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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just curious about one half of a couple meeting alone. Im looking to meet females and seen loads of hot females who are part of couples. What's the opinion of messaging Couples asking do they meet alone when it's not stated in their profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We wouldn't appreciate a message like that x

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By *armakazzyCouple
over a year ago

dublin south

I imagine it's best not to if they don't say it it's probably not what they are looking for.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We wouldn't appreciate a message like that x"

Yeah I know why you wouldn't, just wondering what people felt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless they've a single profile, like me, don't. It's rude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We wouldn't appreciate a message like that x

Yeah I know why you wouldn't, just wondering what people felt. "

I'd imagine most have filters have set up to avoid that like us. Unfortunately a lot of couples don't respect it though and ask

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless u see it on there profile altho i wo t meet part of cpls even if they do neet alone more trouble then its worth

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Unless they've a single profile, like me, don't. It's rude "

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By *cjoyCouple
over a year ago

Galway

We get asked all the time, it's not a big deal for us just to reply saying that it's not our preference.

Miss Mcjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmmmm? Short shrift I would imagine. As a single, you're already coming to the party lighthanded.

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By *armel and FrancisCouple
over a year ago

North wex

Well we openly meet alone mostly cos of practical things like childminding work and timing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unless u see it on there profile altho i wo t meet part of cpls even if they do neet alone more trouble then its worth "

Absolutely

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks


"Hmmmmm? Short shrift I would imagine. As a single, you're already coming to the party lighthanded. "

...and took great delight in starting the shit stirring thread about married guys!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unless u see it on there profile altho i wo t meet part of cpls even if they do neet alone more trouble then its worth "

Really??

I honestly dont have a problem with my other half meeting a female

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unless u see it on there profile altho i wo t meet part of cpls even if they do neet alone more trouble then its worth

Really??

I honestly dont have a problem with my other half meeting a female "

Same

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By *umpsMan
over a year ago

city


"Just curious about one half of a couple meeting alone. Im looking to meet females and seen loads of hot females who are part of couples. What's the opinion of messaging Couples asking do they meet alone when it's not stated in their profile?"

Couples experiment with swinging for fun and something they want to do together.... Be respectful don't ask to meet alone unless it's on their profile or one gives you the option..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We meet alone/separately. No harm in asking, don't know why anyone would take offence. A simple yes or no answer can't be that hard to type.

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By *andyrackkyMan
over a year ago

South


"We meet alone/separately. No harm in asking, don't know why anyone would take offence. A simple yes or no answer can't be that hard to type."

Good to see there is people like yourselves! I generally don't do it myself (personal reasons etc) I'm a firm believer in "if you don't ask, you don't get" sure no one else is gona do your dirty work

Plenty of people here though that dont give a second chance, can understand where OP is coming from

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By *ienDePlusCouple
over a year ago

dublin

Its good that you take the time to ask the question.

There is, of course, no 'correct' answer as one couple will say 'yes', one will say 'no' and a third will block you for even daring to suggest it.

Its up to you to decide what works for you but perhaps if you understood the psychology of couples you might tend towards not asking or only asking after establishing a correspondence ...

Couples tend to swing to further enhance their mutual pleasure. Many couples will therefore stipulate that they 'dont do separate room' because part of that 'mutual pleasure' is the visual and physical connectedness between them when untertaking 'taboo' sex. Other couples will do things like 'seperate room' but wont undertake such unless there is reciprocity going on (ie two MF swaps).

There are, of course, many (although fewer) couples seeking single males and those may well be open to separate meets but you shouldnt assume that is their default. Many 'straight male couples' enjoy MMF as they enjoy the sharing aspect much like the 'same room only' couples. That leaves a smaller fraction of single male friendly couples who would be open to 'solo' meets. They do exist, very often with more experienced couples who have progressed their kink and have no insecurity issues. But really that is a small number and they tend to signal that they are open to such.

So by all means approach couples how you see fit but realise that for every one you may successfully connect with there will be others you are annoying because they cannot countenance what you suggest. Expect insults, deletions and blocks.

Good luck whatever approach you choose.

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By *armel and FrancisCouple
over a year ago

North wex


"Its good that you take the time to ask the question.

