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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I know this will do me a lot of harm...but girls on here need to realise this is a swingers site!! If your only looking for a chat than maybe try Facebook!!

And when lads say "hi how are you"

Or "how are you finding this place" they are trying to be nice.. Bear in mind that's probably not what they would like to say but after texting God knows how many girls with no reply it does become a little boring!!!

I've personally have fun on here and met some really nice people. But I know a lot of men on here haven't had the same luck..

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By *isdirtygirlWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

nice to hear a voice to back up the lads. From a womans point of view its the volume of mail thats recieved thats an issue. It can be ignorant yes and I hold my hands up to not responding at times,even with filters in place. Theres too many lads here compared to women. If i could break myself into millions of pieces and meet a lot more than i do,believe me i would

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

More girls like you would be fantastic

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By *vpamelaTV/TS
over a year ago

kinkville


" nice to hear a voice to back up the lads. From a womans point of view its the volume of mail thats recieved thats an issue. It can be ignorant yes and I hold my hands up to not responding at times,even with filters in place. Theres too many lads here compared to women. If i could break myself into millions of pieces and meet a lot more than i do,believe me i would "

I would love to say I have a volume problem too but I don't haha but I do respond with ignorance if I am approached with ignorance. (Does that make sense? (ie I don't respond!!)

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By *appyPandaMan
over a year ago

Kilkenny, but Dublin is more fun


"I know this will do me a lot of harm...but girls on here need to realise this is a swingers site!! If your only looking for a chat than maybe try Facebook!!

And when lads say "hi how are you"

Or "how are you finding this place" they are trying to be nicer.. Bear in mind that's probably not what they would like to say but after texting God knows how many girls with no reply it does become a little boring!!!

I've personally have fun on here and met some really nice people. But I know a lot of men on here haven't had the same luck..

"

Agree a small bit but have you seen how many messages the women here get every day? If a woman is able to reply to the 100s of "Hi, how are you?" messages she gets each week, she clearly is some sort of saint. If I was in that position, receiving that many messages, I couldn't say that I'd be able to read, never mind reply to them all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That would be difficult missdirty is a total original beautiful lady with a personality that sparkles

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I can only imagine how many.. but you have filters.. But I know where you are coming from..

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By *isdirtygirlWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


" nice to hear a voice to back up the lads. From a womans point of view its the volume of mail thats recieved thats an issue. It can be ignorant yes and I hold my hands up to not responding at times,even with filters in place. Theres too many lads here compared to women. If i could break myself into millions of pieces and meet a lot more than i do,believe me i would

I would love to say I have a volume problem too but I don't haha but I do respond with ignorance if I am approached with ignorance. (Does that make sense? (ie I don't respond!!)"

Come have a look at mine and you can be my secretary for a while ... its a time issue for me... ive sent the thanks but no thanks mails but im failing miserably at keeping up with new mails so some slip through the net. Its not an intentional ignorance its more a beyond my control ignorance if that makes sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I think"Hi how are you" is a lame attempt to engage in conversation.

A quick couple of introductory sentences before asking how the woman is would be better.

We tend to politely reply with a hint of not interested.

It doesn't take that much extra time to make an effort.

Why expect the receiver to make more of an effort?

At best the reply you'd probably receive is: I'm good thanks.

Just An opinion.

All that said, is tough for single men to get a break.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Join tinder...odds equaled...problem solved

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By *vpamelaTV/TS
over a year ago

kinkville


" nice to hear a voice to back up the lads. From a womans point of view its the volume of mail thats recieved thats an issue. It can be ignorant yes and I hold my hands up to not responding at times,even with filters in place. Theres too many lads here compared to women. If i could break myself into millions of pieces and meet a lot more than i do,believe me i would

I would love to say I have a volume problem too but I don't haha but I do respond with ignorance if I am approached with ignorance. (Does that make sense? (ie I don't respond!!)

Come have a look at mine and you can be my secretary for a while ... its a time issue for me... ive sent the thanks but no thanks mails but im failing miserably at keeping up with new mails so some slip through the net. Its not an intentional ignorance its more a beyond my control ignorance if that makes sense. "

You want me to come over dressed as your secretary?? Ouch! give me 20 mins to change and I'll be right over!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes I understand completely but I've tried everything and I think you are as likely to get a reply with just the hi how are you!!

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By *0shadesofashWoman
over a year ago

DUBLIN

I often get mails with jus HI like wtf why even bother if u can't even have a fuckin conversation what's the point

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Tinder isn't a swingers site!!!

