of thumb is kinda no younger than your kids though.

Fact is ageism is a perogative feckless all can be done about it .

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By *Belfast_FellaMan
over a year ago

belfast

As long as both people are content and there's no element of exploitation, what's the problem?

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