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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So question for you all .... Real lives are busy etc and working fab in around that can be hard at times . So do you make it clear in first few messages how long it will be before you can meet ?? and if you have a few people you want to meet , would you let them know eg : I've 2 men I've been planning to meet so I'll meet you after , I prefer honesty but lately I can do no right ...

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

Life is life if u can't meet for a few weeks u can't meet none of their buisness why and if a veri goes up in the mean time so what

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Much prefer honesty myself..however..in my years on fab I have found a recurrent theme..if..like me your easy going and not pushy, you will find contacts are quite likely to take advantage of that and meet other guys thinking that they can come back to you..I had two single ladies actually admit to this policy lately...

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.guess ppl will say suck it up..its a numbers game..

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By *ean0001Man
over a year ago

Dublin West

I dont get much time to meet people as real life keeps me very occupied most of the time but where there is a will there is always a way.

If the spark is there between all the parties then it will happen, but if its not ment to be it's just not ment to happen.

I dont mind having to wait to meet someone if they have sparked my curiosity, but i meet lots and nothing more has ever happened, but thats just the way it is.

But i think its better for people to be upfront about the situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So question for you all .... Real lives are busy etc and working fab in around that can be hard at times . So do you make it clear in first few messages how long it will be before you can meet ?? and if you have a few people you want to meet , would you let them know eg : I've 2 men I've been planning to meet so I'll meet you after , I prefer honesty but lately I can do no right ... "
I'm with you I prefer the truth and would work around both schedules your life out of fab is more important than anything else

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

Real life has to come before 'fab"

Some people seem to think that we can drop things and go running.

Unfortunately if they can't understand that and situations regarding meets don't happen overnight then they not worth meeting. People should understand how hard it can be to meet and if prepared too wait they will.....

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks


"Real life has to come before 'fab"

Some people seem to think that we can drop things and go running.

Unfortunately if they can't understand that and situations regarding meets don't happen overnight then they not worth meeting. People should understand how hard it can be to meet and if prepared too wait they will..... "

.

Even trying to meet friends for a drink or a beer can take some arranging as they aren't free some nights, I'm not free some nights.

People can't drop things and meet for a meal/beer so arranging a FAB meet with strangers can be even trickier!

That's life!!

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare

I make it very clear in my first message when I can meet

"Meet now"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Much prefer honesty myself..however..in my years on fab I have found a recurrent theme..if..like me your easy going and not pushy, you will find contacts are quite likely to take advantage of that and meet other guys thinking that they can come back to you..I had two single ladies actually admit to this policy lately...

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.guess ppl will say suck it up..its a numbers game.."
.....we don't see the problem with telling people we have other meets lined up, and we will sort something out with them after that.

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks

Even trying to meet for a Lilt takes organizing!

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

I don't have a fuck list with a ranking order so that I could say you're the third on the list and I'll meet you in three month.... ....

It's of no one business if you ask me and I think it has nothing to do with honesty rather than it's simply impossible to put a timeline on a possible meet. Also it would be read as a promise and puts pressure on.

It will take the time it needs to meet and who doesn't understand that should go a field further

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Openness and clarity makes fab easier for me, some don't handle it that well but I go at my own pace... I am here to make great connections not fast one's. Verifications going up in between meets is your own business as this is NSA...a meet is a meet...not a lease of ownership

Stand firm in your beliefs op...you are here for your enjoyment and only you can ensure that by sticking to what you know is right for you.

Do stay in touch though as people loose interest and to be honest I personally find it a little insulting that someone thinks that they can pick it up closer to the meet with little or no contact in the interim. If interested put in the effort...both parties

Best of luck to you...happy fabbing your way

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I make it very clear in my first message when I can meet

"Meet now" "

Lol are you in the area

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Openness and clarity makes fab easier for me, some don't handle it that well but I go at my own pace... I am here to make great connections not fast one's. Verifications going up in between meets is your own business as this is NSA...a meet is a meet...not a lease of ownership

Stand firm in your beliefs op...you are here for your enjoyment and only you can ensure that by sticking to what you know is right for you.