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By *vpamelaTV/TS
over a year ago

kinkville


"Yes I understand completely but I've tried everything and I think you are as likely to get a reply with just the hi how are you!!"

I hate the "hi how are you" msgs - sorry just my opinion and i'm just a gurl.

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By *ig al100Man
over a year ago

Drogheda

Miss dirty you could set up a gang bang and reduce the frustration lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep it's a singles site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I often get mails with jus HI like wtf why even bother if u can't even have a fuckin conversation what's the point "

Hahahaha Ash, there wasme trying to be polite in twenty sentences and you said what I meant in three

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By *vpamelaTV/TS
over a year ago

kinkville


"Miss dirty you could set up a gang bang and reduce the frustration lol "

she never said she was frustrated just needs a secretary

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By *isdirtygirlWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Miss dirty you could set up a gang bang and reduce the frustration lol "

Ive a fantasy of one with 6 lads in an industrial wheelie bin dont ask me why cos ive no idea

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By *0shadesofashWoman
over a year ago

DUBLIN


"I often get mails with jus HI like wtf why even bother if u can't even have a fuckin conversation what's the point

Hahahaha Ash, there wasme trying to be polite in twenty sentences and you said what I meant in three "
hahaha straight to the point me

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By *isdirtygirlWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Miss dirty you could set up a gang bang and reduce the frustration lol

she never said she was frustrated just needs a secretary"

Just come over in your thong Pam.... not much mail searching will get done...

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By *ig al100Man
over a year ago

Drogheda

Lol Ms dirty would one coming from all angles not suffice

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes exactly.. I'm not sure what you are getting at

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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago

around

OP its not just the 'hi how are you?' that warrents no reply. Majority of the times i dont even open the message because my first action is to look at the profile and see if i like it. Most of times i dont.

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By *vpamelaTV/TS
over a year ago

kinkville


"Miss dirty you could set up a gang bang and reduce the frustration lol

she never said she was frustrated just needs a secretary

Just come over in your thong Pam.... not much mail searching will get done... "

Ok, just a minute,

15mins to do nails,

30 for make up

45 to choose which thong

Darn it - need to wax first - 2 hrs

10 mins for eyebrows plucked

Have to stop on the way to get new eyelashes,

3 hrs from cork with traffic,

- damn need to go after i drop off kids

eh - how 11:30 tonight?

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By *ndrew1972Man
over a year ago

Roscrea


"Miss dirty you could set up a gang bang and reduce the frustration lol

Ive a fantasy of one with 6 lads in an industrial wheelie bin dont ask me why cos ive no idea "

Would that fantasy be 6 of the lads that send "hi" or "wanna fuk" emails & you outside the bin pushing it over a cliff???

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By *isdirtygirlWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Miss dirty you could set up a gang bang and reduce the frustration lol

she never said she was frustrated just needs a secretary

Just come over in your thong Pam.... not much mail searching will get done...

Ok, just a minute,

15mins to do nails,

30 for make up

45 to choose which thong

Darn it - need to wax first - 2 hrs

10 mins for eyebrows plucked

Have to stop on the way to get new eyelashes,

3 hrs from cork with traffic,

- damn need to go after i drop off kids

eh - how 11:30 tonight?

"

That made me

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By *vpamelaTV/TS
over a year ago

kinkville


"OP its not just the 'hi how are you?' that warrents no reply. Majority of the times i dont even open the message because my first action is to look at the profile and see if i like it. Most of times i dont. "

I got blocked from a top tv after I cheekily asked for pics (there were none at the time) - admitted I was a little shallow - her pics came out later. Silly me

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By *isdirtygirlWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Miss dirty you could set up a gang bang and reduce the frustration lol

Ive a fantasy of one with 6 lads in an industrial wheelie bin dont ask me why cos ive no idea

Would that fantasy be 6 of the lads that send "hi" or "wanna fuk" emails & you outside the bin pushing it over a cliff??? "

youve given me a brainwave

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well that's why I use the "hi how are you" hoping that they will look at my profile and like what they see

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By *vpamelaTV/TS
over a year ago

kinkville


"Well that's why I use the "hi how are you" hoping that they will look at my profile and like what they see "

Well it helps that your profile pic is hot - means you can get away with a lamer msg

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi how are you.

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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago

around


"Miss dirty you could set up a gang bang and reduce the frustration lol

she never said she was frustrated just needs a secretary

Just come over in your thong Pam.... not much mail searching will get done...

