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"The reason I took so long is because it happened to me and it felt like my whole world had ended at the time. I actually used to wish that I didn't know so that's the reason I'm hesitant about telling her. I'm sure she knows deep down. He's always away playing golf etc and he hasn't given her any commitment." She'll be more hurt when she finds out you kept it a secret from her. | |||
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"I'd rather keep my nose out of other people's business ... Yes you might feel better for saying it, but the knock on effects and devastation caused won't be worth it .. Forget the phone call, block his number and leave well alone." But it is her business, he involved her by texting | |||
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"I'd rather keep my nose out of other people's business ... Yes you might feel better for saying it, but the knock on effects and devastation caused won't be worth it .. Forget the phone call, block his number and leave well alone. But it is her business, he involved her by texting " It's also her prerogative whether she stays involved or removes herself from the equation | |||
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"I'd rather keep my nose out of other people's business ... Yes you might feel better for saying it, but the knock on effects and devastation caused won't be worth it .. Forget the phone call, block his number and leave well alone. But it is her business, he involved her by texting It's also her prerogative whether she stays involved or removes herself from the equation" Sooooo? Her friends fella texts her so now she can't be friends any more?????? | |||
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"I'd rather keep my nose out of other people's business ... Yes you might feel better for saying it, but the knock on effects and devastation caused won't be worth it .. Forget the phone call, block his number and leave well alone. But it is her business, he involved her by texting It's also her prerogative whether she stays involved or removes herself from the equation Sooooo? Her friends fella texts her so now she can't be friends any more??????" Noooo Candy. I meant by blocking his number and not giving him the opportunity to confide in her. She should always be there for her pal, defo ... But sometimes confronting people ain't always the best way forward. If she were to confront anyone it should be him and warn him off !! | |||
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"I'd rather keep my nose out of other people's business ... Yes you might feel better for saying it, but the knock on effects and devastation caused won't be worth it .. Forget the phone call, block his number and leave well alone. But it is her business, he involved her by texting It's also her prerogative whether she stays involved or removes herself from the equation Sooooo? Her friends fella texts her so now she can't be friends any more?????? Noooo Candy. I meant by blocking his number and not giving him the opportunity to confide in her. She should always be there for her pal, defo ... But sometimes confronting people ain't always the best way forward. If she were to confront anyone it should be him and warn him off !!" Ah. Right, but it's not her problem, tell the BF & let her deal with him. The OP is an innocent party so it seems. | |||
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"As friends we all want to see our friends be happy.... You already know your friend is not happy with her partner.... Yes she may not like you telling her... Another way is helping her to figure it out for herself.... Tell her to write down what she wants by the time she is 40 and what she thinksher current partner wants.. " Far kinder in the long run that presenting her with "evidence" that the guy could plausibly talk his way out of (I have to wonder why he has your number in the first place OP??). It's not your place to speculate on what he may or may not be doing behind her back. (Also have to wonder how the other friend knows he has 3 phones, yet his partner apparently does not - the devil is in the detail with all these "dilemmas" ) | |||
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"I'd rather keep my nose out of other people's business ... Yes you might feel better for saying it, but the knock on effects and devastation caused won't be worth it .. Forget the phone call, block his number and leave well alone. But it is her business, he involved her by texting It's also her prerogative whether she stays involved or removes herself from the equation Sooooo? Her friends fella texts her so now she can't be friends any more?????? Noooo Candy. I meant by blocking his number and not giving him the opportunity to confide in her. She should always be there for her pal, defo ... But sometimes confronting people ain't always the best way forward. If she were to confront anyone it should be him and warn him off !! Ah. Right, but it's not her problem, tell the BF & let her deal with him. The OP is an innocent party so it seems." Defo the innocent party !! I'd just hate if I were her pal and brought down her whole world by telling her of this just to make me feel better ... Look there's no easy way I suppose, just hope it gets resolved one way or the other .. | |||
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"From experince be prepared to lose her as a friend ..it can go one of two ways " I'd tell at the very least your friend deserves to know all the facts so she can make her own mind up . It's the right thing to do . I can't stand cheaters anyone who would treat someone they say they love so badly is the lowest of the low IMO | |||
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"I'd rather keep my nose out of other people's business ... Yes you might feel better for saying it, but the knock on effects and devastation caused won't be worth it .. Forget the phone call, block his number and leave well alone. But it is her business, he involved her by texting It's also her prerogative whether she stays involved or removes herself from the equation Sooooo? Her friends fella texts her so now she can't be friends any more?????? Noooo Candy. I meant by blocking his number and not giving him the opportunity to confide in her. She should always be there for her pal, defo ... But sometimes confronting people ain't always the best way forward. If she were to confront anyone it should be him and warn him off !! Ah. Right, but it's not her problem, tell the BF & let her deal with him. The OP is an innocent party so it seems. Defo the innocent party !! I'd just hate if I were her pal and brought down her whole world by telling her of this just to make me feel better ... Look there's no easy way I suppose, just hope it gets resolved one way or the other .." I'd personally hate to be planning a life with a gal like that and you can be damn sure my mates would tell me if I was been made a fool of... Just saying reverse the rolls guys we know the answer | |||
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"Think I read a similar post from you before op... I'd concentrate on your own relationship and keep your nose out of others...." | |||
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"Just make sure he doesn't try turning it back on you that you started it etc... You know what way things can be twisted " that's exactly what I thought! At the time I was just out of a marriage and didn't want to deal with anyone else's problems. I feel guilty about it but I do think she's seriously in denial | |||
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"As friends we all want to see our friends be happy.... You already know your friend is not happy with her partner.... Yes she may not like you telling her... Another way is helping her to figure it out for herself.... Tell her to write down what she wants by the time she is 40 and what she thinksher current partner wants.. " I actually did something like this on new year's eve with her, I asked my friends their three regrets and their three hopes and hers was to get married which gave me a lump in my throat. I'm just hoping that something will'click' with her and she'll realize that there's more out there for her. | |||
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"As friends we all want to see our friends be happy.... You already know your friend is not happy with her partner.... Yes she may not like you telling her... Another way is helping her to figure it out for herself.... Tell her to write down what she wants by the time she is 40 and what she thinksher current partner wants.. Far kinder in the long run that presenting her with "evidence" that the guy could plausibly talk his way out of (I have to wonder why he has your number in the first place OP??). It's not your place to speculate on what he may or may not be doing behind her back. (Also have to wonder how the other friend knows he has 3 phones, yet his partner apparently does not - the devil is in the detail with all these "dilemmas" )" he contacted me through facebook messenger. My ex has a couple of phones so I'm always wary about that, just from my own experience. | |||
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"Think I read a similar post from you before op... I'd concentrate on your own relationship and keep your nose out of others...." I thought the forum was for getting people's opinions. You usually get good advice and it's interesting to get other people's perspective outside your own circle | |||
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"Irrespective of personal issues, 12 years a waiting is a long time..." True... | |||
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"Irrespective of personal issues, 12 years a waiting is a long time... True..." Not every frog turns into a prince when you kiss him | |||
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"Irrespective of personal issues, 12 years a waiting is a long time... True... Not every frog turns into a prince when you kiss him " Some turn into filthy rich sheikhs with harems... | |||
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