Do stay in touch though as people loose interest and to be honest I personally find it a little insulting that someone thinks that they can pick it up closer to the meet with little or no contact in the interim. If interested put in the effort...both parties

Best of luck to you...happy fabbing your way

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I'll give ya buzz soon lolol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't see any need to justify our timescale, or see why it might be our business if someone is arranging other meets or has other commitments outside fab.

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks

Even if one looks at Social Meets, someone announces about arranging one and most of the replies are "Depends on date.."

If one was announced for 30th July all one gets is posts "We're busy that night"!

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By *oxyvixen99Woman
over a year ago

Newtownabbey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1 work 50-60 hours most weeks and have kids. My time to meet is limited. I might chat to people on and off for weeks, even months before the opportunity arises that suits both. It's a bit mad to think on a swinging site, people get jealous or possessive over people their talking to. If someone has a meet while I'm chatting to them, but can't meet them. Fair play to them, their doing what they're supposed to be doing. What's meant for you won't pass you by.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Openness and clarity makes fab easier for me, some don't handle it that well but I go at my own pace... I am here to make great connections not fast one's. Verifications going up in between meets is your own business as this is NSA...a meet is a meet...not a lease of ownership

Stand firm in your beliefs op...you are here for your enjoyment and only you can ensure that by sticking to what you know is right for you.

Do stay in touch though as people loose interest and to be honest I personally find it a little insulting that someone thinks that they can pick it up closer to the meet with little or no contact in the interim. If interested put in the effort...both parties

Best of luck to you...happy fabbing your way

I'll give ya buzz soon lolol "

Red card for you cheeky...you are on the naughty bench...

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"Openness and clarity makes fab easier for me, some don't handle it that well but I go at my own pace... I am here to make great connections not fast one's. Verifications going up in between meets is your own business as this is NSA...a meet is a meet...not a lease of ownership

Stand firm in your beliefs op...you are here for your enjoyment and only you can ensure that by sticking to what you know is right for you.

Do stay in touch though as people loose interest and to be honest I personally find it a little insulting that someone thinks that they can pick it up closer to the meet with little or no contact in the interim. If interested put in the effort...both parties

Best of luck to you...happy fabbing your way

I'll give ya buzz soon lolol

Red card for you cheeky...you are on the naughty bench... "

Ohh there's a bench how do I get on that

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"Openness and clarity makes fab easier for me, some don't handle it that well but I go at my own pace... I am here to make great connections not fast one's. Verifications going up in between meets is your own business as this is NSA...a meet is a meet...not a lease of ownership

Stand firm in your beliefs op...you are here for your enjoyment and only you can ensure that by sticking to what you know is right for you.

Do stay in touch though as people loose interest and to be honest I personally find it a little insulting that someone thinks that they can pick it up closer to the meet with little or no contact in the interim. If interested put in the effort...both parties

Best of luck to you...happy fabbing your way

I'll give ya buzz soon lolol

Red card for you cheeky...you are on the naughty bench...

Ohh there's a bench how do I get on that "

feeling a bit weak today that you have to sit down?

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By *ig cock 1000Man
over a year ago

dundalk

Why do people not text back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So question for you all .... Real lives are busy etc and working fab in around that can be hard at times . So do you make it clear in first few messages how long it will be before you can meet ?? and if you have a few people you want to meet , would you let them know eg : I've 2 men I've been planning to meet so I'll meet you after , I prefer honesty but lately I can do no right ... "

I make it clear in my profile what my real world situation is. I've chatted to some fantastic people in the last six months but for one reason or another our times never seem to sync. Most have been couples who inevitably have busy work lives and family just like myself which must and will always come first. I think if you really want someone then they will be worth the wait, cutting someone off permanently because of timing issue they might not have any choice in will limit your options unecessarily so. If you think they are fobbing you off then cut contact otherwise Stay in touch and on good terms, good thing come to those who wait.

