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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No names mentioned but how do people feel about messages instantly deleted? I like a bit of chat and messages so it doesn't cause upset but how do others feel?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they don't wish to chat, why go through the motions?

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By *ilbearniMan
over a year ago

peninsula


"No names mentioned but how do people feel about messages instantly deleted? I like a bit of chat and messages so it doesn't cause upset but how do others feel?"

Not nice when you have sent message to see it deleted straight away, and not even a glance at your profile.

Their prerogative I suppose, and probably inundated with messages if single female.

But if they have instantly deleted, then they are not for you, that's what the block button is for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No names mentioned but how do people feel about messages instantly deleted? I like a bit of chat and messages so it doesn't cause upset but how do others feel?

Not nice when you have sent message to see it deleted straight away, and not even a glance at your profile.

Their prerogative I suppose, and probably inundated with messages if single female.

But if they have instantly deleted, then they are not for you, that's what the block button is for. "

Many use filters to hide who they look at, so you have no idea whether or not they have checked out your profile. If they have, and don't think you are a good match, then replying is a waste of everyone's time. There are some who respond to rejection by becoming abusive.

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By *rutus83Man
over a year ago

naas


"No names mentioned but how do people feel about messages instantly deleted? I like a bit of chat and messages so it doesn't cause upset but how do others feel?

Not nice when you have sent message to see it deleted straight away, and not even a glance at your profile.

Their prerogative I suppose, and probably inundated with messages if single female.

But if they have instantly deleted, then they are not for you, that's what the block button is for.

Many use filters to hide who they look at, so you have no idea whether or not they have checked out your profile. If they have, and don't think you are a good match, then replying is a waste of everyone's time. There are some who respond to rejection by becoming abusive."

Was about to say the same thing

They can hide themselves from coming up on who viewed you so they can check you out without you known and if they don't like what they see why not delete saves both party's time to find people they can have fun with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well do you reply to junk mail? The thing to remember is that if you send unsolicited mail it's best to not expect a reply and get all butt hurt just because someone who didn't ask to be contacted by ya had chosen to just ignore the communication .

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By *ereus3Couple
over a year ago

Dundalk


"No names mentioned but how do people feel about messages instantly deleted? I like a bit of chat and messages so it doesn't cause upset but how do others feel?"
if you saw the crap messages we get from people who clearly haven't read the profile we delete and block

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By *ilbearniMan
over a year ago

peninsula


"Well do you reply to junk mail? The thing to remember is that if you send unsolicited mail it's best to not expect a reply and get all butt hurt just because someone who didn't ask to be contacted by ya had chosen to just ignore the communication . "

Surely.by having a profile on here you are inviting others to respond, hopefully. In a respectful manner.

Like I said above, their prerogative to pass on it. Would be nice.to have a polite no thank you, but also understand That they might not be able to reply to all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well do you reply to junk mail? The thing to remember is that if you send unsolicited mail it's best to not expect a reply and get all butt hurt just because someone who didn't ask to be contacted by ya had chosen to just ignore the communication .

Surely.by having a profile on here you are inviting others to respond, hopefully. In a respectful manner.

Like I said above, their prerogative to pass on it. Would be nice.to have a polite no thank you, but also understand That they might not be able to reply to all. "

If you read the site guidelines, they clearly state that "no reply" means "not interested".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A reply, even if it's a rejection, is often used as as an opening to try again (and again).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A reply, even if it's a rejection, is often used as as an opening to try again (and again). "

And even if you don't reply sometimes they still message again giving out you deleted it..

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By *ilbearniMan
over a year ago

peninsula


"Well do you reply to junk mail? The thing to remember is that if you send unsolicited mail it's best to not expect a reply and get all butt hurt just because someone who didn't ask to be contacted by ya had chosen to just ignore the communication .

Surely.by having a profile on here you are inviting others to respond, hopefully. In a respectful manner.

Like I said above, their prerogative to pass on it. Would be nice.to have a polite no thank you, but also understand That they might not be able to reply to all.

If you read the site guidelines, they clearly state that "no reply" means "not interested". "

yes , and move on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well do you reply to junk mail? The thing to remember is that if you send unsolicited mail it's best to not expect a reply and get all butt hurt just because someone who didn't ask to be contacted by ya had chosen to just ignore the communication .

Surely.by having a profile on here you are inviting others to respond, hopefully. In a respectful manner.

Like I said above, their prerogative to pass on it. Would be nice.to have a polite no thank you, but also understand That they might not be able to reply to all.

If you read the site guidelines, they clearly state that "no reply" means "not interested".

yes , and move on! "

Exactly, no need to get all butthurt over it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A reply, even if it's a rejection, is often used as as an opening to try again (and again).

And even if you don't reply sometimes they still message again giving out you deleted it.. "

Or "well you met him, why won't you meet me"

Jesus wept

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By *ilbearniMan
over a year ago

peninsula


"A reply, even if it's a rejection, is often used as as an opening to try again (and again). "

I know.it happens here, but honestly why would you waste your time.

Personally, I reply to all messages, but then as a single biggest male I probably am.not receiving the numbers others are getting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The more polite you are at times, the louder you can hear the voice voice in the message senders head "so your saying there's a chance!!"

We still try to be polite (unless we forget to reply which is rude)

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By *ysteryman2009Man
over a year ago

Ireland

Guys get a grip on your-self's.Its the choice of the recipient to delete or not to delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No reply .no reply read delete .no reply deleted unread . all say the same thing

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By *ilbearniMan
over a year ago

peninsula


"A reply, even if it's a rejection, is often used as as an opening to try again (and again).

