FabSwingers.com forum: Bringing a 3rd person on to the team

By *xhibitA OP Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

Hi all,

Has anyone ever had a friend (who knew what you get up on here) ask about coming on to the scene along with you?

If so how did it work out and any suggestions to make it workable? She's female and a few years younger than me but is very confident in her sexuality. We've spoken a lot about what myself and Liam get up to in our spare time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi all,

Has anyone ever had a friend (who knew what you get up on here) ask about coming on to the scene along with you?

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....there's a few mff profiles in Ireland. ..I would say that you would be fairly popular. ..lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say that very much depends on whether you intend to just hold her hand while she is a newbie, or play with her. Swinging with established "real-life" friends is risky IMO, very easy for it all to go pear-shaped, both for the friendship and your own relationship, plus can you rely ob her to be discreet, especially if it goes sour?

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By *xhibitA OP Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

"I'd say that very much depends on whether you intend to just hold her hand while she is a newbie, or play with her. Swinging with established "real-life" friends is risky IMO, very easy for it all to go pear-shaped, both for the friendship and your own relationship, plus can you rely ob her to be discreet, especially if it goes sour?"

This all crossed my mind but I do trust her 100%, we've known each other for a long time. How to kick start it is an issue! Bring her along maybe or set up some meets with her. Should be interesting! Very excited about it to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be wary tbh. I wouldn't want my real life becoming so involved in fab. But it's your call

as you say you trust and know her a long time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not worth the risk in my book, but good luck if you decide to go ahead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What could possibly go wrong?

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

Totally depends on the dynamics of the trio if that's the road u intend going why not bring her to a party with no pressure to perform maybe even a meet and greet. As u say u know her a long time and u talked of what u and Liam get up to so u have a feel for what she's interested in.

There always the fear of a friendship breaking up even in vanilla land adding an extra dimension to that friendship can cause it to explode or blossom u won't know till u try

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just from my own experience I would leave private life and real friendships separate from fab,,,,,, both myself and my ex best female friend were on another swingsite in our 20's,,, had been best friends since I was 5 and she was 7,,,, knew everything about eachother,, fell out over something else (not about swinging) 7/8 years ago,,, she blabbed to others that we both knew including my nephew that I was on a swinger site before and that I'm bisexual and used excuse that I'm bisexual as the reason we don't talk anymore,,,,, so IMO it's not worth it OP,, but good luck in whatever you decide

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By *cjoyCouple
over a year ago

Galway

I don't think I'd be comfortable mixing fab and real life. No one in our real lives knows that we swing and we prefer it that way.

I value my real life friendships way too much to risk them by involving them in our fab life. If one of my friends told me they were on or joining fab then obviously I wouldn't have a problem with it but I would be avoiding them here.

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By *xhibitA OP Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

Hmm food for thought here guys. Thanks everyone for your thoughtful responses.

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

I can hold her hand if you'd like...

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"I can hold her hand if you'd like...

Ever the gent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can hold her hand if you'd like...

Aw sweet

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By *xhibitA OP Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

"I can hold her hand if you'd like...

Not sure she'd be into the Right Said Fred costume tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can hold her hand if you'd like...

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lol got in there before me

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over a year ago

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

"I can hold her hand if you'd like...

Not sure she'd be into the Right Said Fred costume tbh

How very dare you! I do naked too

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By *xhibitA OP Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

"I can hold her hand if you'd like...

Not sure she'd be into the Right Said Fred costume tbh

How very dare you! I do naked too

No doubt you do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can hold her hand if you'd like...

Smarmy central

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By *ingerrrrWoman
over a year ago

Meath

My best friend comes to parties and m&s' with me sometimes. She's not a member of the site. She knows all about my adventures in here.

Occasionally we will share a guy in FFM or I pass on a guy I think she'll like.

Works well for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My best friend comes to parties and m&s' with me sometimes. She's not a member of the site. She knows all about my adventures in here.

Occasionally we will share a guy in FFM or I pass on a guy I think she'll like.

Works well for us.

How come a non member is allowed go to parties?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My best mate came to M&S with me before to pick up some food.

I wouldn't fuck him though

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

"My best friend comes to parties and m&s' with me sometimes. She's not a member of the site. She knows all about my adventures in here.

Occasionally we will share a guy in FFM or I pass on a guy I think she'll like.

Works well for us.

the little pocket rocket??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My best friend comes to parties and m&s' with me sometimes. She's not a member of the site. She knows all about my adventures in here.

Occasionally we will share a guy in FFM or I pass on a guy I think she'll like.

Works well for us.

How come a non member is allowed go to parties? "

^^^^^ this,,, didn't think non members would be allowed attend organised parties ect

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

I think if the person is well know to the host there maybe exceptions made as I once was accompanied to a party by my wife with the prior consent of the host

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My best friend comes to parties and m&s' with me sometimes. She's not a member of the site. She knows all about my adventures in here.