Ok, just a minute,

15mins to do nails,

30 for make up

45 to choose which thong

Darn it - need to wax first - 2 hrs

10 mins for eyebrows plucked

Have to stop on the way to get new eyelashes,

3 hrs from cork with traffic,

- damn need to go after i drop off kids

eh - how 11:30 tonight?

"

It would be 11.30 thursday night for me. Need 2 days to get over 2 hours of waxing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Load of bollocks! Nobody really gives two shits about any of it. Guys don't care that this thread is here, women don't care, couples don't care. Fab is the way it is. It has naturally evolved into what it is, due to the actions of its users, that includes single men. Why complain? You can't argue with anyone's personal preferences or with how they manage their inbox. It's every individuals prerogative. Complaining is pointless. So what if you get blocked or your mail is deleted without being read? Get over it. Nobody needs to give a reason for doing it and nobody deserves a reason for having it done on them. The upshot is that it isn't happening with some people. That's just the way of it. It's not a guaranteed fuck fest site. I think that's were the frustration comes from. A lot of single men, I believe, think it is. There isn't such a thing. They think that fab is full of easy rides. Yes swingers and the majority of people on the site love sex, in all of it's weird and wonderful connotations. However, people still choose who they allow into their fab world. They don't see people because others like their photos and decide to give them a hard face fuck!! You get to meet someone by being allowed to by the other person or couple. Why? Simple, they saw something on your profile, or in your message, or in your username, or in a feeling, that they thought was worth their attention or they found attractive. Remember, they haven't messaged you. So it's likely, you were not on their radar. Them being on yours, means squat. Single complaining men, women or couples, should bare this in mind. You messaged them first. Not the other way around. It says a lot. Happy fabbing

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By *it45Man
over a year ago

dublin

Could me in your lucky 6 . 6 matching balls and you've won the lotto ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Load of bollocks! Nobody really gives two shits about any of it. Guys don't care that this thread is here, women don't care, couples don't care. Fab is the way it is. It has naturally evolved into what it is, due to the actions of its users, that includes single men. Why complain? You can't argue with anyone's personal preferences or with how they manage their inbox. It's every individuals prerogative. Complaining is pointless. So what if you get blocked or your mail is deleted without being read? Get over it. Nobody needs to give a reason for doing it and nobody deserves a reason for having it done on them. The upshot is that it isn't happening with some people. That's just the way of it. It's not a guaranteed fuck fest site. I think that's were the frustration comes from. A lot of single men, I believe, think it is. There isn't such a thing. They think that fab is full of easy rides. Yes swingers and the majority of people on the site love sex, in all of it's weird and wonderful connotations. However, people still choose who they allow into their fab world. They don't see people because others like their photos and decide to give them a hard face fuck!! You get to meet someone by being allowed to by the other person or couple. Why? Simple, they saw something on your profile, or in your message, or in your username, or in a feeling, that they thought was worth their attention or they found attractive. Remember, they haven't messaged you. So it's likely, you were not on their radar. Them being on yours, means squat. Single complaining men, women or couples, should bare this in mind. You messaged them first. Not the other way around. It says a lot. Happy fabbing "

Eloquently put

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By *vpamelaTV/TS
over a year ago

kinkville


"Miss dirty you could set up a gang bang and reduce the frustration lol

she never said she was frustrated just needs a secretary

Just come over in your thong Pam.... not much mail searching will get done...

Ok, just a minute,

15mins to do nails,

30 for make up

45 to choose which thong

Darn it - need to wax first - 2 hrs

10 mins for eyebrows plucked

Have to stop on the way to get new eyelashes,

3 hrs from cork with traffic,

- damn need to go after i drop off kids

eh - how 11:30 tonight?

It would be 11.30 thursday night for me. Need 2 days to get over 2 hours of waxing "

Thanks for the tip

Miss dirty?

How about this weekend? Or next xmas if I go for the full op?

OOps not the full op, then I would be missing a fairly important part

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow...that's what you call letting loose

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By *herry_bombshellWoman
over a year ago

northside

Here in lies the problem. The guys that don't bother making the slightest effort just look at us women as a nameless faceless hole to hump. And let's be honest, the "hi, how are you?" Mails mean absolutely nothing bc truth be told most guys on this could really give a jot how were doing. They just want to know how soon were available to get them off.

