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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why do men find it easier to string a woman along rather than just being truthful? it seriously gets on my nerves

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

firstly in the name of gender balance ill say its not only men.

secondly why do people keep falling for it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do men find it easier to string a woman along rather than just being truthful? it seriously gets on my nerves "

They're not all guilty of it, but some do seem to get a sick kick out of it

Sorry you've had a bad experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For some, that's their game.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Inexperience and/or immaturity I suppose, I mean this is a swing site, we're all here for pleasure so it should happen (or not) without endless messaging..... just my thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As if women don't....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women are just as guilty of it in my experience so why does anyone string anyone along?i dont know,i doubt anyone knows.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women are just as guilty of it in my experience so why does anyone string anyone along?i dont know,i doubt anyone knows."

Nobody can "string you along" without your compliance, if you're not getting what you want from a situation, draw the line and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women are just as guilty of it in my experience so why does anyone string anyone along?i dont know,i doubt anyone knows.

Nobody can "string you along" without your compliance, if you're not getting what you want from a situation, draw the line and move on."

But for a certain time you wont know your been strung along.its not untill you dont get what you want that you realise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women are just as guilty of it in my experience so why does anyone string anyone along?i dont know,i doubt anyone knows.

Nobody can "string you along" without your compliance, if you're not getting what you want from a situation, draw the line and move on.

But for a certain time you wont know your been strung along.its not untill you dont get what you want that you realise"

Yes, and when that time is up, stop kidding yourself. Also, learn to distinguish between talk and action.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women are just as guilty of it in my experience so why does anyone string anyone along?i dont know,i doubt anyone knows.

Nobody can "string you along" without your compliance, if you're not getting what you want from a situation, draw the line and move on.

But for a certain time you wont know your been strung along.its not untill you dont get what you want that you realise

Yes, and when that time is up, stop kidding yourself. Also, learn to distinguish between talk and action.

"

Agreed

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"Women are just as guilty of it in my experience so why does anyone string anyone along?i dont know,i doubt anyone knows.

Nobody can "string you along" without your compliance, if you're not getting what you want from a situation, draw the line and move on.

But for a certain time you wont know your been strung along.its not untill you dont get what you want that you realise

Yes, and when that time is up, stop kidding yourself. Also, learn to distinguish between talk and action.

"

this

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm not trying say it's just men...but seeing as I'm not into women I've never experienced it.

Also I'm not here to get slated I was only asking a genuine question, personally I don't see how anyone can get a kick out of it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why do men find it easier to string a woman along rather than just being truthful? it seriously gets on my nerves

They're not all guilty of it, but some do seem to get a sick kick out of it

Sorry you've had a bad experience "

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not trying say it's just men...but seeing as I'm not into women I've never experienced it.

Also I'm not here to get slated I was only asking a genuine question, personally I don't see how anyone can get a kick out of it. "

I dont think anyone is having a go.sorry if it came across that way.people get kicks out of the strangest things and i think this is just one of them.....god knows why

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

in a fab or vanilla context?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"in a fab or vanilla context?"

Vanilla

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"in a fab or vanilla context?"

Does that make a difference?serious question,im not been smart

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's so easy to be led on by men or women. The players are very good at telling you what you want to hear. The OP didn't say it was anyone from fab, it happens on and off the site. We're only human after all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not trying say it's just men...but seeing as I'm not into women I've never experienced it.

Also I'm not here to get slated I was only asking a genuine question, personally I don't see how anyone can get a kick out of it. "

I don't believe anyone but a sociopath truly does this for pleasure, people do it because of their own flaws and weaknesses, they are afraid to be honest about what they want, or don't even know what they want, or afraid to have a real relationship which means putting your trust in another - their only "power" comes from manipulation, even though it is ultimately self-destructive. It takes courage to be honest.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"in a fab or vanilla context?

Vanilla "

There are many reasons to lead someone on:

He's not sure if you're the right one

He's using you as a rebound

He doesn't want to hurt your feelings

He's only looking for something casual

He's a whimp

He doesn't know how to tell you

etc.

I know it's more tricky when feelings are involved. Listen to your gut feelings next time, we're normally aware when something isn't going the way we wish it to be but deny it until it gets unbearable.

I think the best is to confront it. Showing feelings is not a weakness, it's a strength. You've nothing to loose if he's not really interested in you, it might hurt for the time being but at least it's not an ongoing slow burning endless painful process.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"in a fab or vanilla context?

Does that make a difference?serious question,im not been smart"

Neither is a nice thing to do but the reasons for doing so might be entirely different, also when feelings it's a whole different ball game

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"in a fab or vanilla context?

Does that make a difference?serious question,im not been smart

Neither is a nice thing to do but the reasons for doing so might be entirely different, also when feelings it's a whole different ball game"

That makes sense

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

Excuse me I've had women do that to me . If u got d chance to meet a lady I go n meet d lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's also entirely possible for both to be attempting to play the other, one using sex to try to get commitment, the other playing along to keep getting laid - then one person ends up complaining of feeling used when it doesn't pan out as they had planned.

Disclaimer: this is a generalisation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are, as they say, three sides to every story, his, hers, and the truth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are, as they say, three sides to every story, his, hers, and the truth."

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