FabSwingers.com forum: Bad Sex

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Could you be in a relationship with someone if the sex was bad?

If everything about that person was perfect and you wanted to spend the rest of your days with them...

Would you be able to sacrifice good sex for that kind of happiness?

Or would it be a deal breaker for you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Could you be in a relationship with someone if the sex was bad?

If everything about that person was perfect and you wanted to spend the rest of your days with them...

Would you be able to sacrifice good sex for that kind of happiness?

Or would it be a deal breaker for you?"
no excuse for anyone to be bad at sex!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if everything was grand then id make it work..

Takes two to have sex, maybe try new things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How could everything about them be perfect yet the sex be crap - that doesn't add up at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a good teacher, I can break any man/woman in. I believe that lots and lots of practice makes perfect, a good spanking with a firm hand does no harm if they don't hit the right spot,pretty soon you'll have the perfect lover.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How could everything about them be perfect yet the sex be crap - that doesn't add up at all."

Why doesn't it?

It can happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How could everything about them be perfect yet the sex be crap - that doesn't add up at all.

Why doesn't it?

It can happen "

Bad sex can be improved by honest communication and trust - without those the relationship is far from good in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How could everything about them be perfect yet the sex be crap - that doesn't add up at all.

Why doesn't it?

It can happen

Bad sex can be improved by honest communication and trust - without those the relationship is far from good in the first place."

You're jumping to the wrong assumptions straight away but that's ok because I wasn't asking why the sex was bad in this situation .

And in this situation the sex can't be improved. It will most likely always be bad. For various reasons.

So my original question of is it a deal breaker still remains.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I don't think I would be truly satisfied with the relationship if it was "bad sex". I can understand how sex can become boring if you don't put in the effort. However I couldn't endure bad sex for the sake of a seemingly perfect relationship. Sex is that important to me.

I went out with a guy once who when drinking quite often couldn't get it up. Frustrated the complete life out of me. As lovely a guy and as good a catch as he is.... I kinda feel sorry for his new gf.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a good teacher, I can break any man/woman in. I believe that lots and lots of practice makes perfect, a good spanking with a firm hand does no harm if they don't hit the right spot,pretty soon you'll have the perfect lover.

Thats not an answer to the question in fairness.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Aren't you great

But again, I didn't ask how to improve the sex life in this situation so you've not answered my question at all.

Thanks for your input.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How could everything about them be perfect yet the sex be crap - that doesn't add up at all.

Why doesn't it?

It can happen

Bad sex can be improved by honest communication and trust - without those the relationship is far from good in the first place.

You're jumping to the wrong assumptions straight away but that's ok because I wasn't asking why the sex was bad in this situation .

And in this situation the sex can't be improved. It will most likely always be bad. For various reasons.

So my original question of is it a deal breaker still remains. "

Then I wouldn't have gotten into the relationship in the first place. Crap sex isn't better than no sex.

However, if you're talking about a long-term relationship where the sex was once great and something has happened e.g. physical injury or illness, then it's a different matter. Sometimes problems can be overcome or adjustments made - a loss of physical capacity in some sense (not necessarily sexual) happens to most as part of the natural course of life - with love, understanding, patience and goodwill on both sides, a compromise can often be reached. It depends on what you mean by "bad sex".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess that's why some couples are on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I guess that's why some couples are on here. "

So they can have bad sex with other people?

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By *oughandCurvyCouple
over a year ago

galway

It would be a deal breaker for sure. How many people cheat on their spouse because they feel they aren't getting what they need sexually or they feel their partner wont understand or accept their kinks or prefrences etc? You hear of it all the time.

Frankly you can only suppress you're sexual needs for so long before they come back with a vengeance and by then it will be too late as you will already be invested!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How could everything about them be perfect yet the sex be crap - that doesn't add up at all.

Why doesn't it?

It can happen

Bad sex can be improved by honest communication and trust - without those the relationship is far from good in the first place.

You're jumping to the wrong assumptions straight away but that's ok because I wasn't asking why the sex was bad in this situation .

And in this situation the sex can't be improved. It will most likely always be bad. For various reasons.

So my original question of is it a deal breaker still remains. "

It's not a choice between the 2 in the real world. Things can be improved if you both want. If you DON'T both want, then you have bigger problems, and the lack of good sex is probably a symptom of that. Noone is born great at sex, everyone has to work at it a bit. Educate them. It takes 2 people to have shit sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How could everything about them be perfect yet the sex be crap - that doesn't add up at all.

Why doesn't it?

It can happen

Bad sex can be improved by honest communication and trust - without those the relationship is far from good in the first place.

You're jumping to the wrong assumptions straight away but that's ok because I wasn't asking why the sex was bad in this situation .