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin

I'm still hoping to meet (as in more than socially) some people i've been chatting for months, or even years, but thats due to me working abroad more than anything else.

I've the patience of a saint.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm still hoping to meet (as in more than socially) some people i've been chatting for months, or even years, but thats due to me working abroad more than anything else.

I've the patience of a saint. "

You must keep that halo in your back pocket!

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By *ommando4Man
over a year ago

South Co. Dublin

Pity fab doesn't have a calendar function like outlook so that you could busy search your date or display when your available (and willin' !).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get why some people get annoyed about you having other meets first. I've had a few turn nasty because the timing at that stage didn't suit to meet them but it did to meet someone else.

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"I'm still hoping to meet (as in more than socially) some people i've been chatting for months, or even years, but thats due to me working abroad more than anything else.

I've the patience of a saint.

You must keep that halo in your back pocket!"

You know me I'm totally innocent.

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks


"I don't get why some people get annoyed about you having other meets first. I've had a few turn nasty because the timing at that stage didn't suit to meet them but it did to meet someone else. "

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Jealousy!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only read on anyone might have a right to be annoyed is if they have arranged a meet only to be cut off as the time nears only to see the person post a verification for a meet that night. Hedging your bets is sneaky but seems to happen a lot. Apart from that no one ha's the right to tell you or even moan about who you want to meet. Jealously is possibly the most dangerous emotion on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't get why some people get annoyed about you having other meets first. I've had a few turn nasty because the timing at that stage didn't suit to meet them but it did to meet someone else.

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Jealousy!!"

I reckon its not the order things happen, ie ppl are free to meet whoever they want...but more that people say they are too busy to meet but meet anyway even if your free.

It's obviously their choice and have decided to meet someone else even though you were trying to arrange a meet and both parties claimed to have wanted to...but I think a lot of frustration comes from the fact that people are afraid to be upfront..

.from my point view .ive definitely fallen out with a few girls who have been less that 100% straight with me..i just walk away rather than get narky I have to say...but if some one cant tell me they aren't free because they have a meet allready...then I sorta wonder what their agenda is...just spit it out..its a sex site and surely the assumption is that we are all arranging more than one meet at any given time???...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people not text back"
....because they aren't obligated to answer. ..no reply means no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people not text back....because they aren't obligated to answer. ..no reply means no thanks"

the old saying suck it up butter cup comes to mind. You will drive yourself crazy here if you handle rejection badly because it's part and parcel of swinging

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't get why some people get annoyed about you having other meets first. I've had a few turn nasty because the timing at that stage didn't suit to meet them but it did to meet someone else.

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Jealousy!!

I reckon its not the order things happen, ie ppl are free to meet whoever they want...but more that people say they are too busy to meet but meet anyway even if your free.

It's obviously their choice and have decided to meet someone else even though you were trying to arrange a meet and both parties claimed to have wanted to...but I think a lot of frustration comes from the fact that people are afraid to be upfront..

.from my point view .ive definitely fallen out with a few girls who have been less that 100% straight with me..i just walk away rather than get narky I have to say...but if some one cant tell me they aren't free because they have a meet allready...then I sorta wonder what their agenda is...just spit it out..its a sex site and surely the assumption is that we are all arranging more than one meet at any given time???... "

I think though if you say to someone your busy for few weeks , how your busy is your own business ? Do we need to tell people who or when we are meeting ?

Also I was told this week that I shouldn't be planning more than one meet at a time ??

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks


"Why do people not text back....because they aren't obligated to answer. ..no reply means no thanks"

.

Most would probably reply to say "No thanks" if it weren't for the abuse they get if they do reply!

To some.. it may appear rude etc if they don't actually get a reply saying No, but it is not!!

