FabSwingers.com forum: Newbies and meets

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi All,

Here is a dilemma we are trying to get our head around. Being a genuine couple, proactive and enthusiastic, we are yet to have our first proper meet.

You know what, it's even harder than looking for a job. I can only think people read our message, look at the profile and think to themselves: "well, these guys have no experience..". Really?! We are in our 30's and we don't know how to f***?? Come on, give us a break (or a chance, whatever..)!

So, we want to hear from all experienced swingers, as well as from those in the same boat, what are your views on a subject.

Now, it's a bed time for us. Have to master a skill, if you like

) Will read all your posts tomorrow, keep it coming. The more the merrier. Will respond tomorrow. Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For a couple who want to 'make it simple' your profile text is too lengthy.

The first paragraph after your Galway details is enough.

Negativity and derogatory comments about others on the site is a real turn off for me personally.

I think your statement of "most people on here appears to be totally out of sync with reality and don't really know what they are doing here" is not correct especially if you think there are some who want to 'fall in love' with a couple???

It's an NSA sex site and believe me there are plenty of us here long enough that do it regularly

May I suggest a few sexy pics of you both to attract more attention?

Best of luck and have fun.

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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago

and surrounding areas

"For a couple who want to 'make it simple' your profile text is too lengthy.

The first paragraph after your Galway details is enough.

Negativity and derogatory comments about others on the site is a real turn off for me personally.

It's an NSA sex site and believe me there are plenty of us here long enough that do it regularly

May I suggest a few sexy pics of you both to attract more attention?

Best of luck and have fun.

this , but there still sum of us genuine people here too , u just have to look for them , but if ye want to meet for a coffee and chat , u know where we are

Mrs crazy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree the whole profile is very convoluted. The syntax is a over the place. You'd be better to strip it down, simplify and soundlike someone that would be fun to be around. If your profile is that difficult to read it doesn't suggest your company would be a whole lot better. Too much negativity in it in my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree the whole profile is very convoluted. The syntax is a over the place. You'd be better to strip it down, simplify and soundlike someone that would be fun to be around. If your profile is that difficult to read it doesn't suggest your company would be a whole lot better. Too much negativity in it in my opinion "

He says while making numerous typos

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too negative for me. I like to click and have chemistry. I don't need to be told by a couple that I should try a dating site.

A smile goes a long way too

Best of luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Imo any gigantic written profile screams to me, this one is extremely high maintenance and needs every nitty gritty thing under the horizon before a meet is considered

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks guys. I appreciate your comments. Good point. We will try to change it. See how it goes.

It's hard to understand what's right or wrong...

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

It's funny you ask here for advice while on your profile you're telling peeps what they're doing wrong.

For most people attraction is not defined by looks only, but what they refer to as chemistry ie having a laugh together, setting their naughty mind on fire etcetera. This has nothing to do with love, but with getting most out of a meet rather than mechanical sex.

Try a m&g and relax and hopefully you'll get the game going for yourself.

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By *anaduABCMan
over a year ago

Dublin

"It's funny you ask here for advice while on your profile you're telling peeps what they're doing wrong.

Try a m&g and relax and hopefully you'll get the game going for yourself. "

For a newbie single male, the advice is always go to a meet and greet, get to know people etc etc. If only it were that easy...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It reads fine now

i didnt see the other one....the headline might put the odd girl off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put some sort of couple pic up just looks like a single mans profile I wouldn't even read the profile, unless I had to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok..ive read the re-write..nothing controversial there...but when I looked at the pics..

..and I'm sorry if this is ridiculously judgemental..

..but something about them screamed...ego..avoid..no craic...

..sorry....but if you come on the forum and ask for advice you will get it..

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By *tsUS1990Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

Are you sure the missus knows about this profile?

The male pics are all very posed and her pics are just normal ones you might take at home.

It reads very much from the male point of view, and about what the male wants.

I read it before it was changed and it came across a bit arrogant, as though the ladies should be queuing up for the opportunity.

It's better now, but needs to be a bit friendlier.

I wouldn't be sending any messages (but I'm not looking for what you're looking for anyway).

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By *tsUS1990Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

"Put some sort of couple pic up just looks like a single mans profile I wouldn't even read the profile, unless I had to."

Exactly

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By *unlinguyMan
over a year ago

South Dublin

"Too negative for me. I like to click and have chemistry. I don't need to be told by a couple that I should try a dating site.

A smile goes a long way too

Best of luck

Could smile at you all day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profile overall bit negative for us...make it more light hearted and fun..Your opinion about others on here should be kept in ur mind not on ur profile..happy swinging

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By *0shadesofashWoman
over a year ago

DUBLIN

U look like u spend hours doing ur hair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"U look like u spend hours doing ur hair "

I think it's a wig

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By *0shadesofashWoman
over a year ago

DUBLIN

"U look like u spend hours doing ur hair

I think it's a wig"
I just wanna wreck it hahah

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Morning All!

Thank you guys for all the constructive criticism and the advise. We really appreciate all that and so we take it as an opportunity for improvement

Yes, you're all right in saying the description was too negative and lengthy..

As for the photos, we had very intimate pics in public gallery at the start and no face pics. Well, we got a lot of attention from people who are far from taking it seriously and honestly, appear to have no other means than killing time on Fab. We have therefore decided to replace those with normal photos to include the face, which seems to have been a right decision, and kept intimate photos in private gallery. Profile picture is always Mrs's choice but I agree that for couple's profile, pic of a couple is much more appropriate

Thanks again for taking part in this forum, you're all amazing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks guys. I appreciate your comments. Good point. We will try to change it. See how it goes.

It's hard to understand what's right or wrong..."

Just go with what's right for you. If it's wrong for others that's there problem. Why should you change to fit someone else's criteria. On here it's different strokes for different folks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thanks guys. I appreciate your comments. Good point. We will try to change it. See how it goes.

It's hard to understand what's right or wrong...

Just go with what's right for you. If it's wrong for others that's there problem. Why should you change to fit someone else's criteria. On here it's different strokes for different folks "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is what it is...my profile is complete dung..ppl.just like my ass...but it does attract funny easy goin types which is right up my street...im not a kinkster..

.and nsai...means..no strings attached intimacy..

.noone seems to get that...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are in town on saturday and are happy to meet social to get verified. Just PM us if interested

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