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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

just wondering what i'am doing wrong on here, ive been on a few months now with very little to no contact from anyone yet, i'am open to hear from anyone and for them to view my profile and to get advice. I have always been 100% honest in my profile,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you're doing nothing wrong fella..this place is a sausage fest like most sites like this..women are inundated with mail and have plenty of offers which narrows down your chances even more..I had 1 meet from this site so it is possible but if you're looking for action get yourself onto pof

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By *safunwituMan
over a year ago

Enniscorthy

Takes time to get the first meet unfortunately, but when you do get verified as meeting.

Think it took me close to 2 years from the first site i was on and at that the couple were very helpful in giving me so good advice.

Just make sure to be yourself and treat people with the respect they deserve.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"just wondering what i'am doing wrong on here, ive been on a few months now with very little to no contact from anyone yet, i'am open to hear from anyone and for them to view my profile and to get advice. I have always been 100% honest in my profile, "
... theres nothing wrong with your profile that i can see , its just a case of your in a majority and getting lost in the crowd .. unless you search for what you want its not going to come looking you.. unfortunately x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As was said, you're not doing anything wrong it just takes time to get verified and that will put you in the shop window a bit more. This place takes patience, it's a buyers market . Try get to a meet and greet if you can. They're hard work for single guys but if you can get chatting to people and don't make a dick of yourself. You will get verified there. Other than that keep chatting here, a lot more people watch than post and they will notice you that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good profile

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin


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you're doing nothing wrong fella..this place is a sausage fest like most sites like this..women are inundated with mail and have plenty of offers which narrows down your chances even more..I had 1 meet from this site so it is possible but if you're looking for action get yourself onto pof "

You say get onto pof a lot, but how do you approach the subject of NSA fun with people there? When I was on it most were looking to date and have relationships instead.

How do you use pof for hooking up?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

you're doing nothing wrong fella..this place is a sausage fest like most sites like this..women are inundated with mail and have plenty of offers which narrows down your chances even more..I had 1 meet from this site so it is possible but if you're looking for action get yourself onto pof

You say get onto pof a lot, but how do you approach the subject of NSA fun with people there? When I was on it most were looking to date and have relationships instead.

How do you use pof for hooking up?"

By lying!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

you're doing nothing wrong fella..this place is a sausage fest like most sites like this..women are inundated with mail and have plenty of offers which narrows down your chances even more..I had 1 meet from this site so it is possible but if you're looking for action get yourself onto pof

You say get onto pof a lot, but how do you approach the subject of NSA fun with people there? When I was on it most were looking to date and have relationships instead.

How do you use pof for hooking up?"

quite simple exchange numbers get chatting..most times the chat turns dirty as there is only so much you can talk about with a stranger then you meet them and rest is history

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks

It is difficult to get more than 2 meets a week!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pof is a dating site, like all dating, some will end up in just sex but its not aimed at that, certainly as far as the majority of women on it are concerned.

If youre desperate, meet a girl on pof on the pretense of a normal date. You never know, you might get lucky. Better than staying in and wanking either way

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"

you're doing nothing wrong fella..this place is a sausage fest like most sites like this..women are inundated with mail and have plenty of offers which narrows down your chances even more..I had 1 meet from this site so it is possible but if you're looking for action get yourself onto pof

You say get onto pof a lot, but how do you approach the subject of NSA fun with people there? When I was on it most were looking to date and have relationships instead.

How do you use pof for hooking up?

quite simple exchange numbers get chatting..most times the chat turns dirty as there is only so much you can talk about with a stranger then you meet them and rest is history "

I'd have thought that turning a chat dirty so early would be a one way ticket to blocksville.

But maybe I'm too polite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

you're doing nothing wrong fella..this place is a sausage fest like most sites like this..women are inundated with mail and have plenty of offers which narrows down your chances even more..I had 1 meet from this site so it is possible but if you're looking for action get yourself onto pof

You say get onto pof a lot, but how do you approach the subject of NSA fun with people there? When I was on it most were looking to date and have relationships instead.

