FabSwingers.com forum: Couldnt get it up

By *oupleuncut OP Couple
over a year ago

dun laoghaire

My friend was out on a date after a long time being single. He was attractive but deffo not boyfriend material. After going without sex for a while and been very horny she decided to bring him back to hers for a much needed sex session. She's an attractive woman so he seemed delighted after a steamy kissing session when she indicated taking things to the bedroom....to her horror he just couldn't get an erection. She sucked it, kissed him all over, played with his balls everything she could do but his cock refused to join the party so her date ended up red-faced and leaving. My friend took this as a personal insult and felt unattractive. What can I say to reassure her? Is this a problem a lot of men have?

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By *ust4fun555Man
over a year ago

city centre

Perhaps he's gay but in denial?

(Or she was using too much teeth and he didn't have the confidence to tell her?

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By *oupleuncut OP Couple
over a year ago

dun laoghaire

"Perhaps he's gay but in denial?

(Or she was using too much teeth and he didn't have the confidence to tell her?"
lol no after a long steamy kissing session and her stripping off and stradling him....limp!

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By *ust4fun555Man
over a year ago

city centre

Maybe he had one too many wanks before meeting her - I would recommend not more than one myself..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of men have ed issues, some due to a physical issue or health condition such as diabetes, sometimes an ongoing psychological issue, or sometimes simple nerves or too much alcohol can cause a problem. It's most likely got nothing to do with your friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

she should have quit at the stage nothing happening . how soul destroying for both of em , no point flogging a dead horse but thats the stuff of nightmares , if it were me , id have just laughed and had a cuppa teea and a giggle . people are not sex machines , sometimes the chemistry is just not there , it is what it is , no need for her to beat herself up over it , thats not gonna help .

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By *ust4fun555Man
over a year ago

city centre

"Lots of men have ed issues, some due to a physical issue or health condition such as diabetes, sometimes an ongoing psychological issue, or sometimes simple nerves or too much alcohol can cause a problem. It's most likely got nothing to do with your friend."

My ED issue is normally the reverse :-

Wake up hard, go to sleep hard etc

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By *ontagMan
over a year ago

South side

There is no mention of his age, so I can only speculate it might be related to it.

Sometimes it's nature taking its course!

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare

Sometimes a guy isn't in the mood. He doesn't have to be suffering from anything and no one is at fault

Happens to women too but we can't fake it

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By *ortidanMan
over a year ago

Moira

Send her my way and she'l be feeling great in no time

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By *outhbelMan
over a year ago

Near Carryduff

I think the answer is already said, possibly medical issues or alcohol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to see this lovely guy who quite often couldn't get it up... Now I went through a phase of thinking "is it me" but it's most defo not.

We have a wee joke about it and he said it only happens if he's had too much drink or the morning after too much drink.

My conclusion was he ain't the guy for me as I love a good filthy d*unk session followed by a Sunday morning session. Just not compatable.

We are still friends but I just wouldn't get excited about the prospect of meeting him in that way anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I remember a scene in sex and the city years back where one of them invited a guy in for coffee and he declined as he had an early start the next day.

The four women were working out what it all meant till a guy in their company said "maybe he's just not into you "

There can be a lot of reasons for non performance and to try and make a big issue out of a one off is a pointless endeavour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I remember a scene in sex and the city years back where one of them invited a guy in for coffee and he declined as he had an early start the next day.

The four women were working out what it all meant till a guy in their company said "maybe he's just not into you "

There can be a lot of reasons for non performance and to try and make a big issue out of a one off is a pointless endeavour "

It happened, move on. It would be different if they were in a relationship.

It could have been him, it could have been her. Who knows.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe if she had bigger tits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I used to see this lovely guy who quite often couldn't get it up... Now I went through a phase of thinking "is it me" but it's most defo not.

We have a wee joke about it and he said it only happens if he's had too much drink or the morning after too much drink.

My conclusion was he ain't the guy for me as I love a good filthy d*unk session followed by a Sunday morning session. Just not compatable.

We are still friends but I just wouldn't get excited about the prospect of meeting him in that way anymore."

D*unk sex is amazing!!!

This hasn't happened to me (yet) I'm sure some day il come unstuck tho lol I hope she's understanding

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By *ardy cowboyMan
over a year ago

every wheat field around Midlands

To d*unk to fuck.can happen this end

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

Perhaps he found the cameras intimidating....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I used to see this lovely guy who quite often couldn't get it up... Now I went through a phase of thinking "is it me" but it's most defo not.

We have a wee joke about it and he said it only happens if he's had too much drink or the morning after too much drink.

My conclusion was he ain't the guy for me as I love a good filthy d*unk session followed by a Sunday morning session. Just not compatable.

We are still friends but I just wouldn't get excited about the prospect of meeting him in that way anymore.

D*unk sex is amazing!!!

