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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey all..I have a pretty thick skin(joys of getting old)..so want to ask an honest question to all ladies on fab...I have been on site nearly 3 months at this stage and only managed to meet two different very nice fab members for coffee etc..I like to think im not sleazy, alright looking and able to hold a good conversatation both by msg and in real life but i still have no joy on this..Please tell me where im going wrong..is it the profile or is it just the ratio girls to guys on this too low?..signed off frustrated fabber

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi Blue Eye's. You say you are a fluent talker but have more text here than on your profile. Use your gift of the gab, keep it light hearted and respectful. Also personally I would make your face pic's private until you are chatting with someone. Edit your photos more as in take out background. Hope this helps and happy fabbing and have patience...just because you are on fab doesn't mean naked women will be banging on the door...signing up isn't enough... it's a combo of chat, photos, effort and patience. Best of luck.

Madame B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi Blue Eye's. You say you are a fluent talker but have more text here than on your profile. Use your gift of the gab, keep it light hearted and respectful. Also personally I would make your face pic's private until you are chatting with someone. Edit your photos more as in take out background. Hope this helps and happy fabbing and have patience...just because you are on fab doesn't mean naked women will be banging on the door...signing up isn't enough... it's a combo of chat, photos, effort and patience. Best of luck.

Madame B "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi Blue Eye's. You say you are a fluent talker but have more text here than on your profile. Use your gift of the gab, keep it light hearted and respectful. Also personally I would make your face pic's private until you are chatting with someone. Edit your photos more as in take out background. Hope this helps and happy fabbing and have patience...just because you are on fab doesn't mean naked women will be banging on the door...signing up isn't enough... it's a combo of chat, photos, effort and patience. Best of luck.

Madame B "

Great advice, also we are all aware that there is more men then women here, so I would say as your already verified to try and get to a meet and greet. They aren't everyone's cup of tea and that's fine, but meet 100/200 other fabbers face to face and getting your personality across (in my opinion) greatly increases your chances compared to emails as ladies get hundreds every day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd definitely write something in your profile. Give people an idea about your personality etc.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you madame...just the honesty i was looking for..as i said this wasnt an attention seeking exercise...just frustrated..i think me having so many face pics is breaking taboo on a swinging site so must work on the profile a bit more using your tips..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

All good points made so far.thanks folks.suppose im more chatty at times in person than online but need to get myself out there..im not just on this for one night stands..I want to explore my sexual side with lile minded people but trying to get invited to socials even coffee meets is like the golden ticket here for single lads lolipop..the demand is too high

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All good points made so far.thanks folks.suppose im more chatty at times in person than online but need to get myself out there..im not just on this for one night stands..I want to explore my sexual side with lile minded people but trying to get invited to socials even coffee meets is like the golden ticket here for single lads lolipop..the demand is too high "

Have you asked me for an invite to one before?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ps.Does anybody know when meet and greets take place or where to keep an eye out for them?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Tbh op I think you did quite well in those three month, others don't get a verification being on here for a year or more. just don't give up, keep doing what you're doing and grab the chance for an m&g, and I'm pretty sure you'll succeed.

Btw I like the face pics...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ps.Does anybody know when meet and greets take place or where to keep an eye out for them?"
attend one. A complete fanny fest.. Drinks and chat flow at first and wait until later, sweet mother of Lord. Women dripping everywhere, wet floor signs run out. Gagging for penis. It's a good complaint but your cock will be soar the following morning.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Tbh op I think you did quite well in those three month, others don't get a verification being on here for a year or more. just don't give up, keep doing what you're doing and grab the chance for an m&g, and I'm pretty sure you'll succeed.

Btw I like the face pics..."

...Thank you doghunter..your making me blush...Your looking gorgeous yourself in those pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you madame...just the honesty i was looking for..as i said this wasnt an attention seeking exercise...just frustrated..i think me having so many face pics is breaking taboo on a swinging site so must work on the profile a bit more using your tips.. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ps.Does anybody know when meet and greets take place or where to keep an eye out for them?attend one. A complete fanny fest.. Drinks and chat flow at first and wait until later, sweet mother of Lord. Women dripping everywhere, wet floor signs run out. Gagging for penis. It's a good complaint but your cock will be soar the following morning. "
...hahaha...i wont be able sleep tonight with the excitement

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd definitely write something in your profile. Give people an idea about your personality etc. "
..good point..it is too vague

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi Bluey and welcome to the forums!