How do you use pof for hooking up?

quite simple exchange numbers get chatting..most times the chat turns dirty as there is only so much you can talk about with a stranger then you meet them and rest is history

I'd have thought that turning a chat dirty so early would be a one way ticket to blocksville.

But maybe I'm too polite. "

sometimes it does but sometimes its the woman who wants it to turn dirty..like the last lady i was chatting too told me she was getting out of the shower lol..only 1 way that was going..she sent a nude and i sent 1 back..simple as that

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By *ain4uWoman
over a year ago

dublin


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you're doing nothing wrong fella..this place is a sausage fest like most sites like this..women are inundated with mail and have plenty of offers which narrows down your chances even more..I had 1 meet from this site so it is possible but if you're looking for action get yourself onto pof

You say get onto pof a lot, but how do you approach the subject of NSA fun with people there? When I was on it most were looking to date and have relationships instead.

How do you use pof for hooking up?

By lying! "

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"

you're doing nothing wrong fella..this place is a sausage fest like most sites like this..women are inundated with mail and have plenty of offers which narrows down your chances even more..I had 1 meet from this site so it is possible but if you're looking for action get yourself onto pof

You say get onto pof a lot, but how do you approach the subject of NSA fun with people there? When I was on it most were looking to date and have relationships instead.

How do you use pof for hooking up?

By lying! "

Ahhhhhhh....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

you're doing nothing wrong fella..this place is a sausage fest like most sites like this..women are inundated with mail and have plenty of offers which narrows down your chances even more..I had 1 meet from this site so it is possible but if you're looking for action get yourself onto pof

You say get onto pof a lot, but how do you approach the subject of NSA fun with people there? When I was on it most were looking to date and have relationships instead.

How do you use pof for hooking up?

By lying!

"

Well that's essentially what it is, pretending you want a relationship till you get sex. In my book that's lying. You should be straight up with people and not lead them on.

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By *safunwituMan
over a year ago

Enniscorthy


"

you're doing nothing wrong fella..this place is a sausage fest like most sites like this..women are inundated with mail and have plenty of offers which narrows down your chances even more..I had 1 meet from this site so it is possible but if you're looking for action get yourself onto pof

You say get onto pof a lot, but how do you approach the subject of NSA fun with people there? When I was on it most were looking to date and have relationships instead.

How do you use pof for hooking up?

quite simple exchange numbers get chatting..most times the chat turns dirty as there is only so much you can talk about with a stranger then you meet them and rest is history

I'd have thought that turning a chat dirty so early would be a one way ticket to blocksville.

But maybe I'm too polite.

sometimes it does but sometimes its the woman who wants it to turn dirty..like the last lady i was chatting too told me she was getting out of the shower lol..only 1 way that was going..she sent a nude and i sent 1 back..simple as that"

Must give there a try, see what its like...

But honestly only looking for nsa fun and not interested in dating at the moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

you're doing nothing wrong fella..this place is a sausage fest like most sites like this..women are inundated with mail and have plenty of offers which narrows down your chances even more..I had 1 meet from this site so it is possible but if you're looking for action get yourself onto pof

You say get onto pof a lot, but how do you approach the subject of NSA fun with people there? When I was on it most were looking to date and have relationships instead.

How do you use pof for hooking up?

By lying!

Well that's essentially what it is, pretending you want a relationship till you get sex. In my book that's lying. You should be straight up with people and not lead them on. "

I don't agree I go in with good intentions..I'd like a relationship but for whatever reason it just ends up as sex nothing more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

you're doing nothing wrong fella..this place is a sausage fest like most sites like this..women are inundated with mail and have plenty of offers which narrows down your chances even more..I had 1 meet from this site so it is possible but if you're looking for action get yourself onto pof

You say get onto pof a lot, but how do you approach the subject of NSA fun with people there? When I was on it most were looking to date and have relationships instead.

How do you use pof for hooking up?

By lying!