There is, of course, no 'correct' answer as one couple will say 'yes', one will say 'no' and a third will block you for even daring to suggest it.

Its up to you to decide what works for you but perhaps if you understood the psychology of couples you might tend towards not asking or only asking after establishing a correspondence ...

Couples tend to swing to further enhance their mutual pleasure. Many couples will therefore stipulate that they 'dont do separate room' because part of that 'mutual pleasure' is the visual and physical connectedness between them when untertaking 'taboo' sex. Other couples will do things like 'seperate room' but wont undertake such unless there is reciprocity going on (ie two MF swaps).

There are, of course, many (although fewer) couples seeking single males and those may well be open to separate meets but you shouldnt assume that is their default. Many 'straight male couples' enjoy MMF as they enjoy the sharing aspect much like the 'same room only' couples. That leaves a smaller fraction of single male friendly couples who would be open to 'solo' meets. They do exist, very often with more experienced couples who have progressed their kink and have no insecurity issues. But really that is a small number and they tend to signal that they are open to such.

So by all means approach couples how you see fit but realise that for every one you may successfully connect with there will be others you are annoying because they cannot countenance what you suggest. Expect insults, deletions and blocks.

Good luck whatever approach you choose. "

So well said and articulate its sad that the vast majority of gentlemen fail to even begin to understand the psyche of a living together / married couple that swing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"Just curious about one half of a couple meeting alone. Im looking to meet females and seen loads of hot females who are part of couples. What's the opinion of messaging Couples asking do they meet alone when it's not stated in their profile?

If you do,you're a fucking tool."

Ah now, don't be so subtle. Tell us how you really feel.

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By *igglesAndGeekCouple
over a year ago

Galway

Something about this thread reminds me about a similar one a few months back...and that didn't end well for the op of the thread who since went unlos

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"Something about this thread reminds me about a similar one a few months back...and that didn't end well for the op of the thread who since went unlos"

I think the OP knew what the answer was before posting, but at least he worded it in a decent way.

If he came knuckle dragging into the thread with a one liner text speak question, then maybe some of the responses on this thread might have been warranted. but he was generally polite with his asking......

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By *Belfast_FellaMan
over a year ago

belfast

I tend to take at face value what people say on their profiles. If a couple say they don't meet alone, I wouldn't dream of asking if they meet alone.

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By *armel and FrancisCouple
over a year ago

North wex

You have to be 110% secure in ur relationship / marriage on both sides to allow ur partner / spouse and indeed ur best friend meet a stranger without any issues before or after.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Something about this thread reminds me about a similar one a few months back...and that didn't end well for the op of the thread who since went unlos

I think the OP knew what the answer was before posting, but at least he worded it in a decent way.

If he came knuckle dragging into the thread with a one liner text speak question, then maybe some of the responses on this thread might have been warranted. but he was generally polite with his asking......"

Yeah I was just wondering general opinion on it and different people have different views. I know some people here who are listened as couples but are singles as they don't want loads of messages as singles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's not clearly stated on the profile that they don't meet separately, then I really don't see the harm in asking politely.

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By *m158Couple
over a year ago

Cork

We are a couple play seperate and same room. It can be very confusing on the profile when most couple hit the both buttons on the list ....but when you chat about it most dont..

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By *hrill seekersCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

We have it on our profile but if the right person comes along we might. We both have met on our own previous. We have it on our profile to stop the million a day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You have to be 110% secure in ur relationship / marriage on both sides to allow ur partner / spouse and indeed ur best friend meet a stranger without any issues before or after."

We would think for a couple it is compulsory to have a rock solid relationship when getting into the lifestyle to begin with, regardless same room or seperate. If the mutual trust is not there then the couple shoukd not swing. When we play offshore from one and another, we ensure that the spouse who is not participating or absent gets his/her share. After all, even though stray play is hot for the active one, all swing is for us to add the extra bit of spice on our relationship, not to change ir find a new spouse.

Playing apart does take away the pressure and allows us to enjoy and focus on the playdate mate.

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By *armel and FrancisCouple
over a year ago

North wex


"You have to be 110% secure in ur relationship / marriage on both sides to allow ur partner / spouse and indeed ur best friend meet a stranger without any issues before or after.

