FabSwingers.com forum: Lesser of two evils?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is it better to tell someone you're not interested, or just block them?

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare

Both. In that order

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just say not interested. If they persist, I ignore and if necessary, block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have to agree with Hal, tell them then block. 9 times out of 10 you will just get abuse or the dreaded "but why not???"

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

I think the secret lies in how to tell them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yea , we are getting a lot of that at the moment

especially lots of ""(straight)"" guys,

waiting to meet,

they are bi,just they havnt had time to change it on profile!!

they are bi,but don't show it because women don't go with bi guys !!

politely decline,then block if they continue ..

each to their own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the secret lies in how to tell them"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reply politely to everyone but it generally gets me nowhere. I can see why people do just Ignore and block because its a waste of time repeatedly telling someone you're not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I reply politely to everyone but it generally gets me nowhere. I can see why people do just Ignore and block because its a waste of time repeatedly telling someone you're not interested. "

I used to reply to everyone but then you get the replies saying 'fat bitch' or 'ugly bitch' (generally have bitch in there) and the guys who say 'why not' or 'I'll change your mind' or 'you won't regret me'. And then the ones who say ok no probs but yet continue to harass you thinking you'll change your mind. So I no longer reply. I delete the message and of the keep messaging I'll block them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I reply politely to everyone but it generally gets me nowhere. I can see why people do just Ignore and block because its a waste of time repeatedly telling someone you're not interested.

That's exactly what I do too

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By *ean0001Man
over a year ago

Dublin West

I'm just glad im the one in Ten who wishes them the best makes a note on their profile and leaves them alone when i have been turned down.

I dont get the whole being abusive to someone if you get turned down. Too much anger and hate in the world, and its nice to be nice to people.

And i have met people who have turned me down in the past and it all changed when they met me in person so i'm never going to be nasty to anyone.

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By *itreMan
over a year ago

killarney

If someone takes the time to answer you, and say they aren't interested, I, personally appreciate their honesty. Why people have to persist with stupid "why" questions then, is beyond me.

Is it any wonder it can be difficult here for genuine single guys.

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By *tsUS1990Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

I've been getting that a bit lately. The male half of the couple messaging late at night looking to 'chat'.

I tell them no thanks and I get the repeated 'but I just want... '

I tell them, again, no thanks I'm not interested and get the shite off them then...

'I'll change your mind'

'if you meet me I'll make it worth your while'

'no need to be such a bitch..' (because I won't indulge their wank material while their wife is asleep beside them, and my man is asleep beside me)' etc etc.

Which just goes to prove I was right in the first place.

Block and delete. It's the only way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd rather be told - blocking them is a bit harsh if all they have done is sent a polite opening message. If they've written something offensive or persist with another follow-up then get blocking!

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By *hocoholicWoman
over a year ago

The big D

Apart from 1 liners & rude/dirty messages, I try to reply to all. Majority I will turn down but I will try to tell them why I'm not interested in even chatting, whether it's cause there's nothing on their profile that interests me or I know we won't click.

Majority will be fine & I won't block them as I appreciate their message & sure an ole perv at my pics won't harm me but I will attach a note to their profile so if they message me again il block. The few who get nasty I bloke straight away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd rather be told - blocking them is a bit harsh if all they have done is sent a polite opening message. If they've written something offensive or persist with another follow-up then get blocking! "

Why do I have to reply just because they took it upon themselves to send a message? The risk you take by mailing someone is it not getting answered. They know this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the same it's so tough out... inundated with pervy mails from women

Try be polite but then get abuse or say I've small cock or my abs are shit! It hurts inside really

So easier for me to ignore and block lol...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm the same it's so tough out... inundated with pervy mails from women

Try be polite but then get abuse or say I've small cock or my abs are shit! It hurts inside really

So easier for me to ignore and block lol... "

Well to be fair those abs are really stupid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it better to tell someone you're not interested, or just block them?

I don't see reason to block just a polite sorry not interested should do the trick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on my mood. It's far easier to ignore or delete. Which sounds harsh but replying with a no thanks does invite another message. Drives me nuts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both have the same impact

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By *tsUS1990Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

"Is it better to tell someone you're not interested, or just block them?