It is to avoid abuse/hassle!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The only read on anyone might have a right to be annoyed is if they have arranged a meet only to be cut off as the time nears only to see the person post a verification for a meet that night. Hedging your bets is sneaky but seems to happen a lot. Apart from that no one ha's the right to tell you or even moan about who you want to meet. Jealously is possibly the most dangerous emotion on fab"

Yes I defo think there's too much jealousy on Fab.....

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By *unsterStagMan
over a year ago

Limerick


"I don't get why some people get annoyed about you having other meets first. I've had a few turn nasty because the timing at that stage didn't suit to meet them but it did to meet someone else.

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Jealousy!!

I reckon its not the order things happen, ie ppl are free to meet whoever they want...but more that people say they are too busy to meet but meet anyway even if your free.

It's obviously their choice and have decided to meet someone else even though you were trying to arrange a meet and both parties claimed to have wanted to...but I think a lot of frustration comes from the fact that people are afraid to be upfront..

.from my point view .ive definitely fallen out with a few girls who have been less that 100% straight with me..i just walk away rather than get narky I have to say...but if some one cant tell me they aren't free because they have a meet allready...then I sorta wonder what their agenda is...just spit it out..its a sex site and surely the assumption is that we are all arranging more than one meet at any given time???...

I think though if you say to someone your busy for few weeks , how your busy is your own business ? Do we need to tell people who or when we are meeting ?

Also I was told this week that I shouldn't be planning more than one meet at a time ?? "

Stop posting such hot pics and u won't have this issue or else start combining meets

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't get why some people get annoyed about you having other meets first. I've had a few turn nasty because the timing at that stage didn't suit to meet them but it did to meet someone else.

.

Jealousy!!

I reckon its not the order things happen, ie ppl are free to meet whoever they want...but more that people say they are too busy to meet but meet anyway even if your free.

It's obviously their choice and have decided to meet someone else even though you were trying to arrange a meet and both parties claimed to have wanted to...but I think a lot of frustration comes from the fact that people are afraid to be upfront..

.from my point view .ive definitely fallen out with a few girls who have been less that 100% straight with me..i just walk away rather than get narky I have to say...but if some one cant tell me they aren't free because they have a meet allready...then I sorta wonder what their agenda is...just spit it out..its a sex site and surely the assumption is that we are all arranging more than one meet at any given time???...

I think though if you say to someone your busy for few weeks , how your busy is your own business ? Do we need to tell people who or when we are meeting ?

Also I was told this week that I shouldn't be planning more than one meet at a time ??

Stop posting such hot pics and u won't have this issue or else start combining meets "

Haha you big charmer , I like the combining meet idea tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Found you can't win no matter what you do. But still God knows when you might find the odd window of time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Real life has to come before 'fab"

Some people seem to think that we can drop things and go running.

Unfortunately if they can't understand that and situations regarding meets don't happen overnight then they not worth meeting. People should understand how hard it can be to meet and if prepared too wait they will..... "

Well said that lady....exactly!!

Oh im still hoping on sharing a taxi

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By *arfield 69Man
over a year ago

lurgan near Belfast

Ladies what you don't realise is FAB is excapism from our mundane lives. .

It's in our DNA.. to sow our seeds far and wide lol

Most guys would "fuck a frog if they could stop it hoping long enough" lmao

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ladies what you don't realise is FAB is excapism from our mundane lives. .

It's in our DNA.. to sow our seeds far and wide lol

Most guys would "fuck a frog if they could stop it hoping long enough" lmao"

What ???? You mean I'm not the hottest woman on Fab , with the best boobs and in there area you men sicken me

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By *arfield 69Man
over a year ago

lurgan near Belfast


"Ladies what you don't realise is FAB is excapism from our mundane lives. .

It's in our DNA.. to sow our seeds far and wide lol

Most guys would "fuck a frog if they could stop it hoping long enough" lmao

One hot woman but I'm out off your age group

Not if I was 20 years younger pmsl

What ???? You mean I'm not the hottest woman on Fab , with the best boobs and in there area you men sicken me "

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By *arfield 69Man
over a year ago

lurgan near Belfast


"Ladies what you don't realise is FAB is excapism from our mundane lives. .