Soz if that sounds harsh but come on, it's the truth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Load of bollocks! Nobody really gives two shits about any of it. Guys don't care that this thread is here, women don't care, couples don't care. Fab is the way it is. It has naturally evolved into what it is, due to the actions of its users, that includes single men. Why complain? You can't argue with anyone's personal preferences or with how they manage their inbox. It's every individuals prerogative. Complaining is pointless. So what if you get blocked or your mail is deleted without being read? Get over it. Nobody needs to give a reason for doing it and nobody deserves a reason for having it done on them. The upshot is that it isn't happening with some people. That's just the way of it. It's not a guaranteed fuck fest site. I think that's were the frustration comes from. A lot of single men, I believe, think it is. There isn't such a thing. They think that fab is full of easy rides. Yes swingers and the majority of people on the site love sex, in all of it's weird and wonderful connotations. However, people still choose who they allow into their fab world. They don't see people because others like their photos and decide to give them a hard face fuck!! You get to meet someone by being allowed to by the other person or couple. Why? Simple, they saw something on your profile, or in your message, or in your username, or in a feeling, that they thought was worth their attention or they found attractive. Remember, they haven't messaged you. So it's likely, you were not on their radar. Them being on yours, means squat. Single complaining men, women or couples, should bare this in mind. You messaged them first. Not the other way around. It says a lot. Happy fabbing "

This guy got my vote.

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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago

around


"Load of bollocks! Nobody really gives two shits about any of it. Guys don't care that this thread is here, women don't care, couples don't care. Fab is the way it is. It has naturally evolved into what it is, due to the actions of its users, that includes single men. Why complain? You can't argue with anyone's personal preferences or with how they manage their inbox. It's every individuals prerogative. Complaining is pointless. So what if you get blocked or your mail is deleted without being read? Get over it. Nobody needs to give a reason for doing it and nobody deserves a reason for having it done on them. The upshot is that it isn't happening with some people. That's just the way of it. It's not a guaranteed fuck fest site. I think that's were the frustration comes from. A lot of single men, I believe, think it is. There isn't such a thing. They think that fab is full of easy rides. Yes swingers and the majority of people on the site love sex, in all of it's weird and wonderful connotations. However, people still choose who they allow into their fab world. They don't see people because others like their photos and decide to give them a hard face fuck!! You get to meet someone by being allowed to by the other person or couple. Why? Simple, they saw something on your profile, or in your message, or in your username, or in a feeling, that they thought was worth their attention or they found attractive. Remember, they haven't messaged you. So it's likely, you were not on their radar. Them being on yours, means squat. Single complaining men, women or couples, should bare this in mind. You messaged them first. Not the other way around. It says a lot. Happy fabbing "

And id finish that with

NOW COP ON

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had this profile as a single girl for a week or two, and the amount of messages was insane 50-80 daily , to be honest i was not interested at the time to reply to any but the ones getting my attention were the ones with face picture attached,and some of them I did reply.

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By *lfieWoman
over a year ago

South Dublin


"Here in lies the problem. The guys that don't bother making the slightest effort just look at us women as a nameless faceless hole to hump. And let's be honest, the "hi, how are you?" Mails mean absolutely nothing bc truth be told most guys on this could really give a jot how were doing. They just want to know how soon were available to get them off.

Soz if that sounds harsh but come on, it's the truth."

Agreed cherry.

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By *vpamelaTV/TS
over a year ago

kinkville


"I've had this profile as a single girl for a week or two, and the amount of messages was insane 50-80 daily , to be honest i was not interested at the time to reply to any but the ones getting my attention were the ones with face picture attached,and some of them I did reply. "

Would it be fair to say if your profile pic is hot you can get away with a crap msg and if your msg is charming, witty and funny you can get away with a crap profile pic or do you need both? (both good that is)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally agree with the OP on this. the problem, with no solution, with this site is that there are loads of men because as my old gaffer used to say was all men are dogs. I have give up trying to meet couples or single ladies on here because In my view its a waste of time. I go to clubs as often as I can. Chameleons is the best closely followed by the attic and annex.

I went to the attic for the first time a couple of weeks ago and had fun with more women in one night than all the years I've been on here. I love it when women say put more effort in the first message, if I was in a club I wouldn't approach a single lady or couple quoting Shakespeare it would be hello or how are you, if you meet someone for the first time in work or social life do you say hello then give chapter and verse on your life! no you wouldn't you would be hello.

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By *vpamelaTV/TS
over a year ago

kinkville


"I totally agree with the OP on this. the problem, with no solution, with this site is that there are loads of men because as my old gaffer used to say was all men are dogs. I have give up trying to meet couples or single ladies on here because In my view its a waste of time. I go to clubs as often as I can. Chameleons is the best closely followed by the attic and annex.