Occasionally we will share a guy in FFM or I pass on a guy I think she'll like.

Works well for us.

How come a non member is allowed go to parties?

^^^^^ this,,, didn't think non members would be allowed attend organised parties ect

Nobody unverified but not on the site? Come on down!

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

"I think if the person is well know to the host there maybe exceptions made as I once was accompanied to a party by my wife with the prior consent of the host "

exactly this. i know gingers friend and ginger brought her to a party myself and ginger held a few years ago . she was great craic and was the first and last to play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think if the person is well know to the host there maybe exceptions made as I once was accompanied to a party by my wife with the prior consent of the host

exactly this. i know gingers friend and ginger brought her to a party myself and ginger held a few years ago . she was great craic and was the first and last to play. "

This is the kind of swinger you want at at party! Someone who is eager and ready to get it on.

Not people who need to get well oiled and by midnight there's still nothing happening at a party.

Those kind of parties are rubbish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think if the person is well know to the host there maybe exceptions made as I once was accompanied to a party by my wife with the prior consent of the host

exactly this. i know gingers friend and ginger brought her to a party myself and ginger held a few years ago . she was great craic and was the first and last to play. "

Okay that's one party. She said more than once. So must be a regular thing. That's such bullshit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab don't organise parties the members do. So it's up to those hosting if they allow a guest to bring a friend or not.

We know Ginger years and met her in person a few times now. If she was attending a party at ours and recommended another person who wasn't on Fab we would certainly allow this as we know her well enough to trust her judgment.

You don't have to be a member of a swing site (even Fab, believe it or not) to be a swinger.

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By *ingerrrrWoman
over a year ago

Meath

I used to host parties and m&g's so she came as a very well known and trusted friend. She hasn't time to be on here but is well known my more experienced party goers.

So keep yer knickers on lads!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I used to host parties and m&g's so she came as a very well known and trusted friend. She hasn't time to be on here but is well known my more experienced party goers.

So keep yer knickers on lads! "

That explains it,,, the poor non verified members were getting all excited at the thought of if people aren't even members of the site and still able to attend parties/m&g when someone from fab organising such events then I might be still in with a chance of an invite,,,,, their hopes have just been dashed now

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By *ingerrrrWoman
over a year ago

Meath

I would always entertain non verifieds.

If they can prove to me they're not an ejit or journalist then I'd be happy to invite them.

There would always be a few at my parties, but I was very aware of the privacy of my guests.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does she want a swinging partner?

I'm looking to meet somebody on the scene for long term fun to meet others. I met two couples together last night and had the time of my life but I'd love a partner of my own so we can invite rather than be invited

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By *ean0001Man
over a year ago

Dublin West

Thats the advantage of running your own nights. You can invite who you want...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My best friend comes to parties and m&s' with me sometimes. She's not a member of the site. She knows all about my adventures in here.

Occasionally we will share a guy in FFM or I pass on a guy I think she'll like.

Works well for us.

How come a non member is allowed go to parties? "

^^^ this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi all,

Has anyone ever had a friend (who knew what you get up on here) ask about coming on to the scene along with you?

If she knows what ye get up to and is curious, it could risk the friendship by NOT helping her getting involved. She might be upset you won't help or blame a bad experience on you.

I'd help her, introduce at parties etc but I'd be slow in playing with her, unless ye have rules, like only at a party etc,

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By *xhibitA OP Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

"Hi all,

Has anyone ever had a friend (who knew what you get up on here) ask about coming on to the scene along with you?

If she knows what ye get up to and is curious, it could risk the friendship by NOT helping her getting involved. She might be upset you won't help or blame a bad experience on you.

I'd help her, introduce at parties etc but I'd be slow in playing with her, unless ye have rules, like only at a party etc, "

We're already playing, hence the want to take it further. I agree with you too

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"Hi all,

Has anyone ever had a friend (who knew what you get up on here) ask about coming on to the scene along with you?

If she knows what ye get up to and is curious, it could risk the friendship by NOT helping her getting involved. She might be upset you won't help or blame a bad experience on you.

I'd help her, introduce at parties etc but I'd be slow in playing with her, unless ye have rules, like only at a party etc,

We're already playing, hence the want to take it further. I agree with you too"

The threshold has already being crossed then

Don't be greedy share

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By *xhibitA OP Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

"Hi all,

Has anyone ever had a friend (who knew what you get up on here) ask about coming on to the scene along with you?

If she knows what ye get up to and is curious, it could risk the friendship by NOT helping her getting involved. She might be upset you won't help or blame a bad experience on you.

I'd help her, introduce at parties etc but I'd be slow in playing with her, unless ye have rules, like only at a party etc,

We're already playing, hence the want to take it further. I agree with you too

The threshold has already being crossed then

Don't be greedy share

She'll make all those decisions herself

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over a year ago

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