It's in our DNA.. to sow our seeds far and wide lol

Most guys would "fuck a frog if they could stop it hoping long enough" lmao

What ???? You mean I'm not the hottest woman on Fab , with the best boobs and in there area you men sicken me "

One hot woman but I'm out off your age group lol

If i was 20 years younger ( as I change my piss pad ) lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Openness and clarity makes fab easier for me, some don't handle it that well but I go at my own pace... I am here to make great connections not fast one's. Verifications going up in between meets is your own business as this is NSA...a meet is a meet...not a lease of ownership

Stand firm in your beliefs op...you are here for your enjoyment and only you can ensure that by sticking to what you know is right for you.

Do stay in touch though as people loose interest and to be honest I personally find it a little insulting that someone thinks that they can pick it up closer to the meet with little or no contact in the interim. If interested put in the effort...both parties

Best of luck to you...happy fabbing your way

I'll give ya buzz soon lolol

Red card for you cheeky...you are on the naughty bench...

Ohh there's a bench how do I get on that "

By being naughty...the clue is in the name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ladies what you don't realise is FAB is excapism from our mundane lives. .

It's in our DNA.. to sow our seeds far and wide lol

Most guys would "fuck a frog if they could stop it hoping long enough" lmao

What ???? You mean I'm not the hottest woman on Fab , with the best boobs and in there area you men sicken me "

Men...fickle as frog's leaving a trail of tadpoles behind them

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By *arfield 69Man
over a year ago

lurgan near Belfast


"Ladies what you don't realise is FAB is excapism from our mundane lives. .

It's in our DNA.. to sow our seeds far and wide lol

Most guys would "fuck a frog if they could stop it hoping long enough" lmao

What ???? You mean I'm not the hottest woman on Fab , with the best boobs and in there area you men sicken me

Men...fickle as frog's leaving a trail of tadpoles behind them"

Good reply and banter funny as fk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people not text back"

It's just not feasible. Also if I change my filters it stops them messaging. If I've replied to say no thanks they'll be able to get through the filters.

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By *ssalotCouple
over a year ago

dungannon


"I don't get why some people get annoyed about you having other meets first. I've had a few turn nasty because the timing at that stage didn't suit to meet them but it did to meet someone else.

.

Jealousy!!

I reckon its not the order things happen, ie ppl are free to meet whoever they want...but more that people say they are too busy to meet but meet anyway even if your free.

It's obviously their choice and have decided to meet someone else even though you were trying to arrange a meet and both parties claimed to have wanted to...but I think a lot of frustration comes from the fact that people are afraid to be upfront..

.from my point view .ive definitely fallen out with a few girls who have been less that 100% straight with me..i just walk away rather than get narky I have to say...but if some one cant tell me they aren't free because they have a meet allready...then I sorta wonder what their agenda is...just spit it out..its a sex site and surely the assumption is that we are all arranging more than one meet at any given time???... "

...arranging lots of meets??...think there may be some role reversal when you get back and your going to get that ass spanked.

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"Openness and clarity makes fab easier for me, some don't handle it that well but I go at my own pace... I am here to make great connections not fast one's. Verifications going up in between meets is your own business as this is NSA...a meet is a meet...not a lease of ownership

Stand firm in your beliefs op...you are here for your enjoyment and only you can ensure that by sticking to what you know is right for you.

Do stay in touch though as people loose interest and to be honest I personally find it a little insulting that someone thinks that they can pick it up closer to the meet with little or no contact in the interim. If interested put in the effort...both parties

Best of luck to you...happy fabbing your way

I'll give ya buzz soon lolol

Red card for you cheeky...you are on the naughty bench...

