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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Wife no interest in sex .. won't talk about won't watch sex and won't have sex ..well maybe once or twice a year and thinks it's normal .. so miss a good passionate roll in the hay .. love her to bits but it is so frustrating

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By *shoreMan
over a year ago

cork

Realy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just sit down, have a sip of tea and start with, "the funniest thing happened the other night in the pub, these two girls stared at me for a while now, and...."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

And even thinking it was me I've told her she can go with others but told me I was disgusting ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And even thinking it was me I've told her she can go with others but told me I was disgusting .. "

Nah,nah, nah, play the jealousy card

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

She won't even play the xbox one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe she's just not that into you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe she's just not that into you "

But am I into you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go talk to your wife. If you aren't happy leave. If you are happy just not with the lack of sex then you need to decide how important it is to you. As you can clearly see you aren't going to get any helpful advice here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe she's just not that into you "

Well I have asked her this .. and can only go by what she said and she said she is and loves me .. I get plenty of cuddles but no sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Go talk to your wife. If you aren't happy leave. If you are happy just not with the lack of sex then you need to decide how important it is to you. As you can clearly see you aren't going to get any helpful advice here. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Go talk to your wife. If you aren't happy leave. If you are happy just not with the lack of sex then you need to decide how important it is to you. As you can clearly see you aren't going to get any helpful advice here. "

Yes I do love her .. and to every guy sex is a big thing ..but love is bigger ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Go talk to your wife. If you aren't happy leave. If you are happy just not with the lack of sex then you need to decide how important it is to you. As you can clearly see you aren't going to get any helpful advice here.

Yes I do love her .. and to every guy sex is a big thing ..but love is bigger .."

Then either you stop meeting other people or you don't. But... You will get caught eventually and then she'll probably leave you anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you feel you can't communicate with your wife, suggest marriage counselling, an impartial third party can help put a different perspective on things.

If she refuses to engage, well, you know she has no interest in meeting your needs and simply wants to maintain the status quo for her own purposes. Where you decide to go from there is your next choice....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On another note, if your wife does decide to step up, do you intend to continue to indulge your bi tendencies? Are you prepared to disclose that to your wife?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or just put a roofie in her drink... *deadpool advice mode off*

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Prob ..I don't fancy men I like being dominated so not necessarily men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To the OP. Clearly the lack of sex bothered you enough to join fab, is your partner aware of that, does she agree?

If not, then the logical conclusion is that, though you say you love her to bits even with the lack of sex, you don't love her enough to not cheat?!?

If she does know and agrees, then just accept the situation....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*munches on his cockporn*

And there comes the "judgemental cheat" attack by in a bid to drive away the competition in the already bursting single male market...

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By *herry_bombshellWoman
over a year ago

northside


"*munches on his cockporn*

And there comes the "judgemental cheat" attack by in a bid to drive away the competition in the already bursting single male market... "

You must have a wife or husband. Cheating creeps always cry DONT JUDGE ME. So sad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"*munches on his cockporn*

And there comes the "judgemental cheat" attack by in a bid to drive away the competition in the already bursting single male market...

You must have a wife or husband. Cheating creeps always cry DONT JUDGE ME. So sad"

Wow, did you read my profile or you just figured that one out all by yourself?

Be that as it may, I have a bunch of wives, couple of hubbys, and I am cheating the shit out of them. *sigh of relief*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To the OP. Clearly the lack of sex bothered you enough to join fab, is your partner aware of that, does she agree?

If not, then the logical conclusion is that, though you say you love her to bits even with the lack of sex, you don't love her enough to not cheat?!?

If she does know and agrees, then just accept the situation...."

Here we go again... So you wouldn't meet a married woman?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If my being direct and calling a spade a spade makes me judgemental in someone's eyes, so be it, I certianly won't lose sleep over it...

For the OP I meant it as sincere direct input, maybe to open his eyes and conduct some self reflection, but I guess it may strike a sensitive cord with some people...

I've been around the block, not having cheated an being cheated on, but I can honestly say I'm happy now in a mutually agreed open relationship without lies and games being played.

Peace out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To the OP. Clearly the lack of sex bothered you enough to join fab, is your partner aware of that, does she agree?

If not, then the logical conclusion is that, though you say you love her to bits even with the lack of sex, you don't love her enough to not cheat?!?

If she does know and agrees, then just accept the situation....

Here we go again... So you wouldn't meet a married woman? "

I have no problems there, as long as I'm clear from my side, but if that person were to start moaning about the situation (to me or on a forum), I would tell them to have a good long hard look at themselves and figure it out.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

The man asked for advice, please keep personal attacks and nit picking his profile away from the forum please

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By *iamo69Man
over a year ago

South

Talk to her ..if she still against it tbh id leave her..way i look at it is you only have one life why waste it. Relationships are give and take but if you feel u realy need it and she wont budge its time to walk..

