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By *eiseguy83 OP   Man
over a year ago

Waterford

Hi just wanted to post a little bit about the site. While I understand most people's caution towards single guys. I find it very hard to get started on here. I would consider myself a genuine polite guy. Shy at first but definitely a genuine nice guy and I act accordingly. So I don't know if that's what people look for as a simple polite hello never gets me a reply. And then most people say they will only meet verified people, but how can you get verified if nobody will meet you or chat to you..HELP ME

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But you ARE verified?

It might also help if you update your profile, you've not changed your age in three years, it looks a little bit lazy or sloppy.

Best of luck

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By *eiseguy83 OP   Man
over a year ago

Waterford

Thanks for the reply. It must be just me then hahaha. Appreciate the tips. When nothing happens I stay off it for long while intimidating give it another go. Must see what needs updating thanks

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By *herry_bombshellWoman
over a year ago

northside

I'd say (if you're not already) be more social on the forums and in chat. It's the best way for people to get familiar with you. Go to a m&g....lots in cork and limerick. READ THE FORUMS and take the advice that's been posted by other members...(this topic and other helpful topics have been covered over and over and over)......don't be that guy that asks for help then doesn't listen.

Hope that helps and good luck x

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks


"But you ARE verified?

It might also help if you update your profile, you've not changed your age in three years, it looks a little bit lazy or sloppy.

Best of luck "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But you ARE verified?

It might also help if you update your profile, you've not changed your age in three years, it looks a little bit lazy or sloppy.

Best of luck

"

What? I was being helpful

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By *eiseguy83 OP   Man
over a year ago

Waterford


"I'd say (if you're not already) be more social on the forums and in chat. It's the best way for people to get familiar with you. Go to a m&g....lots in cork and limerick. READ THE FORUMS and take the advice that's been posted by other members...(this topic and other helpful topics have been covered over and over and over)......don't be that guy that asks for help then doesn't listen.

Hope that helps and good luck x"

Thank you yes that does help. I will most certainly have a look around the forums etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the reply. It must be just me then hahaha. Appreciate the tips. When nothing happens I stay off it for long while intimidating give it another go. Must see what needs updating thanks "

I'm sure it's not just you. But if you want to be more successful on here, you'll need to put in some time and a little effort. It's no good going off site and hoping things will happen for you without trying.

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By *eiseguy83 OP   Man
over a year ago

Waterford


"Thanks for the reply. It must be just me then hahaha. Appreciate the tips. When nothing happens I stay off it for long while intimidating give it another go. Must see what needs updating thanks

I'm sure it's not just you. But if you want to be more successful on here, you'll need to put in some time and a little effort. It's no good going off site and hoping things will happen for you without trying. "

OK cool. I'll certainly try harder. Thanks again for the tips. I hope they work this time

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks

Well you are verified, even though you said you weren't.

With so many dodgy verifications around will people believe it if you have it hidden??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well you are verified, even though you said you weren't.

With so many dodgy verifications around will people believe it if you have it hidden??"

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By *eiseguy83 OP   Man
over a year ago

Waterford


"Well you are verified, even though you said you weren't.

With so many dodgy verifications around will people believe it if you have it hidden??"

I didn't know it was hidden. I'm not completely up to speed with the workings of the site

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks


"Well you are verified, even though you said you weren't.

With so many dodgy verifications around will people believe it if you have it hidden??

I didn't know it was hidden. I'm not completely up to speed with the workings of the site "

... and here over a year?

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By *eiseguy83 OP   Man
over a year ago

Waterford


"Well you are verified, even though you said you weren't.

With so many dodgy verifications around will people believe it if you have it hidden??

I didn't know it was hidden. I'm not completely up to speed with the workings of the site

... and here over a year?"

Joining it and using it are 2 completely different things

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks


"Well you are verified, even though you said you weren't.

With so many dodgy verifications around will people believe it if you have it hidden??

I didn't know it was hidden. I'm not completely up to speed with the workings of the site

... and here over a year?

Joining it and using it are 2 completely different things "

Ahhh if you don't use it then it's no wonder you don't get meets!

Don't know what is wrong with all the women here who won't send messages to someone who hasn't been on in months!

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By *herry_bombshellWoman
over a year ago

northside


"Well you are verified, even though you said you weren't.

With so many dodgy verifications around will people believe it if you have it hidden??

I didn't know it was hidden. I'm not completely up to speed with the workings of the site

... and here over a year?

Joining it and using it are 2 completely different things

Ahhh if you don't use it then it's no wonder you don't get meets!

Don't know what is wrong with all the women here who won't send messages to someone who hasn't been on in months!"