Ohh there's a bench how do I get on that

By being naughty...the clue is in the name"

Awe here and I just got the hang of being good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Openness and clarity makes fab easier for me, some don't handle it that well but I go at my own pace... I am here to make great connections not fast one's. Verifications going up in between meets is your own business as this is NSA...a meet is a meet...not a lease of ownership

Stand firm in your beliefs op...you are here for your enjoyment and only you can ensure that by sticking to what you know is right for you.

Do stay in touch though as people loose interest and to be honest I personally find it a little insulting that someone thinks that they can pick it up closer to the meet with little or no contact in the interim. If interested put in the effort...both parties

Best of luck to you...happy fabbing your way

I'll give ya buzz soon lolol

Red card for you cheeky...you are on the naughty bench...

Ohh there's a bench how do I get on that

By being naughty...the clue is in the name

Awe here and I just got the hang of being good "

You can be good at being naughty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP I suggest just being straight at the outset and say u can't meet for x weeks, as u have a few meets arranged. That my policy and hasn't lost me any quality meets. First indication of tetchiness or jealousy is enough for me not to meet. Good way of filtering out drama queens. I have had some tetchy fabbers, but have had more very patient fabbers who I have conversed with a long time before meeting, and have no issue with me meeting others. Be straight OP, if they don't receive the message well, then best off not meeting them anyway...good luck OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP I suggest just being straight at the outset and say u can't meet for x weeks, as u have a few meets arranged. That my policy and hasn't lost me any quality meets. First indication of tetchiness or jealousy is enough for me not to meet. Good way of filtering out drama queens. I have had some tetchy fabbers, but have had more very patient fabbers who I have conversed with a long time before meeting, and have no issue with me meeting others. Be straight OP, if they don't receive the message well, then best off not meeting them anyway...good luck OP"

Same, well said

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"Openness and clarity makes fab easier for me, some don't handle it that well but I go at my own pace... I am here to make great connections not fast one's. Verifications going up in between meets is your own business as this is NSA...a meet is a meet...not a lease of ownership

Stand firm in your beliefs op...you are here for your enjoyment and only you can ensure that by sticking to what you know is right for you.

Do stay in touch though as people loose interest and to be honest I personally find it a little insulting that someone thinks that they can pick it up closer to the meet with little or no contact in the interim. If interested put in the effort...both parties

Best of luck to you...happy fabbing your way

I'll give ya buzz soon lolol

Red card for you cheeky...you are on the naughty bench...

Ohh there's a bench how do I get on that

By being naughty...the clue is in the name

Awe here and I just got the hang of being good

You can be good at being naughty"

I can

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over a year ago


"I don't get why some people get annoyed about you having other meets first. I've had a few turn nasty because the timing at that stage didn't suit to meet them but it did to meet someone else.

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Jealousy!!

I reckon its not the order things happen, ie ppl are free to meet whoever they want...but more that people say they are too busy to meet but meet anyway even if your free.

It's obviously their choice and have decided to meet someone else even though you were trying to arrange a meet and both parties claimed to have wanted to...but I think a lot of frustration comes from the fact that people are afraid to be upfront..

.from my point view .ive definitely fallen out with a few girls who have been less that 100% straight with me..i just walk away rather than get narky I have to say...but if some one cant tell me they aren't free because they have a meet allready...then I sorta wonder what their agenda is...just spit it out..its a sex site and surely the assumption is that we are all arranging more than one meet at any given time???...

...arranging lots of meets??...think there may be some role reversal when you get back and your going to get that ass spanked."

..spank away...lol...and you only log on once every two weeks and see that post...lol...