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By *s louWoman
over a year ago

Enniskillen


"Wife no interest in sex .. won't talk about won't watch sex and won't have sex ..well maybe once or twice a year and thinks it's normal .. so miss a good passionate roll in the hay .. love her to bits but it is so frustrating "

A few questions to try and help...and I don't mean for these to sound picky. Has she always been like this with sex? If yes, then I don't think there's much can be done to change the situation. If it's something that's only recently happened then maybe there's a reason? Loads of things can put people off sex....young kids, stress, work, tiredness, routine. I know from personal experience, I was in love with my ex but the sex had become routine and only when he wanted it, to the extent that I went off sex (with him at least) My advice would be to sit down and talk with her, find out why things have changed. Then it will give you something to work on to change the situation. Maybe agree to have a date night once a month and let her lead the way. Hope this helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have to agree i was prob same married a long time had small kids plus work and routine sex just wasnt doing it for me any more. So when he went and cheated i suppose that was my get out clause . He blamed me for cheating and yes i tell ppl now it was my fault for not giving what we noth wanted. So op u really need to make that decission . Best of luck wit it !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A correction on my earlier post here:

I've been around the block, both having cheated an being cheated on, but I can honestly say I'm happy now in a mutually agreed open relationship without lies and games being played.

For some reason it autocorrected "both" into "not", perhapd making me look like an angel, which I'm not

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By *oupleuncutCouple
over a year ago

dun laoghaire


"Maybe she's just not that into you "
that's a bit harsh!

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By *oupleuncutCouple
over a year ago

dun laoghaire

There's been a lot about this on the media recently. A presenter off loose women has said she gave her husband a green card to sleep with other women because she went off sex and felt it wasn't fair on him to have to do without. I can sympathize with you. I had an ex who would often turn me down and in the end he moved into a separate room. It was the loneliest feeling in the world and as a female I felt unattractive. All my friends were fighting off their other half in the bedroom and I was been rejected. I think you should tell her how you feel, if it's hard to discuss maybe write her a letter. Sex is important in a relationship. If it's just a short-term problem then of course you should wait until she's ready but if not then I think you should have a long think about if you should stay xxx

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By *obinho32Man
over a year ago

dublin

Im in the very same situation as op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok I always see both points,if you use to have lots of sex then stoped why is that??? Maybe because your wife is tired lookimg after the kids,or doing house work. Maybe because after awhile been together the sex becomes boring so if your wife don't give u sex try been good to her surprise her with some lovely dinner weekends away and spoil her make her feel special also wake her up licking her pussy then tell me if works or no. And also if u here in this site why not tell her let's swing spicy our life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wife no interest in sex .. won't talk about won't watch sex and won't have sex ..well maybe once or twice a year and thinks it's normal .. so miss a good passionate roll in the hay .. love her to bits but it is so frustrating

A few questions to try and help...and I don't mean for these to sound picky. Has she always been like this with sex? If yes, then I don't think there's much can be done to change the situation. If it's something that's only recently happened then maybe there's a reason? Loads of things can put people off sex....young kids, stress, work, tiredness, routine. I know from personal experience, I was in love with my ex but the sex had become routine and only when he wanted it, to the extent that I went off sex (with him at least) My advice would be to sit down and talk with her, find out why things have changed. Then it will give you something to work on to change the situation. Maybe agree to have a date night once a month and let her lead the way. Hope this helps "

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the bottom line is be decisive. If a relationship isn't working. Discuss it. Make adjustments. Find room to be honest and make the other person react to that honesty, rather than playing in the dark by yourself so to speak. Nobody knows the relationship as good as yourself so if it's not working have the balls do to something about it. You might think your activities on here are completely undetected bit even if she is not completely conscience of them you can't expect them not to effect your relationship subconsciously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the bottom line is be decisive. If a relationship isn't working. Discuss it. Make adjustments. Find room to be honest and make the other person react to that honesty, rather than playing in the dark by yourself so to speak. Nobody knows the relationship as good as yourself so if it's not working have the balls do to something about it. You might think your activities on here are completely undetected bit even if she is not completely conscience of them you can't expect them not to effect your relationship subconsciously "

*conscious

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By *ir1967Man
over a year ago

in da sticks, london, amsterdam, madrid


"*munches on his cockporn*

And there comes the "judgemental cheat" attack by in a bid to drive away the competition in the already bursting single male market...

You must have a wife or husband. Cheating creeps always cry DONT JUDGE ME. So sad"

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By *ublin_hungMan
over a year ago

Fundalk

OP I went through this as well. Speak to her about it ask her to go to counselling to try work things out. If she wont go or refuses to work on it.

leave her it's that simple. You have one life to live. Can you imagine putting up with this situation 20-30 years?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Go talk to your wife. If you aren't happy leave. If you are happy just not with the lack of sex then you need to decide how important it is to you. As you can clearly see you aren't going to get any helpful advice here.

Yes I do love her .. and to every guy sex is a big thing ..but love is bigger .."

And yet here u are...

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