I went to the attic for the first time a couple of weeks ago and had fun with more women in one night than all the years I've been on here. I love it when women say put more effort in the first message, if I was in a club I wouldn't approach a single lady or couple quoting Shakespeare it would be hello or how are you, if you meet someone for the first time in work or social life do you say hello then give chapter and verse on your life! no you wouldn't you would be hello.

"

But is because those nice ladies you met at a club are slightly loaded and so less defensive??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On facebook random guys try to sex chat you though.

People can talk to who they want on here, they don't have to acknowledge anyone just because they're 'nice'.

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By *ewbies201Couple
over a year ago

lisburn


"Hi how are you."

I'm good, "how's you doin"

Mrs newbs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

slightly loaded! I find that offensive and ill informed! I think you want to think about what you say on here because you are well out of order!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Adding a face picture increases the likelihood of a reply (from me), but of course the message itself is very important, a crappy message with face picture is sticking a flag on a turd, it still stinks!

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By *vpamelaTV/TS
over a year ago

kinkville


"slightly loaded! I find that offensive and ill informed! I think you want to think about what you say on here because you are well out of order!"

Didn't mean to offend

My defenses always drop when I'm slightly loaded. Wouldn't say I was well out of order though

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By *vpamelaTV/TS
over a year ago

kinkville


"Adding a face picture increases the likelihood of a reply (from me), but of course the message itself is very important, a crappy message with face picture is sticking a flag on a turd, it still stinks!"

^^^^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

****Tony puts the popcorn in the microwave......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Adding a face picture increases the likelihood of a reply (from me), but of course the message itself is very important, a crappy message with face picture is sticking a flag on a turd, it still stinks!"
Pmsl far too funny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"****Tony puts the popcorn in the microwave......"

Can I have some?

(Hopes you washed your hands after you scratched your balls)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"****Tony puts the popcorn in the microwave......

Can I have some?

(Hopes you washed your hands after you scratched your balls)"

I was stroking my cock but hey, I washed my hands for you.

PopCorn on the way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tony can I have some aswell

Not sharing with Annie

And a drink if you ve got one handy

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By *vpamelaTV/TS
over a year ago

kinkville

I think the show is over even before it starts Was hopin for a little bit more I have to admitt.

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin

I see no reason to stand up for other men.

I see every reason to stand up for myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the show is over even before it starts Was hopin for a little bit more I have to admitt."

He peaked too soon. A bit premature

Too late Steven, shows over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the show is over even before it starts Was hopin for a little bit more I have to admitt.

He peaked too soon. A bit premature

Too late Steven, shows over "

God damn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you were saying that the ladies I play with in clubs were under the influence of drink or WASTED as you put it! if you didn't mean to be offensive then you failed and you should review what you type!!!!!

I worked at Chams for 2 years and if anybody tried to get in even smelling of drink they were refused entry. if they get WASTED as you call it while they were there, they are asked to leave!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" nice to hear a voice to back up the lads. From a womans point of view its the volume of mail thats recieved thats an issue. It can be ignorant yes and I hold my hands up to not responding at times,even with filters in place. Theres too many lads here compared to women. If i could break myself into millions of pieces and meet a lot more than i do,believe me i would

I would love to say I have a volume problem too but I don't haha but I do respond with ignorance if I am approached with ignorance. (Does that make sense? (ie I don't respond!!)"

It makes sense in one regard. But to lower yourself to that level?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Load of bollocks! Nobody really gives two shits about any of it. Guys don't care that this thread is here, women don't care, couples don't care. Fab is the way it is. It has naturally evolved into what it is, due to the actions of its users, that includes single men. Why complain? You can't argue with anyone's personal preferences or with how they manage their inbox. It's every individuals prerogative. Complaining is pointless. So what if you get blocked or your mail is deleted without being read? Get over it. Nobody needs to give a reason for doing it and nobody deserves a reason for having it done on them. The upshot is that it isn't happening with some people. That's just the way of it. It's not a guaranteed fuck fest site. I think that's were the frustration comes from. A lot of single men, I believe, think it is. There isn't such a thing. They think that fab is full of easy rides. Yes swingers and the majority of people on the site love sex, in all of it's weird and wonderful connotations. However, people still choose who they allow into their fab world. They don't see people because others like their photos and decide to give them a hard face fuck!! You get to meet someone by being allowed to by the other person or couple. Why? Simple, they saw something on your profile, or in your message, or in your username, or in a feeling, that they thought was worth their attention or they found attractive. Remember, they haven't messaged you. So it's likely, you were not on their radar. Them being on yours, means squat. Single complaining men, women or couples, should bare this in mind. You messaged them first. Not the other way around. It says a lot. Happy fabbing "
yea...what he said

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By *vpamelaTV/TS
over a year ago

kinkville


"you were saying that the ladies I play with in clubs were under the influence of drink or WASTED as you put it! if you didn't mean to be offensive then you failed and you should review what you type!!!!!