I know.it happens here, but honestly why would you waste your time.

Personally, I reply to all messages, but then as a single biggest male I probably am.not receiving the numbers others are getting. "

DamnDamn auto correct

Bi Male, not biggest male.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A reply, even if it's a rejection, is often used as as an opening to try again (and again).

And even if you don't reply sometimes they still message again giving out you deleted it..

Or "well you met him, why won't you meet me"

Jesus wept

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And if you do reply some think it's a guaranteed fuck. You really can't win

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It's like the poster on the shop wall, 'do not ask for credit as a slap in the face often offends'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cannot fathom why people bother sending abusive emails. Such a waste of time!

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By *Belfast_FellaMan
over a year ago

belfast

Can be a little disappointing, hurtful even, if you compose a careful and polite message and don't get a reply. But, as has been said, nobody is obliged to like you or your message or even reply to it. They didn't ask for you to send it. This is not the site to have a thin skin on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like to be rude and not reply or delete messages. So instead I have filters on to avoid this scenario.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whether I get 50 mails or 5, if the sender does not meet my criteria I delete. If their message is disrespectful I delete.

Simples

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By *ka ..Agent k ..Man
over a year ago

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"A reply, even if it's a rejection, is often used as as an opening to try again (and again). "

Well Said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can be a little disappointing, hurtful even, if you compose a careful and polite message and don't get a reply. But, as has been said, nobody is obliged to like you or your message or even reply to it. They didn't ask for you to send it. This is not the site to have a thin skin on."

I have been on both sides. At the start of the couple's account I was trying to connect with people. I was sending messages and at times at times the message was deleted, especially if it was a longish message. It changed as we became more known, here on the forum and on cam. Then the messages started. And sometimes they were pushy and sometimes abusive and sometimes they were nice messages and sometimes they are from cool guys who we still chat to. It's not all bad.

But

At times the volume just gets too much and I totally understand why people just delete without reading

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By *tanonieMan
over a year ago

killorglin


"No names mentioned but how do people feel about messages instantly deleted? I like a bit of chat and messages so it doesn't cause upset but how do others feel?

Not nice when you have sent message to see it deleted straight away, and not even a glance at your profile.

Their prerogative I suppose, and probably inundated with messages if single female.

But if they have instantly deleted, then they are not for you, that's what the block button is for. "

Too true

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By *irtypair00Couple
over a year ago

Dublin


"A reply, even if it's a rejection, is often used as as an opening to try again (and again).

And even if you don't reply sometimes they still message again giving out you deleted it.. "

We can't even get to send you a message cos of filters lol couples are blocked

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

jesus its simple why dint women just do what they are supposed to do on swinging sites and just ride anyone that messages them

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By *igerclawsCouple
over a year ago

cork

Hi all we have been on fab for awhile now and have always replied to people who take the time to mail us ,we feel it's the polite thing to do .In reading this thread it seems a lot of people presume what a person is thinking when they are sending mail rather than take a compliment for the interest they have shown in you or ye .In certain cases maybe people should look at it from the other side of this, if it was to happen to you every time how would you or ye feel. So our point would be it costs nothing to be courteous polite with a reply even if it's no thanks, shows character and if no is not taken then block just our view happy fabbing .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A "howya" text was deleted???!!!!

Du-du-Durrrr!

The nerve of some people... *SMH

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to delete messages from people who have/had fake pics on their profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just got this...

"Fussy and a big girl big profile with a list of everything you hate.

Bet you're super popular!!"

Not exactly a opening chat so yes I instantly deleted it...

What a wanker"

She's hardly fussy. She's not looking for guys with 19 inch penises, long grey hair and chiseled abs, who speak 7 languages fluently and play professional sports in Japan. That's fussy. She just wants open minded people who play safe

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

I rarely delete messages, too much work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooh are we allowed to discuss private messages now?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ooh are we allowed to discuss private messages now? "
as long as we don't name people I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ooh are we allowed to discuss private messages now? as long as we don't name people I guess"

Apparently that's still not allowed

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By *safunwituMan
over a year ago

Enniscorthy


"No names mentioned but how do people feel about messages instantly deleted? I like a bit of chat and messages so it doesn't cause upset but how do others feel?"

Wouldnt get hung up about it, i am sure there are others who will chat to you.

Never take it personally myself, if some one aint interested in ye, thats their preference.

I always hope that i get chatting to others soon after...

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By *antric hedonismMan
over a year ago

larne

It happens to me now and again. If I see my mail instantly deleted I nail back wishing them good luck then block them so saving any further contact or more importantly wasting my time and effort in writing a polite first introduction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No names mentioned but how do people feel about messages instantly deleted? I like a bit of chat and messages so it doesn't cause upset but how do others feel?"
if I instantly delete it's because they haven't read my profile, I feel no guilt whatsoever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It happens to me now and again. If I see my mail instantly deleted I nail back wishing them good luck then block them so saving any further contact or more importantly wasting my time and effort in writing a polite first introduction "
..so even though they delete you're mail without reading or answering. ..you send another one? ....ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It happens to me now and again. If I see my mail instantly deleted I nail back wishing them good luck then block them so saving any further contact or more importantly wasting my time and effort in writing a polite first introduction "

Seems rather puerile to me, but whatever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It happens to me now and again. If I see my mail instantly deleted I nail back wishing them good luck then block them so saving any further contact or more importantly wasting my time and effort in writing a polite first introduction

Seems rather puerile to me, but whatever"

some like you to know just how much they've been disaffected by the whole traumatic experience...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to be honest it doesn't worry me. If someone deletes straight away I am obviously not for them and they are probably not for me either.

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