FabSwingers.com forum: Differentiating Sexual Attraction and Sexual Desire

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Unlike arousal, sexual attraction and sexual desire both occur on the psychological level, and both are generally thought of as “wanting to have sex with someone”, which is accurate, in a sense, but only sometimes — to the point where such a definition can muddle understandings once it’s taken into other discussions, thanks to the errant implication that “not sexually attracted to” must always mean “does not want sex with”. Many people do “want to have sex with” the people they’re sexually attracted to and no one else, but generalizing their experience as universal fails to take the subtle but consequential distinctions between attraction and desire into account, which hurts everyone who’s ever experienced one of the two without the other.

All of this can just as easily be applied to sexuality. The difference between sexual attraction and sexual desire, at its most basic, is cognitive. Attractions are involuntary; desire is the degree of will directed toward action.

SO, LADIES AND GENTS, AM I RIGHT OR WRONG ?

By *tsUS1990Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

Holy run on sentence Batman!!

Full stops are your friend.

(I'm being silly. No offence meant)

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Holy run on sentence Batman!!

Full stops are your friend.

(I'm being silly. No offence meant)"

By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

I'm completely lost, those Sidney university questionnaires exceed my blonde brain capacity.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm completely lost, those Sidney university questionnaires exceed my blonde brain capacity.

LOL I am platinum blonde, does that matter ?

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This excerpt on it's own doesn't give enough information for a discussion, you need to post the link to the original piece.