I worked at Chams for 2 years and if anybody tried to get in even smelling of drink they were refused entry. if they get WASTED as you call it while they were there, they are asked to leave! "

I nearly always review what I type before I post it - I try to put myself in the other persons place to see if I would be offended - I did and I wasn't. So I posted it. What's the big problem? Oh yeah and I used the term "slightly" wasted I think - Whats wrong with getting slighty wasted on a night out as long as you get a taxi home?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tinder is good. Use it for whatever you want

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By *isdirtygirlWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"you were saying that the ladies I play with in clubs were under the influence of drink or WASTED as you put it! if you didn't mean to be offensive then you failed and you should review what you type!!!!!

I worked at Chams for 2 years and if anybody tried to get in even smelling of drink they were refused entry. if they get WASTED as you call it while they were there, they are asked to leave!

I nearly always review what I type before I post it - I try to put myself in the other persons place to see if I would be offended - I did and I wasn't. So I posted it. What's the big problem? Oh yeah and I used the term "slightly" wasted I think - Whats wrong with getting slighty wasted on a night out as long as you get a taxi home?"

I dont think the poster above you gets the irish wit... our humour can be misconstrued at times. i dont get the large shouty words used either but each to their own i suppose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well ill put myself in your shoes! your actually saying the women are wasted at clubs, so your actually saying any male who plays with women at clubs are doing it against the ladies consent!!! as you say they are WASTED so how could they consent to anybody playing with them???

so I your words your insinuating rape!

sorry If I find that offensive but I do!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yis are all great fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually start off a message with a Hi - how are you.. but try to take it on from there.

Reading the persons profile often helps with finding a conversation starter and often including a pic show's you're serious too.

but yeah, a LOT of guys are terrible at it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seriously?

Somebody said that the women in the clubs are most likely "slightly" wasted and you've somehow managed to turn it around and attempt make it look like he called you a rapist?

Good luck. I'm done with this thread.

That's outrageous.

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By *vpamelaTV/TS
over a year ago

kinkville


"well ill put myself in your shoes! your actually saying the women are wasted at clubs, so your actually saying any male who plays with women at clubs are doing it against the ladies consent!!! as you say they are WASTED so how could they consent to anybody playing with them???

so I your words your insinuating rape!

sorry If I find that offensive but I do!!!!"

Had to reread my post just now - my words were "slightly loaded" Still have no clue why you are sooooo offended - I have explained myself quite well I think - Maybe you have a better command of the english language than me???? Never heard of someone loosing their ability to consent when slightly loaded too,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well ill put myself in your shoes!"

I don't think you could pull them off as good.

Not giving the rest of that post any exposure, utterly ridiculous. Nevermind just women having the patience of a Saint getting x amount of "hi, how are you"'s, anyone would need that ten fold to venture on here at times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tony can I have some aswell

Not sharing with Annie

And a drink if you ve got one handy "

Popcorn hogger....

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By *vpamelaTV/TS
over a year ago

kinkville


"well ill put myself in your shoes!

I don't think you could pull them off as good.

"

^^^^^

Well time for me to bow out. No more to add.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me never

Just that u know these threads can go on for ages so want to make sure I have enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With you two boys I'd say I'd have more than enough

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By *vpamelaTV/TS
over a year ago

kinkville


" nice to hear a voice to back up the lads. From a womans point of view its the volume of mail thats recieved thats an issue. It can be ignorant yes and I hold my hands up to not responding at times,even with filters in place. Theres too many lads here compared to women. If i could break myself into millions of pieces and meet a lot more than i do,believe me i would

I would love to say I have a volume problem too but I don't haha but I do respond with ignorance if I am approached with ignorance. (Does that make sense? (ie I don't respond!!)

It makes sense in one regard. But to lower yourself to that level? "

Well Ok one more;

Ignoring an ignorant msg is low? How low?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know this will do me a lot of harm...but girls on here need to realise this is a swingers site!! If your only looking for a chat than maybe try Facebook!!

And when lads say "hi how are you"

Or "how are you finding this place" they are trying to be nice.. Bear in mind that's probably not what they would like to say but after texting God knows how many girls with no reply it does become a little boring!!!