I'm sure they can be intimidating at first but once you join in it's far less of a bother and worry.

Nothing wrong with having face pics on profile, it can help someone to see another side of you (not just all cock n ass )

Don't give up on the place so soon, you're here just a few months, give it time, have patience and it'll develop in a positive way for you...

Best of luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi Bluey and welcome to the forums!

I'm sure they can be intimidating at first but once you join in it's far less of a bother and worry.

Nothing wrong with having face pics on profile, it can help someone to see another side of you (not just all cock n ass )

Don't give up on the place so soon, you're here just a few months, give it time, have patience and it'll develop in a positive way for you...

Best of luck "

in fairness joking aside, a few months is a very long time been on a website

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By *ain4uWoman
over a year ago

dublin


"Ps.Does anybody know when meet and greets take place or where to keep an eye out for them?attend one. A complete fanny fest.. Drinks and chat flow at first and wait until later, sweet mother of Lord. Women dripping everywhere, wet floor signs run out. Gagging for penis. It's a good complaint but your cock will be soar the following morning. "

Tip 1... don't listen to this guy xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *isdirtygirlWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Hi Bluey and welcome to the forums!

I'm sure they can be intimidating at first but once you join in it's far less of a bother and worry.

Nothing wrong with having face pics on profile, it can help someone to see another side of you (not just all cock n ass )

Don't give up on the place so soon, you're here just a few months, give it time, have patience and it'll develop in a positive way for you...

Best of luck "

Good on ye Foo..well said

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Tbh op I think you did quite well in those three month, others don't get a verification being on here for a year or more. just don't give up, keep doing what you're doing and grab the chance for an m&g, and I'm pretty sure you'll succeed.

Btw I like the face pics..."

..are you on kik doghunter?..i cant seem to send u msg private on this?..u have restricted due to age

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By *ain4uWoman
over a year ago

dublin

Tip 2.. don't automatically think a person wants to meet u if they reply to your post.. I don't mean u want to meet me... its jus a good tip I think .. its happened me a few times ... headwreckin that ye can't even reply without them thinking ""boom... I have a meet ''. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tip 2.. don't automatically think a person wants to meet u if they reply to your post.. I don't mean u want to meet me... its jus a good tip I think .. its happened me a few times ... headwreckin that ye can't even reply without them thinking ""boom... I have a meet ''. Lol "

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tip 2.. don't automatically think a person wants to meet u if they reply to your post.. I don't mean u want to meet me... its jus a good tip I think .. its happened me a few times ... headwreckin that ye can't even reply without them thinking ""boom... I have a meet ''. Lol "

^^^ this also if you have your a non smoker down on your profile don't have pics of you smoking on your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just got really into Fab couple of months ago when circumstances became single again after several years... so used Fab to try get myself back out there again and have fun again but I didn't go with expectations thinking I am going try sleep with as many ladies as possible , I was more the social side chats etc... So my advice is have fun on here , show your sense of humour in your posts and messages... don't be afraid to make fool of yourself life to short for that , don't care about begrudgers and enjoy the ride. Have had a great time on here in few months met and chatted with wicked people and look forward to chatting with more. Best of luck bud stay at it , Build it and they will come

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" also if you have your a non smoker down on your profile don't have pics of you smoking on your profile "

Assume the verif about 'playing' is with a pre Fabs friend otherwise 'genuine' comes into question also since the OP says he's only had coffee meets so far.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tip 2.. don't automatically think a person wants to meet u if they reply to your post.. I don't mean u want to meet me... its jus a good tip I think .. its happened me a few times ... headwreckin that ye can't even reply without them thinking ""boom... I have a meet ''. Lol

^^^ this also if you have your a non smoker down on your profile don't have pics of you smoking on your profile "

Well he was in a 'non smoking area', so that doesn't count

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Tip 2.. don't automatically think a person wants to meet u if they reply to your post.. I don't mean u want to meet me... its jus a good tip I think .. its happened me a few times ... headwreckin that ye can't even reply without them thinking ""boom... I have a meet ''. Lol