Well that's essentially what it is, pretending you want a relationship till you get sex. In my book that's lying. You should be straight up with people and not lead them on. "

But then you probably wouldnt get the sex part

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

you're doing nothing wrong fella..this place is a sausage fest like most sites like this..women are inundated with mail and have plenty of offers which narrows down your chances even more..I had 1 meet from this site so it is possible but if you're looking for action get yourself onto pof

You say get onto pof a lot, but how do you approach the subject of NSA fun with people there? When I was on it most were looking to date and have relationships instead.

How do you use pof for hooking up?

By lying!

Well that's essentially what it is, pretending you want a relationship till you get sex. In my book that's lying. You should be straight up with people and not lead them on.

I don't agree I go in with good intentions..I'd like a relationship but for whatever reason it just ends up as sex nothing more "

Then that's not using POF for "hooking up" is it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

you're doing nothing wrong fella..this place is a sausage fest like most sites like this..women are inundated with mail and have plenty of offers which narrows down your chances even more..I had 1 meet from this site so it is possible but if you're looking for action get yourself onto pof

You say get onto pof a lot, but how do you approach the subject of NSA fun with people there? When I was on it most were looking to date and have relationships instead.

How do you use pof for hooking up?

By lying!

Well that's essentially what it is, pretending you want a relationship till you get sex. In my book that's lying. You should be straight up with people and not lead them on.

I don't agree I go in with good intentions..I'd like a relationship but for whatever reason it just ends up as sex nothing more

Then that's not using POF for "hooking up" is it. "

no you're right its not but the end result is sex so really all it is is hooking up..a woman is more likely to have sex if she thinks you care about her then when shes had enough she'll leave and think you're devastated at the loss..suppose it works both ways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's plenty of women on POF and tinder looking for NSA. I would be of the opinion it's not fair to mess with the other ones. To each their own though. We all have different rules we play by

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You couldn't pay for these insights ladies, take heed!

We've been rumbled.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Good profile "

thank you!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

cheers for all the advice folks! its very much appreciated!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well this was an enlightening thread

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By *ain4uWoman
over a year ago

dublin


"

you're doing nothing wrong fella..this place is a sausage fest like most sites like this..women are inundated with mail and have plenty of offers which narrows down your chances even more..I had 1 meet from this site so it is possible but if you're looking for action get yourself onto pof

You say get onto pof a lot, but how do you approach the subject of NSA fun with people there? When I was on it most were looking to date and have relationships instead.

How do you use pof for hooking up?

By lying!

Well that's essentially what it is, pretending you want a relationship till you get sex. In my book that's lying. You should be straight up with people and not lead them on.

I don't agree I go in with good intentions..I'd like a relationship but for whatever reason it just ends up as sex nothing more

Then that's not using POF for "hooking up" is it.

no you're right its not but the end result is sex so really all it is is hooking up..a woman is more likely to have sex if she thinks you care about her then when shes had enough she'll leave and think you're devastated at the loss..suppose it works both ways"

Jesus

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By *ain4uWoman
over a year ago

dublin


"Well this was an enlightening thread "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well this was an enlightening thread "

I thought there was an option on POF to say you were looking for a casual encounter or am I thinking of a different site?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well this was an enlightening thread

I thought there was an option on POF to say you were looking for a casual encounter or am I thinking of a different site?"
...you are right... there's that option and " a date but nothing serious" .....Lots of fabbers in both sections

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I probably come across as a terrible bastard altogether

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well this was an enlightening thread

I thought there was an option on POF to say you were looking for a casual encounter or am I thinking of a different site?

...you are right... there's that option and " a date but nothing serious" .....Lots of fabbers in both sections"

Haha I'd say so!

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By *ain4uWoman
over a year ago

dublin


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I probably come across as a terrible bastard altogether "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There used to be an option for intimate encounter, which was basically NSA but they removed it a few years ago. Didn't want to be giving the wrong impression.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well this was an enlightening thread

I thought there was an option on POF to say you were looking for a casual encounter or am I thinking of a different site?"

As far as I know pof used to be for hook ups and then it changed to dating.. but people still use it for hook ups could be wrong tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well this was an enlightening thread

I thought there was an option on POF to say you were looking for a casual encounter or am I thinking of a different site?