You seem to attack everytime you comment letrim. I think you need to go to your happy place for the rest of the day. :P

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By *eiseguy83 OP   Man
over a year ago

Waterford


"Well you are verified, even though you said you weren't.

With so many dodgy verifications around will people believe it if you have it hidden??

I didn't know it was hidden. I'm not completely up to speed with the workings of the site

... and here over a year?

Joining it and using it are 2 completely different things

Ahhh if you don't use it then it's no wonder you don't get meets!

Don't know what is wrong with all the women here who won't send messages to someone who hasn't been on in months!"

point taken which is why I'm looking to do it better this time around. No if your finished trying to be funny and have nothing constructive to say I'll let you get back to your policing of fab.

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks


"Well you are verified, even though you said you weren't.

With so many dodgy verifications around will people believe it if you have it hidden??

I didn't know it was hidden. I'm not completely up to speed with the workings of the site

... and here over a year?

Joining it and using it are 2 completely different things

Ahhh if you don't use it then it's no wonder you don't get meets!

Don't know what is wrong with all the women here who won't send messages to someone who hasn't been on in months!

point taken which is why I'm looking to do it better this time around. No if your finished trying to be funny and have nothing constructive to say I'll let you get back to your policing of fab. "

Not policing the Forum.. your first post asks how to get verified when you're already verified.

I then posted asking will people trust your veri if it's hidden.

Plus, if you don't use the site you won't get anywhere.

I've only advised you!!

Constructive advice!!

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By *herry_bombshellWoman
over a year ago

northside


"Well you are verified, even though you said you weren't.

With so many dodgy verifications around will people believe it if you have it hidden??

I didn't know it was hidden. I'm not completely up to speed with the workings of the site

... and here over a year?

Joining it and using it are 2 completely different things

Ahhh if you don't use it then it's no wonder you don't get meets!

Don't know what is wrong with all the women here who won't send messages to someone who hasn't been on in months!

point taken which is why I'm looking to do it better this time around. No if your finished trying to be funny and have nothing constructive to say I'll let you get back to your policing of fab.

Not policing the Forum.. your first post asks how to get verified when you're already verified.

I then posted asking will people trust your veri if it's hidden.

Plus, if you don't use the site you won't get anywhere.

I've only advised you!!

Constructive advice!!"

In fairness you're being very snarky and argumentative, not giving constructive advice. If you don't have a happy place PLEASE borrow someone elses!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in a similar position , used the site for awhile took part in the forums wasn't really happening for me. I ended up in a normal relationship so knocked it on the head for awhile but thats over now so I'm back

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By *eiseguy83 OP   Man
over a year ago

Waterford


"Well you are verified, even though you said you weren't.

With so many dodgy verifications around will people believe it if you have it hidden??

I didn't know it was hidden. I'm not completely up to speed with the workings of the site

... and here over a year?

Joining it and using it are 2 completely different things

Ahhh if you don't use it then it's no wonder you don't get meets!

Don't know what is wrong with all the women here who won't send messages to someone who hasn't been on in months!

point taken which is why I'm looking to do it better this time around. No if your finished trying to be funny and have nothing constructive to say I'll let you get back to your policing of fab.

Not policing the Forum.. your first post asks how to get verified when you're already verified.

I then posted asking will people trust your veri if it's hidden.

Plus, if you don't use the site you won't get anywhere.

I've only advised you!!

Constructive advice!!

In fairness you're being very snarky and argumentative, not giving constructive advice. If you don't have a happy place PLEASE borrow someone elses!!!"

Thank you. I'm glad I wasn't the only person who noticed

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By *eiseguy83 OP   Man
over a year ago

Waterford


"I'm in a similar position , used the site for awhile took part in the forums wasn't really happening for me. I ended up in a normal relationship so knocked it on the head for awhile but thats over now so I'm back"

How are you finding it this time around?

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By *herry_bombshellWoman
over a year ago

northside


"Well you are verified, even though you said you weren't.

With so many dodgy verifications around will people believe it if you have it hidden??

I didn't know it was hidden. I'm not completely up to speed with the workings of the site

... and here over a year?

Joining it and using it are 2 completely different things

Ahhh if you don't use it then it's no wonder you don't get meets!

Don't know what is wrong with all the women here who won't send messages to someone who hasn't been on in months!

point taken which is why I'm looking to do it better this time around. No if your finished trying to be funny and have nothing constructive to say I'll let you get back to your policing of fab.

Not policing the Forum.. your first post asks how to get verified when you're already verified.

I then posted asking will people trust your veri if it's hidden.

Plus, if you don't use the site you won't get anywhere.

I've only advised you!!

Constructive advice!!

In fairness you're being very snarky and argumentative, not giving constructive advice. If you don't have a happy place PLEASE borrow someone elses!!!