^^^ this also if you have your a non smoker down on your profile don't have pics of you smoking on your profile

Well he was in a 'non smoking area', so that doesn't count "

hahaha..I think the irony of picture was lost on Yolo ...she was too busy worrying about my verifications

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it's the selfies, and the faces being pulled in them. Sorry, just my take on it

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By *irty MurtyMan
over a year ago

my place

Here's my take on it ( And I don't mean to sound khunty)

Your here 3 months and had coffee meets your doing well for a single guy,

You've one veri by a woman who's only public veri is you ( may be total genuine but raises suspicion on here) or get your coffee meets to verify you

Also loose some of silly selfies it's not snap chat,

Less pics more text

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By *ain4uWoman
over a year ago

dublin


"Here's my take on it ( And I don't mean to sound khunty)

Your here 3 months and had coffee meets your doing well for a single guy,

You've one veri by a woman who's only public veri is you ( may be total genuine but raises suspicion on here) or get your coffee meets to verify you

Also loose some of silly selfies it's not snap chat,

Less pics more text "

Good advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My two cents, for what it's worth

As already said you're meet verified and, in the grand scheme of things, after not too long on the site. So you're arguably well ahead of the curve in that regard.

Your profile is not just there to allow you to browse the site to be fair, take advantage of the opportunity to sell yourself; you've said more about yourself and your personality in your OP than your profile text.

Certainly take heed of any and all advice from women as to what is the general preference picture wise etc but ultimately there's no 'copy and paste' profile template. You're looking to attract people that fit your personality. That doesn't mean you can't beef up your profile, that's just common sense and there's been plenty of good advice from men and women on the thread on how to do so; maybe talk about yourself, what you're looking for. Again, just sell yourself basically it doesn't need to be an essay.

Joining in the forums is good as well, they're a friendly bunch . It's another platform to put your personality forward and keep an eye on M&Gs, which I suppose are a great way to meet new people

Best of luck, OP!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" also if you have your a non smoker down on your profile don't have pics of you smoking on your profile

Assume the verif about 'playing' is with a pre Fabs friend otherwise 'genuine' comes into question also since the OP says he's only had coffee meets so far."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tip 2.. don't automatically think a person wants to meet u if they reply to your post.. I don't mean u want to meet me... its jus a good tip I think .. its happened me a few times ... headwreckin that ye can't even reply without them thinking ""boom... I have a meet ''. Lol

^^^ this also if you have your a non smoker down on your profile don't have pics of you smoking on your profile

Well he was in a 'non smoking area', so that doesn't count "

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By *at-cWoman
over a year ago

Ballyshannon


"For me it's the selfies, and the faces being pulled in them. Sorry, just my take on it "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey all..I have a pretty thick skin(joys of getting old)..so want to ask an honest question to all ladies on fab...I have been on site nearly 3 months at this stage and only managed to meet two different very nice fab members for coffee etc..I like to think im not sleazy, alright looking and able to hold a good conversatation both by msg and in real life but i still have no joy on this..Please tell me where im going wrong..is it the profile or is it just the ratio girls to guys on this too low?..signed off frustrated fabber "
just tell the lady's you love shopping works for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just got really into Fab couple of months ago when circumstances became single again after several years... so used Fab to try get myself back out there again and have fun again but I didn't go with expectations thinking I am going try sleep with as many ladies as possible , I was more the social side chats etc... So my advice is have fun on here , show your sense of humour in your posts and messages... don't be afraid to make fool of yourself life to short for that , don't care about begrudgers and enjoy the ride. Have had a great time on here in few months met and chatted with wicked people and look forward to chatting with more. Best of luck bud stay at it , Build it and they will come "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tip 2.. don't automatically think a person wants to meet u if they reply to your post.. I don't mean u want to meet me... its jus a good tip I think .. its happened me a few times ... headwreckin that ye can't even reply without them thinking ""boom... I have a meet ''. Lol

^^^ this also if you have your a non smoker down on your profile don't have pics of you smoking on your profile

Well he was in a 'non smoking area', so that doesn't count hahaha..I think the irony of picture was lost on Yolo ...she was too busy worrying about my verifications "

I get irony...

But I don't concentrate on one aspect of any profile, it's the whole package...

Hope you get that soon to help you along in your quest

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