I've personally have fun on here and met some really nice people. But I know a lot of men on here haven't had the same luck..

"

Guys are told here to treat the site and women like those they meet in a bar...

Be pleasant and respectful....

Now I look at a mail and think bar, if the mail says Hi, my name is such and such, I am happy to respond..

I do not need my ego fed by any guy..

I look at the profile after reading nd it is that makes my decision to respond..

The only thing I ask and it is on my profile, please do not send me one liner text speak...

Why? If a guy approached me in a bar talking text I would walk away...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know this will do me a lot of harm...but girls on here need to realise this is a swingers site!! If your only looking for a chat than maybe try Facebook!!

And when lads say "hi how are you"

Or "how are you finding this place" they are trying to be nice.. Bear in mind that's probably not what they would like to say but after texting God knows how many girls with no reply it does become a little boring!!!

I've personally have fun on here and met some really nice people. But I know a lot of men on here haven't had the same luck..

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here in lies the problem. The guys that don't bother making the slightest effort just look at us women as a nameless faceless hole to hump. And let's be honest, the "hi, how are you?" Mails mean absolutely nothing bc truth be told most guys on this could really give a jot how were doing. They just want to know how soon were available to get them off.

Soz if that sounds harsh but come on, it's the truth."
not all of us guys are like that

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By *lfieWoman
over a year ago

South Dublin


"Here in lies the problem. The guys that don't bother making the slightest effort just look at us women as a nameless faceless hole to hump. And let's be honest, the "hi, how are you?" Mails mean absolutely nothing bc truth be told most guys on this could really give a jot how were doing. They just want to know how soon were available to get them off.

Soz if that sounds harsh but come on, it's the truth. not all of us guys are like that "

She said 'most', not all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here in lies the problem. The guys that don't bother making the slightest effort just look at us women as a nameless faceless hole to hump. And let's be honest, the "hi, how are you?" Mails mean absolutely nothing bc truth be told most guys on this could really give a jot how were doing. They just want to know how soon were available to get them off.

Soz if that sounds harsh but come on, it's the truth. not all of us guys are like that

She said 'most', not all"
figure of speech i just meant I'm not like that!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well that escalated quickly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here in lies the problem. The guys that don't bother making the slightest effort just look at us women as a nameless faceless hole to hump. And let's be honest, the "hi, how are you?" Mails mean absolutely nothing bc truth be told most guys on this could really give a jot how were doing. They just want to know how soon were available to get them off.

Soz if that sounds harsh but come on, it's the truth. not all of us guys are like that

She said 'most', not all"

equality is a two-way street.

manners and respect works both ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just take comfort in the hope that somewhere out there, there's a parallel universe where it's the men that get hundreds of messages a day and have to filter through the bullshit. However I don't think writing an essay will be a requirement somehow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just take comfort in the hope that somewhere out there, there's a parallel universe where it's the men that get hundreds of messages a day and have to filter through the bullshit. However I don't think writing an essay will be a requirement somehow. "

I'm all about a sexy pic or a different funky pic something to grab my attention it all starts from there for me

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By *herry_bombshellWoman
over a year ago

northside


"Here in lies the problem. The guys that don't bother making the slightest effort just look at us women as a nameless faceless hole to hump. And let's be honest, the "hi, how are you?" Mails mean absolutely nothing bc truth be told most guys on this could really give a jot how were doing. They just want to know how soon were available to get them off.

Soz if that sounds harsh but come on, it's the truth. not all of us guys are like that

She said 'most', not all

equality is a two-way street.

manners and respect works both ways."

And there's the proof that guys don't bother to read when they think they're close to getting their hole with little or no effort. Lol

Both you boys that quoted n commented on me. Let's try reading and comprehending the op AND my comment on the topic. Might need to let go of your cocks first for this. :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here in lies the problem. The guys that don't bother making the slightest effort just look at us women as a nameless faceless hole to hump. And let's be honest, the "hi, how are you?" Mails mean absolutely nothing bc truth be told most guys on this could really give a jot how were doing. They just want to know how soon were available to get them off.

Soz if that sounds harsh but come on, it's the truth. not all of us guys are like that

She said 'most', not all

equality is a two-way street.

manners and respect works both ways.

