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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey so I mrquickfuck (seriously need to change our name lol) am turning 35 tomorrow and for some reason it's bothering me.. Like most of my birthdays are just a normal day but I'm evaluating my current life achievements ahem and I'm not happy with man I have become outside of my woman and my activities outside of swinging like my comedy club and attempted career as a stand up I find it hard to justify my 34 years up until now... Yes I suffer from depression and have my demons like we all do but I'm wondering do any of you guys feel the same growing another year older.. Apologies if this is not the usual type of thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm forty next week. Revaluating your life isn't a bad thing. Remember its never too late to do anything you want. Set your goals and be the best version of you on a daily basis. If you do this, you can't look back with any disappointment. Good luck OP

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thank you sir

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm forty next week. Revaluating your life isn't a bad thing. Remember its never too late to do anything you want. Set your goals and be the best version of you on a daily basis. If you do this, you can't look back with any disappointment. Good luck OP"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey so I mrquickfuck (seriously need to change our name lol) am turning 35 tomorrow and for some reason it's bothering me.. Like most of my birthdays are just a normal day but I'm evaluating my current life achievements ahem and I'm not happy with man I have become outside of my woman and my activities outside of swinging like my comedy club and attempted career as a stand up I find it hard to justify my 34 years up until now... Yes I suffer from depression and have my demons like we all do but I'm wondering do any of you guys feel the same growing another year older.. Apologies if this is not the usual type of thread

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Our lives have no meaning, other than that which we choose to assign to them - if your current life is unsatisfying, then you should perhaps assess each area and decide whether or not it has any real benefit for you - tangible or otherwise, there is no harm in admitting that you've tried something and it hasn't worked out.

Depression can make us very hard on ourselves, would someone else criticise you as harshly? Be kind to yourself, and take the time every day to recognise the things that are good in your life and be thankful for them. Take time out to relax, walk or other outdoor exercise is good for us mind and body. Assess your friendships, are any of them dragging you down? Cultivate the company of positive people and it makes you more positive in turn.

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin

With every passing year I feel more and more the cold shadow of death upon me.

Meh, could be worse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No worries boyo you are a young fella yet need a beer or wanna act like a child for a while I'm certainly your man lol .....it is but a number and what you are is more experienced to know what makes you happy and what doesn't so pecker up and enjoy it ....young fella

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks June ya header

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"With every passing year I feel more and more the cold shadow of death upon me.

Meh, could be worse. "
Yeah we could actually die lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hey so I mrquickfuck (seriously need to change our name lol) am turning 35 tomorrow and for some reason it's bothering me.. Like most of my birthdays are just a normal day but I'm evaluating my current life achievements ahem and I'm not happy with man I have become outside of my woman and my activities outside of swinging like my comedy club and attempted career as a stand up I find it hard to justify my 34 years up until now... Yes I suffer from depression and have my demons like we all do but I'm wondering do any of you guys feel the same growing another year older.. Apologies if this is not the usual type of thread

Our lives have no meaning, other than that which we choose to assign to them - if your current life is unsatisfying, then you should perhaps assess each area and decide whether or not it has any real benefit for you - tangible or otherwise, there is no harm in admitting that you've tried something and it hasn't worked out.

Depression can make us very hard on ourselves, would someone else criticise you as harshly? Be kind to yourself, and take the time every day to recognise the things that are good in your life and be thankful for them. Take time out to relax, walk or other outdoor exercise is good for us mind and body. Assess your friendships, are any of them dragging you down? Cultivate the company of positive people and it makes you more positive in turn."

Thanks so much

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin

I read a good one recently:

I'm a 40 year old who thinks he's a 20 year old, until I hang around with 20 year olds and then then I think, "yep, I'm 40"

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By *urious fem ddWoman
over a year ago

dublin

Congratulations, happy birthday!

Everyday I need to be thankful for something. I need to do something nice for someone else without being asked. Its the small everyday things that keep me happy. Life will have highs and lows. The higher the highs.. the more likely you will feel the lows. And feel them as very low. Chin up, look up, look out and take in your surroundings. Taking time to evaluate us always good.

Set short, medium and long term goals. Be specific, measured, achievable, realistic and timed. Have a time frame to work within, small things you can do regularly to achieve your end goal.

Always try to be grateful for what you have. Happy birthday xxx.

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By *-ManMan
over a year ago

Kark

Hey man, you're not alone, most people feel that way at times but you need to stop being so hard on yourself, there's no minimum requirement that you have to reach by a certain age, all you really need to reach is happiness and you already seem to have in certain areas of your life. You don't have to justify your life, life is just life, no justification needed.

But I recognise you feel you're not being the best version of you that you can be, that's a good thing, now you and can take action to improve yourself, doing stand up was you taking action, forget about the result, it's the action taking that's key here, keep doing more of that and eventually something will stick.