This hasn't happened to me (yet) I'm sure some day il come unstuck tho lol I hope she's understanding "

Understanding the first time maybe

But now we just laugh about it. He invited me Round last summer to see his new hot tub and I replied "shall I bring the viagra?" Lol

No sex now just friends. He would rather make me a cup of tea and watch game of thrones lol seems some guys just don't need sex. See not compatable !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too d*unk or some pyschological issue with him in his head more than likely.. Definetly wouldnt say her fault

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is very normal that to happend some man just need more time then others poor guy feel so bad for him he should just forget about it and move on is a shame girls can pretend but guys not

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By *hocoholicWoman
over a year ago

The big D

"Is very normal that to happend some man just need more time then others poor guy feel so bad for him he should just forget about it and move on is a shame girls can pretend but guys not

Exactly, it doesn't have to be any deep down over-thought reason & it's not a big deal, there's plenty of other things to do & when he's ready itl happen for him.

I wouldn't take it personally, the fact he spent time with her & kisses her shows he's interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like a dear frankie letter

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

Was I the only one that thought this was going to be a thread about tents?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was I the only one that thought this was going to be a thread about tents?

Always difficult getting it up in the wind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I used to see this lovely guy who quite often couldn't get it up... Now I went through a phase of thinking "is it me" but it's most defo not.

We have a wee joke about it and he said it only happens if he's had too much drink or the morning after too much drink.

My conclusion was he ain't the guy for me as I love a good filthy d*unk session followed by a Sunday morning session. Just not compatable.

We are still friends but I just wouldn't get excited about the prospect of meeting him in that way anymore.

D*unk sex is amazing!!!

This hasn't happened to me (yet) I'm sure some day il come unstuck tho lol I hope she's understanding

Understanding the first time maybe

But now we just laugh about it. He invited me Round last summer to see his new hot tub and I replied "shall I bring the viagra?" Lol

No sex now just friends. He would rather make me a cup of tea and watch game of thrones lol seems some guys just don't need sex. See not compatable !"

What guy doesn't need sex!!

I don't think I could go back if I failed the first time. It would be mighty embarrassing lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My friend was out on a date after a long time being single. He was attractive but deffo not boyfriend material. After going without sex for a while and been very horny she decided to bring him back to hers for a much needed sex session. She's an attractive woman so he seemed delighted after a steamy kissing session when she indicated taking things to the bedroom....to her horror he just couldn't get an erection. She sucked it, kissed him all over, played with his balls everything she could do but his cock refused to join the party so her date ended up red-faced and leaving. My friend took this as a personal insult and felt unattractive. What can I say to reassure her? Is this a problem a lot of men have?"

He either had too much alcohol or was put off by her body naked. Either/or i would wager. Or maybe both

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By *oodbuddy 51Man
over a year ago

Puerto Rico, Gran Canaria

Do you never think the poor guy might have been to nervous and thats why he couldnt get it up, happens to a lot of guys especially if it was a first time they were together.

Dont always jump to conclusions and blame it on "Brewers Droop" for all we no the poor guy was just as upset.

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By *ublin_hungMan
over a year ago

Fundalk

How long is a piece of string. Who knows.

Can be lots of reasons. Tell your friend not to take it personally.

Probaly had nothing to do with her.

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By *tanonieMan
over a year ago

killorglin

"Do you never think the poor guy might have been to nervous and thats why he couldnt get it up, happens to a lot of guys especially if it was a first time they were together.

Dont always jump to conclusions and blame it on "Brewers Droop" for all we no the poor guy was just as upset."

Too true well said now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"she should have quit at the stage nothing happening . how soul destroying for both of em , no point flogging a dead horse but thats the stuff of nightmares , if it were me , id have just laughed and had a cuppa teea and a giggle . people are not sex machines , sometimes the chemistry is just not there , it is what it is , no need for her to beat herself up over it , thats not gonna help ."

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By *ickirishallsortsMan
over a year ago

Lickie Manor

I appreciate your friend may have felt deflated, and thats ok.

But you know what, sometimes the prettiest girl in the room might not the most attractive. To take it as a personal insult might not do anyone any good. Because someone doesn't respond to the mechanical efforts of a sexual encounter doesn't mean its an insult. Sometimes the ying and the yang don't align and you can't force it. Bodies are just vessels to the soul. The writing is on the wall If there is no response to touch. To take it as a personal insult might just say more about your friend than the guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How long is a piece of string.....

That's less important, but it certainly needs to be starched.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm probably going to end up limiting my chances of meeting someone off the site for what I'm about to say! I have had ed problems because of medical issues! Any time it has happened i always apologize to the lady and tell her it's not her it's me! It has made me insecure and before you ask tablets don't always work! So please ladies don't be insulted. Pedro

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had this happen with a few different men. I've never taken it personally and it's never put me off trying again with them. It happens for lots of reasons, and most of them are temporary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This could be down to the coolidge effect because the guy has been single for a long time link below

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSF82AwSDiU

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By *umpsMan
over a year ago

city

Playing with balls part maybe that's why he couldn't get it up. Personally for me, it does nothing for me...

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By *vsnikkiTV/TS
over a year ago

Limavady

Maybe she's just a minger. Blokes aren't just sex objects that will find any woman attractive. Why do women treat guys so callously?

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