We would think for a couple it is compulsory to have a rock solid relationship when getting into the lifestyle to begin with, regardless same room or seperate. If the mutual trust is not there then the couple shoukd not swing. When we play offshore from one and another, we ensure that the spouse who is not participating or absent gets his/her share. After all, even though stray play is hot for the active one, all swing is for us to add the extra bit of spice on our relationship, not to change ir find a new spouse.

Playing apart does take away the pressure and allows us to enjoy and focus on the playdate mate."

Fully agree with you but from our experience there are very few couples who swing who truly have this. And invariably issues arise. In saying that we have met a small handful of couples over the years who like us have zero issues... thats the ultimate but sadly not the norm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You have to be 110% secure in ur relationship / marriage on both sides to allow ur partner / spouse and indeed ur best friend meet a stranger without any issues before or after.

We would think for a couple it is compulsory to have a rock solid relationship when getting into the lifestyle to begin with, regardless same room or seperate. If the mutual trust is not there then the couple shoukd not swing. When we play offshore from one and another, we ensure that the spouse who is not participating or absent gets his/her share. After all, even though stray play is hot for the active one, all swing is for us to add the extra bit of spice on our relationship, not to change ir find a new spouse.

Playing apart does take away the pressure and allows us to enjoy and focus on the playdate mate.

Fully agree with you but from our experience there are very few couples who swing who truly have this. And invariably issues arise. In saying that we have met a small handful of couples over the years who like us have zero issues... thats the ultimate but sadly not the norm."

Well...then you might should meet us someday

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By *oughandCurvyCouple
over a year ago

galway


"If it's not clearly stated on the profile that they don't meet separately, then I really don't see the harm in asking politely. "

I'm with you on this one Penny, you wont know until you ask but like penny said ask politely not just a "hey can I screw your missus" kind of message.

Lots of couples are a package deal and I think some do get offened by the question but not every couple feels that way. Once you are respectful to both parts of the couple in the way you ask then I dont see why anyone would take offense!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just curious about one half of a couple meeting alone. Im looking to meet females and seen loads of hot females who are part of couples. What's the opinion of messaging Couples asking do they meet alone when it's not stated in their profile?"

Unless it says they meet alone on their profile I reckon it would be best to jog on coz it would be rude and insulting to ask.. just our opinion though

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By *oupleuncutCouple
over a year ago

dun laoghaire

Some men can be a bit disrespectful to my boyfriend in their messages, saying that if they were my boyfriend they wouldn't want to share me. This is something we both want to do together. I always say that we don't meet alone but they keep asking. They say things like he (my boyfriend) can watch me fuck you like it's a spectator sport. I think single men sometimes get confused with a cuckold relationship

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By *armel and FrancisCouple
over a year ago

North wex


"You have to be 110% secure in ur relationship / marriage on both sides to allow ur partner / spouse and indeed ur best friend meet a stranger without any issues before or after.

We would think for a couple it is compulsory to have a rock solid relationship when getting into the lifestyle to begin with, regardless same room or seperate. If the mutual trust is not there then the couple shoukd not swing. When we play offshore from one and another, we ensure that the spouse who is not participating or absent gets his/her share. After all, even though stray play is hot for the active one, all swing is for us to add the extra bit of spice on our relationship, not to change ir find a new spouse.

Playing apart does take away the pressure and allows us to enjoy and focus on the playdate mate.

Fully agree with you but from our experience there are very few couples who swing who truly have this. And invariably issues arise. In saying that we have met a small handful of couples over the years who like us have zero issues... thats the ultimate but sadly not the norm.

Well...then you might should meet us someday "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they don't ask for it don't message them, simple as that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We wouldn't appreciate a message like that x"

We get it all the time, immediate block!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If it's not clearly stated on the profile that they don't meet separately, then I really don't see the harm in asking politely.

I'm with you on this one Penny, you wont know until you ask but like penny said ask politely not just a "hey can I screw your missus" kind of message.

Lots of couples are a package deal and I think some do get offened by the question but not every couple feels that way. Once you are respectful to both parts of the couple in the way you ask then I dont see why anyone would take offense!"

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