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over a year ago


"OP I suggest just being straight at the outset and say u can't meet for x weeks, as u have a few meets arranged. That my policy and hasn't lost me any quality meets. First indication of tetchiness or jealousy is enough for me not to meet. Good way of filtering out drama queens. I have had some tetchy fabbers, but have had more very patient fabbers who I have conversed with a long time before meeting, and have no issue with me meeting others. Be straight OP, if they don't receive the message well, then best off not meeting them anyway...good luck OP"

..listen to the wise one... ..she has it sussed..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes there's always one or two will stand out from the crowd!! Whether it be fit pics funny witty charming whichever I usually know within first few msgs if I wanna meet. So ill definitely make the time after all the tantalising and teasing msgs. I dont bother wasting anyone's time including my own by sending endless msgs and nit really wanting the meet x

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over a year ago


"Openness and clarity makes fab easier for me, some don't handle it that well but I go at my own pace... I am here to make great connections not fast one's. Verifications going up in between meets is your own business as this is NSA...a meet is a meet...not a lease of ownership

Stand firm in your beliefs op...you are here for your enjoyment and only you can ensure that by sticking to what you know is right for you.

Do stay in touch though as people loose interest and to be honest I personally find it a little insulting that someone thinks that they can pick it up closer to the meet with little or no contact in the interim. If interested put in the effort...both parties

Best of luck to you...happy fabbing your way

I'll give ya buzz soon lolol

Red card for you cheeky...you are on the naughty bench...

Ohh there's a bench how do I get on that

By being naughty...the clue is in the name

Awe here and I just got the hang of being good

You can be good at being naughty

I can "

Can't we all

Am sure you can hold your own...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I make it very clear in my first message when I can meet

"Meet now" "

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over a year ago

I'm honest with folk. I tell them i work weeks so its evenings and weekends for me. Generally i try to work round a potential meets schedule ( chivalry fab style )

I wouldn't bandy about names of potential meets but i wouldn't lie if i had a few upcoming. Hell the 2 ladies may fancy one another and the holy grail of an mff is mine

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over a year ago


"I don't get why some people get annoyed about you having other meets first. I've had a few turn nasty because the timing at that stage didn't suit to meet them but it did to meet someone else.

.

Jealousy!!

I reckon its not the order things happen, ie ppl are free to meet whoever they want...but more that people say they are too busy to meet but meet anyway even if your free.

It's obviously their choice and have decided to meet someone else even though you were trying to arrange a meet and both parties claimed to have wanted to...but I think a lot of frustration comes from the fact that people are afraid to be upfront..

.from my point view .ive definitely fallen out with a few girls who have been less that 100% straight with me..i just walk away rather than get narky I have to say...but if some one cant tell me they aren't free because they have a meet allready...then I sorta wonder what their agenda is...just spit it out..its a sex site and surely the assumption is that we are all arranging more than one meet at any given time???... "

...and if I think there's an agenda then it's definitely a strike out...simple. Plenty more out there and there'salways the regulars.

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over a year ago


"The only read on anyone might have a right to be annoyed is if they have arranged a meet only to be cut off as the time nears only to see the person post a verification for a meet that night. Hedging your bets is sneaky but seems to happen a lot. Apart from that no one ha's the right to tell you or even moan about who you want to meet. Jealously is possibly the most dangerous emotion on fab

Yes I defo think there's too much jealousy on Fab..... "

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

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"I don't get why some people get annoyed about you having other meets first. I've had a few turn nasty because the timing at that stage didn't suit to meet them but it did to meet someone else.

.

Jealousy!!

I reckon its not the order things happen, ie ppl are free to meet whoever they want...but more that people say they are too busy to meet but meet anyway even if your free.

It's obviously their choice and have decided to meet someone else even though you were trying to arrange a meet and both parties claimed to have wanted to...but I think a lot of frustration comes from the fact that people are afraid to be upfront..

.from my point view .ive definitely fallen out with a few girls who have been less that 100% straight with me..i just walk away rather than get narky I have to say...but if some one cant tell me they aren't free because they have a meet allready...then I sorta wonder what their agenda is...just spit it out..its a sex site and surely the assumption is that we are all arranging more than one meet at any given time???... "

Sure we all try to have several irons in the fire, doesn't mean you are obliged to tell a possible meet about it. It's none of their business and it only triggers unnecessary questions. No agenda behind it, simply about privacy and discretion.

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