Thank you. I'm glad I wasn't the only person who noticed "

You're ok hun. Lots,on here (including me) get frustrated with the same posts all the time. But you're taking the hits in stride and (hopefully) following the aadvice given. Chin up, tits out and have a thick skin and you'll be fine xxx

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By *eiseguy83 OP   Man
over a year ago

Waterford


"Well you are verified, even though you said you weren't.

With so many dodgy verifications around will people believe it if you have it hidden??

I didn't know it was hidden. I'm not completely up to speed with the workings of the site

... and here over a year?

Joining it and using it are 2 completely different things

Ahhh if you don't use it then it's no wonder you don't get meets!

Don't know what is wrong with all the women here who won't send messages to someone who hasn't been on in months!

point taken which is why I'm looking to do it better this time around. No if your finished trying to be funny and have nothing constructive to say I'll let you get back to your policing of fab.

Not policing the Forum.. your first post asks how to get verified when you're already verified.

I then posted asking will people trust your veri if it's hidden.

Plus, if you don't use the site you won't get anywhere.

I've only advised you!!

Constructive advice!!

In fairness you're being very snarky and argumentative, not giving constructive advice. If you don't have a happy place PLEASE borrow someone elses!!!

Thank you. I'm glad I wasn't the only person who noticed

You're ok hun. Lots,on here (including me) get frustrated with the same posts all the time. But you're taking the hits in stride and (hopefully) following the aadvice given. Chin up, tits out and have a thick skin and you'll be fine xxx"

Leave my tittys out of this it's a very delicate subject

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Your profile says you're straight, and your verification is from three years ago, from a man.

That would raise red flags with some people.

Just my 2c.

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By *eiseguy83 OP   Man
over a year ago

Waterford


"Your profile says you're straight, and your verification is from three years ago, from a man.

That would raise red flags with some people.

Just my 2c."

Isnt there a comment with it?? It was a mmf that was organised

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"Your profile says you're straight, and your verification is from three years ago, from a man.

That would raise red flags with some people.

Just my 2c.

Isnt there a comment with it?? It was a mmf that was organised "

No, you've the verification summary public but the veri itself is private. go to manage verifications and you can make it public.

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By *eiseguy83 OP   Man
over a year ago

Waterford


"Your profile says you're straight, and your verification is from three years ago, from a man.

That would raise red flags with some people.

Just my 2c.

Isnt there a comment with it?? It was a mmf that was organised

No, you've the verification summary public but the veri itself is private. go to manage verifications and you can make it public. "

I've just been in and it says I can't show the verification from someone who has left fab. Didn't know that person had gone off the site

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"Your profile says you're straight, and your verification is from three years ago, from a man.

That would raise red flags with some people.

Just my 2c.

Isnt there a comment with it?? It was a mmf that was organised

No, you've the verification summary public but the veri itself is private. go to manage verifications and you can make it public.

I've just been in and it says I can't show the verification from someone who has left fab. Didn't know that person had gone off the site "

I'd put something explaining that on your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Literally just started back using it

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By *eiseguy83 OP   Man
over a year ago

Waterford


"Your profile says you're straight, and your verification is from three years ago, from a man.

That would raise red flags with some people.

Just my 2c.

Isnt there a comment with it?? It was a mmf that was organised

No, you've the verification summary public but the veri itself is private. go to manage verifications and you can make it public.

I've just been in and it says I can't show the verification from someone who has left fab. Didn't know that person had gone off the site

I'd put something explaining that on your profile. "

OK cheers will do

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"Your profile says you're straight, and your verification is from three years ago, from a man.

That would raise red flags with some people.

Just my 2c.

Isnt there a comment with it?? It was a mmf that was organised

No, you've the verification summary public but the veri itself is private. go to manage verifications and you can make it public.

I've just been in and it says I can't show the verification from someone who has left fab. Didn't know that person had gone off the site

I'd put something explaining that on your profile.

OK cheers will do"

In fact revamp your profile text, no one wants to hear how unsuccessful you were last time. Be optimistic.

Don't make your kik name public. You'll just get bots and weirdos messaging you.

Learn how your filters work and use them as you wish.

Learn how your privacy settings work.

And good luck.

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks


"Your profile says you're straight, and your verification is from three years ago, from a man.

That would raise red flags with some people.

Just my 2c.

Isnt there a comment with it?? It was a mmf that was organised

No, you've the verification summary public but the veri itself is private. go to manage verifications and you can make it public.

I've just been in and it says I can't show the verification from someone who has left fab. Didn't know that person had gone off the site

I'd put something explaining that on your profile.

OK cheers will do"

Your profile is certainly better than the one you started with this morning!

Better luck this time around!

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