And there's the proof that guys don't bother to read when they think they're close to getting their hole with little or no effort. Lol

Both you boys that quoted n commented on me. Let's try reading and comprehending the op AND my comment on the topic. Might need to let go of your cocks first for this. :D"

they you go again, thinking with your box, I didn't comment on your statement,

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By *herry_bombshellWoman
over a year ago

northside

Ermmmm. You did. You quoted and posted from my comment. Have you forgotten already. Didn't I say put your cocktail down for a minute. Lol

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Reading comprehension is a lost art these days....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1 hundred x cent with u mr delicious. good point of view!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1 hundred x cent with u mr delicious. good point of view!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

We'll a male friend of mine is in d same situation as d ladies too much mail d lucky bugger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Different lads have different personalities don't assume they are all as articulate and charming as yourself OP there are reasons why some can't get meets or just don't meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Different lads have different personalities don't assume they are all as articulate and charming as yourself OP there are reasons why some can't get meets or just don't meet. "

How very true Miss C

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Different lads have different personalities don't assume they are all as articulate and charming as yourself OP there are reasons why some can't get meets or just don't meet. "

This girl spits the truth! !

Sometimes I wonder how some of the guys actually get through the day the way they speak...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm out I give my personal opinion and get jumped on, ah well good luck with this one OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" nice to hear a voice to back up the lads. From a womans point of view its the volume of mail thats recieved thats an issue. It can be ignorant yes and I hold my hands up to not responding at times,even with filters in place. Theres too many lads here compared to women. If i could break myself into millions of pieces and meet a lot more than i do,believe me i would "

Ditto

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Load of bollocks! Nobody really gives two shits about any of it. Guys don't care that this thread is here, women don't care, couples don't care. Fab is the way it is. It has naturally evolved into what it is, due to the actions of its users, that includes single men. Why complain? You can't argue with anyone's personal preferences or with how they manage their inbox. It's every individuals prerogative. Complaining is pointless. So what if you get blocked or your mail is deleted without being read? Get over it. Nobody needs to give a reason for doing it and nobody deserves a reason for having it done on them. The upshot is that it isn't happening with some people. That's just the way of it. It's not a guaranteed fuck fest site. I think that's were the frustration comes from. A lot of single men, I believe, think it is. There isn't such a thing. They think that fab is full of easy rides. Yes swingers and the majority of people on the site love sex, in all of it's weird and wonderful connotations. However, people still choose who they allow into their fab world. They don't see people because others like their photos and decide to give them a hard face fuck!! You get to meet someone by being allowed to by the other person or couple. Why? Simple, they saw something on your profile, or in your message, or in your username, or in a feeling, that they thought was worth their attention or they found attractive. Remember, they haven't messaged you. So it's likely, you were not on their radar. Them being on yours, means squat. Single complaining men, women or couples, should bare this in mind. You messaged them first. Not the other way around. It says a lot. Happy fabbing "

Wow well said.for all types here ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Load of bollocks! Nobody really gives two shits about any of it. Guys don't care that this thread is here, women don't care, couples don't care. Fab is the way it is. It has naturally evolved into what it is, due to the actions of its users, that includes single men. Why complain? You can't argue with anyone's personal preferences or with how they manage their inbox. It's every individuals prerogative. Complaining is pointless. So what if you get blocked or your mail is deleted without being read? Get over it. Nobody needs to give a reason for doing it and nobody deserves a reason for having it done on them. The upshot is that it isn't happening with some people. That's just the way of it. It's not a guaranteed fuck fest site. I think that's were the frustration comes from. A lot of single men, I believe, think it is. There isn't such a thing. They think that fab is full of easy rides. Yes swingers and the majority of people on the site love sex, in all of it's weird and wonderful connotations. However, people still choose who they allow into their fab world. They don't see people because others like their photos and decide to give them a hard face fuck!! You get to meet someone by being allowed to by the other person or couple. Why? Simple, they saw something on your profile, or in your message, or in your username, or in a feeling, that they thought was worth their attention or they found attractive. Remember, they haven't messaged you. So it's likely, you were not on their radar. Them being on yours, means squat. Single complaining men, women or couples, should bare this in mind. You messaged them first. Not the other way around. It says a lot. Happy fabbing

Wow well said.for all types here ?? "

For all on fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand that the reason a woman doesn't reply or read messages is due to volume. However this 'write something to make your message stand out' can be a bit misleading when even a man tries to constuct messages of a few words it goes unread! I don't mind it being deleted tbh, maybe it's not good enough, but I'm sure a lot don't get opened.

Anyway I suppose if we had to send FACE pics then the messages would get opened, but the downside of this is the fear of anonymity Being compromised!

Anyway I'd just say to those men who feel badly treated, send one meaningful message, if it doesn't get read try in a few more days, after that. Move along.

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