As far as I know pof used to be for hook ups and then it changed to dating.. but people still use it for hook ups could be wrong tho "

I haven't been on in years so I'm not sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well this was an enlightening thread

I thought there was an option on POF to say you were looking for a casual encounter or am I thinking of a different site?

As far as I know pof used to be for hook ups and then it changed to dating.. but people still use it for hook ups could be wrong tho

I haven't been on in years so I'm not sure "

I'm not allowed on it cause I'm married their loss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

you're doing nothing wrong fella..this place is a sausage fest like most sites like this..women are inundated with mail and have plenty of offers which narrows down your chances even more..I had 1 meet from this site so it is possible but if you're looking for action get yourself onto pof

You say get onto pof a lot, but how do you approach the subject of NSA fun with people there? When I was on it most were looking to date and have relationships instead.

How do you use pof for hooking up?

By lying!

Well that's essentially what it is, pretending you want a relationship till you get sex. In my book that's lying. You should be straight up with people and not lead them on.

I don't agree I go in with good intentions..I'd like a relationship but for whatever reason it just ends up as sex nothing more

Then that's not using POF for "hooking up" is it.

no you're right its not but the end result is sex so really all it is is hooking up..a woman is more likely to have sex if she thinks you care about her then when shes had enough she'll leave and think you're devastated at the loss..suppose it works both ways

Jesus"

Sometimes you've gotta wonder what way some people's minds work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

you're doing nothing wrong fella..this place is a sausage fest like most sites like this..women are inundated with mail and have plenty of offers which narrows down your chances even more..I had 1 meet from this site so it is possible but if you're looking for action get yourself onto pof

You say get onto pof a lot, but how do you approach the subject of NSA fun with people there? When I was on it most were looking to date and have relationships instead.

How do you use pof for hooking up?

By lying!

Well that's essentially what it is, pretending you want a relationship till you get sex. In my book that's lying. You should be straight up with people and not lead them on.

I don't agree I go in with good intentions..I'd like a relationship but for whatever reason it just ends up as sex nothing more

Then that's not using POF for "hooking up" is it.

no you're right its not but the end result is sex so really all it is is hooking up..a woman is more likely to have sex if she thinks you care about her then when shes had enough she'll leave and think you're devastated at the loss..suppose it works both ways

Jesus

Sometimes you've gotta wonder what way some people's minds work "

Men don't have minds they have needs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

you're doing nothing wrong fella..this place is a sausage fest like most sites like this..women are inundated with mail and have plenty of offers which narrows down your chances even more..I had 1 meet from this site so it is possible but if you're looking for action get yourself onto pof

You say get onto pof a lot, but how do you approach the subject of NSA fun with people there? When I was on it most were looking to date and have relationships instead.

How do you use pof for hooking up?

By lying!

Well that's essentially what it is, pretending you want a relationship till you get sex. In my book that's lying. You should be straight up with people and not lead them on.

I don't agree I go in with good intentions..I'd like a relationship but for whatever reason it just ends up as sex nothing more

Then that's not using POF for "hooking up" is it.

no you're right its not but the end result is sex so really all it is is hooking up..a woman is more likely to have sex if she thinks you care about her then when shes had enough she'll leave and think you're devastated at the loss..suppose it works both ways

Jesus

Sometimes you've gotta wonder what way some people's minds work

Men don't have minds they have needs "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And this is why I stick to Fab meets over POF ones. At least people are more or less honest on here about what they want. I do get just as much hookup mails on POF as i do here though. Maybe I just have that "look" lol

Anyways op great profile

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By *hocoholicWoman
over a year ago

The big D

I was in POF before I knew of Fab & I was only looking for NSA. Yes there is a 'casual' or 'dating but nothing serious' buttons which I used. There was plenty of guys lying by 'wanting a relationship' but really looking for just sex but there was def just as much honest guys stating, like me, just after NSA.

I would chat to guys, try figure out what they wanted to see if it matched my needs & yeah I got some hookups, really good ones too. In fact 1guy told me about Fab & here I am so Yeayyy POF worked for me.

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