I don't see reason to block just a polite sorry not interested should do the trick

It should do the trick. Unfortunately, it doesn't always do the trick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you reply then you often end up having to block anyway cos some won't take no for an answer

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

Surely it's much more fun to tell them you want to fuck their brains out, absolutely devour the lad off them and drink every last drop of their man juice..... then block them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I reply politely to everyone but it generally gets me nowhere. I can see why people do just Ignore and block because its a waste of time repeatedly telling someone you're not interested. "

Seems a very reasonable approach which more could take .... Acknowledging the fact that you ladies get 100 s of messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Surely it's much more fun to tell them you want to fuck their brains out, absolutely devour the lad off them and drink every last drop of their man juice..... then block them!

You're evil

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd rather be told - blocking them is a bit harsh if all they have done is sent a polite opening message. If they've written something offensive or persist with another follow-up then get blocking!

Why do I have to reply just because they took it upon themselves to send a message? The risk you take by mailing someone is it not getting answered. They know this. "

You don't have to reply - a delete says the same thing. My point was that going straight to blocking someone seems a bit much. The in-between of replying with a no-thanks or just deleting seems more appropriate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd rather be told - blocking them is a bit harsh if all they have done is sent a polite opening message. If they've written something offensive or persist with another follow-up then get blocking!

Why do I have to reply just because they took it upon themselves to send a message? The risk you take by mailing someone is it not getting answered. They know this.

I do delete. Then they mail again and again until I have to block them. That's my point. I would never block someone for messaging one time unless it was a disgusting mail. But some people use it as a filter to stop people that have mailed and they aren't interested in from mailing again. That's their choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it better to tell someone you're not interested, or just block them?

If we had been chatting then yes, of course a polite "we're not going there" would be in order but an unsolicited straight out "wanna fuck" could quite easily be answered with a block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually just delete. Usually because they didn't bother their bonnet reading my profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for all the advice, and humour!

I did try the 'I'm too old and too tall for you." But just got the 'I don't mind... i like taller ladies.'

So that hint was lost.

If I share the whole sad saga, I'll almost certainly get a ban for 'washing my dirty laundry in public' or whatever, so I'll just decide whose advice to follow, and we'll see what the outcome is...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don't see reason to block just a polite sorry not interested should do the trick

Even though I asked for a picture? Ok, I"ll see how it goes...

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By *ork3SomeCouple
over a year ago

BaileSexy

It depends, if they fail to read your profile and send a generic mail then I think it's ok to block.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It depends, if they fail to read your profile and send a generic mail then I think it's ok to block."

Funny you should say that... his first mail to us was so 'generic' that I actually asked if he bulk-mailed that to everyone on fab!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't block because someone is interested, only if they are rude...

Although I find it rude not to reply, and rather than endless messaging that is wasting their time and mine, I put on filters so I really only get mail from fabbers I have winked or started chat with, cos they caught my eye or find them entertaining on the forum....

So I only have a few profiles blocked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it better to tell someone you're not interested, or just block them?

Tell them and if they don't take the hint then block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't block because someone is interested, only if they are rude...

So I only have a few profiles blocked

I agree with you, this would be the best reply in my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone has no interest in me I generally asked them to block me that way I won't make a mistake in a few weeks time by trying to contact them again when I've forgotten they already said no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just had to block someone for sending the same opening message after I politely declined the first time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone has no interest in me I generally asked them to block me that way I won't make a mistake in a few weeks time by trying to contact them again when I've forgotten they already said no"

Haha actually a good idea i made that mistake before

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks

"If someone has no interest in me I generally asked them to block me that way I won't make a mistake in a few weeks time by trying to contact them again when I've forgotten they already said no"

Same here... if I send a message and there is no reply then they aren't interested, handier to just block them as it saves having to remember profiles.

Same with messages read, not deleted... block after 1 week.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look folk,

I know there are a countless amount of gobshites here but it is a fuck site so what do ye expect!!

It's nice to be nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Look folk,

I know there are a countless amount of gobshites here but it is a fuck site so what do ye expect!!

It's nice to be nice"

Lmao! !! Is this a fuck site? ??

Ya could have fooled me! !!

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