And in this situation the sex can't be improved. It will most likely always be bad. For various reasons.

So my original question of is it a deal breaker still remains.

Exactly my point. Shit sex (unless there is a medical or psychological issue) is a reflection of problems in the relationship in the first place.

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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago

otherside of nowhere

Not sure but for what it's worth if their is no hope of a improvement it will be very difficult to keep the relationship going....if the person in question is you or is on the site then sex is very important to them and not something that can be put aside no matter how perfect in other ways....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My last relationship ended pretty much for this reason. Lovely girl. Smart, and caring, but was so rigid during sex. Always seemed jumpy and it hurt for her alot of the time. The relationship last five months. And for me the poor sex was an absolute deal breaker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How could everything about them be perfect yet the sex be crap - that doesn't add up at all.

Why doesn't it?

It can happen

Bad sex can be improved by honest communication and trust - without those the relationship is far from good in the first place.

You're jumping to the wrong assumptions straight away but that's ok because I wasn't asking why the sex was bad in this situation .

And in this situation the sex can't be improved. It will most likely always be bad. For various reasons.

So my original question of is it a deal breaker still remains.

She just said it can't be improved. It doesn't indicate bigger problems.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How could everything about them be perfect yet the sex be crap - that doesn't add up at all.

Why doesn't it?

It can happen

Bad sex can be improved by honest communication and trust - without those the relationship is far from good in the first place.

You're jumping to the wrong assumptions straight away but that's ok because I wasn't asking why the sex was bad in this situation .

And in this situation the sex can't be improved. It will most likely always be bad. For various reasons.

So my original question of is it a deal breaker still remains.

Exactly my point. Shit sex (unless there is a medical or psychological issue) is a reflection of problems in the relationship in the first place."

I'm guessing from the update by the op there are no problems in the relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How could everything about them be perfect yet the sex be crap - that doesn't add up at all.

Why doesn't it?

It can happen

Bad sex can be improved by honest communication and trust - without those the relationship is far from good in the first place.

You're jumping to the wrong assumptions straight away but that's ok because I wasn't asking why the sex was bad in this situation .

And in this situation the sex can't be improved. It will most likely always be bad. For various reasons.

So my original question of is it a deal breaker still remains.

Exactly my point. Shit sex (unless there is a medical or psychological issue) is a reflection of problems in the relationship in the first place.

I'm guessing from the update by the op there are no problems in the relationship. "

If there were no problems, why would there be a problem? Simply doesn't add up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How could everything about them be perfect yet the sex be crap - that doesn't add up at all.

Why doesn't it?

It can happen

Bad sex can be improved by honest communication and trust - without those the relationship is far from good in the first place.

You're jumping to the wrong assumptions straight away but that's ok because I wasn't asking why the sex was bad in this situation .

And in this situation the sex can't be improved. It will most likely always be bad. For various reasons.

So my original question of is it a deal breaker still remains.

Exactly my point. Shit sex (unless there is a medical or psychological issue) is a reflection of problems in the relationship in the first place.

I'm guessing from the update by the op there are no problems in the relationship.

If there were no problems, why would there be a problem? Simply doesn't add up. "

I said no problems in the relationship. Maybe there is a medical condition

so ya it does add up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyway, there's very little point OP in looking for generalised answers from strangers to what appears to be a specific problem of yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyway, there's very little point OP in looking for generalised answers from strangers to what appears to be a specific problem of yours."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my opinion, nearly everyone can have good sex. If your partner doesn't have the skills they can be tought. If there is a medical issue then it should be looked at.

If a partner would rather lose you than learn and make an effort, then there ARE bigger problems.

Note - I'd agree that this doesn't apply where there are medical issues at effecting sex. In this case they could genuinely be unable to give you what someone a great experience in bed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyway, there's very little point OP in looking for generalised answers from strangers to what appears to be a specific problem of yours."

What?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How could everything about them be perfect yet the sex be crap - that doesn't add up at all.

Why doesn't it?

It can happen

Bad sex can be improved by honest communication and trust - without those the relationship is far from good in the first place.

You're jumping to the wrong assumptions straight away but that's ok because I wasn't asking why the sex was bad in this situation .

And in this situation the sex can't be improved. It will most likely always be bad. For various reasons.

So my original question of is it a deal breaker still remains.

Exactly my point. Shit sex (unless there is a medical or psychological issue) is a reflection of problems in the relationship in the first place.

I'm guessing from the update by the op there are no problems in the relationship. "

Theres obviously something wrong in the relationship as one person isnt happy with their sex life.

I think it depends on the people involved and how much they want the relationship to work. I Think talking about the situation with your partner is the only way you can find a way forward one way or another.

Mrs B