A couple of things I found to be helpful was meditation, check out Eckhart Tolle and Tony Robbins. Also not to think how do I improve my one area of my life by 100% but rather think how do I improve each area of my life by 1%. Best of luck with it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happy birthday OP you got some great advice there your still young and fresh air and exersize as has been said is great for clearing the head out. Go out and book a crazy holiday or something and celebrate being 35 properly

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By *rossflow daveMan
over a year ago

Mullingar

Life is like a roll of toilet paper!

The closer you get to the end , the faster it goes !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like that Dave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The most interesting people I know, didn't know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives,,,,,,,,,,,some of the most interesting 40-year-olds I know still don't.......

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By *rossflow daveMan
over a year ago

Mullingar


"I like that Dave."

I heard it ages ago and thought it was a good one

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks everyone so much ur advice is so welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happy birthday op. live life one day at a time I have suffered with depression I will be turning 54 in June like one person said go out take a walk.or try different things. I got into martial arts then the gym and boxing became a coach found fab and many kind people on here who will chat and listen to what you say so again have a very happy birthday tomorrow from me and naughtygirl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happy birthday for tomorrow OP.

Having suffered from depression for most of my life i found the only way to get to grips with it was to start changing things in my life, only you can do that. Start with the little things and take one day at a time. Also dont punish yourself for having a bad day, be kind to yourself and remember the down days are predecessors for the good days.

Theres a lot of good advice on this thread and i hope it helps.

Oh and more importantly your 35, still a lot of life to live so make it count!

Mrs B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Happy birthday for tomorrow OP.

Having suffered from depression for most of my life i found the only way to get to grips with it was to start changing things in my life, only you can do that. Start with the little things and take one day at a time. Also dont punish yourself for having a bad day, be kind to yourself and remember the down days are predecessors for the good days.

Theres a lot of good advice on this thread and i hope it helps.

Oh and more importantly your 35, still a lot of life to live so make it count!

Mrs B "
....MrsB. What a fabulous and very honest post...A brave thing to write about and wonderful words of encouragement for others...Always Stay Strong...Love Phil xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Mrs b that was an inspiring reply thank u so much xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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The most interesting people I know, didn't know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives,,,,,,,,,,,some of the most interesting 40-year-olds I know still don't......."

+1 for the baz luhrman quote.

But like everyone has said already try be positive and don't be so hard on yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey so I mrquickfuck (seriously need to change our name lol) am turning 35 tomorrow and for some reason it's bothering me.. Like most of my birthdays are just a normal day but I'm evaluating my current life achievements ahem and I'm not happy with man I have become outside of my woman and my activities outside of swinging like my comedy club and attempted career as a stand up I find it hard to justify my 34 years up until now... Yes I suffer from depression and have my demons like we all do but I'm wondering do any of you guys feel the same growing another year older.. Apologies if this is not the usual type of thread

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Felt exactly as you do , always mulling over my life, achievments, goals ect...

Then I had an extremely bad accident, still recovering ..

It sure brought home to me just how precious life is, there to be embraced through good times and bad...

Enjoy your birthday, hope you are getting help with your depression

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By *ean0001Man
over a year ago

Dublin West

It's ok not to be ok..

And its really ok to ask for help..

Set little goals for yourself and remember the world is a better place with you in it.

Stay strong..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mrs b that was an inspiring reply thank u so much xx"

If ever you need a shoulder, mine are pretty broad

Mrs B

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Mrs b that was an inspiring reply thank u so much xx

If ever you need a shoulder, mine are pretty broad

Mrs B "

Thanks I'm not one for accepting help of any kind but I will defo take ur offer its nice to see that this site builds confidence and friendships... Feeling good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mrs b that was an inspiring reply thank u so much xx

If ever you need a shoulder, mine are pretty broad

Mrs B

Thanks I'm not one for accepting help of any kind but I will defo take ur offer its nice to see that this site builds confidence and friendships... Feeling good "

Maybe you should start?? Theres no shame in depression the shame lies with the people who dont acknowledge it or worse, those who say things like 'what have you got to be depressed about'. Sooooo infuriating.

Anyway (im starting to rant). My offers always there babe x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Mrs b that was an inspiring reply thank u so much xx

If ever you need a shoulder, mine are pretty broad

Mrs B

Thanks I'm not one for accepting help of any kind but I will defo take ur offer its nice to see that this site builds confidence and friendships... Feeling good

Maybe you should start?? Theres no shame in depression the shame lies with the people who dont acknowledge it or worse, those who say things like 'what have you got to be depressed about'. Sooooo infuriating.

Anyway (im starting to rant). My offers always there babe x"

Rant away... Depression sucks big time people need not be so afraid of speaking up..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happy birthday buddy

It is but a number embrace it

Like a fine wine, Kaizer gets better with age

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By *ceryMan
over a year ago

Malahide & Waterford

Birthdays come and go. Some are better than others. Some hold more surprises than others. The main thing though is to believe and trust the family and friends you have around you. They will make birthdays and every thing else in between worth while.

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By *ittleman300Man
over a year ago

tralee

Happy birthday ,your only a young lad,I was 50 a month ago you should live every day as if was your last,some day you'll be right,enjoy your day,life is precious,

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